When The People Come Together
Have you seen the effect of a unified voice, have you seen the extent at which a thing go when unity is the backbone. Many people appear strong today not because they are strong single handedly but cause they are in the midst of individuals who have their mind made up to a set target, no one wants to be tagged as the one who left. At a point in the bible when the world was with a unified language, they came together and agreed to build a tower high up to the sky, God saw and confirmed that the unity is strong and with that there's nothing they would decide to do and they won't do, and they were soon to rebel so he set in language variations in their midst. We see the power of unity being confirmed as powerful.
Doing it alone can take you up but when you really want to go far, and by far I mean going to the extent you never possibly imagined, then you should be looking at pushing together with people of same mindset or goal. When we are alone we are only controlled by our thoughts, we may look tough, but then it's so easy for us to just give up and say, you know what I'm not going ahead with this anymore and just give up, but when you're with others, people with whom you all share the same goals and ambition, it's harder to give up, they won't let you back out so easily as their motivation becomes a fuel, and that's the level of seriousness you need.
Today you may be tired and there is someone else who is willing to take you upon his or her shoulder, thereby you don't feel the leakage, today you might lack motivation to work, and there is someone who just stirs up your morale and boom you're back into working and that faithful day, you'll gained a lot more. So the benefits of togetherness cannot really be overemphasized, but it really helps to get tangled with someone who matches your energy or supports in the best possible ways. Its beneficial to both parties when everyone has their quota to contribute to the better fostering of the mandate in view.
Togetherness is not majorly focused on the number, I have seen lot of people push for something and the next thing is they are going for numbers, although going for numbers is quite safe, cause the probability of getting useful people are higher, but still when we go for what they have to offer more than we go for numbers, we are well preparing ourselves, sometime the larger crowds never win, it's the crowd with more key people who wins at last. Remember it's easier to hide within the crowds, why would I be the one coming front, among this many people, and this act is already going against the togetherness seeked. Its more Important that we get working with effective people more than just numbers.
So going back to the essence of togetherness, of which I'm dwelling this article of trying to change the actions that are not pleasant in the society. Togetherness is part of the quickest way to force the hands of the government. Everyday people cry for justice, but it seems their tears isn't enough, or their voice aren't loud enough as the government are refusing to take the needed actions to stop the menace. Maybe its cause the people hasn't cried out with one voice together, or worst still, maybe the people aren't together. Togetherness Is needed, funny how you'll see that we don't need the government to change some things concerning us.
The government are sometimes scary, but do you know what is more scary - the people, the masses especially the any unified masses, what we can do in no time, the government may not be able to do in a longer time frame. Only it may be seen as an act of rebellion, but anyways it's all part of the plans to getting the government or specific authorities to take the needed actions necessary. Sometimes we act as an act to force the hands of the needed authorities. Folding of hands isn't the right way most times, neither is violence the way forward either, however for some demands to be taken serious people need to get angry first then act with the anger.
Unity isn't limited to getting protest cards and protesting trying to force the government to actions alone, its deeper than that, while that maybe necessary sometimes, other times it might not be the best option, especially when it is almost foreseeable to result into violence and maybe escalated into a more dangerous situation to handle. Togetherness is one voice, one voice in words and actions, that means they all speak similar thing and they all do similar thing, notwithstanding if they are together or not. The togetherness is in them, it has been accept as a cause and so even their spirit is transformed to operate to that cause.
More reason when the way forward Is to stop taking bribe, and the people truly concur, even when they are alone and no one is watching they still choose to act right. More reason why the people are not voting based on cajoling when they know the candidate can't function, but they vote for the right man they see really fit. Togetherness should not exist only when we are together in a closed space, even when we are far apart, we can still be together at heart, acting and doing things as planned, togetherness is one voice, one spirit, all in one.
In unity we can put an end to wrongdoings, there's power in number, there are more effects in sync, let's work together to make our world a better place. One love everyone and thanks for reading.
That Tussle Before The Trophy
If you ever think of gaining any trophy without fight winning a tussle, I'll suggest you think again, for the littlest of accolades there's work to be done, only that the struggle varies and the extent to which the trophy is great is a determinate to the sort of test that comes your way. In your company, hoping to someday rise to the seat of power, don't you know the tussle has already began, every working day of the week is a day to proof that future belongs and would be better suited for you. Good things are sweet, let me liking them to sugar, so because they are sweet, they need no announcement, natural ants find it's way to it, same goes for that trophy.
Are you scared of a physical fight, are you always so cautious not to be in a fist exchange, if you're that kind of person then you're not excluded from this fight too, hope you weren't thinking I would say otherwise, everyone has a piece of this tussle, as long as you're part of a growth process, its inevitable. It doesn't matter if you're quiet or loud, it doesn't matter if you're reserved or on every matter, there is a tussle for you to engage, even being so quiet is a tussle for itself. The only variation is that because one is so scared of a competition or challenge they may necessarily not want to go for the big cakes., which is bad actually as long as it's not life threatening.
There are decent fights aren't there, I feel these tussles shouldn't be feared cause a win would unlock a new level of happiness, not just for you alone but also to those you care about. Many the word I choose to use is what makes it sound like a hard fight, but it is what it is. Okay, let's take a look at the early tussle we encountered growing up, some still do though. Examinations are a big deal to children and even youths trying to bag a degree, to this we aren't just handed the certificate, paying the school fees isn't enough reason to say let's just give him what he wants, no rather you've got to seat for an examination where you can prove you deserve the grades which would later be accumulated to give your degree.
So where is the tussle, trying to read. For someone like me reading was war, more like a necessary evil, I wanted it all fun, but when it's time to get serious deep into the book, there you find me frowning my charming face. For some it was trying to get the money to pay the tuition fee as had to work and study, reading might also be straining to them. For some it could be distractions, especially those who are into relationships, from one drama to another, all this time eating the peace with which they could have a settled mind to read, even some could be food, as an hungry stomach is hardly receptive to anything not even friendly gossips.
We clearly see that we've been in the game of tussle for as long as we live, everyday we are pushing to meet a mark or at least make mama proud, all this quest would lead us to the pursuit of something, something to unlocking a new level, maybe getting a job, starting a career, picking up a long pending ambition. All cause we need to have better we need to tussle the obvious obstacles. Doing the right thing at work is an obvious obstacle, getting the boss to recognize you is another tussle, saving is another obstacles, whom to marry is another tussle, so clearly we see it isn't in a physical fight, it's all on our ambitions.
I like the fact that I've pinpointed one of the greatest tussle anyone can face, whom to marry, this tussle is no doubt the tussle of tussles, forgo the fact that it's a silent war on ambitions, if we fail this tussle, it'll give birth to more tussles, only thing is now the tussles are more physical than it was on the head alone. Maybe people could easily get a divorce hoping it puts an end to the war, but the damage has already been done and the memories lingers on, might take time to heal so it's best advised we carefully fight through this aspect of who we marry, like I said earlier it's the tussle of tussles, more like the most important questions in a man's life after his faith.
Should we talk about faith, well I feel if we don't talk about the most important tussle, the whole essence of this article has been defeated. Already it's clear to everyone that everything we see and experience, including the we standing in the world presently wasn't originated from any scientific invention, moreover how was the scientist and his chemicals and tools invented, rather there is a supreme God with home all strange powers resides. To this we know our time is limited, we have seen people die and more people born, we have been born, someday to experience the inevitable, so what's next, e everything would be meaningless if we don't tussle for the afterlife.
I hope you get what I mean, there's more to this earth, its beyond a conviction, it's so true, so how sure are we of being at a place of joy and peace after our stay on this earth. One of the craziest reasons is someone being so scared of the personality of God that he doesn't want to go to heaven, I laugh so hard, until you read the bible then you'll fall deeper in love with he that created you, he's not a beast, we are made in his likeness moreover so are you a beast, and the bible clearly stated that God is love, come on in him is the true peace. So as much as we fight our everyday tussles for a better tomorrow, let's be intentional about the better inevitable tomorrow.
Thank you for reading, I say we keep pushing amidst all odds, no laws says we can achieve what we aim at, just keep going guys. One love.
What Are You Reading
What ever we take in has it's way of influencing our lives, almost like food eaten having it's way of helping our growth and bone strength, similarly what we read has it's way of shaping our mind capacities which would no doubt reflect on our activities. So I ask again what are you reading, what is the mind digesting, books we read, people we interact with, things we understudy, ideas we are made to believe, all of this our minds reads and when it becomes part of us, it definitely would take forms into actions. Knowing this we understand the need to safeguard our minds by careful selecting the things we read. What we see, what we listen to, how believe, thing appealing to us, all of this our minds read and interprets to our brains.
