Being a father seems easy to measure, isn't it? Food enough, ok. Sometimes even a woman as long as she does not leave her child, she is a good father. But the mother? Just seeing the child is dirty, bad mother. Just a low grade bad mother already. The child has tantrums in the mall, bad mother.
How can you say that a mother is good?
Is it measured by the child's weight? Higher weight, ok? Or the child's illness? Why does it feel like you are less of a mom when your child is sick? It's like your careless mother. And no matter how late you are and how much overtime you take care of, the feeling of being neglected cannot be offset.
It may be said that a mother is good based on grades, or whether the child is honorable or not. 'When there is an honor, it means that mommy also has an award. Best mom award? But no matter what you do, your child really can't be honored, are you the worst mom award? Is that so ?!
How so? What is the indicator to say that you are a good mother?
Is there a points system? Every shout minus one? Every time you buy a toy plus one? Every time you feed on time plus one? When it comes to gadgets, minus immediately.
Does it have a merit system like work? But ... are those who work still good? Sick leave is allowed, while the mother is not. Those who work 'are better when they are over performance, there is an award, but as a mother, when you are over performance, sometimes it is even more harmful to children.
But how? What is too much? What is enough? What is missing?
Isn't it hard? And often find the answer to how we can be a good mother, ourselves we can no longer recognize.
Others will say, "It gets easy." But not. It's a never ending question of: "Am I doing the right thing for my child?"
As your children grow, you will have different experiences. From simple gastric issues, best toys, how to socialize, early boyfriend or girlfriend, and questions on whether your children can handle real life.