Some things just start trending all of a sudden and we are somehow under pressure to do it because every other person is doing it and if we don't do it the way others do it and how they do it, people will begin to see us as aliens who don't follow the time
At one time or the other in our lives, we see people do one thing or the other before you know it becomes a standard of doing things and starts trending, at that point when it is generally accepted everybody will start doing it
Do we ever pause to wonder why everybody does some things in a certain exact way; did everybody suddenly start doing things in a particular way? The answer is a capital NO!
Then why do we suddenly do some things in a certain way?
Everything that is en vogue today started somewhere and started with someone, just one person. People don't just start doing things because everybody is not the same and don't behave alike, not even identical twins. Before someone starts doing something in a certain unique or new way, they must have thought about it and desired to do it, people continue to yearn for something and once they do it, they feel fulfilled and satisfied
Alas when we see what other people do uniquely and keep doing it, those that like it will commend and admire it while those that don't like it will criticize and condemn it. But if the person continues doing it against all odds, with time people will come to accept it and some people that like it will start doing it, as time goes on it becomes a standard then no one will question the origin or how it started
We ought to be more concerned about what we desire to do, what we want to do than what we have to do, note the difference!
When there's a generally accepted standard of doing things, people expect you to do it that way so you have to do it. Whether you're okay with it or not but you just have to do it because people avoid being seen differently. You may or may not derive joy in doing things you have to do, nobody cares, they just want you to do it
However, there are other things you desire earnestly to do in your unique new way, often we're scared to do it because nobody has done it before, we are scared of being rejected by people for doing things different from "normal" but we are convinced that we love to do it and it will make us happy doing it
That is how we end up living the life of pretense just to please other people. Take a bold step and do what you want to do, not what you have to do. When you take that bold step to do what you want, people might reject it for a while but as time goes on, they'll come to accept it too.
Don't be scared to do what you want, that's how new things are invented, rule your world, do what you want