Picking a book or selecting a write up to read without an expectation from it or having a reason to read it to start with is often not ideal, its often luck you stumble on a writing that would transform your life. Rather than take chances its better off to be focused, know what you need, then find a book that can best support your needs, open to read an article that would enhance your ability and knowledge in that aspect of desire. When motive is in place it helps the mind to better communicate and relate to the letters of the writing, cause with each paragraph you can imagine and relate it with your life currently, your mind already applies it before the hands carries out the main actions.
If it doesn't play first in the mind then the eyes are just exercising, sometimes it means the brains is still pondering on more interesting matters, you can be reading and your mind drifts away to a world of imagination, then you notice you've just spent those few moments on a larger percent of pondering and a lower percent reading or learning. More reason why people tend to want to go for passion mostly, cause the feel it'll be easier to continue especially as they are already interested about it. However not everyone works with passion, so it has to be a concious trying to stay focused.
Separating the eyes from the mind is just mere seeing, nevertheless in sightseeing your mind is involved because you're fascinated by what you see, so if you're called upon the next week after the sightseeing, you can recap and give a break down of what you saw. But how many of the books you have read can you give a paraphrase about, just 5 minutes after you've read it, not to ask you a day later or the next week, that's almost mission impossible. There's a need to attach your mind to what you read, and just when you are trying but it just won't communicate, then its either you have no likeness for that article nor connections or you just have to call yourself to order, as there are other matters your mind is anxious about.
It doesn't matter how fast or how much time you spent with a book or article, what matters really is how best you're able to invest your mind into the book, how much you're able to assimilate is the more important thing when it comes to reading, reading is never meant for the eyes, if it were so too much of reading wouldn't be dangerous to your eyes, but it was meant for your brain, your mind, the eyes was only a channel to get it to its rightful place, same way food wasn't meant for the mouth, rather for the body growth entirely, the mouth was only a channel, it doesn't spend more than 5 seconds In the mouth, it's off to the stomach where it can be dispatched to the needed areas. Each letters of a writing too doesn't spend more than 2 seconds and its sent to the brain,where it stays, understood/interpreted then it can be acted upon.
When people say no one is dull, i thought also it was a mere motivation, until I experienced it myself, and clearly saw what makes the difference in people wasn't because some were created smarter than others, it was more of how much one can understand and grab from a particular subject matter than the other person, we can all choose to read a book, but how well I understand it determines how well I can perform In an examination. No wonder sometimes we have ties in results, both got it equally. When you don't understand yet, you can choose to keep going or yet remain there till you're satisfied and understand it fully.
You are not alone dear, many are guilty, well I too was, until I notice something, more like a trait in few outstanding personalities, and I found out they weren't just readers, they were passionate about whatever they want to do, so when they read, they read in line to what they are passionate about, that way when they learn something new and it's easier for them to follow as they have a scenario they can exhibit it upon. For example a civil engineering when reading more about steel, already has been dealing with steel so he's seeing it more clearer now.
Indeed no man is an island, but few men have been remarkable, give yourself to study and put your mind to it with a view that it would positively apply to your life. Schools subject too counts, though many don't see the need, however, with good scores brings a better certificate that would be of benefit to you in real life settings. Set your heart in the next books you're going to read. Remember this Bible quote: study to show yourself approved, a workman needs not to be ashamed when dividing the truth he's learnt. Do just look, study, put your mind to it, then you can act in accordance.
Thank you for reading, I love you guys, keep reading and building the mind capacity.
The Gifts Of A Man
If there's something that makes way for someone it'll definitely be the gifts of that person. In the normal order of things, people are drawn more to the ones who give gifts. There is something about offering what someone needs, that filling does so much in getting people excited. In another light, gifts doesn't always have to be an item, it doesn't have to be giving on special occasions alone like birthdays, anniversaries and so one, gifts also doesn't need to be given to just one person alone, it can be given to multitude all at once. A gift can be a service rendered that truly appeased the recieve, so much they are willing to pay for it. Talents are gifts also.
It takes some people years of doing something else before they finally realizes their gifts or decide to make do with their gifts. There is a friend I know, who currently works in the bank, he sings so well that people are intrigued by his voice, now he rarely has time to do anything associated to music, maybe he sings when he gets home or just doing minor things, but he's not engaging the audience anymore, as work takes most of his time, ofcourse he needs money so he has to work, still there is a space of exploring those deposits embedded in us, maybe we don't see a reason for it, maybe we don't know the importance of this gifts to us.
It's more like a personal project, our company, our industry, we can work for a firm all we want, we can be loyal and earn a ton of money, but there's that one thing your mind constantly calls to your remembrance and that is the fact that you love doing this other stuff. There is something that gives us joy more than any other, there is something intentionally deposited in us by the all knowing God, cause truly he knows better, he knows we can handle it firstly, then he knows we would use it well to a great extent. However can't be forced right, so it has to be our conscious decision to accept it.
Some of you cook so well, him yummy, your friends eat your dish and always wants more. No its not the usual cook, this is different, this is unique, and there is a burning desire in you to make this big, you need to make this big, but are you willing to make it big. In some kind of way we know what we can do and should be doing, even if we prove stubborn, yet we know we ought to be doing this at the moment, more like the world hasn't seen anything yet, let them wait till you're ready to take off then they'll be amazed, the world indeed Is filled with amazing talents.
Money has been the greatest threat to talents, if we look deep we would see that money has been the greatest threat to so many things and talents are not exempted. Ok I like to do this for an example, I like to write, but can I earn sufficiently enough to feed my family off it? There are important things to thing about and take care off, that we need a large or considerable amount of money to take care off, would working with that talent, get it for us. Yes we derive joy from it, but then when the stomach sings off hunger, would the talent have put some cash in our pockets.
To crown this, so many people have been frustrated by their talents, because they went about it in a way that wasn't too favourable. The decided to pursue talent with the urgency for money, maybe because they imagined that it would be fast, other simply looked at others and expected theirs too to be quick and profitable, but now going down the lane, it seems not to be working, all expectations seems to be taking longer than expected. Now they have quit and are never thinking of going back to it, they feel like there is no way there. Lets try another.
More reason why we advice on planning, life should be planned, maybe a little adjustment here and there, but we should have a plan with it, one characteristics of planning is that it should be realistic, if we can be realistic we can know what we should be expecting per time per season, so we can know how best to navigate to the top. Cause all talents are profitable, if it wasn't profitable it wouldn't be a talent, but while some can bring quick income, some others would be slower and excercise patience, some others won't just bring profit until we can grow it to a particular extent. So we need to plan.
Working with your talents and gifts has never been friends with a man on the rush, if you're in an hurry to wealth, then I suggest you find a means out aside from taking up your talents and stressing it out. Preferably there should be a source of income coming in already for you to push that talent effectively. However its easier for kids or youth still having a roof and food suplied on their table, so they have time to nurse their talent, while bothering less about the need for urgent cash. Like I earlier said, money is one of the greatest threats to talent, but our talents and gifts are essential for us to work on, be we have to plan on it carefully. Well God help us all.
Thanks for reading, Our Gifts are for the world to benefit, do well to spread it.
Gods Perfect Plan For Creation
The world as we know it is in the heart of God, he love this creation so much and his eyes are fixed here cause in it lies the apples of his eyes, being you and I. A world full of colors and variations, different people, different styles, different tongues and languages, different views and perspectives, different looks and patterns, all to the beauty of God. He knows what to do next, he knows who to bring next, he knows the best time and doesn't just work on hunch, all things are in his perfect plan, yes including you, you have a role to play in all this, no matter your nature or character, you are already fit for the world and there's no changing that.
The world works better with you in it, there's always something you bring to the world, there's always something different and spectacular about you and you've got a slot in making it all magical. Have you ever missed someone, why would you be encompassed by many people yet still miss someone's absence, there's just something different when he or she is there, it makes it more colorful, more reason why I have issues with people complaining about another person taking up their spotlight, don't you know no one else can be you., so just do you.
To everyone there is a plan and the plan of God is forever perfect, so you are Gods perfect plan, however your decisions are your decisions, you'll do as you please but all what is needed to the fulfillment of the perfect plan of God is already in you. Now you wonder why few can sing so well, how their voice texture and the family to which they were born into was almost like a setup, God gave them the voice of projecting a sound so perfectly well and God also placed them into a place of learning, be it family, friends or environment, that place helped them grow it so well.
Examples upon examples exist to buttress this point, so many of us didn't know we would like to do a certain thing until we found ourselves in the midst of people doing it and we loved it and tried it out and overtime see that our hearts connects to it, not that just we had already been gifted with the tool to do the task well, it was all in the perfect plan of God. How you see someone who has always been well constructive with words but only exhibiting this gifts in arguments and quarrels, only to be grow up passionately driven into law and now performing so well as a lawyer. We were all prepared to the task at hand and we have all it takes.
We have seen so many people try out a lot of things, from one kind of Job to another, from one thing to the other yet they aren't fulfilled, a feeling that something is off, amidst this time there is something that always gives them this comfort in doing, but maybe society doesn't place it on high value so they discard the potentials there in, soon they are tired and in search for happiness and they begin to build on this passion, this thing they had so much love for and amazingly the speed they would get to being successful, it has suddenly become clear that they have been wasting time all this while.
