Overcoming Fears

It is a fundamental feature of life that we are utterly oblivious of our own existence. There are many things about ourselves that we are not aware of. We concentrate on all of the things that could go wrong and in how many different ways they could. We are unsure as to what it is that our core is looking for in the first place. When we are on a route where we are unsure of what will happen, we experience fear of the unknown.

Fear is a natural and powerful human emotion that everyone experiences at some point in their lives. It is an innate quality that we utilize to defend ourselves when faced with a potentially dangerous situation. While genuine risks might cause real worries, they can also be triggered by fictitious, illusionary, or imagined dangers as well.

Fear begins early in childhood and increases in intensity as we grow older, as we become increasingly unable to cope with and manage our emotions as a result of acquired behaviors affected by our environment. Some fears can get serious and it could actually affect the way we live and interact with other people.

When I was a child, I had a fear of worms. Some had fear of spiders, the dark, and being separated from mom are all learned habits that can cause tension and worry, which can interfere with normal daily activities such as going to school and working. By being attentive to a child's feelings, understanding them, and being present, a caregiver can assist in alleviating these emotions early on. Fears could go away at some point eventually but it does not happen to all.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.” -Marianne Williamson

Because of the assistance of meditation, I discovered that from the minute we are born, we begin to photograph everything that happens in our lives and store those photographs in our minds. We have emotional links to these images/thoughts, and as a result, these images/thoughts induce fears, worry, tension, and anxiety.

Consider a specific instance in which you were frightened of a certain thing or circumstance. That particular moment can be recalled, but we are not aware that it is merely a representation, that it is fictitious. We imprint these images in our minds and view the world in the manner in which we think about it.

SOME TIPS THAT I RECOMMEND IN OVERCOMING FEARS:

1. Prepare for a deliberate interaction with the source of your fear.

2. Visualize yourself dealing effectively with the fear and triumphing over it on a regular basis. For me, I have fear of heights so sometimes I imagine being in the top of a building, it makes my hand sweat though.

3. Respect the source of your fear to the degree that you recognize and acknowledge its presence. It is still a part of your life and there might be a good reason for it.

4. Recognize that the fear is only your mentality toward that element, circumstance, person, or animal, and that the anxiety and dread is unfounded.

I wish we get over from the fears that we experience so we can live a better life and if not, I hope we find a way to make things work.