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4 years ago

One of the best relationship advice I’ve ever gotten, and that I give, is “easy does it.” Too often we get caught up in fear-based needs to control our partner. This pull becomes a destructive compulsion that corrodes the integrity of the relationship. It replaces respect and compassion with anger and resentment. It destroys the quality of our lives and over time, the relationship.

This advice impacted the way I approach romantic relationships in that I allowed for a lot more space, which in turn allowed for less reactivity, more peace, happiness, and respect.  The classic struggle of all relationships is finding the right calculus in the togetherness-and-autonomy equation. Typically, when a relationship is under stress, one of the partners asks for physical space to break the tension. This is suboptimal. The best way to incorporate space is by being proactive and providing emotional rather than physical space. To do this, partners need to allow each other the space to be themselves and to have their experiences without trying to control the outcome or think that you are responsible for their lives and reaction. It’s hard work and takes practice, but the rewards are well worth the effort.

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Nice write mate...

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4 years ago

Thanks man.

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4 years ago

So many troubles in relationship are mainly caused by lack of understanding...understanding each other in a relationship is the most important thing and having trust for each other is also a major aspect

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4 years ago

Thanks man

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4 years ago

Beautiful, thank you

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4 years ago

Thanks so much

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4 years ago

Understanding matters alot in a relationship....good work

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4 years ago

Thanks

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4 years ago

Thanks so much for this, so many relationships out there really need to come and grab this knowledge, I may be so helpful

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4 years ago

So many relationship do fine it hard to understand themselves.

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4 years ago

This is so nice of you to Make this known, I really appreciate your effort

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4 years ago

So fantastic man, u really need to keep this up, so many people out there are gonna find this so helpful

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4 years ago

Great, yes it does really replace anger and resentment and also destroys the quality of our lives

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4 years ago

I really love that last line that says, it hard work and takes practice but the reward are well worth the effort

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4 years ago

I want to believe

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4 years ago

Hahaha

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4 years ago

As you said advice only impacted more knowledge on you so it turns on me and any other person that have gone through this article and it will also impact to knowledge to does who will go through the article later

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4 years ago

The classic struggle to all relationship is finding the right calculus in the togetherness that's really right because some relationship partners don't understand each other very well so they don't know how to accommodate each other's feelings

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4 years ago