Nothing and no one was a mistake to this world, no even the one whom his parents regret giving birth too, it all is in the plan of the all knowing God, yes, even the greatest terrorist were his creation and he loves them no less, a father can dislike the act of his child but can not hate his own offspring, that's more reason why they would do everything it takes to help that son turn back to corrections. Even the cruelest of animals would never hate his child, rather protects them even in the jungle we see this play out, how a fierce lion attacks all else but protects his cub, how much more we humans filled with emotions, we would act nicer, how much more the father of all, he hates no one.
No one should feel rejected, that is way different from the plans of our creator, however we must understand that an enemy would try his possible best to destroy a man and the best way an enemy destroys a man is to build up a mindset of being worthless or less desired, because when we know how valued and useful we are everything about us changes, it changes from the inside out, this shift in mindset is so powerful that it transforms our world and puts clear every contrary thoughts and motions, slowly we begin to acts as the fullness of being that we are, that complete and useful plan of God.
You are needed and valued, circumstances doesn't change a bit of our nature, a lion remains a lion even when placed among dogs, it's clear that this one is different, its just the circumstances he found himself yet the moment he knows how more powerful he his compared to the dogs, the lives of the dogs are in trouble, same thing applies to us, the wrong things would continue when our mindset of who we are are demeaned, but the moment we have a clear picture of our abilities and potential, that is the turning point of it all. One major clearer of doubt is the fact that our father is God Almighty, and we are his complete plan, nothing missing, nothing broken and nothing lacking, he made you just the way you are and he loves it. So what's Gods perfect plan for creation again? You.
Thank you all for reading this beautiful Sunday, I know you have a lovely week ahead. Stay joyful.
People Are Always Competing
From the start of time competition has been the order of the day, even among blood brothers or sisters, humans generally have this nature of wanting to be the best, especially on things we can't change. I bet if God were to inquire from us how we wanted to be created and what we need him to give to us, I bet most people would rather first find out what their neighbors requested and ensure they asked for better, no one wants to have less. Often time we don't get angry until we meet someone who has better then we get angry out of jealousy. So this world is a place of competition, contentment has to be intentionally built in a person, it doesn't just come naturally.
From the very beginning of time we can see clear pictures of competition, cain and abel, though abel was good but cain wanted that slot of acceptance abel had, even Eve was cajoled to being like God if she ate the apple, and it doesn't stop there, up till date it's still clear and dominant, even you reading have a few things and people you hope to surpass, yes we talk to ourselves to be focused but our subconscious still wanders. Right from our young ages there were always competition, be it in our classes competing for top positions, be it in streets competing for who can play soccer more, or who can play the streets game more, or grown ups competiting for who would steal the heart of the young lady, or the lady finding a way to get the man to love her, or in the offices competiting for who would gain the favour of the boss, or earn the contract, simply put life has competition every where we look, and we need to deal with it.
Knowing how to deal with competition is a useful tool to a successful life. Many don't see the need to bother about competition but that is wrong, we hear to be bothered and treat it urgently. This way we are more at peace. No one ever agree to the fact that someone is their competition as though admitting it would make them lose, this ideology is wrong also. Admitting on competition, not necessary telling the person, but simply admitting it within yourself would help you work intentionally to solving it.
Getting into a place, I already know those who are my likely possible competition, I mean those who can outshine my works and steal the show leaving me at the background. Next I think if there are any reason for a competition, is there any need to see this young man or young lady as a competition, are there any reason for me trying to step up and outshine this person. Sometimes there are absolutely no need to outshine that person except you only want to upgrade yourself, for example in church where everything is voluntarily, no price attached, there should be no need to be active on competition except you only want to upgrade yourself. However we still find competition in churches.
Offices aren't left out, there are always need to step up and beat the competition, lot of reasons in fact. Though we should ensure we go through the right way, the right way because going through dubious means would never last long, in fact going through the wrong route would only lead to a future ruin, surely it would always lead to a road block and more catastrophe should caution not be taken. So best way of dealing with the competition like in places like my workspace is simply to be more hardworking than I was before, top up the game, seek out ways to improve and be better. It's not the easy route but surely the best.
Another thing I look out for is my relationship with the person. Sometimes the person I take for a competition could be so good and accommodating, oh you just can't help loving the person. For such people, they might be building such characters just to gain favour but either way the character is the character and such attitude deserves nothing short of a good act also. Such people I draw close and even learn from them. Build a healthy relationship so symbiotic that you both carry each other along, this way it's no longer as a competition but as team work, here both of you learn from each other and improve.
Some others are very uptight, in fact you see it in their attitude that they are so keen on getting you down, they don't necessarily want your excelling all because of the role you play as its conflicting with theirs, and possibly a threat to their further existence in that place of work. What do you do, as for me it's game on. I stay good, I'm not planning on anything wicked or a blackmail, but its game on, I'm seizing every opportunity to do my best and constantly learn to upgrade. Learn, upgrade, be careful, and waste no opportunity is what I look out for. Well it's because I need to.
What is our priority, its family first, so the job was because I needed to earn to take care of the family, so trying to please someone or trying to get the competition to like you, isn't the way forward. It could be better to focus on the job, bearing in mind there is a competition, a likely competitor who can take your benefits away from you, so you focus and upgrade, seize all opportunities to be better and improve, try so hard not to engage in anything bad or evil. We stay good so that even God can be on our side, all this helps us to win. The main goal is to win right. We work forward to win at last, and we have to win rightly. Dubious means never profits long.
We know who our competitions are, you know them even when you don't tell them so, you know those people who you just wish something bad can happen to, something to get them out of the way, and get your mind at ease. However wishes are not horses so we have to keep seeing their faces from time to time, this often get our hearts racing and our mood angry most times, while we are lost in thoughts, especially in the area of work or relationships. Relationship could be worst cause your imagine goes far, thoughts like "has he gotten another girl", "where is he now", "What is she doing presently?", "could she be at his house now?", what if they are..... oh no", all this bothers our peace, competitions whether we admit it or not, is an issue we should see to resolve soon, or know our stand.
Thanks for reading, stay true to yourself, you're the best.
Mastering The Act Of Gratitude
Have you ever helped two people and got two different responses. One expressing gratitude while the other not expressing gratitude, how do you feel. It would always prompt us to do more for someone who has master the act of gratitude. Sense of entitlement is often seen in the long run and rebuked. Someone's bad habit of entitlement may not be perceived early, so he or she continues with such act, but as soon as it is perceived by the giver, it suddenly irritates and want to make that person stop helping.
Helping is always off freewill, you can convince someone into giving or work their emotions into being sympathetic enough to want to release unto you, but definitely not everytime, the best way to help and keep helping is when the person likes to help and sincerely wants to help, mind you sometimes we know someone is in dire need yet we don't want to let go because we wish to use that resources for something else more appealing to our soul. Now you wonder why some men would refuse their wives at home money only to give it to another girl outside, its simply because they are excited to help because of the exciting treatment they are to receive.
So how then do we get people to want to help us and be happy about helping us, simple - Gratitude. Gratitude sends a clear message of I did the right thing, I helped the right one. You know many times after we've rendered help we could still remember helping and wished we held back the resources, especially during times of going through financial difficulties. It doesn't mean we are bad to think that way you know, only that we needed it and found out we've spent it already then our mind asks question like "was it worth it " "has God blessed me for it yet" "Is the person worth it", but all this question can be avoided if the one helped showed gratitude.
Apart from easing the mind of the one helping, gratitude ensures we get more. I feel like knowing the right expression of gratitude is a skill to learn. Everyday people are being uplifted because they were humble enough to appreciate as they should or more. Its really is not easy preserving an upline relationship, I mean a relationship between a person of higher status and a person of lower status, it really isn't easy to bear and continue giving out what you have inside it could be ideas, it could be knowledge, it could be money, so many a person can offer to another, but all this needs gratitude as a substitute for payment especially in cases where you can't pay their bills.
I have issues with people who see no need to appreciate a man like them, they say "I can be too submissive to another human like me" others could say its only God I can be humble too", as much as I understand what they are saying, but life has its order and men has its respect accorded to it, if a man is requesting to be worshiped then such man is wrong, however men should be respected as earned, there are powers allocated to us and such powers can be exerted on a selected few, those selected subjects to him, such as a king, a boss, a mother, house owner, the wealthy, by virtue of positioning this people are deserving of respect to whom it applies, refusal to respect is termed foolishness.
However God blesses us through men, he doesn't offer the blessing in person, a fellow human is the conveyor. See it this way the conveyor is a human and his filled by personal characters, don't you think God can send him your way but an irritating character repels him from helping. Just as a man can seated with the king but after the conversation the king offers nothing cause nothing pleases him. While there have been others that have been helped tremendously just by spending fewer time with the king, I bet the secret to all this can still be found in gratitude, the act of appealing the soul, gratitude is a key and would help a lot when it becomes an habit.
