Focus More On My Strength Than My Weakness
A great man is not someone without weakness, everyone has a weakness, it all depends on what you are recognized for, your strength or your weakness? Beyonce can be very bad at volleyball or even playing the piano but then her vocals are good, would it be wise for her to spend more time in learning to play the volleyball or devote more time to the piano so she can close out her weakness, it really isn't so necessary to focus on what we are not rather than trying to build what we can be. Our strengths are our potentials, seeing we give in more time to it, it stands us a higher chance of becoming amazing.
Time is and always would be a defining factor to wealth, knowing to maximize time and energy is a key factor to greatness. When this time and energy is not channeled into the right course then overtime we may not receive as much as we should if we channeled such energy into the right course. So time and energy are so important, that we ought to do it in the right way and step, we ought to channel it into our strengths more than we channel it in building our weaknesses, our weaknesses often take more from us than our strength would take to profit us more.
What can you do? What can you not do? What where does your passion lies? Is it on what you can not do or what you can do? Its easier to decide when ones passions are resting on what we can do, it is what we mostly experience though, most people have passion for what they can do more than what they can not do and the factors affecting this are applauds from people and also sense of accomplishment. The high praises of People to us are like fuel, we would want to do it more often so as to get that feeling.
Most craftsmen would have stopped their handiwork long ago should no one be appreciating their efforts, it isn't always about the money sometimes, yes the bills to pay and the need to sustain oneself can be a propelling force to selecting where we can channel our energy, however some times without a sense of this is where I should be we may keep looking for what is worthy of our time., and getting applaud and praises from people to a great extent concur to let us know that we are were we ought to be even if it may be false on the long run.
We would be known for one thing, maybe few things, but something would be more known to people, so we've got to be intentional about what we are going to be projecting out to the public, they are not always with us and so they can't know a 100% of everything about us, expect we show them or probably they get a leakage to our personal lives. However groom the strength to become a worthy contender in the war of life. Our weaknesses should not be left unattended to also, so they don't drag us down so deep.
Look through the history of outstanding people, men of greatness, you'll realize a pattern of weakness, it could be drugs, women, alcohol, lust, or any disorder and they may not be finding solution to this weakness, yet they become popular and highly respected in the society. Their weakness doesn't stop the wealth, the fame, nor the greatness generally, because their strength have been built up so well, he has grow in capacity to a good level that the world has no choice but to applaud, should he have divide his time and energy into both weakness and strength, then maybe he won't be able achieve such feet so fast.
Our weakness can drag us down no doubt so it good we find a way to correct them, however if growth and mastery is what we aim then more of this time and energy should be spent on what we want to do for ourselves, grooming are all continuous processes, so we keep learning and keep working things out always, how opportunities aren't continuous and so we have to be prepared for when it comes, opportunities wouldn't come for your weakness, your work field is your strength, it would come test your work and if successful, then a new level has been unlocked. Work more on your abilities, and pay attention to your weakness.
Life has a lot in store, we must keep trying our best shots at success, keep building ourselves personally, trying to improve ourselves on every side, money, family, career, mindset, all this we have to put in work to get out results, do you know you can become an expert in your field, you probably are not devoting enough time and energy into improving, maybe your time and energy are being divided between your strength and weakness, add more to your strength, its from there the true gain come... our weaknesses should be treated as weeds being trimmed and cautioned, but our strengths are our passion, our force, focus more on your strengths.
I really appreciate your effort and time to read, have yourself a productive day. One love guys ❤.
Repelling Disrespect At All Cost
Ever been in that situation when something disrespectful happens and you didn't react, you being your regular nice self didn't react to the occurence but your body was really red hot and a lot of nasty scenario begins to play in your head and gradually steals your peace, your appetite, your happiness and you become so moody and bitter for sometime until you forget. I always ask the question of why would you allow yourself get disrespected, should you react there and then what are the possible outcomes that are expected, which would you prefer to be home feeling more in your right or be home feeling disrespected and bitter.
Some people are so insensitive, they would hurt your feelings and still feel good, it's your responsibility to own your happiness, don't permit what you don't like. You can't fully predict anyone, as we humans are not machines, we can only study and hope the person would be good in return, well should the individual be bad , then its best to cut off and move on. Believe me some people are best related to as strangers from afar because the moment you become so hospitable to accommodate, you'll have to start putting up with so many bad attitudes and they might be too full of themselves to adjust.
When someone decide to go out of his or her boundaries to cause something you're not pleased with, then is the best time to correct it, what you don't like you don't accept, this way the person is aware of your dislike for such attitude and just find a way to adjust. This first stating of your stand should be done in love and co respect, not one to offend anyone, but your sincerity is shown, for instance Your brother took your car out for a drive without first letting you know - hey bro I want to step out, can I get your keys?, but maybe out of your close relationship, he just did it. Well judging on a family basis, there's no crime here, moreover you guys have been sharing for a long time now.
This doesn't stop the fact that you might not be pleased with such actions, so when he returns, you clearly state the obvious,bro you didn't tell me before you zoomed off, I know its not bad, but next time do let me know first, I'm serious. With a calmer facial expression, this way you have create a rule, and since you're in possession, any faulter to the rule, you have a claim to reacts more angrily. So many things we experience day in and out that are not so much to out liking, yet we absorb it such that it makes us mad inner, its best to release of the heat at an early stage before it becomes unbearable.
One clear mistake people make that would later make it seem like they are at fault, is not cutting excesses off at the grassroots, hoping the next person would supernaturally change his or her attitude, well it doesn't quite happen so, also after stating their faults you dislike, it doesn't mean they would or should change, you're simply saying this is bad and I don't like it, so they'll know not to exhibit such around you next time, but it's still their choice though, you've just done your part.
A too smiling boss is bound to be taken for granted, because everyone wants to draw close, and should the boss be too accommodating then all kind of personalities would have access as since everyone is in a quest of who would get more favours from the boss, then expect various nasty and unpleasant exhibition, that might cost the boss his respect at least. More reason why most bosses that have been long in the game are currently regarded as being strict, but in actuality when you draw closer to them you'll notice they're really fun. But for the effectiveness of the job and efficiency of the workers, undistracted and well behaved, such attitude is needed to bring serenity to the workplace.
Some time you smile too much, and people feel they can do anything and you'll just laugh it off, this being too nice nature is not so good in the long run, it's better to be good by doing the right thing than being nice and going the wrong route. Soldiers are good but not nice, teachers ought to be good but not nice, because being good might warrant you taking some tough decision, even against everyone just because its the right thing to do like rejecting of bribe, but being nice means always going out of your way trying to please everyone, well for how long? Its a rather impossible act to continue and when you stop eventually, be ready to be hated. Lol.
I especially dislike when a parent is being too nice to caution the excesses of their kid, training up a child is not an easy job though, but if the bible could advise against sparing the rod and spoiling the child, while you're yet in this house, some things should be rather unacceptable, and yes they should be scared of being disciplined. Children and mostly teenagers are bound to make mistakes and the mind is filled with a lot of things to try out, to this fact every parent should sit up, don't smile too much to cause a go ahead. A little folding of hands and shame might be approaching soon. Some of the issues we face presently can and should have been easily curb and stopped.
Happy Sunday pals, don't allow disrespect from anyone and don't disrespect anyone too.
Minds in Growth
For every evidence of growth be fully sure there is a better equipped mind at work. We truly can't do what we can't think about, and we can't measure how far we our thoughts can go, it's just like starting a journey to the caves of a mountain only for you to get to the top of the mountain cause your interest kept growing, well you never would have left your house to the location of the mountain if you never thought of it, so growth has got to be intentional, want it, desire it and plan for it. Our minds have the capacity to grow and most times it grows on the job so you've got to start working on the little you can come up with now.
Our minds is a powerful tool given to us by God. Our minds deserve to be built and grown to accommodating that we we set it out for, Small minds are simply the act of thinking less than what you can really accomplish. Mostly in the disguise of being realistic many are refusing to take extra measures, let's just keep it simple. Feeling like everyone who is successful is better off than they, this is often how they think. They don't see their self doing a great deal, keep life simple, eat, sleep and fun whats more to life.
Having this group as friends too is detrimental to your personal growth, already we are conversant with the slang show me your friend and I'll tell you who you're, those we have around are those who would be the first to know that which you're deliberating about. You can be placing that ideas of yours in peril when you open it up for discussion. They don't comprehend how it can work, most especially they don't see you in that way. Do you think its that easy, or you need to be wealthy to pull this off, or what connections do you have that would accept such proposal, and for the few who are not really self motivated, its only a matter of time before they call it quit.
You look awkward and stubborn when you keep pushing on your believe, what does he think he's going, who do you think you are. You know very many think Albert Einstein was born as a genius with his skull very big to contain big brains, well that's not true, rather just like us all, Albert Einstein was born and raise but has everyone's passion is a determinant to what they do, he gave himself into study and his extraordinary works made him known and respected, this anyone too stand a chance of achieving if they too can follow his lifestyle.
To further buttress my point that little minds and great minds are only as a result of working on oneself and not determined by birth or giving to selected few by God divinely. You want something then you can get it if you can do the needed. There are principles existing to aid whatever you want and when people say you can't do it, they are wrong but then its still your choice to take it or leave it. When next you're told you can't do it or achieve something if you can shun them please do, but then you are only being told you don't know the principle that's needed to achieve it. So seek the necessary knowledge and see that impossible becoming possible. In fact see it become very easy.
Think big, then at least you can do some mind blowing stuffs along the way, think small and you might end up not doing anything. Easiest way to get your mind built up too is to associate yourself with peoples who can very much help, with those who have done something for themselves. Get in with them and in time you'll see that no one is dull all along, mostly we were just all lazy formerly. Its isn't bad to become friends with someone who can very much help your life, get the routines,the ethics, understand how they sort out customers and think deep.
Another great and ideal way to do your thing and get enlightened enough to transform the mind from small to very accommodation mind is by reading, research, looking for what to do, just broaden your scope, go deeper, go closer than usual, understand how those people get up and react to inner ides most people. Read more and more and your build your mind capacity to accept those extraordinary thoughts, if anyone can do it, then you too can, read more. Also you can make those great minded fellows your friends.
Gain insight, so you can move and move better. Grow that small mind so you can start breaking stronger and newer grounds. However we have to start, if we never start then we might never know, start the journey and keep the interest growing, these double tools are known for producing better results, we are more powerful than we think, know this and grow guys, the power residing in the mind is so unlimited, there is no limit to what we can achieve as long as we keep growing our mind capacity via learning consistently.
I'm grateful you could take time out to read. Keep being a great tool to our Generation.
Results Not Reasons
How long can you bear with someone would gives more reasons and less results, excuses from time to time, it doesn't matter how nice or accommodating you are, it'll be best you find someone else if you really have the intention of completing what you're doing. A job would never get done in due time if the people aren't time conscious and competent for the task, this is what an employer would be looking out for, can you do the job and can you deliver results as at when needed, delivering results timely comes with competence level, the better you are the more timely you are., late coming is the abnormality here.
This is mostly the case with family business, because there are more security and assurances they most likely can be comfortable. Ideas are rarely jointly formed, most times it's one man doing the thinking or having the passion to start this up, so when people start joining in the level of interest to the idea would differ, some would want it more than you do, some would not want it as much as you do and may be there on lesser passion and more for the gain, however it's all hidden intentions so you may not be able to determine, the best one can do is to protect what he has selfishly.
By selfishly I mean to guard it with all intentions, we don't allow just anyone come and do with our start ups how they like, it doesn't matter how established the business is, it doesn't matter If we're still young or older in the business, we wouldn't allow anyone do with it how they like. So let them go earn their stay, we can always attain higher positions, contentment are not the trait of a successful business person, he or she always wants more and so keep going after more, the people we are working with are to assist in the bringing of more, but if they are not capable of bringing more how can you then see more.
For someone who wouldn't work to improve his skills, for someone who is lazy to gain competence, for someone who always give excuses and rarely any results, how much kindness can you tolerate, its good to be good but not when there are deadly risk attached. Some people are regretting their stand today and it's all because they could have prevented it early but were too compassionate or scared to do it. Your ideas, your job, your enterprise is a serious business don't let anyone take it for less.
You know one of the major fear with good people is thinking God would be angry but stopping someone else from gaining on you, but I believe God is not like that, for a fact on many occasions we have seen how the bible values diligence and competence, "see there a man diligent in his business, he shall stand before kings and not before ordinary men" it's there in the bible as well as "study to show yourself approved, a workman needs not to be ashamed rightly dividing the words of truth" there again in our holy book, so what excuse would anyone have to be slothful with business.
Corrections are for an appointed time, if you keep correcting overtime it becomes expected and taking at levity., from correction to punishment and to final act of punishment, you're into a serious business and so it's for serious minded people only. It's fine if they don't have the same great passion for the task as you do, ofcourse not everyone would, however it won't be okay when they start taking the work for a job and working as will, you could very much see years of sweats and toiling go down in smoke causes of their actions, just then they leave for another job cause they must eat and get money, and then blame you for poor management.
Likewise for areas of our personal lives, where we've allowed just anyone to come in and do as they please, we must take ourselves as the most serious business, we must care for ourselves much more cause no one else would. We must be careful who we let in and be ready to correct any wrong choices we could have made unapologetically. Be good but being too nice might raise issues, most times we care too much for people who wouldn't give a second thought on letting go of you, be careful out there, stop accepting sneaky reasons and go more for those who bring healthy results.
Don't regret in the future what you can stop now, its isn't bad to do the right thing even when it hurts someone, doing the right thing is good in the sight of God and so your conscience should be cleared, everyone should show dedication and interest for what they are doing and for the place they occupy in your heart, continue to accept apologize and excuses and soon you may be left in a corner so hard to come out all because of someone else, be it family or friends even spouse every must be competent enough for a position, no wonder some people won't give a sensitive position to their children even when its their company. Position should be earned on the basis of competence and diligence.
