Today is 29th December and as it's the normal tradition people will soon start making resolutions for the new year, some people are already counting their losses and cursing the year for being so unfavourable to them. Hahaha. What an archaic superstition
When will people begin to know and understand that no year has anything to do with their good fortune or misfortunes; the way you make your bad is the way you lay on it, do not blame the innocent year
Funny enough, people will always curse the previous year and rejoice over the incoming year as if the previous is the cause of their problems and the incoming is coming to correct all the wrongs and make everything perfect; some get so carried away that they even don't any positivity in the outgoing year! This mind set is part of the problem.
Even if their superstitions are right, seeing that people deny the good things that the previous year brought and seeing how the same people hailed and rejoiced when the year newly started, how do you think the new year will react? Hahaha
You're silent?
I'm going to introduce some simple steps we can follow to have a fulfilled year, I hope they'll help
1. Own up:
People should learn to own up when they don't do things right, it's the first step towards correcting it, don't blame your problems and misfortunes on anyone or anything, else you might never find a solution to the problem. I understand that people don't like feeling bad or guilty, they tend to feel bad when they're responsible for a problem so they push it to something or someone else just to feel good. Take your time to analyse your problems and own up if you're the cause of the problem. You'll only feel bad for a while but believe me that feeling will even fuel your passion to work harder to correct the mistakes so you'll feel better
2. Count the blessings of the previous year:
No matter how bad you think the year is, there must be one or two good things that happened in that year. If there's no other thing, be happy for your dear life, which is even the most important thing. The dead do not celebrate a new year, neither do they make new year resolutions
Count every good you experienced during the course of the outgoing year, count every little even the least of them. This will boost your confidence and give you hope that you can achieve even more in the coming year
3. What do you want to achieve?:
Now, go deep inside You, in your silent meditation; ask yourself what you want to achieve for the year. Don't allow sentiments and emotions to influence your resolutions. Be as honest as you can be to yourself and tell yourself the things you need to achieve for the year. You don't have to be emotional about it, you just have to be honest and realistic about it!
4. Make a wish list:
Get a pen and paper and make a list of all the things you wish to achieve in their order of priority. After making the list, keep them in your heart, memorize them, repeat them to yourself, be conscious and let them be your driving force
5. The bitter truth!
One of the things that kill resolutions is not being realistic with them. Being realistic here means knowing and being conscious of the fact that all the wishes on your list might not all be achievable. You will achieve some, while you won't achieve some, that's the truth!
Resolutions are more like a guide to help you focus, there's a 50-50 chance of achieving or not achieving them all. So zero your mind that you might not achieve some so that when you miss any of your targets you don't get demorilized to work on the remaining
6. Let go of negative energies
There are going to be people who won't believe in your dreams. They will keep on discouraging you by words and actions, even their thoughts sometimes can have negative effects on you and your goals. Such people will do you no good. Cut them off your dreams!
It might not be so easy to let go of your close friends or family members like that but you have to consider the reason for which you have to. Cutting them off doesn't mean you become enemies with them. No!
Cutting them means, not discussing your dreams with them, spend lesser time with them else they kill your passion
7. Connect more with like minds
There are people in your world who understand you and understand your dreams, they also have similar aspirations and resolitions; those are the kind of people you need around you.
You don't have to be sentimental or emotional about this, cut the negative energies irrespective of you relationship with them, even if they're your biological brother's or your pastor, cut the m off and connect more with like minds even if the like minds are not related to you in any way!
8. Make audits
I believe every business person knows how important it is to make audit after each phase in a business, you have to apply the same in your resolution if you want to be successful.
You can go through your list after every phase, you can do it once in four months, once in 3 months or any way you feel will be good for you but make sure you do it always to see how much progress you're making
you've made so far. This will help you improve if you aren't doing well; it will also boost your confidence and give e you more hope if you're achieving them
9. Prepare for the worst:
No matter how well you plan and how optimistic you are towards a hievimg them, always plan for the rainy days, prepare your mind that a ything can happen and affect your resolutions.
You have to prepare your mind for the worst so that when they do happen, they don't kno k you off balance. If people had anticipated something as bad as corona virus, it wouldn't have hit them so bad
10. Pray!:
In everything you do, make sure you pray, prayer will help you to believe more and be more confident and God will direct you and perfect the whole thing
A man without religion is like a shop without a rudder
Bob Marley
You have to pray earnestly to God to help you achieve your aims
Prayer is the key that opens the door in the morning and the bolt that locks it in the evening
Mahatma Gandhi
Before you make your resolutions, you have to pray for God's guidance and direction, you have to pray while executing them and also pray to thank God after completing each phase whether successful or not
I hope these tips will help make good resolutions for the coming year