More reason why we should wake up every day to gratitude, show that we are grateful for the wonderful help that God has always offered to us. These acts of gratitude is pleasing to God and would surely unlock more doors of blessing unto us. Can you remember how the story explains it in the parable of the 10 lepers, how that one person who came back to say thank you was blessed with an extra package more than the other 9 of the lepers, I bet the others would have seen the difference in the miracle and be amazed with how he got his so well and they didn't catch theirs as good as him.
Gratitude opens the mind to joy, imagine being happy with what you've done, it feels like a right investment and it sends joy down the spine. Leave pride for those who has it all but for all who still needs help to keep growing, I bet it's best we master the act of humility and gratitude, it helps a great deal.
Thanks For Reading this article, Let's inculcate the attitude of gratitude and enjoy the benefits it would surely birth forth. Let Love Continue To Lead.
This Thing Called Adulthood
Because I wanted privacy so bad, I kept on dreaming on becoming an adult, as though once I become an adult, all my worries in life are over, well no one told me better. Having to be dependent was so underrated, well because it was always sorted out I never really thought deep about how I'm going to take care of things for myself. To whom much is given indeed much is expected and that applies to this stage of adulthood. Adulthood comes with a lot of bills waiting to be paid monthly, working our asses off to get money, only for one thing or the other to take the money and it keeps circling that way, then we get married and kids comes to the picture and it only gets worse, oh my.
Yes we are responsible, but I can't deny not knowing why some people run away from responsibility, really it's tough, we can't sugarcoat it enough. So much needs to be taken care off, yet we still have our wants, we can only pray we are able to sort it all out. One frenemy of adulthood is actually debt, we all run from it and really want to avoid it, but there can be tough times in which ones choices are limited and can only resort into borrowing, and if there's anything I'm sure of, is that fact that we don't like paying our debt, its really painful having to pay for something you not enjoying presently, in fact you not going to enjoy it in the future cause you've already enjoyed it long ago, we don't like paying for the past.
We try to stay afloat especially when residing in a country with little help from the government, as the standards of living are high and not born with a silver spoon, and your friends are not encouraging, of course you'd notice the numerous fair weather friends around you, arriving at rosy times and fleeing at striving times, adulthood is a crazy experience for real. I can't help but speak also about the drama that being a grown up teaches me too, so much I've got to learn via experience, now I know not everyone likes me, not everyone smiling with me are my friends, oh some actually don't just dislike me, they actually have done something bad to me, but maturity entails we smile back at each other whenever we meet due to the common ground we share.
Being little has made me feel my parents were wicked when I demand and they don't provide. Maybe I thought they were so wealthy, oh how much I fought them that the food I got was so small and it won't be satisfactory to me. Currently sometimes I go the day with little food and I can't complain, no in fact I channel the feeling into motivation to do something more that would bring me off the hunger. When kids around shout at their parents I just get so uncomfortable, but I know its all time. In this life everyone learns nothing really comes easy.
Ever wondered what my dad was doing with my mother, why are they living together, what is the need, why stay together. Now here I am wanting a companion too, someone who would hold my hands and journey the world together. Someone who is a helper. No just to make children who would carry on my name, that would happen by Gods grace, but other than that someone who assist to make life better for us all. There is a place of finances to cater for all our needs, there's a place for taking care of our needs, both physical and sexual, there is a place of seeing we raise our kids to be as great as possible, there is also the place of someone who would help my religious faith to make the heaven together. A serious need for a companion indeed.
Being a grown up has brought me to a place where I appreciate everyone for their unique differences. Maybe because we all won't be here forever, as we are only in a journey to a external place outside earth. So each and everyone single one I come across to is a special being displaying Gods uniqueness, we all are people capable of massive possibilities, we can make and remake, we can invent and procreate, we are able to make something that would fully cause everyone to stand in awe. While I was Young I can fight with just anyone and not care, but now peace is a goal.
Being a grown up has taught me how spiritual life is, I have always taught things were so normal and natural, if you do this and do that, everything would be fine, God is not forcing us to pray and so it might not be important. But now I can see clearly how nonchalant and merely living we would be if we are living this life without powers. There are so many powerful men and women in the world today, commanding and controlling a lot, no doubt some are dark powers but best preferred let's get associated with the best power which is the that of our Creator God almighty through Jesus.
Being a grown up tell me money is a very powerful commodity for any and everyone to have, its has been a major say in the world today and it's still holding grounds till date. I have seen marriages that were role models for every eye split just because of money, people have shifted love to the corner and taken up money as a first priority. Parents have being seen advising their kids to go where the money is rather than where love reside. Even I myself might be following the money, its just so powerful. No wonder the bible say money answers all things.
One day I stood out on the street and studied everyone who walked pass and their likely reason for their journey today. Basically judging by their outfit or where I see them, and I can categorically say that most if not all of them were heading to some place if not for money, others might have been other reason like fun, family or exercise but most others which took a larger percent, possibly a 90% if scaled statistically were all for the money. So being a grown up has taught me how to appreciate every dollar that comes my way.
Being a grown up has made me know you can never stop learning and seeing new things, this world is full of surprises. People surprise themselves not to talk less about surprising other people. So I'll just keep living my grown up life, moreover I can't possibly return to the beginning, not sure I do want to return to my childhood days, adulthood is truly more interesting to be sincere, now we're here let's make the best off it. God help us all.
Thanks For Reading Guys, One Love. Keep Going Guys.
Stay Fit Stay Proud
Your body is yours to cater for, it's our sole responsibility and mandate to care a great deal for our bodies. There are quite a number of things people can do for you but the area of your body none but yourself can care for your body. Everyone wants to be admired, everyone wants to be looked upon as appealing, but it doesn't just happens so, there are works to be done. Caring for your body is a deliberate action of ensuring you are appearing in the best possible way you want. We can't control how our surroundings would be to an extent, but our bodies that we can control till we mould it into how we want.
You know more often what we hear of is how to control our emotions, how to build our mindset to the extents it brings substantial changes in our lives, we don't really dive into controlling our body, because we feel our bodies are always in control, they can't act without the will and message from the brain, well bodily control goes way beyond that. However there is a strong need to control not just your mind or emotions, can you also control your body, I mean your actual touchable body. Maybe some still don't understand. Now look at yourself, your legs, your hands, your body in full and say can I control this. Same way we were given our minds and our emotions and mandated to control it rightly, similar we were given our bodies too, and we are mandated to control it rightly.
It issues with controlling our bodies is the fact that we love it so much that we feel like we are doing enough to care for it. We look to look sparkle, we love to look fit, and sometimes we look ourselves in the mirror and feel sad, maybe I'm getting too thin, maybe I'm getting too fat, maybe my skin just got aches, maybe my legs swollen and we feel pained, and cause we feel pained we already feel like we are doing enough to care for ourselves, but actually we aren't doing enough, not yet at least. There is a difference between loving yourself and really knowing how to love yourself. Everyone loves themselves, but not everyone knows how to love themselves, or should I say not everyone works on themselves.
I have to hit the gym is something I've been saying for over 3 months now and yet I'm still home and unfit, when my friends comes around, they say I have to slim down, they say I have to build up my skinny muscles and I too see it for myself, so i say i have to hit the gym, then why haven't I hit the gym just yet. Does it mean everyone else is lazy to go to the gym like me, hell no, there are many people in the gym even at the moment, working out and handling their bodies, working on it step by step till it gets to the point where they are happy and excited with the changes, they actually handled their body.
Who told you it was easy, I sure didn't. But if so many people can do it, then we can too. I see people all around having my body goals already and I wish i could hasten the process till i get my body to that extent, but what can i do. I have to try for myself, just one body was placed in my care, and I have been lazy with it. If I don't take it serious upon myself, I can wonder who else would take it serious for me, maybe my partner but how long can she talk for, when I've been talking all my life. Its actually a call to say, if you don't like it, then change it, its changeable, oh its is very changeable.
Food, food is one major area we have to be cautious of, I have discovered that the food we take in are much more proportional to our we appear on the outside. We have to be very selective with our choice of food. There are so many food we can ingest, almost anything can be swallowed, especially when you love to eat like I do, but not everything should be taken when you're intentional about your body appearances. Sometimes I decided not to eat most of these items that can lead to breakouts on my face. Some very tempting that I really want to but I have to learn it till I can let go without stress, its part of my personal way for caring for my body.
Junks are so sweet and so nice to the eyes, but you know it has no good effects on you. Can you control your body and decide to go less on junks or stop it totally. It can be your way, the right step you need to take first in handling your body. For some it could be the opposite, it may be that they have to eat more, the need to gather as much flesh as possible, so they can add up. For some it could simply be getting enough sleep for others it could be to cut down on the excess sleeping. We need to know what it is that we must get off or on, we need to know how to care for your body. Do you know what it is, that you need to do.