Thanks for reading, go more for results than reasons (excuses).
Men Needs Women And Vice Versa
Sometimes when we examine life, we would feel like somethings are empty, we'd think there are voids, vacuum in some places, slowly we fail to realize that it all has its occupants, there are and would always be inhabitants even as unnoticed and invisible as air. There is something for everywhere, there is something for everyone, there is someone for everyone, nothing was created to be and stay empty, something can fill up the emptiness and someone can fill up the emptiness. The supposed truth remains there is no Vacuum in reality.
It's not good for a man to be alone, so its said in the holy bible, and so a woman was created to fill that emptiness, so the man and the woman alike needs each other for the completion of that satisfactory feeling, I don't care how you think the world have evolved over time but I bet you, only till you get a man or a woman by your side the feeling of completion may never come, a man to man can never bring completion neither can a woman to woman bring it about, to a very large extent you'll need the opposite gender to bring about complete satisfaction.
How else do you defend the need for a sperm donor, if they were truly and honestly satisfied then they can stay forever happy without the need for a man, but then slowly creep reality into certainty, and they begin to see the need for a man, cause the law and order of things wasn't for same sex togetherness, it really isn't the plan of God to mankind, so they would still come back to the normal rule of things and get a man to donate a piece of himself to procreate another life which may bring the satisfaction they need, but truly it still doesn't bring it about.
The male would never be satisfied without a female being for them, already from creation it has been said that man being alone is never right and something urgently was to be done and was indeed done by the emergence of the feminine gender. So when two men decides to live together, it even becomes more evident that they are more incomplete than before, previous it was a single unsatisfaction, but not its double. We can only deny for the longest time but all comes back to reality, all return back to the order of things, a man needing a woman and a woman a man.
There's a stereotype of its good for a people to be alone for sometime to work on theirselves, based on the responsibilities we are always faced with in life, how else do we take care of two when we are not emotionally and financially capable. And this I couldn't agree more, I feel it's TRUE, especially for the Male, just as from creation man has been charge with the duties of the garden before a woman was betrothed to him, so he was firstly responsible then he was capable of taking care of two. If you can't take care of the little with you, how then can you take care of a higher level and a human at that. Learn to be responsible it aids compatibility.
In our society however women are no longer exempted from the duty of responsibility, however it still may not be important for them to attain financial stability before marriage, but please be emotionally stable at the least. I'm guessing this is the one thing we can offer our men, that emotional love and support, however when you're emotionally broken from past, how then do you fully your sole duty as a companion, when you can even be there for him. The man also must be emotionally responsible so he doesn't go sleeping around and give his woman the love and security she needs.
We both need each other, a man needs a woman in his life., and a woman likewise needs a man, there are other reasons a man can desire a man and a woman needing another woman but nothing on the bases of marriage, it believes it creates a void, a void soon needed to be fixed. We could say as long as they are happy then it's fine, but I'll say that's letting momentarily emotions gets in the way of true needs, happiness is subjective and everyone can be happy with anyone both Male and female and I'm talking about true excitements, but when it comes to family, you'd best know that we can go aside from the law put in place by God, that's a man to a woman and the vice versa.
Thank you for reading, this post is simply expressing my opinion, any contrary view should be expressed, however we live and learn everyday.
Never Be Too Available
I wish people would learn to appreciate those who endeavor to make theirselves available whenever they you need them, it's not because they are jobless or not having anything better to do with their time or you're the best and most special person on earth, its simply for love and respect and this both attribute shouldn't be taken for granted. Its tiring when efforts are not reciprocated but rather there begin to be some sense of entitlement to recieving the love you don't reciprocate, such as this I unapologetically term as selfishness. Appreciate those who give you their time and when someone doesn't respect your effort then it's better to withdraw, moreover they are not your children, keep loving but love smart.
When there's a higher demand over the supply of a commodity then automatically that should cause a rise in price for the commodity, its applicable to most areas of life as scarcity causes more yearning for whatever or whoever. Yes whoever also, cause as humans we too can be scarce, not meaning we go into hiding away from the world and just showing out of the blue, rather its more like limiting the way you feed out yourself to people, we all know our worth and how we ought to be treated but mostly it isn't so therefore there's something we aren't doing, we're probably missing out something.
No one is perfect, any level you are, as long as you're trying and showcasing then you should be appreciated, many people in the world don't try at all. No one would be spotless without mistake, so you're a star just how you are, no filters. Self confidence is a good tool needed if you're to put up with others, seeing Yourself when others aren't seeing is a great step to greatness. If you never stopped knowing you can do it, then others actions would have less impact on you.
When the Bible says a prophet is not honoured in his own home, what was he trying to talk about, remember he said also that Jesus was not able to perform any miracle in Nazareth, that's his hometown. Then what's wrong, did he loose his powers anytime he stepped home, definitely not. Since believe, having faith is a great force to pulling miracles our way, then who would believe in that young boy they all saw playing on the sands, running round the streets on his underwear, maybe his mates were more skillful than him, but you're the Messiah, isn't this a joke.
Our thoughts as humans has a way of treating strangers more special than those close maybe its the thrill of something new. Do you remember liking that new student in your class more than those there already, well until you all become friends. When actually does who have been there from the very start should be accorded more attentions love and respect. It's very hurtful whenever we see people who came before treated with more importance simply because our needs are not so needed at the time, then they come smiling when they need our help again.
More reason why all famous people won't be your friend until you too become popular, see reason why those people limit the relationship with their past when they hit the spotlight, some might say its pride, others know its for the market value. Of course what makes the likes of gold, diamond, silver a very valued commodity apart from its beauty is the fact that its not easily gotten, it takes a good digging out and refining, you all want it right, then why don't you go get it yourself.
If you happen to be the brother or sister to a popular celebrity, you wouldn't have to be in a crowd praying and hoping for a signature, not minding if you might faint in the crowd. Well as the celebrity sibling you might be feeling everyone is just crazy, why go through such inconvenience, forgetting that just she too goes crazy over that product, brand or person she likes or crushes after. Sometimes its good we create our own scarcity ourselves, a deliberate movement to earn our rightful standing in the view of people, if you're not comfortable staying alone then you've got to start learning, or at least a small group is okay.
Marketing strategist knows how to manipulate the market to their favour, special advisors and media personalities knows how to portray their selves to the public to get them wanting more. No doubt scarcity attracts value, and value is money, in fact value is big money. First get value, then apply scarcity. Don't go scarce without having value, you might end up running back in hunger in need, create value then preserve the values worth by ensuring its continually regarded by people, being too available often makes people depreciate their view of a thing or person.
Thanks for reading, life works better when it's intentional. Work out your life with great planning. Have a productive day.
Failing Forward
I've always thought failing can always lead backwards until I discovered that one can fail forward. How do I fail and yet I'm happy cause my failure is a win, where is the correlation? Like someone rightly said failure is a step forward but giving up is the game over. But we see a lot of people scared of failing, what if it doesn't go as planned, what if it all ended badly, and so some stayed without trying. However when we understand that we fail forward it offers a form of consolidation that even if it didn't work out yet I'm much better than before.
Most time we don't see the bigger picture to the aftermath of the whole journey, we are aware we failed, we are aware it didn't as planned but we shift focus from the most important thing which is ourselves, materials can get exhausted and repurchased, opportunities can come again even we can chase after a bigger opportunity than those we have lost, goal can be reset but if we don't work on ourselves personally then we would continue to be limited, and this is what trying does, it doesn't matter if we fail or win, as long as we tried we are surely improving on ourselves.
Just as its said, one beaten twice shy, same tactics that got me to fail can be prevented next time but someone who never tried has not began the journey yet and is yet to see the obstacles on the way, yet we keep moving and with each trying again we see more clearly and we do it better. It's all knowledge, both does who fail and those who succeed have both derived knowledge from trying and this knowledge stays, it sticks with us forever. So it's riskier not to try at all than to fail and failure is mostly a step forward, another step closer to the win.
It's just like a game, we have to win to the next stage and each level has it's own obstacles, sometimes we might spend time on one level but as soon we can win that level we would have gained so much knowledge about that level so it would be easily to play it again, then we can always win that level as if it's very simple, we may even get bored playing it feeling its too easy, we have forgotten how frustrating it was before. What makes it easy not is owing to our consistency in playing, even while we failed we kept playing again and again, so we won't be wrong to say while we were failing on the game we were only failing forward.
I feel it's better to fail at first than to win at the first try, cause then you would think its always easy, and underestimating the challenges is a trap that you might not recover from. At the early stages we are always careful and observant but as soon as we see it's easy we become reckless and confident. Take a business for example, one who at his early stage went and fought through all the hurdles would be more cautious, compared to him whom luck shone as soon as he enter, and so he think it's an easy going market, may it not be when he takes a loan to multiple his profits that the challenges start surfacing, he might run into depression.
You're so important than the way you view yourself, just because you see your nakedness and feel so normal doesn't mean you are just human, everyone should aim, everyone should set his target on things high above and run after it. We would discover then most people don't even have any plans to be celebrated and respected by people, they just want to be comfortable and live a normal life, this can be so for anyone who thinks he isn't created important, but as soon as you know God has a special plan for you, then you'll understand that you just can't live so casually anymore.
Never be afraid to fail, "what if you fail" shouldn't be the main view from your eye goggles, rather view more from optimism "what it you succeed", seeing they are both of equal probability, you can as well choose the thought you'll want to stand by, and I prefer you stand by positivity. Failure unlike it's often painted isn't a backslide, yes you may need to restart again but you're restarting from a higher platform than you were yesterday, you're restarting much better and wiser, indeed the failure increased you in different levels, so you failed forward not backwards.
Keep trying, for everyone who keeps trying the success isn't farfetched, its just around the corner, see it as your favorite game, remember how you failed initially, see how well you're performing now, let this be seen as that also, your knowledge keep expanding, you are more aware and enlightened than before, the failure indeed came with blessings, many don't know so they don't take any morals from the failure. As long as we tried our best, we aren't failures, we aren't moving backwards, rather we keep climbing up because the next time we would surely perform better. So just keep trying.
Thank you for reading guys, keep trying and never be afraid of failure, as long as you tried you can only win or fail forward.
What Scares You
There are quite a number of things that scares us, both as individuals and collectively as humans generally. For the reason that we are scare of it has placed such habit, person or object high above, therefore to win over it one must firstly overcome the fear of it. Let's start from the saying "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger " probably with this we can be more courageous to becoming fearless., however its never a right idea to dwell on fear, overtime it can grow so strong and posses the power to kill, for these to happen the fears must have driven form of peace from a persons heart., don't let fear win, so I ask again, What Scares You?
How long would the life of fear continue, it has to end and end real quick. There's an extent to what we can achieve,there are extents to how much we can do when we are not free to act and react, everyone needs a free and conducive environment to explore and showcase what it is we want to do. We sometimes have the craziest of ideas, one that would likely meet a lot of adversities, and seeing we care about our image in the eyes of others we want to ensure that we are seen in the most acceptable way possible, we don't want to be embarrassed and so we withdraw.
However this doesn't and shouldn't matter because we are all required to fulfill our individualist goals and ambitions and at that not everything we set out to do would be appreciated by everyone, we should just keep acting as expected, not in fear of what people might say or do. Live is too short to leave our goals aside so as to please another person. In our different stages of life, we have had what we fear and has been a limiting factor to our effectiveness, for example as little children most of us were in fear of pleasing our parents, doing things otherwise might be incurring punishment that we wouldn't like.
In schools few of us had someone who always pick on us, anytime we encounter such person its always like we go nuts, we just hope they wouldn't be coming to school every time, at your job, your boss might be strict and you know if you don't play your cards right, you can be immediately substituted, well it differs with places but the problem is more about the people, because the same places and location where you're living in fear, there's another person who is living their best life out there, however no one is pointing a gun to their head so why be so scared of living.
Do what you must, treat your ambition with greater respect than you treat those things and people you fear. We need to know that although it seems like time is still much, so we can take things slow, enjoying living in the fear and just wait for the people we fear and the things we fear to find its way out of our lives, before we can start living. This is a sincerely bad plan. Firstly time is not on anyone's side, each passing seconds are swiftly creeping into minutes, then to hours, then days, months and years eventually, so why not decide to act now.
Wait moreover what's the worst that can happen, you get embarrassed, hated or even confronted, well sooner than later its what we all must face when we are trying to push against all odds, in no time everyone would learn to see things for how you have been seeing them, they would learn to appreciate you if only you can bear to fight for what you believe in. Nothing good comes easy, if something good has the intentions of having a spot in this wicked world then it should be a good fighter, ready to fight against all other adversaries.
Remember, the story of Ben Carson, one of the world best neurosurgeon, at the early stages of his life he had to go to school just like us, but one thing stood sure, that was his ambition to be recognized, if he wanted to be appreciated on the TV screen then it wasn't going to happen by him always watching his time away on the TV, but rather working hard to see himself grow values, values worthy of celebrating nationwide.
The story of his remarkable conjoined twin separating operation that shook the world wasn't by luck, rather determination and years of preparation. He could have decided not to take steps when the upper level doctors were not active, he could have hidden under the disguise of I'm a dark skinned and most people might feel I'm incompetent, no rather he knew of his everyday burning desires and was intentional to working it out to see the best come out of it.
Where are you living in fear, what areas? fear of what, if its something everyone battles with, that's the fear of the unknown like death, like what the future holds, would I be this, can I get that and all other questions of uncertainty, then you can still call it quit, forget all the things you don't have the power to change, and just live, don't fear it rather believe and have faith in God in helping you achieve the best off life. For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of joy, of peace and of sound mind. Let's avoid the scares of life and choose to be brave. Face things head on. We can overcome.
