Have you ever seen a man crying? What did he look like? Weird, right? That's the way that most people react when they see a man shedding tears. Most people, including the men, have been oriented to believe that only weak men cry. So, crying is exclusively a woman's thing. The general notion is that women are weak vessels and that's why they cry when they are hurt. Is this really true? Are women weak vessels? Some other people believe that women are emotional beings and are therefore wired to cry whenever they are scathed. This notion leaves me asking whether men do not have emotions too? Some families even mock their male children when they cry by saying words like: "see how you are crying like a woman." I think these beliefs inform the reasons why most men bottle up a lot. According to Lana Burgess in "eight benefits of crying ( October, 2017): In the united states, women cry an average of 3.5 times per month and men cry an average of 1.9 times per month." This indices clearly show that women cry more than men.

Women, on the other hand, see crying when they are hurt as a normalcy. It is acceptable to the larger society. Infact, some women use it as an advantage to override the men during a period of dispute or as a clever trick to get the men to do what they want. In some clines, women that seldomly cry are adjudged mean and wicked and the others who cry a lot are deemed soft-hearted. Crying or not crying has nothing to do with wickedness.

Crying is a therapeutic way of shedding emotions. If you cry, you will loosen up. Crying heals certain emotional cracks. Crying helps you to relax and release tension. Crying helps to increase your inner peace. Research has found that shedding emotional tears release oxytocin and endorphins; chemicals that make people feel good and may also ease physical and emotional pains. When people cry in response to stress, their tears contain a number of stress hormones and other chemicals and crying is believed by researchers to reduce such chemicals, invariably reducing stress level.

Men who hold things to heart just to prove that they are strong obliviously expose themselves to high risk of mental stress which leads to psychosomatic diseases such as high blood pressure, heart failure, etc. They're always tense and are prone to taking extreme measures to calm their nerves. They are likely to resort to alcoholism, drug misuse, womanizing, smoking, etc, as a means to ease tension which are risk factors to early death. In some cases, they are suicidal.

It's a wrong notion to think that crying is a sign of weakness in men. Men should cry when they are hurt because it helps in their mental easiness.

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