Speaking more generally now, you'll see there are quite a number of foods that are very beneficial to us as humans, foods like fruits, vegetables, even water, and others from the regular diets we have, we could actually have an intending list of items we want to go by, more on fruits and vegetables, this helps a lot in handling your body. Of course you can take them alone and be okay, you'll get hungry, but its effect on the body is undeniable. I heard of a school that decided to change on their food plans for the students. At the end of the session, they had better performances and general improvements, much more than ever recorded. Someone adviced and it works, going green really works.
You'll be way happier when you have your bodies the way you want it to be, is it getting rid of the acnes, is get slimming down on the fats, is it getting more body fat, or is it building the muscles, or learning a new walking posture, or learning to talk more fluently, is it even taking your bath regularly, or working on the odours, all these and more little things that makes us happier, it boosts our self confidence and makes us appear more confident in public. It can't all happen in a day, but sure it can happen with consistency.
Thanks for reading, remember determination pays greatly. Stay determined.
The Streets Are Always Rough
It got to the extent I was scared of going outside, it felt like everyone hated everyone out there in the street, it was really rough with so much hates and strive. Almost likened to a jungle where it's a survival of the fittest. As I seat on the bus heading to my location, I often just want to close my eyes to the happenings around me. A quick peep through the window and there is two people fighting, cursing and ready to kill each other. Look through the other window and you can see oppression having it's way, with no one to come to the rescue of the weak. All I want then is to get home and take my mind off all of this.
You can't be too careful to avoid it, the streets comes for everyone, as gentle as I normally am, I too have gotten quite a number of back and forth with the street. Sometimes the best response has been to toughen up other times the best response has been to let it slide. We all have our agendas why we left home in the first instance, we all know why we are outside and that motive we must achieve. Only that a few others may want to stand on your way to achieving it, maybe by delaying you, spoiling your mood or even annoying you to fights, all these we have to pass before getting to our destination.
Sometimes I reason how lucky those people who work at home should be feeling, apart from saving them the cost of transportation, it also save them peace and rest. Since no one knows you and you're not related to anyone, they won't care about you and can say the meanest things to you and not bother apologizing. You'll think it'll hunt them later, like a normal cultured person would later feel bad for the wrongs he or she has done, but this dudes in the streets don't, infact they laugh hard about it and would do it again and again if opportunity permits. There is no conscience in the streets, home and friends has become the best place of peace, I just wanted be happy.
I can remember one time my phone was stolen outside, it was taken off my pocket, I never could imagine prior to that time I felt it was all good outside and everyone would be minding their businesses, but I was wrong. As soon as I noticed my cell has been stolen, I stood there stunned for about few seconds, I couldn't believe it as I kept searching but to no avail, I started walking restlessly around that area hoping I'll find it somewhere somehow, damn that person is a really wicked person, why do that to me. That was not all, something else happened that day that made me realize the street doesn't care one bit.
I saw a police vehicle park around and so I went in to complain, now that I'm thinking about it I really don't know what I expected them to do, my head wasn't really thinking straight, I just it all to be a lie, I wanted to snap out of it and see my phone again. The police officers after listening to me, told me to go to the station and write a statement, but I needed my phone, I don't want to write any statement or would that produce my phone. I wasn't going to leave that area I lost it, what if the thief came to beg and return, I need to be around, silly right, but that's how I sincerely thought. Then I went to meet few guys that sell phones.
Reason I went to meet this guys was because I knew they were rough guys and maybe someone among them stole the phone, as well as to look around if I'll see my phone with them and return to call the police, but as I got in I didn't see anything and I got morale down, I told them my phone got stolen few minutes back and this bunch of guys (I'm not going insult them here) started singing and laughing, its obvious they experience it everyday, it's more of a usual incident to them and has gotten so normal they expect everyone to not make a big deal out of it, like it's all life. Damn I was very angry that day, no support no help from anyone, I had to go home and sleep.
I'm pretty sure the person who coined the word "there's no place like home" would have had a lot of rough experiences from the streets. Its unfortunate that people have to put of with the nastiest of people with their inhuman behavior all because of money, people do the most just to get by experiences. If work is getting unbearable, one place we hope to be as soon as possible is back home with our spouse or loved ones, just relaxing and chatting with people whom you care about and likewise the special takes you specially too. Indeed love and peace is so underrated, love and peace does the most to our sanity.
I look forward to the time when the street would be a breeder for peace and responsibility. Where people aren't bully and there is love projecting from outside the streets, where people can comfortably stay longer hours out there in the streets not because they are confined to but because it isn't scary anymore infact it gives peace. All this however can't be possible without the help of the government for real, one major reason for the hate on the streets is poverty, as everyone is trying to gather the most they can for theirselves and their family, certainly greed is going to set in and hates follows. So as we work on ourselves individually, we also beg the government to act better, so the people can be happy before stepping into the streets and also happy when closing from the streets retiring home to rest.
Thanks For Reading guys, it's always amazing sharing my thoughts with you guys. Stay blessed. The streets are always rough and may not be getting calmer soon, y'all should be careful out there.
Luna At $3 OMG
I've seen a lot of craziness in the crypto space, some scenarios that just amazes us so much but for the most part its somewhat predictable, people already knew the potentials of the coin, they just aren't sure if it'll be soon or later or whether it'll happen at all. Can you imagine bitcoin reducing all from $31k to 10k, do you feel it'll ever get that bad? Definitely not, it's in the realm of possibility but it is more likely not going to happen. Well Same should be said for luna, apparently if it was going to dip there should be an extent to the dip, its not a shitcoin or new startup altcoins trying to find its place in the crypto space, it already recognized and widely used.
How then did it dipped all the way to $3. For the few who doesn't know how bad it is, this means it cut off from its place at 103 like 2 month ago until recently, then kept going down down down down, I feel for all those in loss right now. Luckily how I'd transferred my previous savings on luna to other crypto and to withdraw for personal use still amazes me now, I just felt like it wasn't bringing forth how I needed it so I bought something else, now I am just feeling lucky, cause truthfully It would have pained me so much, nah I could have been in such a bad news, I wouldn't get really bad.
Hodling has always been the safest route but I don't think that is the story for holders today, apparently it has become for the strong hearted too. Anytime can happen in the crypto space, its getting alarming. I sincerely feel bad having advice a lot of people into buying luna with the promise that it'll produce gain overtime, but now the tables are turned, i hope everyone in Loss are taking it calmly, yes they know what they were in for before entering into the crypto world but it is never easy losing money, worst case money intended for something important soon, indeed it really does hurt a lot.
I'll show a diagram of the downward fall of Luna so you'll understand better why people previously believed in it but don't anymore. As at the time it got to $83 we were saying it's too low but with the hope of an increase, little did we know that it'll only keep going down.
Clearly you can see how it has been dangling around $80 to $90 for some time which became the new normal, but with the hope that I'll grow soon, because it has previously pass the $100 mark we all were expecting it'll pass the mark again, shockingly here it goes, down down down, money gone down... reduced to a $3, a $3 now that is super low, so so super low, I can only imagine what a million dollars would have turn too now .. over a 90% decrease, it's really heart breaking. Well it's the game I guess, we move.
Like I always say the crypto world is so unpredictable, it has always been unpredictable, and the unpredictability is one of its greatest tools, if it was predictable then you and I should be cashing out millions from it daily, or do you? Well if you do I'll love to learn. So let's not be fooled anymore, no coin is certain to rise or fall, the best we can do is to critically study the market and make the smart choice, in all it's still your risk, whatever comes you should have already programmed your mind to acceptance.
Well you shouldn't run away from it, even if you run from cryptocurrencies, you'll soon run back, just this time you'll be standing way behind, so it's best we still stay in it, it keeps making people wealthy, it can make you too. I even feel like it's still a good time to buy the dip as most coins are decreasing already.
So as we can see it's all red in there, best time to buy the dip yet no certainty. We keep moving however. Luna shocked us all and I felt like I needed to express my shock and displeasure in its turn out, but you never know we could awake tomorrow to see it's gone up, it's the market we are in, it's the crypto space, here anything is possible. So you what you feel best and love by it, taking full responsibility of its gains and losses. In all we keep pushing through.
Thanks for reading guys. One love. Luna just caused an eclipse. Lol 😫.
Roll Away The Stone Or Use The Stone
Until we first see that there is a stone in front of us we may never see the need to push it aside. Maybe the stone is so decorated, it appears to be a right fit for you, so you don't want to roll it away. Many times the stone becomes a territorial fence, and you get comfortable within, you don't want to leave, well until you see what's on the other side, you may never want to leave. As far as we can see then we can get, as far as we can desire then we can push for. There are many stones right there standing as an hindrance, we really need to push it aside to experience a better placement. Will you roll away that stone?
