Say yes but in your heart say no, People pleaser

It turns out that being a person who doesn't like it is really uncomfortable, people who don't like it are not free to express their feelings, such as living in a falsehood, they tend to follow what other people say to please that person, therefore people who don't feel comfortable are also known as people pleasers.

People pleaser is a situation where someone has a tendency to always want to please everyone, sometimes this seems like it looks good, because people who are people pleasers will be judged as kind, and helpful, but actually that person feels pressured, an uncomfortable person usually looks fine when you are with other people or when in front of other people, but in fact it is not.

there are many things they really want to say but are hard to say, and usually they can only regret it when they are alone.

I think if we experience something like that, maybe it's better to leave it, because if we let it, over time we will actually be stressed, and this is not very good for our mental condition, start thinking about getting out of the people pleaser zone, there are several things that need to be done. noticed.

• be firm

First, we must be firm, firm here means to say yes or no according to late conditions, firmness can also be interpreted as a situation where a person can express his heart honestly, assertiveness is the initial capital when we want to rise from the people placer zone.

• Don't think you've done something bad

One of the things that makes people pleasers don't want to refuse is because of feelings of guilt, refusing in my opinion is not a bad act, as long as we have the right reasons then refusing other people's offers is a natural thing, because our lives are full of limitations and not all We must obey the wishes of others.

• Give a good reason

Usually when we reject something, other people will ask for a reason, here it is better for us to give the most appropriate and most honest reasons, meaning that the reasons we express do not raise other questions for the questioner.

When we can't help other people, actually there's no need to apologize, but sometimes in our rejection we will feel a feeling of guilt, to reduce that guilt, we can say sorry, refuse something from other people so as not to disappoint them of course we just have to refuse with humility and apologies.

Being a people pleaser will only hurt from within, if we don't try to leave it, we will forever live in the shadows of other people's feelings, it's not uncommon to be used by other people, doing good is important, but before we do good to people Otherwise, make sure we are ready to accept the consequences, otherwise it is better to delay, because delaying does not mean we have done something bad.