A Survey ON True LOve

As your relationship adviser, I carried out a survey to know what's people's opinions on true love and here are what they said

I have been in so many random and private conversations with people, concerning what love truly is. And when they open up to me and share their experiences, I listen with rapt attention. I got to notice something striking.

In every 20 persons I get to interview in a space of a week or two., 1-7 persons, have issues believing love is real and exists.

7-15 people are usually having problems with their partners. Sometimes, it could be that they love and their partners don't love them the way they do, or he/she is playing on their feelings, and thus, this hurts them a lot.

15-20 persons, believe in love and have a good relationship with their partners. But sometimes their own problems could be "Trust issue", "insecurities", "understanding each other" and lots more.

Now, this has made me come to understand that, so long as it has to do with love and humans as the pioneers of love., Be it a mutual relationship, casual, normal, platonic, best friendship, family, or even romantic relationship. Sometimes, there are always problems arising from each party, as they both try their possible best to give out love, and seek to be loved in return.

However small or big the love problems may be, what makes the difference, is your ability to know how to handle your own type of love problems.

I would love to take my time and explain what love really is, really means, and how real it actually is.

Then, I would furthermore bring to light some ways you could be able to know if your partner really loves you or not.

Now, what is love?

Love is a very deep feeling, or would I say., It is much more than a feeling. It is more than a feeling because love changes Actions, but Actions can never change love.

How do I mean?

Please I would appreciate it if you follow me closely.

Love changes Actions, because., If for instance, you know someone you disliked in the past, or you weren't so familiar with months back, and you got to know this very person as time went on. You literally developed a love for the person., Now, your ACTIONS towards that lad would definitely change.

You will tend to care more,

Text more,

Communicate more,

Share ideas more,

And lots more.

Now, the love in your heart has influenced your ACTIONS towards your loved one.

Now, how do ACTIONS not change love?

I would tell you.

Let's take, for instance, you have a few people you are kind to. Or you are naturally kind and always extending helping hands to those in need around you.

Now, the fact you are nice to them, or to a particular person, doesn't mean whatever love you feel or have for the person (mutual/friendly), can instigate a romantic love in your heart.

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It can't, except in rare cases.

Because, good people tend to do good for a lot of people, so if their good and positive actions towards a particular group of people, can influence them into loving them romantically., How then would they be able to enter a relationship with everyone they tend to offer a helping hand to.

That's why I said it's most times impossible.

Love is what we do in spite of what we feel. It is the ability that enables us to do things, just to make someone else happy, even if it may not go down well with us eventually. It is looking out for someone else's need while putting ours on the wait.

Love is more intense and deeper than the common word "I love you"

It entails more of the actions that follow jag very word.

Most importantly, love is a responsibility. When not taken care of or followed up intentionally, it could be so risky,

It could break,

It could heal too.

It all depends on how we decide to follow up our own Love.

This is to show how real love is. Everyone should be a victim of love, and everyone yearns to have someone love them, while they enjoy the pleasure of reciprocating that too.

We all crave a romantic relationship, with the right partner. We want to feel love and give love at the very Zenith of our hearts. We want to feel love at its peak. We want to experience what one means by

"madly or crazily in love"

Sometimes, we are willing to give up everything for love, but just then, we encounter the wrong person and give in our all, and that totally changes us.

Changes our perspectives about love.

Changes that sweet and loving person we used to be.

It changes our mentality to believing love only hurts, why forgetting the goodies that come alongside love, is actually much more.

Having given you every reason to prove the efficacy of love., I would help you out with ways of knowing your partner loves you, in order to avoid heartbreaks💔.

Remember, I so wish every one of us a perfect relationship, that is why I am putting in my best to this fam.

Good luck as you try!

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Ways to know you are with the right partner that loves you.

1.. They put you as a priority.

They try their possible best, to give you a certain satisfaction, that you are king or queen over their lives, (God exclusive). They always make it visible that you are their number one person, and they consider you first before another.

2.. You feel secure.

It is true that when it comes to love, most times, some of us tend to know when one loves us. We would feel it literally. Here is another way., How secured are you with that person?

Do you feel safe?

Are you comfortable letting out your problems?

If yes, worry not. You are in the right relationship, with the right person.

3.. They are supportive of your needs.

It is true that no matter how you love someone, you can't just do everything for them, but there is a great extent to which things can be done.

A good partner is supportive emotionally, morally, spiritually, and financially too.

4.. They are good listeners.

They don't force out speeches from you or rush you. They listen attentively to your plight and always have a way of solving them. Even if it's just rendering moral support.

5... They always want to communicate with you, however, tight their schedules are.

6...They take note of the little things you cherish. They take note of your love language.

7...They keep you on the know of happenings in their lives. By doing this, they are indirectly involving you in their lives equations. For the purpose of building up together.

8.. They respect you. They adore your personality and appreciate you.

They have a bit of jealousy in them once they see you do things you do with them, with another person. Not so bad a jealousy, but they always feel a bit cheated when you spend more time with someone else, and not them.

9.. They trust you and believe you in everything. They are understanding. They help you build self-confidence. They are always there to encourage and push you to achieve your goals., Because they support your dreams.

10.. They would never lie to you for any reason. Because they know the implications.

If at all they will, they quickly apologize and not repeat it of any kind again.

Hey readers, there are a lot of signs for knowing the right partners, but I just picked up quite interesting and applicable ones.

I hope this little piece of article, helps take your relationship to another level of growth.

Thanks for reading 🖤

27 Nov. 2021, A Candidly publishment