Personally I like to think of challenges as a stone, which now resolves us to thinking what are we then going to do to the stone. While many may see the stone as a blockade, there are others seeing the stone as a step. You can say one is more realistic than the other or you can say they are both realistic, but truthfully one is more realistic than the other, the latter person who takes the stone to be a step might just be acting on believe, however this believe system can engulf a mind so much that it helps it become more realistic than the first who sees the stone for the blockade it is naturally.
It's no falsehood that people can turn situations around to their favour. Yes you guessed right, it's in the mindset as well as it's in taking the right action. It's really not enough to believe in yourself for positivity, it's also needed that we take the right steps for better productivity. The world is desperately wicked with so many instigators of fear into the minds of ordinary people, this fear they can successfully instigate produces for them their gain off your losses, not talking about money alone, ego is at stake, respect is submerged, they take full control. Any challenges that can successfully instigate fear into you has won already, you see we need to act, can you use that stone or better still roll it away.
Now, there is something we really want but can't get, that is a stone in front of us, maybe the stone is a person, let's say the manager in charge of an item you desire. Firstly, "seeing the stone as a blockade" for someone who takes a challenge to be a blockade, how do we feel the response would be, stop right. That's what we all do to a blockade, a blockade is a stop sign , a call to retreat. Just like driving and you see a blockade, you don't go further, there must be a good reason for the blockade. So it's retreat, there is a stone here, I give up. I'll get another item, that man is a wicked man, he doesn't want to release it, oh what wicked world.
Meanwhile Someone elsewhere sees the same challenge too, still as a stone, but now as a stepping stone, not a blockade. What does this do to the mind, and what likely result are we expecting from this guy who sees the stone as a step instead. Obviously, a step says come, keep going, so naturally we expect that this guy sees the challenges as something that has a bright future, there is something ahead, that's why this stone is here, I'll climb it, then keeps pressing ahead. Maybe the manager Is too wicked and refuses to give it to either of them, but one thing is sure, this guy would try harder and won't easily give up, a trait that helps us become achievers.
I have taken time to research on few of these guys making waves currently, am like was it all easy for them, were they just lucky, I mean more lucky than the many rest, eventually I could see that for many, they were not born into this living, oh infact the odds were not to their favour, but they could take crazy leaps. I guess the higher the risk , the better the reward, it's a standard the world has been going with. Still the higher the odds the higher the loss, just incase it doesn't go so well, so this also would make a million people withdraw. Only few actually see a stone for the step it can, many see it as a blockade.
At least we should try, maybe we should start seeing this challenges first as stones, then secondly as steps. Steps are not really negative, still they are not fully positive either, I guess some people still don't like the staircase, some prefer not to climb the steps, they say its tiring, of course its tiring, if you want to go upstairs and the step is the only way up, then you have to do the work, or still stay downstairs with your popcorn comfortably. Same goes for the issues of life, we know where we are headed for, so if we think the process is stressful, then we need to rethink, its sometimes easier to retreat than keep pushing forward, however forward is where we ought to be.
Yes, it starts from a mindset, then it slowly gets into an habit, a new insight to how we view things, and believe me it would help. Firstly knowing it's a stone, maybe it's a big stone but it can be climbed and you can step it over, climb it to your destination, March on to the bigger picture. Today the blinds are becoming educated, writing, playing instruments, the deaf are communicating almost normally, more normally than few people who has ears, the lame are moving comfortably. it's almost as though there is no blockade anymore, so what could that your challenge be, come on its just a step, climbed over it.
Thanks for reading, I really do love you all. Thanks for the continous support. Stay in control.
One Good Turn Deserves Another
We most definitely would have heard this clause, parents told us, school taught us, friends made reference to it, even life experiences further buttress this point, in all we must agree that it's so true, one good turn definitely deserves another. One thing I've learnt over time is that nothing stays the same forever, in fact the only thing that never changes is change itself cause change must always occur. However its worthy of note that it determines if the person or thing wants to act or to be acted upon before a change can happen, if nothing effects a change, or if someone does work towards the change then it would remain constant, it's not that supernatural to understand, its just the way things are.
In other words the moment you decide to get up and work towards effecting a change then and then you are likely to get a change, don't just fold hands and expect things to go right for you. The best way to stay on top has been by helping people rise too, this way you have created some support system in place, peradventure times get slightly down, you might not feel it so much, because you have people who can cover up for you. Tables turn, you really want to be prepared at all time.
Sadly how many others tend to grow pride and their time of success, I'm always baffled, like do you know how and what life has and entails, pride goes before a fall, how aware of that statement are they, if they were aware they would have curb down the pride and see better alternatives to secure themselves better. The way the actual human minds work, we all want to lead, and wish we would be the best, its not bad though, what is bad is when we get angry or unhappy that people are rising to our levels, it's still not that bad to be jealous or unhappy at least you're human, what's really bad and evil is when you try to ruin it for the person, just so it's you and you alone.
Tables turn and just same way mr A is planning to take over from mr B, its same way mr C who has been watching everything happen and play out would be plotting too to take over for mr A, so as much as possible, you want to ensure you doing right by nature, you want to ensure you're not planting the wrong seedling into mother nature, cause someday we all would be reaping off what we have sown. So live right, be right and stay right, not that alone, be good to others, learn to help,so that it would be easy to be helped too. I noticed the normal human nature not like to help, we want to be helped but we don't like to help, in fact we don't want anything to be a burden to us, whatever it is that wants to take up our time, money or energy, we are quick to decline but hope that someone else would take us seriously when we are in need.
Most times we get annoyed and vexed to discover that a friend is not showing interest in helping and we hold this grudge. Its not easy to help, however the best way to ensure we can still get help, though not certainly but that somehow or someone surely would help is to have helped others. In as much as betrayal could happen but there are more probability that you'll be helped. You could call it a strategic investment, you could call it playing smart, you could call it whatever you choose to call it, as long as it helps someone and put a smile on faces it's a good act.
Someone once said he didn't like the idea, oh if you want to help someone, why not help them without expecting anything in return,just help selflessly. I understood the angle where his thoughts was coming from and I know we have to help without any strings attached, moreover you can't force them to help you back if needed, if they choose not to, then that's it, unless you can to leverage with your assistance, which in that case of urgency won't be a bad idea, you know. Actually i don't think anyone truly makes it big without help. In one way or the other we were all helped and as truly as the sun and moon we were helped on the hope that one day we would return the favour and help them too. Still in a way preparing for when the tables turn.
Growing up as little children we were still dependent, our parents were independent and were helping us, why do we feel they had to help us, it's all an investment, it doesn't matter if you like the word investment or not, it is what it is, the only difference was that it was a must do investment, mandated to all parents, but those kids are the surest support any parent can bank on. Your brothers can try, your friends can try but the surest support you can get is that of your children. However sooner than later the tables turns and this parents get aged and now dependent, while the children independent, what happens now, now that the tables have turned what occurs, I guess the investments starts paying off.
One good turn deserves another, tables do turn, not necessary a rich man goes back to becoming poor, that's not what I mean by tables turn, there a many ways the rich needs help, you never know how you could be of help to a rich person and become the answer to his long time prayer. So indeed, do good, help now, this way you can and would be helped whenever the need arise for you. When the tables turn, how many people have you secured on the other end to help you get back up. Learn to help to, it's also an investment for yourself, cause truly nobody knows tomorrow. A lot a true life stories to back this up, you must have heard of one anyways. For real tables do turn.
Do well to render help often and more often, it never goes wrong, set your mind straight to the father of all with him is all reward and expect from him alone, with that you can never get disappointed, still never look down on anyone, tables really turn. Thanks for reading, remain happy.
Learning To Speak Nicer
Atmosphere most times isn't determined by the climate change, sometimes it's how the conversation between two people are going, how smooth or how rough. Many times there are tensions rising from an intending meeting with someone, before you get there you were nervous, but as soon as the person spoke to you, the mode and manner at which he received you, you'll notice how all the fear suddenly left. Its not that you can build your confidence, rather its in the fact that words and create its own environment., if you want someone afraid, sad, happy, proud, you can simply do it via your words coupled with corresponding actions. Words indeed are life and they can make alive.
I have always believed the scriptural verses that says out of the fullness of the heart the mouth speaks, so most times how people relate to you and how they speak to you directly goes a long way to show their reception towards you, whether you're accepted or you're not. I'm one to care about the tone of your voice, the way it projects out and to crown it all, the facial expressions, all these tells you what you need to take home from a meeting with someone else, if maybe you'll be expecting to see more from them or you better be running far away from them.
Some people are so impolite, their words sends so much hate to the world at large, and they feel its okay. Formerly I feel they haven't meant someone who was bold enough to face them and give them a fair share of their does, but later found out that wasn't the case, infact they are very aware of what they are and what they are doing. Some has built up this attitude as a defense mechanism, a way to keep others off them from preying on them. They appear all strict and wicked to people so that they fear and think twice before trying anything funny with them, until you see how polite they are with few people whom they have accepted.