Lastly, let's shun gender based violence, as the ladies should be free to air their views and speak out when needed, already the society has began treating justice equally, yet there are many ways and places where the ladies are made to live in fear, because they can be overpowered and suppressed as will, this should stop, everyone has the right to equal standing. Already the ladies have done a great deal of innovations and inventions in which the world if proud of today. Treat everyone equally and not pushing them into being afraid, hiding under their shell, the environment should be made conducive for everyone to be the best they can. Everyone has potentials, everyone can be great but firstly overcome fear.
Thank You, have a productive week.
Taking Out These Envies
Sometimes we'll just need to deal with it by ourselves, since we can't control the outside response then we can very much control the inside, there is a way we feel, feel about something, feel about someone and we can't stop seeing them because they've become a part of our regular path, how then do we ensure a smooth journey, a good ride ahead and not going back and forth, I guess the solutions lies in our wanting to deal with it, however when we don't see anything worth addressing then we won't table the issue, so I guess self acceptance comes first, knowing this thing bothers me, then I can bring it in and start working on it.
I currently live in a society where you have to hide your blessings. If you have been lucky to acquire a possession, you better advice yourself and keep it to your self, maybe when the excitment is getting too much, you can tell a trusted few, however overtime the trusted few have appeared not trusted at all. So I call everyone to come Celebrate with me and automatically I'm calling for my doom, is that how it ought to be. Everyone is smiling but deep down they are angry, what nonsense is that. Whatever and whomever is influencing the minds of the people to such great extent of envy had better stop. The people needs to be aware that there is absolutely no gain in envy.
I'm not denying the fact that we want what some friends have, in fact trying so hard to lie to yourself about denying that fact is part of the problems that won't solve anything. Yes, they have it and we don't and we really desire it, so what do we do is what makes the difference. Why not open up and stay good, rather than conceal and hurt through the backdoor. If at all it's a possession they aren't willing to let go of, they could either tell you the process of getting yours, or allow you opportunity to use it when needed. Sometimes friends are stingy and you feel justified to snatch away, but that doesn't stop you from being wrong. Stay good, a huge reward lies in that.
I got to see a real caught on camera footage, where two friends were out for a drink, the manner at which they came in should have let us know they were pretty close and was coming to have more fun time. Few minutes into their chat and drinking, one excused the other to use the rest room and while he was gone the other had seized the opportunity to poison his friends drink. Yes, I said it, poison the drink of his friends drink. The innocent friend came in, hoping to continue with the ongoing discussion and laughter and took up his drink to sip. That's when he was stopped by someone strange, who witness the full action of how his friend had poison his drink.
Now there is a crowd of people coming to the rescue, if you know you didn't poison his drink like you claim, then you drink it. Of course not, he couldn't drink it and was begging. He sure was beaten, I guess arrested, that's if the police could be quick to the rescue. All this makes me wonder, who can be trusted, what's it that we need to do to know that one true person who wouldn't hurt us. The world's envy is too much, its rampant in your country as well as mine already, I really don't know how we got here, but it sure isn't a nice place to be, we need a change. We need to be enlightened that there is no gain.
A major source of envy I've seen is that of desiring a person. Truthfully it hurts more, you trying so hard to get a person for yourself and they are only interested in your close friend. The mere thought of that is already heartbreaking, but what is your reaction to it all. What do you do to that feeling, when you're hurt real bad and feeling jealous your friend is getting that person your heart craves for and you seem to be irrelevant, can you bear to stay strong and refuse to hate, huh, can you refuse to hate. I strong mind indeed, a tough time no doubt, the pain is crazy but hey hang on, that's not where your joy lies.
So many things can give you joy, but what joy can you get when you have someone who doesn't truly care for you. I really want someone who loves me so much, in fact someone who would place me first before any other person, can I get it? Yes. Then I ask myself that question, whenever I see a situation like that, are you that person, or is there someone who you already have placed on high regards, if yes, I lay low quietly. No joy in stealing that which doesn't want you in the first place. And I know that's the best way to get peace, getting someone who chooses you too. Yes, we ask for the relationship, but we sure need her to love us back, we need the heart to recieve us too. We shouldn't be fighting for her love every day. What isn't meant to be yours, just isn't yours, don't steal it.
Keep calm world, don't kill yourself trying to steal and snatch off your friend, it's a deception, it doesn't offer the joy you think it would. It would only lead to an action you are soon to regret, stay strong, it's a phase soon to leave. Plus need I remind you it helps in preserving your own too. Like it or not, it doesn't matter how little you have, there is someone envious of you too, that wants what you have, someone who probably loves your partner more than you, but what's going to help you preserve yours better, is that assurance that God is fighting for you, cause you didn't snatch another. Don't let envy lead you to hate, it's a natural feeling no doubt, but you can deal with it, groom your mind.
Keep calm everyone, its definitely going to be alright, hang on to hope while we remain good.
Cook Your Own Happiness
Live each moment, enjoy each passing day, do what makes you happy, the only person in charge of your joy is you alone, cook your own happiness. No one can fill those joy lags on your behalf, so when you see something that you like then go for it, why wait. When you see someone you like also do go for it, what is the hold up for, learn to be happy, its up to us to do whatever makes us happy, no one else, nobody else, joy coming from within can also be planned for and self executed, there is no one who can do it better just how you want it to be done, so find it yourself.
Just like sometimes we eat someone's else food and we are very overwhelmed, we want to eat their food continuously, that doesn't mean we can't cook for ourselves and eat, if that perfect cook isn't available anymore then what can we do, cook for ourselves. Same thing applies to life fun and joy, there could be someone you love being around with, their company gets you satisfied, no one else makes you feel so amazed and joyful, however that same person might need to go, do we stop living then, no we won't stop living, we'll just cook our own happiness.
Recently read from a post on social media and something struck me, the post talked about a sick man who his wealth couldn't secure his life for him, everything he has spent his life building, he would have to let go to somebody else, hopefully his kids, but then almost similar feeling as Solomon got when he said all is vanity upon vanity, this young man also confirmed that more than the struggles of life, we should also spend time being happy, more than the worries and anxieties we should spend time on things that would bring us eternal joy.
Ofcourse money makes you happy, so you can't stop the search for money if you want to be happy, you'll need money and preferably well enough to fuel whatever ambitions you might hold. I consider good memories as eternal joy also., cause our memories never dies, we would still be aware of our actions and our adventures while we were yet living, so our memories stays with us forever, both the good and the bad, so why not make as many good memories as possible, life can be better when we are intentionally about our self.
Cooking for others too is a thing of joy, knowing you aren't always self centered as you've filled someone else's stomach, someone who is hungry must be looking for food wherever it would come from, but preferably from someone he knows too well for security reasons, so he or she can freely enjoy the food, likewise someone who needs to be happy would be looking for who would bring this excitement into his or her life, but they would prefer it'll be from a friend so they would feel secured and freely enjoy the moment without feeling odd or deeply indebted.
Also its worthy of note that a food not well cooked can actually be better prepared next time through learning, so we could also learn to be happy, sometimes we don't know how to catch fun, some of us are introvert but we seek a nice time, a great day filled with mind blowing memory, all the time we have been out has been nothing serious, just causal, so normal, so we wish someone could teach us how best we can find happiness for ourselves. So learn, just as you learn to cook your food, you can learn to cook a great day, there's nothing bad with learning it.
It's your life, it's one play time, live each moment, let go easily of the sad times, dwell more on the good. At last nothing else matters than how well we have lived our life, the main thing however has been to live a good life, in this we are sure to live in heaven after earth, this truly is the greatest joy we can cook for ourselves, nevertheless while we cook than remember to stay happy. Happiness indeed is a choice, cook yours today.
Thanks for reading, Stay happy ❤
Worry Less God Got You
Worry less has always been easier said than done, however it's very attainable. A state of full assurance that God has got you covered, working to meet your needs and bring you to fulfillment, so you can confidently echo "All things are working for my Good". However not a call to get lazy, as obedience to his call for faith should likewise be an obedience to his call to be labourers., he said "I will bless the works of your hands, then automatically you realize that the hands needs firstly to get working and the heart needs to have full trust in him that created him. This would help us worry less, cause we are in full obedience to his words, and he never fails.
Have you noticed how fast the days are rolling by, almost like its hurrying to December in no time, but in reality there's no speed up, just same old durations of seconds to minutes to hours, days and so on, yet we know we are not getting younger and time spent cannot be regained. Indeed we are trying to make a good and positive use of our time, so we strive and work, daily we get up and work for money to feed, cloth, help solve needs, cater for family, bills and so on, this has a way of taking our full day attention, like it's the most important, when in actuality it isn't, What matters most is a pleasing life to God, however we have to eat and we long for a satisfactory life, so we hope to balance both, and as you should know this task of balancing both is not a easy one.
The bible made it clearly stated "its not of him that wills or runs but God who shows mercy" also depicting that the battle is not to the swift or skillful, rather the battles is the lord, so the place of God help shouldn't be excluded from our lives, not acting like we've got it covered, like you know what, I just need to be hardworking and skillful with these both my success is guaranteed, well no doubt these two are vital attributes to being successful, but then there a factors we know we can sideline in our course of life and these factors we only need Gods mercy of help us daily on it.
If God refuses to wake you up when you sleep, who you hold him accountable, he owns you remember, and so if you want to take charge of your life then I guess you should be able to help yourself up from the dreamworld whenever you want to. You see the gift of sleeping and waking up successfully has become so underrated, we only know what we are doing while we are awake and conscious, but a time when we don't know what's going on, a time when we loose total control of our bodies, and become total strangers to the happenings around us.
Oh yes, you might say you're not a deep sleeper then you can know everything that keeps happening when you really sleep, but this is not true, when you really sleep then you've sleep and a real careful person can do whatever without catching your attention. maybe when a loud sound gets you awake but then a lot you must have missed, its not your fault we are only human. Like it or not, the spiritual would always govern the physical, in lighter words that which we don't know to be powerful around us are indeed more powerful than the powers we are aware of. I particularly like the Real Time channel, where they mainly treat true life events especially when group of guys goes to investigate about ghost existence and you'll be shock to see that its not a myth and this ghost stories are real as anything.
So be aware that even as you walk and see your neighbour, there are more eyes that sees you than you know. As much as we want to act with our strengths and heads, there are people who commands such effects just by abstracts powers, so powerful you'll think they are gods, nevertheless as Christians we hold more powers for ourselves, God has deposited so much for our confidence and so much for our defense and so much for you to really defeat the enemy, the only question is do you know?
A soldier who thinks he is surrounded by the enemies is likely to surrender or just give up the fight, but then as soon as he is aware that his comrades are all around him outnumbering the enemies, you would see his boast and morale hyped, but that instance when he's not aware of his people around he feels powerless, this is the case of Christians today, in fact we don't see ourselves as soldiers, we feel normal and so when the enemies comes with their military costumes and arms we feel like you're done for, when in reality we are shielded as a soldiers, a better and well respected soldier and the enemies are already outnumbered.
Just acting on your ignorance to cause your defeat yourself, no wonder the Bible said "My people perish for lack of knowledge", so know how powerful you're and live with your head high and your eyes fixed on Jesus always giving the appreciation to God Almighty who has helped us win from the beginning yet when we were yet in sin. Soldiers train and prepare, we too should do the same, we are at a battlefield as far as life is concerned, so how much have you studied your manual that's the Bible, how well can you use the arms, the sword, guns, bombs even missiles all embedded as the word of God, it's all there in the manual, do you have the confidence of a soldier, I'm talking about faith, try to read up Ephesians 6 vs 11 to 20 and get more biblical insights on this article today.
Well God has always been our help and guess what he loves to help us, he wants to keep helping us, in fact he said nothing would stop him from helping us, oh what can separate us from the love of God, nothing. Come just enjoy the ride. God be with us always. Amen. Thanks For reading.
God First, God Always
I guess the most intriguing fact is that life comes to an end for everyone, I guess it's also the most scary truth, however it was made this way for a reason, so that aside the happiness and the satisfaction, the pleasures and the excitements, the sad moments and the emotional breakdown, and everything in details that the earth may encompass, we won't lose focus on the most important thing to do, we would always be cautious to the most important job and that is reference to the author and creator of this whole script call life, which will all soon end.
However the author has offered a place for the actors after this script has been exhausted, a place in true reality, not ruled by time, not ruled by disappointment, not ruled by limitations, a place where we would live the true normalcy of life and not fear for an end, a place we live FOREVER. At home most of us have wish a movie never ends, I sure did, sometimes I've seen some very interesting movies and as soon as it comes to and end I'm so emotional, I want it to continue, now what do I watch, that is probably the best movie.
Then i start searching for another movie that can captivate me like that, may take time but eventually I see another, but soon it also ends, even if it was a series, it'll only take a longer period to view but surely ends, I might have grown fond of the characters, like the ladies can fall in love with a character and some people even go to hate a villain like they didn't know it was a movie, so all this happens and its quite similar for us, this isn't so far from reality.
We live hoping we would live forever, we live as though tomorrow is promised, we live as though we would be here in 200years from now, we live as though we are immortal, but like the movies, we live seems to be ending, we would start yearning for me, we could literally do anything for extra lives, only that the extra lives too much end, it only extends time but never satisfactory.
The fact that we can't live forever is the most frustrating thing on earth, cause this means all your years of effort and working has been useless, you will soon leave it alone, soon to depart from it, we can't go with anything at all, it's quite frustrating, some would say if only I knew earlier that all this hardworking would soon not matter then I would have stopped toiling and find more time to enjoy myself, would have devote most times in being happy and enjoying the best of life.
Well until they read or hear from those who are spending more time in enjoying theirselves regretting over their lives also, they too would regret and say if only they knew all their happiness would only be memories then they would have devote more time to doing something substantial for theirselves, making a name, probably philanthropy, until they too hear from those who made a name for theirselves complaining and say yes they did well but it couldn't buy them more time, they did all they should do but now they are leaving as though nothing happened, leaving empty, no joy, not even knowing what happens next, just blank, like life has no meaning, no bearing whatsoever.
