How easy is it to be nice?
What's your definition of a nice person?
I remember listening to a song by the late high life legend chief Osita Stephen Osadebe titled "bishop Okonkwo", in that song he said that being a nice person is not easy, he also challengedanybody who thinks otherwise to try
While reflecting on all these I began to wonder what is difficult or challenging in being nice, I thought it's easy to be nice, I thoight it's just a way of life to be nice
Recently i began to see from the perspective of the music legend and why he thought it's difficult to be nice. Ordinarily, there's nothing really that challenging in being nice
But people make being nice so difficult these days because of their wrong belief and definition of a nice person
People these days see a nice person as someone who gives them what they want or behaves the way they like, not minding whether the person is okay doing them
As long as you keep doing what will favour or benefit other people, as long as you agree to their bid all the time they'll tag you a nice person.
While trying your best to please other people, they hardly care about your own welfare, even if you die trying to make them happy they don't care; provided you do what they want, they're okay and they consider you a nice person
However, whenever the same "nice person" starts fighting for his own interests, the same people that once called him a nice person will start seeing him as a bad person.
In other words, people expect you to always dance to their tune and please them at your own expence; The moment you start putting your own interest before theirs they tag you a bad person
Would you rather be tagged a nice person while displeasing yourself or be called a bad person while living a fulfilled and happy life?
It's all up to you
No matter how hard you try to be a "nice person" you will lose a lot and might even lose yourself along the line and nobody cares, rather they blame and mock you when you fail
Be yourself, do what makes you happy even though they call you bad!