Its not enough to know how to speak or having a clearer voice to communicate better, it's still not enough to know how to speak a language fluently, one aspect we should see to, would be the area of speaking nicely and politely to another person. Some people we see don't care how the words comes out of their mouth and they also don't care how you recieve the words, if you got hurt by it or was matured enough to let it slide, or be bold enough to confront the speaker about your disapproval of such words, all that doesn't matter, in fact they can't care any less, and this should be an issue.
That has been a claim I guess, cause no one would naturally be impolite to someone who is in a position to help them. Those who they speak so harshly to are those who they feel can offer them nothing at all. But how wrong can you be? We could have judged and sized someone especially from the first appearance, so typical of we humans as though we never learn that even the wealthiest still maintain a simple lifestyle, however we are waiting for the glamorous and elegantly dressed before we can greet and act all nice. This is so wrong, being polite should come naturally, it should be an habit.
What can be gained from speaking badly to another, maybe when someone who has gone way off limit and need to put in check, then it can be understood why such actions would be necessary. But for the regular day to day activity and it's just your habit to insult and abuse, you may be funny but trust me when I say you're missing out. Maybe some people you've met in time past has prompted such habit, but then there should be a better alternative of minding how you open up to people on first time, until you are familiar and knows they are work your niceness, but being so impolite generally, is so bad and places one with a bad name, amidst shifting people far away from them.
Humans are social beings and interactions are basically part of our survival mode. We need to communicate, more reason why we still feel incomplete when we dont have a human to human interaction, that form of boredom can be so agonizing. So for a lifestyle we all must communicate, but when your communication is going to be an issue, then you're personally taking yourself to a secluded island, one void of people, people tend to drift away from such person. It may not look like it not, but that is more of an inevitable result should such crazy attitude persist. Talk nicely to people at least until you know they don't deserve it.
The need for knowing how to speak calmly cannot be fully exhausted, just a nice word could have solved most of the worlds greatest crises till date. You begin to see how everyone is quicky adapting these mood of impolite behavior as though it helps boost the status quo, its pride and nothing less. Speaking politely generally gets people happy and closer to you, from which you can benefit a lot from, be it for business sake, be it to foster a relationship, be it for peace to reing, be it for people to adapt, be it for sake of future needs or opportunities.
Actually what annoys me most is how people want to spread that negative energy, when they're sad they want others to be sad, yet when they are excited they don't care about making others excited. Speaking politely doesn't cost money so it shouldn't pain when people are not receptive to it, you dont stop being good over the little few bad eggs, how about the many good. Focus on the many good and see more reason to stay good. Stop hurting people with your words, stop deriving joy from speaking impolite to another. Learn right, you indeed stand much more benefit naturally and heavenly when you can brighten someone's day with your polite manner of approach and speaking. That good morning with a smile could be all someone need to see good in today and stay happy throughout, you too are being blessed for it.
Thanks for reading, stay loved and blessed, spread love not hate.
Utilize Your Charms
Wait a minute, I don't mean the voodoo kinda charm, we all got our charms, yeah you have your charm, it helps you alot, i guess that's what a charm is meant to do, help us in places we can't ordinary scale pass. Just as the Bible explains when it states that " The gift of a man maketh ways for him", that gift is a charm, your gift is a charm, its only a wise decision when we can study our charms and find ways to make it work for us, it's not you being unfair, it's you getting the best out of yourself using every possible tool you can use. Imagine being in a competition and it looks like you're losing, immediately you start to think on what you can use to turn the odds around.
So many ladies enjoy the use of their charms more often, almost always, firstly just being a lady is a charm, it's not their fault, God designed it that way. More businesses and companies would seek to employ a female more than seeking to employ a Male. Wait, should I tell you a secret, please don't tell anyone, do you know some ladies are working today because they are just beautiful, maybe they are competent for the task, maybe not, but what truly earned them the job was how they mesmerize the heart of the Interviewer. In fact I'd once heard "let's let her work, she'll beautiful the office " and it's TRUE. Some real good looking guys too have enjoyed this benefits. Its their charm, you should know your charm.
However for that role the girl got, other ladies applied for the job, a more prettier ones too, then what made her selected, it could be luck, but more often it's because she has understood how to compliment her charm, yes she's beautiful but the has learnt to dress well too, smell real good, talk so smooth, when she adds up all these things she has learnt to her God given charm, boom the deal is won. We all got our charms, if only we know it and find ways to improve on it, just knowing what your gifts are isn't good enough, there are thousands of people with similar gift, how then would you stand out, if you don't improve on it.
It's not enough to know how to sing, are you kidding me, haven't you watched any musical competition, do you see the numerous talents around your locality, talk less of the world. We all know that you're a great writer, your books are magnificent, but you also know some friends who write also, you learn a thing or two from them. Dancers are constantly in the battle for who moves best, no wonder you always find them rehearsing and learning new moves, the talent are there, the charms are input and are not going anywhere else, but it'll be a smarter choice to constantly improve your charm, it makes it more effective.
I love to make references to the bible on my articles, truth be told there are a lot of lessons to learn from the Bible. Did you read on the parable of the talents Jesus talked on, if yes then that summarizes my article for today, all were given talents, though in different portions, but they were all given, but only two of them decided to improve on the talent while the guy with the lower talent hid it and didn't multiply it, oh how furious the master was when he return, in fact he had to drive him out. A great lesson for us, the answers we seek are mostly within our capacities, but have we built our gifts to that extent to sort it out for us.
God who bestowed you with such gift Is the all wise God, its more like a tool to help you navigate life's challenges on a more easier way. You do yourself no good when your charms stay dormant. It isn't going to explode in you so there's no need to be scared, but on the end when you realize how much you limited yourself just because you were either too lazy or shy to utilize your God given talent, then that disappointment should beat you up, and I'm pretty sure our creator won't be so happy with you either, cause you could have used it for greater good for humanity but there you were idle making your charms inactive.
Quickly I'll like to note that charms aren't limited to talents alone, some charms are desires, desires to a man is a great propellant, there is a very high tendency that whenever a man greatly desires something he gets it. That drive keep pushing him, so when you see people who keep trying something and failing but never stops, such people really yearning for it would eventually get it finally. So that desire you have could be your charm, everyday we awake to the burning desire in our heart, we really want things to go a certain way but we don't make any move towards it, we not making a move is yet another barrier to our charms.
Let's know our charms today and look to find the purpose behind the charm being gifted to us, life is way more living and dying someday, life is meant to be meaningful and this charms are more like a ticket to set us on our race as competent candidates. Same charm that beyonce explored to make her once of the greatest voices in the world, same charm Michael Jackson has been using since Jackson 5, same charm as desires that Martin Luther king jr used in actively fighting for justice, same charm as Ben Carson had for his profession that made him learn enough to be respected today. Don't run away from your charm, rather embrace it, study it and use it.
Thanks For Reading. A happy new Month to you all. Welcome to the Marvelous month of may, God's light is Shining all over us in Jesus name Amen.
Do You Have Answers To Everything 🙂
A lot of mysteries remain unanswered, looking for answers to it would lead to several theories but never a certainty. Not only in nature but also in our natural occurence, so many questions remains unanswered till date, why are things the way they are? Who and what is responsible? However we don't have a choice but to keep living, demanding for an answer is simply useless, only God can for give the surest answer any answers given by man in all our wisdom would still be based on assumptions, no one is truly certain.
Just as it is written in the bible, from which I will sight a vivid example, remember how everyone was curious to inquire from Jesus if this guy that was born blind had a hand in his situation, or maybe it is his parents, such questions that none could answer, probably they were expecting him to give an answer to point towards someone so they can also know how to link their predicaments to someone too. Imagine Jesus said yes it was the sin of the parents that caused such, believe me the world would never be the same again, for every bad thing that happens to us we would go to hold our parents accountable.
Likewise if Jesus had said, It was his fault or God did it to him cause he was going to be a bad person if he saw, then the world too would be different as we would blame ourselves so much, in fact there won't be empathy to those going through a lot, when we see someone who is going through a hard time, we would be quick to conclude either they are bad people so God did it to protect the world or they have already done something wrong and that was their punishment, which ofcourse would be a wrong notion about God who indeed is a loving father, more loving than our earthly parents. But yes some answers remains unknown, but all things works together to the glory of God, this we know.
Imagine a world where we know all the answers, to every bothering questions we know the answers, we can tell the future and know how it all would end, imagine that kind of world, it would really be a tasteless world, the world is interesting today cause it's full of suspense, it's full of hope, of faith, people willing to try and people simply giving up, just like a game, you only know the rules but you never know where you're heading too, tired or not you keep playing, moving or static you keep playing, until the referee blows to end game, every keeps playing, just that here we all don't end game all together, the referee ends our game different, up until the final end game.