Until they look as see another person happy that he is about to leave this earth, not because he is tired of here but because he knows he is going to a better place, and this was what he spent his lifetime on earth preparing for. I guess he knew early that nothing here matters enough, only that our friends and family would applaud our efforts, our enemies would get jealous but it's all less important as it would soon end.
So why not invest in the greatest gift anybody can get and that is a life that doesn't end, a life continuing and the sweetest part is as soon as you get to that life, you can never die again, this is why our creator looked and saw it is important we are aware of our shortage in time so we would deviate from the most important thing, so we would always be conscious of what we really should be doing, living a life of christ, living for God our creator since he alone has the power to give us this forever live.
This is more important than any riches, than any gold, than any power and position, in fact than anything you can use or do on earth, cause earth on itself would fade away with everything and everyone on it but the kingdom of God would stand FOREVER, FOREVER is the world, the goal, no one wants to rule for a short time, no one would value an happiness for a while but as long as it is earth it would surely be for a while., but as soon as we shift our focus away from earth, away from now then we can start thinking on that which indeed is truly important "a live after earth.
However it's funny how quick we loose focus cause the enemy is also very wise, he know us so well and has used our likes and love to fashion a weapon against us and this has become our distractions, so here we are easily distracted, no one even remembers so frequently that we have low time, we forget how short 100 years is, we think 200years is long enough until we realize it's as though it's yesterday and no time would be enough, even if you have a million years you still wouldn't want to go extinct, even if you're bored to your bone, but the mere thought of ending it would still be impossible, what if I don't wake up at the other side, this assurance however only God can give.
More reason why its good to please him so you can start having such assurance from earth, even while you're yet living you're certain your life is FOREVER, it gives you more joy than anybody else, it gives you more assurance and calmness, infact you no longer fear the most scary enemy of life being death, cause however and whenever it comes, there you are with Jesus living forever and waiting for peopl to come see what greater joy you've been enjoying.
Indeed the author and greatest script writer wants the actors to leave this movie and start living with him FOREVER, however they must prove they are worth staying with him forever, he loves everybody and wishes to keep everyone but what can he do to those who wishes not to stay with him and those who he knows would should , so you see the choice has always been with us, his arms are wide open, let's not shift focus from who and what is more important.
God is most important than anything or anyone else, that's why he sent his son JESUS to become an easier way to him, so through accepting jesus who is the best description for love we can freely get to live with the father, our creator our God. Remember his house is open but the choice is ours to make. So choose Jesus and live for God today, happy Sunday.
Not Another Promise
Making a promise has never been the issue, we can make a million promises, in fact we like to make promises cause there are a lot of things we want to do, but the problem lies elsewhere, that's in fulfilling the promise, and often it's not because we forget, rather its cause our hands are tied, it's not because we no longer want to meet up our promise but its cause there is little or nothing we can do as at the time. There are a millions of ways by which we make promises all from our futuristic view of things, our expectations, but the fulfillment of that said promise is not in our hands even though we feel it is, well do your best, and hope the rest isn't strong enough to stop it.
As emotional beings its normal we feel sad when we make promises but genuinely can't keep, its even sadder when you're the person promised but it's been delaying or totally disappointed, it's really hard to understand or let go, however, its paramount we owe no grudges, its paramount we understand how things can be at times, its paramount we are understanding to the circumstances of things, its paramount we judge fairly, but I guess firstly we'll need to verify if the reasoning is true and genuine, not some false tale to hide from the proposed promise.
I really respect a natured mind, one who is quick to adjust and wouldn't add more tension than the one already existing. Do we know that the person unable to fulfill a dear promise made is most likely short of resources to attend to his or her personal needs, I guess we often don't think this way until the person fully opens up about is personal lives. We're quick to say he's stingy, she doesn't give out to friends, some even grows to it, but looking deep you'll realize its the disappointment making an enemy out of them. Disappointment can lead to anger and also hate if not understood.
A matured minds who's a promise is only but a favour and because no one knows the future we most likely is under probability, no matter how sincere and assured the person sounds, for the fact that it's a future reference means it's under a probability and stands a 50:50 ratio, this helps in reduces the strength of dependence and possible disappointment, more reason why its easier for some people to wave while others can't let go. A matured mind won't make matters worse as she knows the friend who promised might be going through so hard times for himself, so rather she renders words of encouragement not entitlement.
All I can say is all powers belong to the lord, he alone knows tomorrow and can talk with certainty, no wonder people have learnt to had a phrase to the end of their promises, you'll most likely hear words as "I'll do this for you by Gods grace" "if God permits", "God Willinng" and so on. This way you can't owe them accountable because they've made it crystal from the onset that I can actually do little, but the main determinant is in the higher power above, so should incase I don't meet the end of my bargain, just know it's all God willing and chill.
However its bad when its within your powers to fulfill a promise but you don't, someone might question and say but its my money and I can choose to do with it as I so please, yes that's right, but not when a promise is involved. Probably need to understand the power of expectation. Its sometimes better to intend on helping someone but keep it secret until when you finally render the help so you dont make someone expect but then disappoint. I understand that some people promise to make the current situation maybe a fight or an urgency calmer, but its doesn't remove the fact that an expectation has been created.
People build hope on expectations, there are people happy and can breathe properly now all because there is some they are expecting, it's more like an hope for them, it could be their son who is graduating from school, it could be a financial assistance, it may be faith in your competence, maybe a doctor, a repairer, it could be a work support, only now someone's mind and heart has so engulfed it, you're gradually becoming the only hope left, it'll be dangerous when you disappoint also. So if you can fulfill your promise, ensure you do, someone may be really counting on it.
It would be better for everyone if we can learn to expect less from humans, humans are so limited, even when it's in our hearts to do but what can we do when there are many factors that can affect our decisions. Don't be fooled when anyone says "there is nothing you can't do when you put your heart to it, so he didn't fulfill that promise because he didn't take it seriously", its often false, that's why its good to hear the reason. The government can easily affect our decision, illness, bosses, cash inflow, even the advent of a more pressing need, what then can you do. So expect less from human and shift focus to God who can never fail. And when a promise isn't fulfilled, try to listen to the reason.
I'm glad you took out time to read. I love you.
Exiting Deceit
There are few ways we judge ourselves and its mostly on our intentional act, those few times we have deceived another all in the bid to get our needs met, there are reasons for every actions, we can easily justify ourselves but we find it hard to change our ways. Exiting Deceit should be our next line of action, how to live good and stay good, living a life of principle. Seeing the need for the truth even when it cost us dearly. It's apparently easy and rampant it is to lie nowadays, we go on and on lying and we don't feel a thing.
The society has imbibed it as a normal occurence, he lied and so what, as long as he didn't kill no one. We rarely think it deep as to why we shouldn't lie, we feel it doesn't have that much effect anyways, there is a reason for it. That's what this article is centered about, the cost for lying and the reason therefore why we should try to act otherwise, the good reasons why we should stick with the truth. There are lot of reasons why lying should be averted and avoided as much as possible, but we don't see this reasons, maybe we don't want to see the reasons.
You might not be aware but people do notice, your day effect is being slowly watched and getting their conclusions about you. Its easier said than done for a man who claims to be principled, today even the old men lie and no one words can really be trusted. The way to earn peoples trust is when you have been tried and trusted. Surely when we stick to the truth, the respect is accorded with it. It's the reason why you can say something and no one cares to double check, all cause you said it and that's all the confirmation they need to know its true, do you know how much contracts being earn, how much extra people gain all cause they are trusted.
The few recognize people on earth has always eaten off the preserved cake for diligence. I don't know if it's God rewarding them, but it surely comes to them, and they are sure deserving of it. They say to whom much is given, much is required, but then who is going to give you much when you haven't show the much that Is required, are you trusted? Are your words true? How easy is it for you to lie?. There are so many people who are looking for that one truly truthful person who can be trusted in dire situations, they are ready to commit billions of money into their hands for overseeing, cause giving it to any person can be a risky move, could cost then all they have.
Most times when we weigh the chances of getting caught or saying the truth we would see clearly that saying the truth is a much better option, indeed it is. The issue is that we think they would never find out, but the truth always finds it way out, one way or the other, so just stick to the truth. Lying is like digging the ground and covering it with a mat, hoping no one would know there is a hole in there, surely someday someone finds out, most times sooner than we want. It's the hurt afterwards that is what we should try to avoid. Moreover we earn more respect when we stick to the truth and say it. A lie has no legs, has no bearing, eventually its caught.
One thing I always say is "who is going to beat me" and the answer is no one, no one would beat me when I lie, we outgrow certain phases and we can own up to our responsibilities, and that's just it, I only care about your feelings and that's why I want to lie, so that I don't hurt you, maybe I'm only postponing the hurt till another time, my lies are not stopping the hurt, it's only postponing the hurt till another day, it could be a bad day to discover. Stick to the truth, let it out and live on, we rest better with those lies off our chest.
How true is this? Have you ever made up your mind, like from hence forth I want to do this or do that, how did it go for you. It doesn't necessarily mean your life should change, although that's the aim, that it changes, but it has its ways of making your self proud. Not pride, but having the feel like you have some kind of project and you have been executing it well. Then you can stand boastful in public, when people say wrongs things about you, you are sure there is a mixed up somewhere, your mind and conscience are all cleared, cause so far so good, you've been truthful, and this also means lesser problem.
Lies are easy and truth can sometimes be hard, truth however wins at last as it always finds its way out but lies lands issues on the doorstep, so we do the math. Talk less of the hurt we cause. Lies don't solve it, it only postpones to another day, so why not just say the truth, let's start seeking the solution from today. We can exit the realms of deceits and lies, yes we can, not that easy but one try at a time.
Thanks for reading through, much love. ❤
This Pains Are Necessary
If man was God I bet he would have done things differently, I for one would have either reduced, increased, stopped or introduced somethings that I feel we needed, but when i think well about all of it I'll realize the world is better the way it is, everything exist just in the right proportions, Indeed God is never wrong, one major questioning arise from the area of pains and sickness, like why did he make sickness, why did he make pains, couldn't we just live and die, why must we suffer at all, couldn't we all have a fair chance to play, it doesn't add up, until when you look back from the future, you'll see more clearly the need for all of it.
The pains we've felt all contributed to the future we are enjoying today, same way you get into a place filled with mosquitoes, having to deal with them for the night would get you cleaning up your environment the next day, trying to fumigate or spraying your insecticide, so you can have a peaceful sleep the next night, imagine there wasn't any mosquitoes in the world to make us clean up, I bet some people wouldn't mind sleeping in a very dirty environment with stagnant waters and litters, to a large extent the emergence of mosquitoes is a propeller to cleanliness. No wonder they said everything has their economic importance, isn't that crazy.
Have you noticed how people at the top are often the ones with a rough path, along the way they had learn tricks and built up characters that would help them sustain the top, its like having to grow up to a position, there is nothing at any level you wouldn't be experienced in, whatever challenges might be coming, it'll be easy to tackle caused you've once tackled it coming up the ladder. But when someone without experience is thrown to the top, he would be blindsided to the other areas he doesn't know about, opposition can easily arise and possibly overthrown cause ofcourse it's a competitive space. It's better to grow from the foundation.
Once saw a movie where the owner of a multinational company was going to introduce his son into the business, one would have thought like every normal parent, his son automatically becomes the boss, but he didn't, instead he made his son serve from a lower office, while the appointed employees still maintained their managerial positions, ofcourse they weren't aware he was their real boss, if not they would have given him some preferential treatment that would utterly useless the essence of his learning. If he was going to be in charge of the company tomorrow then the father needed to be sure of his competence so he doesn't run his years so sweat and toils to the ground lavishly.
If that were you, would you be humble enough to bear the pain of working as an underdog when your friends are already enjoying their fathers wealth, the future tells eventually. The builders often do the best maintenance, they know where to focus and where to upgrade, anyone else would do as pleased but may never get it right. Remember the pains of going to school, now see how brilliant you've become, see how well your mind works, remember the pains of having to learn that skill, even the pain of having to pay from your little, now see how well you're earning with the acquired knowledge.
Another good use to pain is remembrance, somethings you can't forget because there is a pain attached to it. If you hit your leg on a stone on your way out, I bet you'll focus your eyes more on the floor throughout the rest of the journey, likewise those who have a rough past, having being embarrassed and humiliated know best to treat others more hospitable, they appear more emotionally intelligent than those who never tasted the hurt of being embarrassed. Being born with a silver spoon doesn't always mean he or she is not feeling the pain, it's all in the training process. You should know some wealthy parents know how to inculcate the right habits into their kids, they ensure their children grow up well cultured, they have felt the pain too and now careful so their children doesn't miss it in life.
Rather than dwell on the pain, take up the lesson and work with it. It's all there to make is wiser and better, people who allow their past experiences make them worst aren't getting the real picture and they are only self diving into more pain. Remember how the Bible clearly spell out to us that God wouldn't give us temptations greater than us, and for everything we face we are more than capable to overcome, this tells us that this pains we face are actually lesser than us and we very much can deal with it. All pains have lessons embedded in them, pluck out the lessons, no pain last forever, but it's more important you take the lessons with you forever.
Hope you're having a nice time out there, thanks for reading, God Loves You.
Preventing Disrespect
One thing that should make anyone turn back and never return again should definitely be an intentional disrespect. If it wasn't intentionally I'll still be skeptical but at least I'll be calm enough to give a second chance, however if it was a clear insult on my personality, then I think it's best that ties be ended. Funny how people in the fear of not being called "Proud" deal with a lot of wrong doings, and they expect them to remain good enduring all the hurt. The pride of a man should not to mistreated, everyone needs to be treated well with their emotions protected, if anyone should prey on them for being nice then it's best they renounce or calm enough to cut off such ties.
