It is okay to cut ties with toxic family

This article is not to encourage you to become the black sheep of the family and being the toxic one because of this behaviour. This is for the ones who are struggling to decide whether to continue their relationship with their toxic family member.

Below are the traits that is considered as a toxic traits and this traits are the main point why cutting ties with family member is okay.

• Lying

• Blaming

• Manipulating

• Creating dramas

• Invalidating for emotions

• Belittling your beliefs and values

• Playing as if they are the victim

• Not taking responsibilities for their actions

• They think that they are always right

• They always expect you to help them but when you are needing them they aren't available to help you

• Speaking ill behind you back

I believe that people can change but these toxic people are rarely to change. They are more focus to their selves and not to actions that they did and they don't have responsibilities to these actions because they think that it is okay because you are a FAMILY. And the fact that they didn't see how their behavior hurts you, they refuse to change and blame you instead.

I think that we all agree that no one deserves to be abused but why we give a free pass to our family to do it? Here are some reasons why.

• We didn't think that it is an abusive and we make excuses for their toxic behaviors.

• Fear, we are afraid of what they think after we cut ties to them so you might think that it is okay even that it is not goof for you.

• Love, we all know that we love our family even that they did bad things to us. But cutting ties doesn't mean that you didn't love them if just we love them but we can't have a relationship with them.

It is hard to choose between yourself and your family but we need to do it. Because this is reality and remaining in relationship with a toxic family member is really harmful to your physical and mental health.

The only way to heal is to remove yourself to a toxic and abusive relationship. And if your are not ready it is okay. Don't be pressured to make a hard decision like this. But just know that it is okay to cut ties with toxic people and end your relationship — even with a family member.