In my previous post, I was sharing with you a story about the crisis going on within a family, about a father, his wives, and his children. The main title is Unhappy Family

Looking at the major question of who is to blame when a family is unhappy, I would like to share my insights.

Firstly, every family starts with a happy couple, filled with love, kindness, and caring for one another. Then there comes a baby, a firstborn. It was birthed out of the intense love of two people who were about to start a new parenting struggle.

And I believe for most this is where all the drama began. The reason may be that these people never studied the basics of parenting or raising a child and being a couple, a father, or a mother. They are just two ignorant couples who found each other and fell in love, and out of their strong desires decided to get married and settle down together. Thinking they are going to be happy love birds forever.

I mean, people even join physical and online classes, To learn little stuff like cooking, baking, and how to put on makeup. So don't people take a class on marriage and parenting before they get married?

So you can't go into something blindly thinking you will do well, with zero knowledge of how it works. And just because you grew up seeing married people living their lives comfortably, doesn't automatically give you a certificate of expertise in marriage.

However, if you give a fool a booklet with clear answers he will still find a way to fail the test. I guess most people will still mess up in marriage and parenting even if they are taught for as long as ten years or all their lives.

Education is not their problem, it's their attitude, behaviors, and emotions that get in their way.

They don't understand how important, or crucial their actions are or the emotions they display to their wives and children. How much impact their actions and even the words they utter have on their families. They don't understand that the things they do today or didn't do today will affect them and their families in the future. Which will either keep them happy or the opposite.

When we become parents, to show a good example to our children we must drop all egos and bad attitudes for the sake of the family. We must learn how to sacrifice what is necessary for a happy and blissful future for our family.

We must never forget that children, no matter how young, share and hold the pains of their parents. Even if you are having a bad day or a misunderstanding with your husband or wife, do well to hide it from your children. They remember every detail till their adult or old age. For some, it does a lot of damage to their social life.

The early stage or childhood of a child determines how happy he will be when he grows up. If he had a happy childhood then he would be a happy adult who shares love with everyone around him. If however, he had a rough childhood then everyone will be affected the same.

So for me, the first stage of a happy family is a happy couple. Who love one another and show empathy and care to one another regardless of how rich or poor they are. A good relationship between parents will always outweigh any family issue that may arise in a family. Only with a good relationship will a family stand strong forever.

This is the first part of my opinion or point of view, what is yours?

#DanLawan

Sunday 7th, April 2024.