Accepting disrespect can never sit right with me, taking it lightly from the first time is wrong cause they feel bad when you finally shunned their act. Apparently there are lot of things I can't change about myself, if I do, I'll only be lying to myself and how long can those last, I'll surely get fed up easily, my life isn't a drama. But there are yet some things I can change and continue suit, because those habit don't tell about me, they are just me trying to appear all nice and decent to the expense of hurting myself just to please others.
Most times I envy when people don't take thrash from others, that instant someone is trying to get on your nerves, immediately you react and shut off the person from trying that, just like you're standing up against bullying and hate, this act might be tagged as being to harsh or not friendly, but in reality it don't, rather its a strong and needed trait to have. No not violence, violence is never the answer, but to know how to stand up for yourself is a good push to boosting your self confidence.
Reason because there are many people who delight in suppressing other and using them as a tool to climbing or gaining more grounds. Oh they are actually smart people but they shouldn't try that with you. Capitalizing on your flaws or mistake and using it to their advantage to snatch the attention away, this action is bad but its a good and a practical law of power. In actual sense, it is to study the opponent or the enemy, find their flaws and when they make a mistake, boom use it to your advantage, and destroy the opponent completely. Fully destroy the enemy if you can.
Well if you are experiencing someone operating in such law on you, then its time to get up and get seated as you'll need to take up your position and hold it firm. Apart from the aforementioned, there are also a place for preserving your mental peace by calling someone who you're not happy with but you can't stop your affiliation a with him or her so that you both can be at peace, for example day by day you both encounters and its always a turn off for you whenever you're both together, note that this could also happen in groups as it does two individuals, you might not be comfortable in the group and its like they always pick on you but you just can't or you don't want to leave because of whats at stake.
You can't always put up with an attitude and the right process is to communicate with those who are guilty, explaining your displease for such that has been done to you. Enough of the swallowed insults and then going home to cry. Well our lives is meant to enjoyed and have the best of life. So we must seek to let any or everybody who's is with an habit of always bring out the worst in us, should be called and told to stop as we constantly seek to improve our joy and inner peace.
Like I've earlier said, there are still somethings you can't change and if you do, then you're only living a fake life. Well if you're a quiet person then no one expect you to change overnight. If you're not talented then no one expect you to become talented and good as it overnight. you're a funny guy then you'll find you people who appreciate your sounds. But you can't fully Change as its already eaten deep to becoming an involuntary action.
You can only adjust and see how people react. well let's learn to adjust our nature and see ways to maximum our testimonies for a better lifting. There are some things we can change, some other things we can't change and at that is fact. Doesn't matter if its changeable or unchangeable, as long as we know what we want and we are on the go for it.
It's the weekend, say no to disrespect, you owe yourself happiness.
Finding Love Without Money
While some would say this is mission impossible, others would suggest that it's best to find love while at the struggling stage of ones life, so anyone who can stick by you then is sure to always be with you as their love for you is real, money being a very needed can be very deceiving at times. Well I don't know to which school of thoughts you'd pick however everyone should be cautious in the dealings of love in regards to money. Money has no doubt amount to being the most propellant to relationship and marriages, and though we know it's not the best option some of the unions have sustained itself over the years. How much would money influence your decision in going to a relationship?
Of course as a man, we ought to ensure we take in charge of the responsibilities, it doesn't speak well and it's rather unfair to the rest of the household if we can't take care of them or try at least. However there is a process, I mean a time for working and striving, would it be fair to wait until all men are made before they experience love. I don't think so. And by love I don't only mean the relationship love, even in our society, there seems to be no love for the broke. When there is no Money it may seem as though you've lost your voice, and as soon as the money arrives, you see many smiling faces around and begin to wonder if the money announced itself. I'm yet not comfortable with the standards, I'm not sure people are acting rightly.
At first it was annoying, I mean very annoying. The time when you need the love and attention, when you'll know that this love is genuine and true, cause you can't tie their care to anything else but care, you'll see them drifting away, but that moment when you have it already, infact you can get it without ease, and it doesn't matter much to you anymore, boom you start seeing the love all around. No wonder the rich don't care much and act busy to all those many people seeking their attention, where we you all when times were rough? I feel people need to choose from their hearts and not base on pocket sizes.
I don't mean we must love everyone who is broke, because we feel guilty or have pity, what I'm saying is for those who knows how they truly feel about the man, but are depriving theirselves of their heart desires because the man is broke, they aren't judging right. There should be a new judging method, not the usual or causal way as though life is a business transaction. There are more things to appeal to the heart than money, money inclusive but there are other things, things money cannot buy. Money can never create a good man.
I'm disappointment whenever I see parents talk their daughters out of relationships cause the guy is financially incapable. It really gets to me, maybe cause it has happened to me or maybe because I still feel the push back, or maybe because love wasn't meant to be this way, maybe because the world is quickly turning into hypocrites. Trying to be close to the rich alone, or trying to be close to the in a relationship those who can offer the expensive lifestyle, I hope it doesn't push many guys into crime and quick schemes to get rich.
On the second hand I truly can't blame them, on the other hand, I can understand the plight, as everyone wishes for a better life, even the broke guy wouldn't think twice about jumping on a million dollar offer, even if it means betraying someone who has been there for them. So it cut across everyone. All I can do Is pray God comes true for everyone, and keeps providing. Rather than blame people for not wanting to accept or align with that broke guy, I'll take encourage the broke guy to try stepping up and doing better. Poverty indeed is a disease, no one truly wants it, no one can like coping with it.
The streets are not friendly to the broke man, it has always been that way. Only those who are wise enough to know changes happens to everyone won't be harsh to the broke, just incase tomorrow turns around, another motives could be when the broke guy is valuable, there's something he's needed for, could be anything even as little as funny, listening ears, handsome, could anything that makes them wanted, apart from these, there's no reason for anyone being around someone who would most probably keep begging them for assistance. It's a life programmed way I guess.
Don't get angry anymore, with the way the world pushes away the poor and accepts the rich, rather take it as a motivation to push harder, when we are wealthy for ourselves, we can decide to bring as much broke people closer and start changing the world from there. Also bearing in mind that a change can happen at any time, so we shouldn't treat anyone as less than human all cause they are broke. Also for relationship be careful enough to pray and follow your heart, this way you don't miss it on the long run. So back to my question, Do you think the society offers any love to a broke person?
Hope you are having a nice day, it's a great day. Remain good guys. You all are the best.
Running Towards My Fears
Just because you're scared and hoping to escape some situations doesn't mean it won't come when its suppose to come. For most people we know that day we come when we would have to face our fears, we've been avoiding it for the longest time, but each day it draws nearer, similar to a student scared of test day because he feels he isn't well prepared for it, however the day comes and he has no choice but to write. Same applies to life, there is a test day for everyone, a day to prove ourselves and show our worth, however we can only give what we have, regardless of your fears it doesn't return, the best we can do is prepare to face it with the hope of triumphing.
To some fear is an illusion, to others its real, both are correct, it's all dependent on who isn't afraid anymore no matter the challenges coming and who is. How long would the life of fear continue, it has to end and end real quick There's an extent to what we can achieve, to how much we can do when we are not free to act and react, everyone needs a free and conducive environment to explore and showcase what it is we want to do.
We sometimes have the craziest of ideas, one that would likely meet a lot of adversities, and seeing we care about our image in the eyes of others we want to ensure that we are seen in the right way. However this doesn't and shouldn't matter because we are all required to fulfill our individualist goals and ambitions and at that not everything we set out to do would be appreciated by everyone, we should just keep acting as expected, not in fear of what people might say or do. Live is too short to leave our goals aside so as to please another person.
In our different stages of life, we have had what we fear and has been a limiting factor to our effectiveness, for example as little children most of us were in fear of pleasing our parents, doing things otherwise might be incurring punishment that we wouldn't like. In schools few of us had someone who always pick on us, anytime we encounter such person its always like we go nuts, we just hope they wouldn't be coming to school every time, at your job, your boss might be strict and you know if you don't play your cards right, you can be substituted (Fired) ASAP, well it differs with places but the problem is more about the people, because the same places and location where you're living in fear, there's another person who is living their best life out there, however no one is pointing a gun to their head so why be so scared of living.
Do what you must, treat your ambition with greater respect than you treat those things and people you fear. We need to know that although it seems like time is still much, so we can take things slow, enjoying living in the fear and just wait for the people we fear and the things we fear to find its way out of our lives, before we can start living. This is a sincerely bad plan. Firstly time is not on anyone's side, each passing seconds are swiftly creeping into minutes, then to hours, then days, months and years eventually, so why not decide to act now.
Wait moreover what's the worst that can happen, you get embarrassed, hated or even confronted, well sooner than later its what we all must face when we are trying to push against all odds, in no time everyone would learn to see things for how you have been seeing them, they would learn to appreciate you if only you can bear to fight for what you believe in. Nothing good comes easy, if something good has the intentions of having a spot in this wicked world then it should be a good fighter, ready to fight against all other adversaries.
Remember, the story of Ben Carson, one of the world best neurosurgeon, at the early stages of his life he had to go to school just like us, but one thing stood sure, that was his ambition to be recognized, if he wanted to be appreciated on the TV screen then it wasn't going to happen by him always watching his time away on the TV, but rather working hard to see himself grow values, values worthy of celebrating nationwide.
The story of his remarkable conjoined twin separating operation that shook the world wasn't by luck, rather determination and years of preparation. He could have decided not to take steps when the upper level doctors were not active, he could have hidden under the disguise of I'm a dark skinned and most people might feel I'm incompetent, no rather he knew of his everyday burning desires and was intentional to working it out to see the best come out of it.
Where are you living in fear, what areas? fear of what, if its something everyone battles with, that's the fear of the unknown like death, like what the future holds, would I be this, can I get that and all other questions of uncertainty, then you can still call it quit, forget all the things you don't have the power to change, and just live, don't fear it rather believe and have faith in God in helping you achieve the best off life. For God has not given us the spirit of fear, but of joy, of peace and of sound mind. Let's avoid the scares of life and choose to be brave. Face things head on. We can overcome.
Lastly, let's shun gender based violence, as the ladies should be free to air their views and speak out when needed, already the society has began treating justice equally, yet there are many ways and places where the ladies are made to live in fear, because they can be overpowered and suppressed as will, this should stop, everyone has the right to equal standing. Already the ladies have done a great deal of innovations and inventions in which the world if proud of today. Treat everyone equally and not pushing them into being afraid, hiding under their shell, the environment should be made conducive for everyone to be the best they can be.
Thanks for reading guys, much love.
Pulling Out Of The Competition
Before now, I thought there were things i would never do, I'd be like I can never say that, not until recently that I've been surprising myself, the actions and attitudes I never thought possible are what I've been exhibiting and it just tells me there is more to me than I know, or maybe it's not a matter of wrong or right but a matter of consciously taking a stand and standing firm by it. However there are still numerous things that I've avoided, things I've not done and don't plan on doing even though they appear appealing to do, so yes I try, however I still need to understand myself, slowly watch where my cravings are and seek for neccessary adjustments.
One area constantly posing a threat to wish I've been surprising myself are competitions, trying to make a point so I sometimes go out of my way and other times do what I shouldn't, things like this requires a calmer approach, cause as much as life is filled with competition we all must see our selves are the best, such self affirmation helps not operate well in a competition without feeling like you're in a competition. It's quite shocking to know that the person you're always feeling inferior about, has his or her own issues to battle with, appearing all good and nice to the public eye, keeping everyone wishing they could be more like him or her but that person also wishes for a better life too, even doesn't see why everyone should be heavy on his or matter, and at best you can't afford to make anyone's life your mirror, and just strive to be better.
Make the competition against your past, being a better you. Focus on what's important, while it seems everyone around is trying to surpass and appear better than you, and as much as you want to careless about what others are doing in comparison to yourself, its only would lead to more and more noticable, although its a good push to making one sit up and try to do better, yet with this you'll never truly appreciate your growth, the main strive should be becoming a better you, are you better improved than how you were formally. What new skill have you learnt, what new grounds are you breaking.
You are your own big picture, the goal is to become better and at such we must self reflect within ourselves, notice a growth or decline in our lives so we can either appreciate ourselves or become more alert to trying harder. When the competition is with someone else you can be blinded by envy that would seem like you're the most useless person on earth, when in reality you're better than you were formally, and this low self esteem has its way weighing you down or yet you totally giving up on yourself.
Also when you feel like you are better off than everyone else and so you're busy feeling like the best, cause when you compare yourself to others, it as though there's no other person that's better off, but when you decide to self reflect you might be shocked to find out that you have become worse, and your past was better off than your present, and the people you are comparing yourself with have only made you so relaxed to push harder thereby deteriorating in self achievement, it indeed is a very dangerous thing for a person not being able to have a track record of how far he or she has come, to see if he's going on an upward slope or downward.
Humans have a way of making you feel like your effort isn't good enough, more like what you are doing with your life isn't worth it, when you know you're putting in your best, they might discourage you into thinking you're being lazy, and should your self confidence to fighting off the discouragement be low, it'll only bring you down, already with the low self esteem created by these pressure one would find it difficult to be bold in public, when your peers seat to catch fun, instead of just enjoying the moment, you'll be taking things more seriously, because your mindset has been fixed on competition. These way your might be feeling embarrassed at words or actions that really shouldn't cause much effect on you. The competition should be with yourself, as you are constant on trying your best.
Its okay to have people you look up to, people who have gone ahead in your field or your craft and are doing well for themselves, mentors are great guidance to better improvement, but when you center your life in comparison to the mentor or people you admire, then you can only be disappointed in the long run. Because some areas luck has shown on their side, some areas family has supported, you can't possibly liken your life with another person, what works for others doesn't always work for another, and to this effect its best we take time to know ourselves and understand how things usually works in our lives, so we know how to make the best do with ourselves.
