Forgiving someone to let go of the pain is different from forgetting something to evade further damage.

It is not just about the little things in life. It is full of intricate situations, bumpy roads, and some particularly difficult challenges. Other people have even gone so far as to create objects that could cause harm to another person. Although time may heal the wound, the scar will remain. It has remained in place. Because it is difficult to forget something that has had a significant impact on your life.

Here comes forgiveness and forgetting. When we are wounded or disappointed by something or someone, recalling the events makes us still feel the same feeling the first time we feel it. Time may pass, but there is this part of our brain where these things that happen to us are stored. Sometimes, we just feel sorry for ourselves for experiencing these things, even if, in the first place, we really do not deserve those things. But life must go on. The act of forgiving someone is exactly what it is all about.

When we forgive, there is this feeling inside us that makes it lighter. The negative emotions surrounding the events that happened to us do not fully disappear when we forgive. We still feel the pain, but it's just that it's lighter than before. You will not be able to overcome the pain and forget about the offenses and disappointments if you only try to cover up the suffering and just forget about them. The pain will linger and take root, allowing bitterness to steadily spread throughout your life. In effect, it could lead to some serious problems once we take it and contain it within ourselves, especially in our minds. Remember that once the glass is already full of water, the excess flows. We, humans, will also get to a point where we can no longer contain such things. So let's forgive because it is not that bad to do so.

But if you may be unable to forgive yourself, which makes it difficult for you to forgive others as well, do not pressure yourself too much towards forgiving others.

Those who have experienced a seeming betrayal may be upset and find it difficult to let go of their negative emotions. If someone who has experienced a very serious case and does not get the justice or closure that they need in order to properly heal, it will be far more difficult to forgive the person who has already caused them harm be it purposely or incidentally.

Takeaway:

After all, forgiving is not a one-time event, but rather a continuous process. It takes time to complete a process, and the same is true for forgiveness. But it does not mean, it is okay to feel the same thing repeatedly and keep on forgiving. Everything has a limit. Also, it takes time to completely heal your wounds and to lessen the pain they caused. And most importantly, it is a case-to-case basis.