@Danika 11 February 2022

Friends that matters Howdy friends. Guess your week as been going great. Happy weekend to you all. I have been on the low key this week. Staying home all alone, re-evaluating some decisions and friendships, and trying as much as possible to avoid unnecessary relationship or chatting with some people. Yeah that's right. I guess it's high time I cut some people off. Someone once said: `"some people are a blessing to you, some make your life complete others are there to keep you in check and motivate you while yet some are there to drag you down. In all this, know when to leave some people"` Truth is you own no one the right to be their friends. Infact, friendship is not something that should just happen, it should be deliberate, mutual and consciously done. This brings us to a question: **Who is a friend?** I look forward to reading your answers in the comment section You choose your friend. Hence, there are some friends that really does matters. They are there to pull you up, they are there to keep you going, they are there to serve as backbone for you, better still some are there for reprove, remoulding and an instructor.

Image source https://www.pinterest.com/pin/create/button/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.healthline.com%2Fhealth%2Fplatonic-friendship&media=https%3A%2F%2Fpost.healthline.com%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2F2020%2F01%2Ffriends-1296x728-header-1296x728.jpg&description=Platonic%20Friendship%3A%20What%20It%20Is%20and%20How%20to%20Make%20It%20Work I have made some friends that any time I remember them, I'd just be so Happy and grateful for meeting them. You see, we do hear it all over that the type of friend we keep matters a lot, but we need to let it sink down into our minds and thinking faculties that they really do matters. Take for example, the begin of David's family predicament happen with a friend's wrong advise Bible page https://biblehub.com/niv/2_samuel/13.htm Also remember that Naman may not have gotten his healing if his friends had not advices him to do the right thing. 2 Kings 5 https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.biblegateway.com/passage/%3fsearch=2%2bKings%2b5&version=NIV&interface=amp The friends you make either make you or break you. You can become helped or lifted by the friends also you can become pulled down, destroyed or make miserable but the kind of friends you make. There is an adage that says 'They will change you if you can't change them' but I will say, don't even join them In the very first place. Know when to leave

There is an adage in my language (yourba) that says 'ogun omo ko le sere fun ogun odun' translation: ' twenty children won't play for twenty years'. There is a time for everything under the heaven so says the preacher, a time to gather stones and a time to cast away stones, a time to embrace and a time refrain from embracing. If you are a person that knowns when to let certain people and certain friendship go, your life will be made stress free, less complicated and almost perfect. But when you don't know who and when to let go, you keep falling into the hands of wrong friends, get caught in all kinds of mess and you may end up losing more than you can ever gain; your **peace.** Making friends or friendship in the term is not a ' do or die' affair. As I have said it is a choice. But you must learn to know when to leave certain persons or friends. You must know and be able to discern which friend gets to stay and which ones gets to go. You need to take up your hoe and weed away some unwanted and unprofitable friends. Before you can do this, you must first have and know your self worth. So many people are in a relationship because they just can determine their own self worth. They feel I can't do it myself, I can't be recognized if this person isn't there, they feel worthless when a set of people are not there with them. No! This shouldn't be. Have you not heard what the Bible says about you that you are fearfully and wonderfully created. **You are a master piece! It means you have no replacement.** So, you can be all you want. So, don't think you become stranded and useless of you leave a certain relationship especially when that friendship is toxic and ungodly or morally bankrupt. Do you now leave any relationship whenever you feel like or do now become arrogant to friends and start treating them like they are useless? No, you will be a fool to do that. Instead, you will have to really evaluate your friendship with another person then determine whether it's time to leave or stay. Need a friend? Become one. Need a friend? Become one

Yeah, we all dream to have that friend that is like our reflection or better still our better part. A friend we can rely on, a friend can seek help from, a friend that can be there for us, a friend that loves us for who we are. But better than all this, you can become that friend that is irreplaceable to someone else. You can become some else's pillar, you can become someone else's strength, you can become someone else's adviser, you can become someone Else's better part. For these and much more are what makes up a friend. So, do you need a friend? Why not become one. Go to that person that in dire need of good friend, or help or advice and become their friend. Note, ***you can only receive as much as you give*** Some people ask themselves this question: why are bad friends attracted to me? Why are friends just so wicked towards me? Well, the answer is: maybe you yourself have been a bad friend! So why not make a point of duty to stand up and become a friend someone would appreciate and thank God for. Make up your mind to become someone's prayer answer for a true and sincere friendship. I can guarantee you that you won't regret but that the gains from it is unquantified. *To be continued...* Thanks for reading this article. Don't forget to subscribe. God bless