Get advice, seek information but in all these know and understand yourself, that way you'll know what to pick and use to your advantage. The main focus is on ourselves, our lives improvement is the big picture and not to be better than everyone, we all have what we desire and seek to achieve and so we can't afford to make anyone's priorities our own, their likes might not be ours, their taste might disgust you, so remain focus, this way you can better sieve out what you want. Focus on yourself. The competition is not against anyone, its with yourself.
Happy weekend, have yourself a lovely fun time, enjoy a you time.
Poise But Poison
It's a true definition of looks can be deceiving, have you ever seen something so elegant and so wowing but then when you get into it you've just made the biggest mistake of your life? There is always a thin line between poise and poison, little wonder people rarely trust anymore these days, it's as though everyone and everything is acting poised only for them to have their way and become a whole different being entirely, such mistakes are very regrettable and for some dire circumstances very deadly, imagine getting married to a poise but poisonous man or lady, it's another world for risky, taking a vow with the viper himself.
I've met a lot of people and associated with a lot of people, when you do this overtime you'll begin to understand the human nature doesn't mind being deceptive knowingly, underline the word knowingly, its better if someone hurts you and genuinely didn't do so intentionally, this you can get angry, forgive and it's still advisable to give him a second chance to do better, but in cases when the person does it intentionally from the very beginning, boy I advice you run afar. Sadly there are many deceivers out there, they don't mind the extent they would get to just as long as they get their price., it's been an intentional act from the very beginning.
The outward appearance are very lovely and catchy, but don't dive in, it might just be a trap. People really need to be safe and thread carefully. How then do you know if something or someone is being poise but actually Poisonous? It's really not easy to know, it's not thought in schools how to spot one, even the few times when it looks we are uncovering someone as a poise but Poison, there is something in us that resist the urge to accept it and this all because of the quality time spent and preventing the hurt that would proceed the truth, when in fact they are only pushing the hurt to a forwarded date, cause a poison would surely sting.
Be Careful with everyone until proven trustworthy, believe me when I say we all need trustworthy people in our lives, others would say "trust nobody " when in reality we need trusted people around us for us to truly live in peace, imagine living a life where you have to analyze everyone, double everything, indeed this is very cumbersome and we deserve a rest after such tedious task. When you have money but don't trust your family, how can you sleep, you can't trust your friends, you can't trust colleagues nor neighbors and now you're in your house amidst your first family but you can't trust them, believe me such man would lose sleep constantly and doomed.
This is just to prove the point that everyone needs people they can trust, people they can sleep and feel safe around and they haven't disappointed you yet, at least not intentional. People who are poised and peaceful, poised and trusted, so then you can better find out about the nature and character of others. Because being careful is really a great step to discovering and uncovering if a person or something is a poison in disguise. If you're not sure then don't be scared to find out, do a test if possible, you need to know because if they were, they wouldn't feel bad leaving you after they are done with you.
The next and best thing is to be prayerful, I mean this in all sense, if a person decide to play you for a fool, you really aren't so smart to detect except they are so dull to play it right, there is always a way to you especially when you're of value to them. You can't really say this I trust and this I don't, that's why the numbers of betrayals keeps increasing daily because our sense of judgment can be limited, someone somewhere can successfully lie to you and get you, I think you should know the most painful betrayals are from those you trust, yes you judged wrongly., so maybe you are smart but you really can't know until you have a reason to know.
However God has the power to cause every poised but Poisonous fellow to be seen, so we pray to uncover them so we don't waste time with the wrong people. Its easier to deal when their motives Is leading to property loss, fights. Cause there are more severe cases. Man have dated an angel only to married and discover that he really an angel just an angel of darkness, the devil himself and we begin to hope the victim of a wife doesn't end up getting too violated and kill from violence. We hope your trusted friend doesn't do something bad to you cause they know you too well and so they know how best to hurt you.
Poised but Poison is very relatable topic, most people can relate, I bet everyone know a person or two who so disguised in order to get what they want, we need to be careful and prayerful, one we can do and that is being careful, however there is something we require God to help us do in exposing every poison so we don't get hurt, and for this the best we can do to this is to call him in through prayers.
Thank you for reading. I pray you don't encounter someone who is so poised but very Poisonous. Keep supporting.
Let's Discuss On HOPE
Hope as natural and simple as it sounds is a necessity to living, it's a preservation to life that many don't really consider, I'll be correct to say hope is a reason why many are outside still going about their normal business as though all is well. As people would say "we don't look like what we are going through", they can easily bear and endure because they see the hope for a better tomorrow, the moment they lost their hope, you wouldn't need to ask to see their true emotions as depression and frustration would easily set it. Indeed the absence of hope is the presence of frustration, as much as food we all need to keep hope alive in us.
Same way time waits for no man and would keep ticking with or without your will, same way life would keep happening irrespective of your feelings and current mood, being happy or being sad only matters to you basically, it wouldn't stop a new bad from happening, being happy also matters to you and it wouldn't stop a new good from happening, life happens however you feel and what this means is the with or without hope life would go on, there is no pity when it comes to life affairs, like literally someone might just be given one bill to pay and boom lands himself in an unwanted trouble to pay another bill, how then do we stay sane if we lack hope.
I bet that all suicide are primarily caused from the absence of hope, that moment when you feel like this is the end, it would only get worse and worst, nothing good and they refuse to keep on living life with such excruciating pains and just decide to end it all, we mostly can't feel the degree to their pains cause truthfully we aren't experiencing it personally, hearing about an experience can never give the correct feeling compared to those in the experience no matter how good a story teller you are, you personally experiences are all up in your thoughts and mood thereby causing a restriction to fully being in someone else's shoe.
How then do we ensure people don't loose their hope. What do we do to get people to man up and face in life better even when they are at their worst. So many times we've heard don't give up, keep going, how better do we help people see reasons to not give up. I believe if people can find a concrete reason for a thing and strong affirm that reason then it'll be easier for them to live by it. So what strong reasons can someone get that helps them push through the toughest of time. I wish there are laid down ways to this, however there isn't any way but one. We would get there, there really is one way to unending hope.
If I were to say to you to be always encouraging, a shoulder to lean on in tough times, it'll would help a great deal but it can never restore hope, however there are categories to pain and with the increasing category comes an higher approach to it, because someone lost his job can cause frustration especially when he doesn't know when a new job can set it, yes he has possibly lost hope especially when he's running out of patience or there are no thinkable chances as there are many other people like him that still haven't got a good job, if you want to help him out, you can just get him a job and that would bring back hope, but how do you restore hope to someone who lost someone dear to him or her? Money doesn't restore this kind of hurt.
Someone who got into a fatal accident that changes the condition of his life forever, how do you restore his hope, remember there are categories to pain and to this comes different approaches to restoring the hope. There are young people who failed their school examinations and gets so bitter that they kill theirselves, there are people who gets angered or insulted and they can deal with it, they are so hurt that it leads to frustration, while there are others who can deal with the worst of situations and still be up in the morning to get to work. This two guys are closely similar, one can tolerate better than the other but they both need to heal, they are both hurt and that's the problem.
Yes it's all mind tolerance capacities, doesn't necessary have to do with hope, but when hope is existent it helps heal better and faster. Even the guy who tolerates better still needs to heal, he's only walking about with the hurt and would soon outburst, this is why hope is necessary, with hope come true healing and repairs. Hope is knowing that better than now is coming, even when it doesn't yet appears to be so. A guy without any penny how is going to be fine and hopeful knowing his salary would soon be paid, than someone who isn't expecting anything from anywhere. However that guy who isn't expecting anything from anywhere still needs hope, so he doesn't get frustrated into the unthinkable, what then is the general and best source of hope.
I'll keep it simple and short, but it really doesn't have any other routes to hope other than this, hope comes when we know there is a provision to solve or repair or rather compensate, and anything or anybody that can pull us out of a frustrating situation must really be higher than us, cause how else can they comfortably solve what made us nearly ran crazy, even to the incidence of painful demise there is still a way out to feel much better cause the main source of hope provides for every form of pain and frustration. Without further ado, the main source of hope is God himself, and leading the way is Jesus, building a relationship with Jesus is all we truly need for the survival of this frustrating and painful world, open your bible today and start building a relationship with your creator, he has his way of making even the craziest of events working together for your good. I'll expect comments below, let's talk truthfully.
Thank you for yet again taking time to read this beautiful piece, I hope you can connect to the naturally occurring pictures depicted through worlds, and see lights through it. God bless us all.
All Day Is Gods Day However Sundays 🥰
Sundays are no doubt a different day among the rest, maybe its cause we don't usually work as we do on other days, maybe its cause of church always giving us this closure kind of feeling every sunday, for whatever it is still certain that Sunday is really a unique time. All days belong to God and all days have the same tendency of producing miracles and spreading across joy as much as Sunday does, it may just be my perception and nothing too serious, for someone else their live challenges might have cause them to see another day like Thursday as that special and different day of the week, however I feel Sunday would be more worldwide recognized to give off this feeling.
But because of the general attitude of everyone to a Sunday, it's no shock that we should have a special attraction to praise God more than we do in the rest day of the week. Yes, Sunday might not be the ordained sabbath day, but its yet a special time we all go to church now. Well, Sunday is the start of a new week, and at best its a significant time to firstly thanks God for a good closing and pray for a better week ahead.
If you could take time to deeply reflect all through the past week, I'm sure you'll see that though he might be silent and invisible seated in the high heavens yet in reality he's loud and visible on your issues and hes ever attentive. When people say oh truly theres God, only God could have done this, well they aren't just short of other words to say and they sincerely meant every ounce of the word, this testimonies we all have in our lives, the only difference is that many don't see it's God and few others don't see a need to be grateful.
When you take good time to be grateful, it shows you appreciate what he did and that sweetens his heart to do more. Remember we are created in his likeness, so there are quite a number of things that we should know about God to be true judging by our own decisions too. If you help out two children and one in the two took it as an obligation without any gratitude because of course she's your child its your job to do it, while the other showed you great appreciation, tells you "oh you're the best dad ever, there's no other contender" boosting your pride and ego, I bet apart from helping him or her again anytime they need you, you'll be looking forward to just helping them again, because yiu want to hear those praises again. Yea, our God Is king and should be treated as one, inasmuch as the king is our father.
If we don't have the solution at home, then its okay to leave home in search for the solution, but in a case when you have the solution at home and with you then its quite a needless affair to seek a solution else where, God is the solution, by far the best solution and at best hes always with us, yet all around the world, we seek for a solution elsewhere, not just that, we seek it from a lesser power.
The silence and invisibility of our God has made the world act like the teacher is not in class and just misbehave, hopefully we can coordinate ourselves when we start hearing footsteps or when we get a heads up that the teacher is approaching. Well in reality, the teacher is in class, infact the teacher never left class. He sees, he saw and is still seeing everything. Be aware that though he's invisible but he's very visible, let your past events be your clue. God is ever present.
If you can think well then of course you would appreciate well, with enough assurance that this your new request is not any different and if God has done it before, then he can do it again. And when it feels like this present situation is different, and tougher thereby creating doubt in your mind, just be aware that our God is not threatened by anything nor circumstances, he has done the mind blowing already, he has created the wonders of the world and the world stands in awe till this date as well as the generations coming after would be in awe too.
If you understand this, then you'll be relaxed and just trust God. Then you'll see the supernatural. Without faith you really can't please God, we all need someone to trust us to be able to do what we can do, maybe as an engineer we need someone to say I trust you to do the job. We are created in Gods likeness so he too needs to us to trust him to come through. Trust God and be grateful to him always, he always come through. Keep on being grateful and be happy because the king is our father.
Make the most out of everyday, pray everyday also, every day is special and always know that God is with us every single seconds of the day. Happy Sunday.
We Stand Between Good And Bad
We are in a world of extreme actions guided by choices, the choices we make are of great influence to us. We have the good and we have the bad, as well as those trying to shuffle in between, all this overtime make up our character and builds an identity for us. One would think that people would all push for being good, but it is not so. There are those who loves being in the bad for obvious reasons as getting respected, gaining forcefully, freedom of action, being called real or straight forward among many other reasons, nevertheless we are aware that nothing compares to be good, the fact that it makes up the identity we would be known for should make us do better, remembering that a good name is better than gold.
It isn't the end if good hasn't won. Just a quick reminder that we need to keep staying good and fighting against the bad, the evil profits nothing. Most times in a fight, it isn't the most angry or the person who throws the first blow, who ends up wining, but that person who is still standing at last after the other must have been striked down. Good has the final blow, it gets to the moment when the devices of the evil can no longer be effective, it's as though it's all useless, there seize to be any meaning to the life they choose to live, and this leads to frustration which leads to the final loss.
The world's system has been put in place and it's just the norms that good wins, no matter how smart or how thoughtful the plans of evil is, being good still has it's way of getting its final winwin. Its deeply appalling how the evil has the most population. So many people are currently on the side of evil and we can't blame them for such decisions, it's as though that's the best choice to make. The world has been watching and they have seen so much wrong, so many things which ought not to be accepted and condoled are currently overlooked and let to have it's way, and the good people keep being the victims.
Its seems as though it doesn't matter if you're good or evil, once you have money, you can get away with anything, then the good don't have anything to get away with, they live the boring life, not having any to upset, no laws to break, nothing exciting and eventful, so the evil have a lot more to look out for, the seize the privilege to make their life more interesting, not caring who or what gets hurt along the way. Slowly the keep throwing punches in form of bad acts and it seems like they are getting away with it, as though they would win, they are now more confident, they are now underestimating their opponents and slowly let their guard down, and boom what happens next.
The bible said something so profound, that "the children of the world are in their days wiser than the children of light" that's Like 16vs8, this goes as far to show the claim that the world evil has it's way of manipulating the system to their favour, they have people in the high and mighty placements, authorities are looking to side with them, even the mouths of the public is shut up by a little cash, the previously unacceptable are growing to be welcomed and seen as a normal. However at last the good prevails, but I hope the good learns to fight back, I really hope the good learns to be good at the game too. We can't be taking punches, we need to learn to counter, we need to learn to strike a blow too, we need to threaten them.
