I wooed my husband
The above statement will always raise eyebrows and make some ladies uncomfortable especially in my country. Because it's unheard of, almost an abomination for a lady in this part of the world to accept a man's love proposal outrightly without feigning uninterested at first. That has been the conventional behavior for ladies. They act as if they're not interested in a man coming for them even when they love the man
A lot of ladies have lost one good man or the other because of their unnecessary "hard to get" attitude. They think the men will see them as being cheap if they accept their love proposals, therefore they choose to play expensive and uninterested while the man chase them around
A known female voice in Nigeria, a human right activist and an #endsars protester, Aisha Yesufu shared her experience during an interview, she told a brief story about her love life and how she met her husband, a story that many ladies consider "strange" but it did happen and she didn't die
Aisha confessed that she wooed her husband and asked him out for a date. According to her, she developed feelings for the young man and decided to give it a shot, she was bold enough to tell him about it and asked him out on a date, the young man accepted, of course, and they eventually started a serious relationship.
The rest is history, they're both happily married with kids today and heavens have not fallen on them especially the lady. These days our ladies make themselves goddesses and untouchable, they give men the impression that they're classy, expensive, and out of reach for the "common man"
Aisha saw a man she likes and went for him, that doesn't make her cheap and it didn't reduce her in any way. That singular act earned her some respect from the man, hardly can any mature and responsible man judge any lady as "cheap" for taking such a bold step but our ladies think otherwise and die in silence
The story of Aisha Yesufu reminds me of some ladies I've met my life, I was shocked to my bones when I realized that some ladies loved me and wanted to be close to me but they couldn't come close because they didn't want to make themselves cheap.
From where did they get that orientation?
Not only do the ladies not make it known to a man when they like them, they go as far as even turning down the men they love when they try to woo them, but some of them also end up losing the men of their dreams because they expect the men to come back after rejection, some men don't have that patience and tolerance to keep trying so they leave
The same ladies that turned down the men they love still expect them to come back and try more and if they don't come back the lady starts regretting and crying for letting their dream man slip off their grip. How on earth does that make sense to you?
Forming expensive, classy, or hard to get doesn't make a lady better or bigger than what she is and it doesn't make any man value you more than the rest, what matters most is the heart, love
If you see a man come for you and you like the man, please accept him. Forming hard to get is an old fashioned way and it no longer moves men to this day. The times are changing. Go with the times
cuddles to Aisha Yesufu and other women like her who know what they want and go for it
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