How Should Responsibilities Be Shared in a Relationship

Life is filled with responsibilities of different types and taking up of responsibilities are part of what makes life worthwhile. Right from being children, our parents would most often than not share different house chores amongst us and our siblings, and they were rewards for doing them properly or consequences for not doing them. I believe this was done to us to help them around the house and lighten the housekeeping burden. Most importantly, it was done to teach us to not be lazy and for us to be able to take Care of ourselves in their absence.

Like I said earlier, life is filled with responsibilities and relationships are not exempted from it. When people get into relationships, a lot of things are involved and sharing of responsibilities is an essential part.

Responsibilities in relationships could range from financial responsibilities to house chores (especially if the two people involved are live-in partners).

For a relationship -any relationship at all- to work, understanding is key. The two people involved should properly understand each other. When understanding is established, then it would be easier for things to work out between them both. First of all, in the case of a live-in type of relationship, i think couples who practice this system should do so with marriage in mind (I mean why would you both be doing that if the whole purpose is to just waste each other's time?).

Talking about financial responsibilities. If the guy is financially buoyant enough to shoulder the financial responsibility in the relationship (for example paying of annual rent) without much assistance from his partner, then it's all fine and good. But if not, then they should both discuss the issue honestly and find out what will work best for them.

Then in the case of live-in partners sharing house chores. The issue have always been a bone of contention in most relationships and marriages. In an instance where they both go out to work and probably get back late, who should do the basic house chores like cleaning, cooking and laundry? Should it be the male? Or should it be the female? While some men are 'African men to the core' who believe that house chores should be left for women while they hustle and make money, the women might argue that they also work and they earn too. They get back late and they are tired.

How should the responsibility be shared?

I rallied around and got some opinions from friends. Amongst their opinions, I deduced a few things.

Firstly, like I said earlier, understanding really matters. They should both sit down and talk about what works best for them both. For instance if they both have to go out and work, whoever gets in earlier can start with maybe cooking Or already cooked food can be ordered in large quantities and stored up in the freezer for easy microwaving or heating up. And in the case of cleaning, they can do it together. While one sweeps, the other mops the house and so on. That way, it will be much more fun and they can explore more funs ways with each other.

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