Wouldn't it be lovely to see that good is actively working in the Society. That in government we have the good person as our leader, those in authority also have the good infesting it and so making the right decision. Imagine a system where justice truly prevails, its not by the wealth or by who you know, rather it's by who is truly deserving of it. All this would be a nice blow to the evil acts rampaging the society currently, and slowly people begin to see that the good side is looking like the winning side and start to join in. Moreover who on earth wouldn't like to be on the winning side. I really don't blame anyone for their decisions, it takes a lot of courage to stay good in this world currently.
It wouldn't be such a bad idea if you choose to uphold virtues and integrity even in your high positioning in life. So many people are mentors, they are so respected and regarded that they have a lot of people following their footsteps, it would be lovely to see that these people portray the essence of staying good, all this helps the society. People need to understand that the world is watching, we can preach for change on the top of our voices, but people would still make up their minds on what to do. So we need to show that good has more to offer, we need to influence the society with more good so we stand a chance of drawing more people to the true winning side. Stay good.
Lot of evil happens in the world currently, the killings, the rape, the oppressions, the wickedness in general and it looks as if there is no recompense for them, in fact they enjoy the best life, and its owing to the fact that those who are good, who should uphold justice are too quiet and gentle, they let things slide easily, no wonder we don't have many people looking to be good people. We need to show that there are more benefits to being a good person than otherwise. Its starts with us, with us pushing for good, in wherever capacity we find ourselves, and staying good even if we were the president of a nation. Good needs to appear as the stronger opponents it is, surely goodness is a stronger force.
Thank you for taking time out to read. Stay Being that good person you are. Stay strong.
Surely The Night Must End
Using a night as a reference point to dark times, same way we all experience a day and a night, we all experience good times and bad, they are all engulf in our live experiences. Its however paramount to know that no time last forever so it's best we are set for the next phase, if what we see now is day then its wise we prepare for night so it doesn't catch us unaware and whenever it comes we are good to go. In same vein if what we are experiencing now is night then its good to expect a day and prepare likewise for the breaking of the day. This switch in time was created for our sake, among the numerous reasons one to spot out is getting us to be prepared and to be hopeful.
There are numerous times when we need hope, there is a lot of events happening and it doesn't seem to end, how would we survive times like that if we don't see the possibilities of it ending, the fact that we know there is a better day ahead is enough to help us hang on, it's a motivation to not giving up, but the moment it seem like it's never ending and there are no possibilities it would soon end, then comes the though of just ending everything by ourselves, which lead to suicidal thoughts, so lost of hope is a deadly feeling, see why it's good to continually reassure people.
Even the sick people would get better response when they know they would get soon, no wonder doctors are very reassuring, they don't show how bad the sickness and conditions is to the patient, they understand the essence of hope, we all need hope, you do and so do I. The physiological effect of hope springs quicker recovery faster. Telling someone the need to hang on to tomorrow is a gesture they would always be grateful for, remember how the darkest times are just before dawn, this explains that when things are looking rather unbearable, maybe joy is just around the corner.
Its something the bible doesn't fail to explain, how hope for a man is enough to take him to the promise land, there is a promise to us all, there are coming days of abundance and surplus, such promise are made to us regardless of our status quo or educational background, God said it but then fast forward till today it doesn't so appear so, what then do we call it quit and say that promise isn't for us, no the bible mandate us to stay faithful and set our hope on nothing less other than Jesus. Hope cut across everything in life, medical, engineering, religion, at home, at work, every spheres of life., hope keeps us going till we get there.
Just as we say it cuts across everything in life and everyone, imagine in the workplace, as a newly employed staff working with so much enthusiasm, the reason most people aren't putting as much energy as the inputted at the start of the job isn't always because of over familiarity nor laziness, most times it's a complete lost of hope of the height you had envisioned from the onset. Coming in to see people who apparently are more efficient than you but not getting to that point you hope thereby causing a downturn of morale as you think what are possibility of me getting there then. No wonder incentives and upgrade are now readily implemented by firms.
Indeed the nights only last but a while soon comes the day and there's brightness once more, I've heard of people afraid of the night, they see images, they get scary visitations. No one to rescue, indeed it's a wrong time to be in trouble, even those trying to help still gets you scared, I guess the movies are to be held responsible for this generalized fear, however very possible such inspiration are birth off true experiences. Nevertheless I haven't seen people afraid of the day except it be a medical condition, however they won't hate the day, they long for it just know it isn't the right time to step in.
For what it's worth hang on to hope, for without hope there is little we can do. No matter what we face let's remember the earth has been exiting for billions of years, above 4.5 billion years old and this directly tells that people who has lived on earth are so much not possible to be counted, therefore among the uncountable numbers of lived humans are those who experienced worst than you're currently yet they survived, knowing that someone won already before shows you it's very possible you win also so do hang on, you can't give up yet. There's a lot to be done, a lot of people watching and waiting on us, we can't the afford to back out.
It's as simple as hang on guys, day break is just around the corner, you've come too far to go back now, remember we feel the most urge to retreat when we are close to our destination, then comes the true test of faith, some times our reasoning may be point us to the right direction, but hope will, knowing that this too shall pass and a better day comes ahead would keep us in track silently waiting and hopeful, as since hope in itself is a seed, it wouldn't be long until we see what we've been waiting for. Surely the night would end and day comes, and because we've learnt we would save and prepare better for the coming night. Keep the energy going.
Thank you for reading, really want to motivate us today, someone needs to know that giving up is never an option for anyone, therefore anyone considering giving up is so wrong. Keep pushing through, it'll all be over soon.
Celebrating The True Definition Of A Father
I would continue to say that not all men should be celebrated on fathers day, it doesn't only require you to be a man before you're worth being celebrated. What then entails a man to be celebrated as a true father? In one word its simply responsibility. A true father takes responsibility for everyone and everything in his domain, as a man automatically you are ordained the head of the home, you've got to act like it and take your seat in power, it's great to see women step up to the task when the man is no more not because they want to or they planned to rather its because they've got no option and the love for their children won't allow them be irresponsible.
The society we live in today is full of men and women who love sex but aren't ready for the product that comes from sex. If you love sex and aren't ready for the product then its best to use a protection so as to prevent an unwanted pregnancy, however there are yet people who still want to do it without a protection and also don't want to have children from it, isn't that quite risky, more than its risky its counted as being wicked when you know you don't want to take responsibility for it, we see this play out among the men, the women aren't all innocent, they could have prevented it by asking questions to know how reasonable the man is., however some men lie.
Its never right to bring a child into the world only to be abandoned, no child deserves to be left without proper parenting, inasmuch as it happens concurrently doesn't make it right, funny how overtime we hear people claim that children without proper parenting grows up stronger and I'm just statically amazed at the extent people can go to defend theirselves, yet when the child grows up and fortunately becomes wealthy the parents comes to claim ownership, if this doesn't get you angry enough I don't know what will, every grow up stands a better chance of training a child, it's all about wanting in the first place.
So the fathers day celebration was geared to honor every man that took up responsibility of their family, not only the kids but also the wife. The importance of the mother can never be contended with so it's important to try every possible best to keep the wife in the home, fathers alone can't complete the job, however if circumstances brings tough times then the fathers must see to it that they try covering all areas so the children grows up as though they have a mother. Father's are sacrificial in nature, what gives more joy is giving to a need and settling it, a father in the house would make everyone at peace in the house.
A father is a protector and peace, growing up in a rough environment would bring this claim to light better, when the tension are high and your dad steps into the house, automatically there'll be a bit of calmness because a strongman is here, now for anything to get to you all it has to first go through you dad whom you're very sure would never permit such to happen. When you're home and dad is away and there are any emergent repairs to be done, it's most likely you all would have to wait till dad comes or call the repairer, but when dad is hope you are sure he would try to get it working again, it'll alone be in a critical stage for him to postpone it for the actual repairman.
A dad does all he can to ensure his home is the best, all fingers are not equal nor is everyone having the same amount of money, therefore our individually dad caring abilities would be limited, that notwithstanding every true dad would try his possible best to do all he can with the available resources open to him. By nature men are givers but a dad gives all. A dad can be overly protective but that doesn't mean he is wicked or don't understand you, he is only angry at the possibility of people devaluing who he value, so he doesn't want that cause he can kill for it, therefore its better to be strict enough to protect and prevent you from the vipers outside.
Every father is encompassed with the task of inducting good morals and distinct values into their children, every father is proud likewise the mothers to know their children stands out in the world and are respectable. A man is always proud, then he is proud when his children have done enough to make him proud, so whenever he stands in the midst of his peers he's not ashamed, rather he is head up and content with the caliber of blessing God granted him from above. Every true father would do just enough for their kids to also do to theirs. The training starts from day birth, as much as the child is responsive, then the fatherly responsibility has begun.
So if you're a good man or lady then you must accord the honour and respect to your parents who has done all this sacrifice for you to be how you are today, however since I'm taking specifically speaking on fathers today then I guess I'll rephrase that sentence to 'accord and honour your father who made it all possible. Moreover the mothers day we have in a year is already more than the men day so it wouldn't hurt to dwell only on the fathers today. So happy Father's day, this article should have been posted earlier, but like they say it's better late than never.
Yes as a father and potential father in the future one thing to place in priority is responsibility, God has placed a lot on our hands let's show responsibility enough to do the task it requires. God bless every man out there. Thank you for reading.
Every Lie Needs Trust
The main ingredient to a successful lie is trust, the people you least expect have a higher tendency to lie to you, not necessarily the people you're closest to, but the people you trust the most. Some people we are very close to and we know they can't be trusted, this people can't successfully lie to us cause we would take their words lightly, however some others have played their cards so well, this few have earned your trust and they can easily fool you, believe me they can. Every lie wouldn't be successful without an element of trust. And this also is what makes it painful, having so much trust in someone only to discover they had you fooled. I'm not talking about a joke now, I'm talking about real hurt.
It's a whole level of hurt from that person who mean a lot to you, your mind constantly goes there, the brain just keeps bringing up the hurt from time to time especially when less busy, this is the lies I'm talking about today, the lies that hurts, the one that can spoil. Of course it can. Like the title says, when a lie is introduced what happens, it destroys, it spoils, it completely shatters, it's funny how we are quick to lie, thinking it'll save the situation better, however we end up knowing that the truth still comes out, and know a lot has been destroyed. Let's shun lies, especially because it affects trust, and trust is what we need for an happily ever after.
Where there is lies, what do you expect as the outcome. When you can no more believe what comes out from the mouth anymore, what then is there to stay for. Relationship is always and has always been an involvement between two people mainly, and to this there has to be some sort of connection, you feel, I feel, we both feel. The sync however needs to be developed each and every time. The best way of building this sync or we say connection is by encouraging trust and no secrets, let it all out on the table, this is what it is, this is all there is to say and it has got to be the truth.
In situations where we have found out that the words previously said out were lies, would you believe the next? Overtime you've been made to believe this or believe that, only to discover someday that it all is a lie, let's not talk about the hurt or the pain that accompanies it, what I want to really know, is would there be something to hold on to, would the pillar of trust still be holding us together, or just as a collapse building, its already over just awaiting an official date. And for the few who didn't end it after the revelation of the lies, how then were you made to continue cause I know for certain that trust is the pillar, but lies is the bulldozer to cut it down.
Without a doubt there a couples existing who have been through the highs and the lows, there are people who are still accommodated till date by their partners even after they have messed up real bad. In other side of the world there are broken homes and broken marriages because of mistrust, so I begin to ask myself what then is the line, what is that thing we must look out for and say oh yes this is the reason for this and this is the reason for the repair, well maybe a reader can comment below and make me see why some homes still stand even after the lies and unfaithfulness and others don't.
People are different however, what can make one end it, another would easily bear. I've always thought cheating was the line, that once you're caught then it's all over, but I've seen others forgive and likely forget, but yes the relationship continues and I ask again what is the missing piece, what is that thing to that strike the difference, why some continues and others don't, I still want to know, is it love, I guess so, but all are in love, maybe it's a deeper level of love. Or maybe it's the different tolerance level, or maybe is the kind of lies involved, maybe the lie was bearable.
A concious effort to changing is key also, when lies has been detected and the hurt has taken over, now there's regrets and the willingness to change. In all let's ensure we really want to change, its easier to apologize but harder to stop yourself from repeating it again, especially when you haven't dealt with it as you should. When lies has been seen the way out would be to introduce the truth, its only the truth that can repair, let's see to repair rightly. Lies scatter, lies destroys and we can't possible repair with lies, we repair with the opposite of lies, introduce the truth to help with the repair process.
If we make a decision to shun lies, let's try to see to it. Indeed some times the truth appears so dangerous, like it would create more mayhem and discomfort, while the lie would save the day, however we have seen it always isn't so, rather the truth may hurt, but it always wins, you'll be glad you spoke the truth. Commitment, trust, love all cry out for the truth, they can only survive where the truth is in place, we need the truth, our partners too need the truth from us, the truth keeps us going up the ladder, but when lies gets introduced it's a ride down. So stay up with the truth guys.
Thank you all for reading. Stay strong and remain truthful. The truth shall set us free.
Boldness Is A Gift
Having watched a debate recently this topic began to speak more light to me, boldness truly is a gift and everyone should realize and work towards the acquisition of this gift. So clearly from the debate I knew that this particular lady had a lot of facts and she knew what she was going to say, however her delivery was poor and it was simply because she wasn't bold enough to buttress her point convincingly. The opponent on the other hand kept dangling around just one point, but the way he divided his point and the boldness in his delivery, you may not notice that what he said in the first round was similar to what he said in the second and third, they are all same points, but the cheers of the crowd sealed the victory for him.
