Being Ok With Things As They Appear.
The truth about life is that not everything we can control or change, sometimes we just have to accept things as they are. We just need to pray that the Lord grants us the ability to distinguish between things that we can change and things that we cannot change because it is necessary to know those things we really cannot change and accept them the way they are.
First, it is necessary that we learn to accept things that cannot be changed. There is a freedom in knowing that a thing cannot be changed and that brings about decision and less worry. When you are a friend with someone and you know they have some habits you cannot change about them, it is easier and realistic that you ask yourself if you can tolerate them or not. If you can tolerate them, it saves you from having to complain every time they exhibit such attitude. But if one cannot tolerate them, you end the relationship or friendship because it will keep giving you headache at every slight exhibition of that attitude. So, we have to learn to accept that which is beyond our control for peace of mind and a very good atmosphere.
Second, we tend to get so hard on ourselves for things that we cannot change. When a rejection occurs in any form, maybe a partner leaves a relationship, maybe we apply to different jobs or internship or maybe some things didn’t just go our way, we get so mad at ourselves and beat our head out like it is our fault. I ask people, what if that situation aren’t meant to favor you, what can you do? The best is that you gave the situation a try, you tried at least, which is amazing. Whatever happens after the try is out of your control. For example, you do everything to make your relationship work out, you sacrificed a lot, you took a lot of things in and it doesn’t just work out eventually, you just need to accept this relationship isn’t meant to be and what should give you chill is the fact that you tried at least. Chill and don’t be hard on yourself. Go with the flow as usually said.
Third, when we are in situations that we cannot change, instead of beating ourselves up as already explained in the paragraph above, we can learn so much from it and those lessons can be applied later in our lives. Some things basically happen to make us strong. Few years ago, a friend of mine said something that I held so firm in my heart till date, it say ‘what cannot kill you can only make you stronger’. If that situation can’t kill you, it shouldn’t just pass, you should learn from it.
Lastly, don’t expect too much from people. This is one thing we keep hearing from time to time and it is so amazing how we think we do not but we do. We are so much entitled to so much that we feel it is people’s responsibility to make us happy which is absolutely wrong. Every one has a life of their own, the more we attach our happiness to what others can give to us, the more we become our own enemies and we end up hating ourselves and people around us when things doesn’t work our way. Learn to accept things we cannot change.
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