It would have been awesome if this rule only applied to a debate where the person who has enough facts to win loses to the other who apparently is wrong, but we see this play out in our every day life. People have lost a case because of poor explanation while the main culprits tries to find a single fault and hang on to it with all boldness and keep shutting out the one who was truly wronged, and since God seldom come down immediately to interfere physically in public arguments, they could lose that argument and even get more insulted and angrier, but all this isn't anyone's fault, they should try finding the main fault and fixing it., the main fault is not being bold enough.
Haven't you heard of how real criminals would search for a good lawyer to help them handle their case, if they were no doubt wrong and they knew they should be punished for their crimes why then would they go the extra mile to pay a good lawyer? Simply because of the law of boldness, seeing one is bold already tells that such person may be right, we just believe that the person staggering to explain is the liar, as they are finding more lies to say and since it's a lie they have to think deep about it, that is why they aren't bold, while this is often untrue, the reason for the staggering words could simply be their personalities.
No wonder stammers are often angry people, even when they are wronged and try to explain to people that this person did wrong to me, before they could fix words together, the person had already explain from his perspective, thereby telling the story to fit himself, such moments feels suffocating and hands tied, what then can they do, nothing but increased anger, before you could say hey, boom a blow has been thrown and it's become a full blown out fight, so you really don't want to lie against a stammer, it's unfair also. However I know there is a way out of stammering or at least a procedure to reducing it, some day I'll write intensively about it, cause I too was a stammer as a child, a bad one at that.
Boldness is a gift, for real it's a gift, it hardly ever go wrong. There are positions you'll only attain when you've display a level of boldness. The world currently is in a place where people are fed up and tired but powerless, they long for that one person who can set things right, everyone is bold indoor but scared outdoor. The moment they can find that person who can be bold both indoor and outdoor as well as can express their feelings adequately, they would all rush to support from behind, they would give all they have in support, both riches and attention, boldness is a gift, though can be risky but benefits will surely emerge that compensates for the risks taken.
Time can be challenging for everyone, and there are situations that no one can stand in for us, unlike a national crisis where we long for a bold patriotic citizen, or a family issue that we hope for a bold relative to speak on our behalf, there are situations where we are alone and nothing would change as long as we don't act, how long can we bear if we can't take bold steps for ourselves. Moreover everyone has to stop waiting for someone else to do the job, we are as much human as any one else, from every individual comes a family and also comes a long line of children running into lineages, so if you feel like you live a simple life then you aren't aware of the multitude coming from you, you need to know you're a leader also and act as it.
Boldness is for everyone to get, why are you scared in the first place, who are you scared of, what are you scared of, the person or the thing you're scared of are they above human. As much as we must have respect and be submissive to authority, we must do this out of respect and not because we are afraid. You can be bold and yet respectful to your boss, you can be bold and still be submissive, life teaches everyone the essence of humility and respect without displacing the importance of being bold, in fact our authorities would respect us more and place more into our hands when they realize we are not scared of them rather we genuinely honor them.
Some day later in the future we would realize how needless our days of fretting was, we would see clearly how those years we weren't bold enough to speak out were so unnecessary, especially as we begin to see people we once were scared off died and all their powers forgotten, then we start to get a clearer picture about life as its just for a time and everyone single person is nothing but pencil in the hands of our creator, meaning all this while we have been scared of the wrong people, not being bold to stand up for what's right, when it should be only God we truly fear. It's best we read to learn, thereafter make up our hearts to act right, boldness is a gift. The world needs bold people, God himself needs people to be bold.
Thanks For Reading, I hope this article stirs up your mind to be bolder, as I'm sure with boldness comes a lot of benefits to enjoy in life.
Building Self Confidence
When you come to think of it you'll realize that nothing and no one is worth having you feel bad about yourself, everyone has their own issues, we feel they are better because we aren't aware of what they are dealing with. At last we would all learn to focus on ourselves and ourselves alone and the few people who genuinely matters to us. We Also need to be aware of the dangers of feeling bad and having low self esteem in oneself, all of what it hinders us from achieving. As soon as we see that the reason behind our low self esteem is clearly not worth it, is it someone, is it people, why do you so care about feeling embarrassed, work on your self and build your capacity so that you can excel and make your family and generations proud, I feel that is what truly matters not the people seating and laughing at you.
The environment too isn't friendly, rather it preys on people's inability and try subjecting them under its rule. Low self esteem is a major issue we all must look into, like I always say, we are only human, everyone all together, are all humans., so there should be absolutely no need to get inferior over another. Absolutely no low self esteem should be allowed, its a not so good attribute people often live with, we must see to stop this, deliberately move to bring an end to it.
I'll like to share on why this low self esteem is bad, if we don't see the negativity it brings, then how do we seek to change it for the better. Don't mistake low self esteem to being an introvert, or taken to mean you're shy. Not it's different, being an introvert doesn't account for low self esteem, introverts prefer to keep to theirselves but they are not shy to express their self when need be, neither are they ashamed of theirselves, they simply prefer to keep their circle small or stay indoor.
Same with being shy, you aren't shy because you have a low self esteem on yourself, you van be shy for many reason, maybe you don't know what to do, seen something or someone who makes your heart skips, or you aren't prepared and taken by storm so you're dumbfounded. However this both being shyness and an introvert are not low self esteem, don't liken them together.
A low self esteem person is more prone to living a rather useless life, when someone already tags him or herself as useless. Someone who thinks there is nothing outstanding in him or her, we wonder what such a person can do, in a gathering already you have written yourself off as the least among the number, oh I don't stand a chance, no one would like me, no one wants me, I can't do it, he is better than me, she is more appreciated, seeing no value in oneself, no self worth, This is a silent disease, of course this is a motive traceable to most suicide cases.
It doesn't hurt to say nice things to someone, this culture I have noticed and imbibed, when I come around people and I notice somethings commendable, be sure I'll tell you how awesome it is and how awesome you are also. The human minds works in such a way that we are always accessing ourselves, and when we are around people it tends to access yourselves in relation to the person next.
When we feel somewhat important to the person, or when we feel we are better to the person, then our confidence boost, and we get more lively. In the other vein, if in our comparison we feel we matter less to the persons or we are in anyway less In attributes compared to the person, the next time emotions would be for the person to feel down, just then you've got to remind yourself of your importance and the fact that you're a blessing to the world and anyone should be happy to know you. Remind yourself.
We can't always surround ourselves with people whose think we are better than, it shouldn't be that way if growth is something we hope on. We should associate ourselves with greater people,greater in the sense that this people are high achiever and have broken more grounds than you and are already in a place you hope to be.
Right association is a faster route to getting what you want, so make good relationship with great people, and while around them, don't result to feeling down, rather remind yourself of what you stand to gain, and how best such association can help you, and make you a better person. Our emotions speak but our heart speaks more, so speak to yourself, have hope in a better tomorrow and let this be a tool to gear you into becoming more. Push away the low feelings, you can achieve a lot. You're the best.
A constant reminder of what you can do, of who you are. Sometimes we look to the mirror and just focus on the positive sides we know, know your worth. We need to be on top of our emotions, no matter what or where you are presently, you are still better than most of people and those people are living their best life, its all in the mindset, you have to be happy however, life is a limited edition, you can't get another again. So we choose to live the best we can now, and remain happy.
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See, Before You Conclude
Haven't you heard the phrase"seeing is believing " the word seeing in context indicates different forms of observation, it could be hearing for yourself, it could be having the experience by yourself, it could even be thinking for yourself, all meaning come see for yourself before drawing out a conclusion. So many times our plans are changed when we discover the reasons why some things happen the way they did, people can view things from different perspective and that can cause strive between two or more people, until they uncover the true ideologies of their opponent and see things clearer. One of the best method of resolution has always been hearing from both side, seeing from all angles.
Learning to understand before taking action can also be likened to this topic of discussion. Actions however and whatever they are would always cause an effect, however the severity of the action would determine the extent of the effect and likewise the corresponding reaction, we don't expect to take actions without expecting a backward reaction. For this cause, its essential that we carefully understand an action and its possible reactions before that action is taken, so we don't lose sleep or worst because of an action that wasn't carefully calculated. Before we conclude in our heart to take an action, we should have seen and though about it carefully.
The class of people who are usually guilty of not seeing before concluding are the intelligent ones, just as a craftsman who has spent many years in a particular job would be so confident and begins to overlook the little things same applies to those who over have proven to be smart, smart enough to understand the human behaviors and character, the most of them jump into conclusions and would stick to it defending it, the reason for this rugged defense isn't cause they are sure they are right, rather its because they are scared to be wrong, the name they are trying to preserve wouldn't make them neutral enough to see the other perspectives clearly. So rather than trying to defend a stand point we aren't sure about, why don't we carefully see before we conclude.
It's another reason never to write anyone off, never make a conclusion about someone be it good or bad, in this case even when you see and see clearly still be careful to conclude as change can happen to anyone at anytime, it's no news how the supposedly good person are turning into the wrong side and on the other hand how the bad people are becoming good, so who can judge, who can conclude about a person to say this is how he would surely and or this is how she would definitely end, the best we can do is to conclude on characters, as character exhibitions are like seeds, they would bring forth fruits surely.
So when I say "Alex be careful, cause should you continue like this, you may get insulted" in not concluding on Alex as a person, but his current attitude, so if he continues that way he surely would get insulted cause that's what that character leads to, however if has every tendency to change and should he change then the rule doesn't apply to him anymore. So even when we see clearly yet because humans are guided by decisions and it's totally up to us to decide, one minute we are doing this, the next we are loving that, so never judge anymore rather preach hope to everyone. The wicked should know there's a chance for them to make amends, every offenders should know they can be forgiven, these hopes are powerful.
See before you conclude on any matter, 6 viewed from the top would appear as 9, both having different answers yet both correct, sometimes after we meddle in an argument and discover much later that the one we were against was correct all along, we can try to look for that person to express our new view but may never see them again, this are reasons never to hurry. See clearly before you conclude, understand more before you debate, you never know who is ignorant, don't feed people with the wrong perception.
Thanks For Reading. Next time see before you conclude, study before you teach, understand before you pick sides to an argument. We need to do a lot of things right. Much love to everyone.
What Energy Are You Bringing Around Me
When you reason the extent at which our mood affects our decision as well as our actions. And because of these is has become essential we create a better atmosphere for ourselves, a nice atmosphere where we can feel better and grow as we should. One of the best way of maintaining a nice atmosphere is being cautious of those around you, our friends, family, colleagues anyone who hangs around us have a larger percentage to contribute to how we feel most of the time. Environment also holds to some extent but more than that is the people surrounding us at that time.
Have you been in situations where you don't like a place but you don't care because of the person you're with over there. Likewise there are times when you so much love the place but because of the people you meet you had to leave, so we see that the people around us would contribute a large extent to our mood and these mood would affects our thinking and actions, so we have to care who hangs around us, see why I care about the energy you're bringing my way. Some people I like but i don't like staying around them because of their attitude, the characters just have a way of getting me annoyed or feeling sad, when I realize this I feel its better we preserve the relationship by limiting our physical engagements, for my good.
How often do you hang around people who sincerely push for your growth, not people who sees you as a competition to be better than,they genuinely want to see you win, the environment when they are around is conducive for your mindset to function, they bring the right vibe to push you harder. Seek to surround yourself with the right force, sometimes home has the right energy, often sometimes home does not, especially as youth we don't want to be too comfortable at home, where we can just eat sleep work voluntary and conclude that everyone else doing great financially, who are earning great for themselves are just lucky or having some illegal business going on, not believing hardworking has better pay after all.
We need that place of positive energies always in our lives, we are not weighed down by the events happening or the bad words coming from people, rather the places has enough positivity to keep pushing you ahead. The people often makes up the place, the environmental qualities matters minimal, the people are what makes the place of more value. Even the holy grounds is not holy just because of how the grounds or place was formed alone, rather its holy and respected because of the presence of God in there, so more often than not what makes a place have either positive or negative vibes is because of who are surrounding the place. We need positive vibes in our lives is another way to say we need positive people judging from the just concluded explanation, people makes up the place and the effect, a positive vibe needs a positive person to render it out.
We are not wrong to say this person is bad for me or this person is who I need, we seek growth as our main focus, therefore any and everything should be working in place to help us achieve that, and to know if a place is right, we've got to be sensitive, sensitive enough to study the character and see if it would be a compelling for to push you ahead or a declining pull to bring you back. I always say we shouldn't let go of the spiritual matters because we live a physical life, we too need to be spiritually sensitive, moreover the spiritual governs the physical, so therefore we must seek to be sensitive spiritual too in order to discern some toxic relationship which might be disguising to lure us away, God reveals a lot of truth to us all, that would be helpful, only if we can be spiritually to connect.
Sometimes we decide to cut off from people generally, after a few bad experience we just decide that staying and being on our own is the best, well it's an option too, when the place and people are not rendering your positive vibe and you get more from yourself than you do with them then I guess it's best you stay with the better option that's being with yourself, however two heads are better than one, there are limits you can push yourself too and sometimes you just need to be reminded of your capabilities with a cheer on, so many people in the world today owes their success to someone they encounter, a friend, a colleague, a relation, just someone with the right information and energy to match yours and cheer you on to the top.
Positivity always guys, there's a lot to achieve, we can't afford to start dealing with unnecessary drama, we are not up for any trauma. When I notice your energy is not what I need, I simply avoid you and refuse adhering to you. Not everybody is for you, not everyone would help you, so let's in turn stop trying to please anyone and just sieve the bad energy out allowing only the positive vibes. You'll be amazed at what you can achieve among the right people within a little space of time, all cause they create the right environment and motivation that speeds us up to greatness.
Thanks For Reading, Keeping recieving positive energies and also give out positive energies to others. One love, one goal, success.
@Brilliance