Why was I not born into a wealthy home, is one question I often ask myself, why do I have this face, can't I just look like Chris Brown or usher, why am I the second of four siblings, why didn't I come first or third or even last, all these and more questions of things we didn't affect, we just met it that way and we begin to ask God as if it wasn't a fair game. I bet if we all was asked to select some things we wouldn't select where we were born, I for one could have chosen to be born in a palace just like eddie Murphy of Coming to America, where all my wishes can come through with the pretties of maids to my service, you know what I mean 🤫, and I can travel to find my bride anywhere in the world. Wow life is good.
Now I'm here, we all were not asked before we were selected and predestined, but if we are sure of anything it should be the fact that God knows best. He knows we are best suited for the job with our mindset and forthcoming experiences, he knows we could someday break every looking barriers and become that which was once unthinkable. It wouldn't be the first time we would see or hear of great transformations from grass to grace, from the slums to luxury, everyday people break out of poverty and believe me luck doesn't break it, its consistency and dedication that pays overtime, ask around.
Do you have answers to everything? Someone once pondered on why he had an accident, what possibly could be the reason for such wicked act happening to him, friends and family and pastors all came together and none could answer such questions, was it a punishment from God, was it a kindness compared to what was supposed to happen? What about the young people who have died, how about the parents who have lost their kids, definitely such pains comes with a lot of questions, it's a sensitive time, so sensitive that if you know have a comforting answer you had better keep your mouth shut. But yet no answers are compelling enough, everything leads to more questions.
No one has all the answers he or she needs, we can never have all the answers we need, or knowledge is limited and our wisdom is shallow, in God lies all the answers to our questions, it's always best we inquire from him alone as he alone can tell us best in the way our hearts would understand. Life is full of mysteries, but in God lies all the answers we need just has apostle Paul said in the book of Collosians 2 verse 2 as he said our hearts would be comforted in everything, even to the acknowledgment of the mysteries of God, further down in verse 8 he advices us to be rooted in God in Faith so we won't be mislead by people and their wrong philosophies, as no one can truly give us all answers except God.
One major reasons why heaven would be most interesting is a fact that all questions would be answered, some already are being answered on earth for as many that inquire of the lord and the bible say seek and we shall find, so when we earnestly pray, definitely God would reveal unto us. It's all good guys, stay in faith, and keep the consistency as it really rewards. So many questions remains unanswered yes we know but in all keep moving and striving unto a better and brighter tomorrow.
God bless you for reading, no one has all the answers of your heart, not even the wisest king Solomon, only God does, so pray to him and he won't only answer, he would help. Keep reading ❤.
The Feeling Called Shame
Everything God made in us has its uses, I have at some point talked on the benefits of anger, I've at some point talked on fear, today I want to talk on shame. Would you count the feeling of shame as an all bad feeling, more like the world would be a better place without anyone feeling ashamed? Sometime I was walking along the road and saw a young man dressed so bad, he literally was holding his trousers as he bounces along the road, then someone saw him and said "he has no shame", in other words could the feeling of shame be a good thing as it helps curb our excesses, cause definitely as human our thoughts runs wild and the one thing that could help us remain sane could be this shameful feeling.
Yes, just a small amount off the Shame is used to keep the society in check. Already there are many stubborn people in the world, very stubborn to the level that they don't see the police cell as a punishment anymore. How then can we keep a sense of sanity in the environment is thereby attaching circumstances that could alter their image. People like to be self pleasing, when their mind have told them already to avoid this or that because the embarrassment it'll lead to would be unbearable, the humiliation is part of the reasons we avoid crimes, we sometimes don't care about serving the sentence.
Shame slightly similar to pain are not so good feelings but they are very necessary. Infact they help a great deal. Have you ever imagined a world where you don't feel ashamed, or have you met someone without shame before, what do you think? It might seem amusing but soon to be disgusting. Why do you keep doing that, have you no shame. Its expected that shame helps us keep ourselves in check, by ourselves knowing this thing isn't pleasant, it'll be so embarrassing to engage in, or this can get me into a bigger mess should I embark, and withdraw. Shame is bad, but it's a feeling that helps too.
One big difference between us all and the mad men in the streets are the feeling of shame. The lost all sense of shame, things you wouldn't do on broad daylight is what you can see them doing, mind you sometimes they do what you want to do but can't do. Some of us which we could just dance to that good music we hear as we are walking by, but you can't dance, it'll be embarrassing right, people won't think that you're only being expressive, they would quickly tag you as mad. So shame is part of our self imposed guidelines, it draws the border, one that helps us stay good.
It's also a punishment, this punishment is part of the worst kinds of punishment one can face, in fact the worst punishment can't be death alone, making someone feel this shame can be very suffocating, this is one reason why some kill their selves, the can't bear the shame anymore, it's gotten so deep that they see no need to keep living, the shame has eaten up all essences of living. It's takes a good wording, or good prayer to get someone who's in shame to start feeling good again, often times the have to bear the trauma till time forgets. So shame is a punishment, we need the small amount to shame to keep the society sane.
Shame also helps us to work hard to be better, it's the system the educational system uses to make us learn and work hard. Imagine putting a number of students in a classroom and at the end of the academic session, one student would emerge top and the rest follows in sequences, also another student would surely emerge last. It's not a good feeling, we know it's a serious comparison, like why would james come first and I am coming 5th, what does he have that I don't have, moreover we do play together and I appear smarter than him, all this gets us working hard.
Peradventure there is anytime you got into a heated arguement with your friend and he abuses you with something he has done or has gotten better than you, can you remember the shame, so bad I know. For days you might get praying that God turns the table around and puts you on top so you can go back and give them a piece of advice. This are normal life occurrences, sometimes more severe and heart breaking shaming, but it has it's way of helping us be serious about changing somethings about our lives. Everyday we wake up and know we have to work hard but we still find ourselves lazy, but that day you'll be shamed, it the day you take it seriously, why is that?
So shame isn't something to pray for. No I don't think anyone Hopes to be put to shame, however our actions would bring reactions, so we sometimes maybe insulted and shamed. Moreover there would always be something to insult a person with, especially when you look closely to the person. No one is perfect. But this shaming gets us up and more active, it gets us working and serious about putting an end to it. It may be Gods way of making us get serious with ourselves, cause Shame doesn't need anyone to force you, it makes you feel it to the point of changing.
Thank you guys for reading, Shame isn't good but it's a necessary feeling giving by God to put sanity in the heart of man. Stay loving.
Recklessly Loving
Birthing a child is one of the priceless gifts, one would definitely feel like they can finally lay down their lives for something, someone so important and still feel good about their actions, it's a stronger kind of love, it's a different kind of bond, this bond of a father or a mother to their kids is so unique, nothing comes close to comparison. However it doesn't always appear so, we have seen deviations from this theory as we have seen parents disown their very beloved, we have seen others sell off their children and this and more acts would make you wonder if the first rule really stands., it's a crazy world you know.
It mostly appears that most parents are loving and caring to their kids more at that tender age when they look innocent and harmless and only causing mild troubles, but when they are grown, they get more annoying as parents have to constantly remind theirselves that the kids have to be loved no matter what. It isn't easy though. Unconditional love really doesn't exist anymore among everyone, In fact I'm sure it never did exist in everyone, one a very few people would love unconditionally as we are all subject to the factors of this world and we has its way of affecting our decisions.
All over history, just one man has proven to love without tangible reasons, love without conditions, love in the wrongs and the right, love through thick and thin. He is popular of the reckless loving of his children, and he isn't prepared to love them any less. Even in the repeated instance of people trying to run away from his love only to mess up theirselves and see a way to return, there is the father with his arms open wide, ready to accept them all over again. He has showed and proven that he can give his life for his beloved children. The only father that loves Recklessly.
Everyone has a thing or two that really catches them, at least something you can do the unthinkable for, maybe involuntary or voluntary, it could be money, it could be food, it could be sexual pleasures, it could be alcoholism, it could be anything not mention it, most times we see how people kill for this reasons, an hungry man being angry kills someone, because to hide an affair or to continue such affair, people have killed the opposition or get them driven away, the issue of money is the main opposition to love, a million and more reasons can be shared as to how money counters a love action.
But then in all, love is the strongest force there is and would ever exist, it's all a matter of the heart, be it money, be it food, possessions, pleasures, anything just name it can never win over true love, there are so many people who have picked a partner at the expense of one or two or more of this, it's all about how deep the love is, just as a mother doesn't care for shame when it comes to helping their kids, everything can wait, the money, the fame, the pleasure, its what matters most that comes first. Recklessly reaching to the topmost priorities of our heart, this kind of love my parents have shown me, yet they can't always love recklessly.
There is someone who doesn't mind loving me Recklessly, even in times of my misbehavior, he still stands sure and is there helping me through. And to think I mess up constantly, yet is corrects in love and would always come through for me again. Its tactics indeed is love, most times it appears choking, as though it's a burden, as though we need freedom from him, it appears as a strict father, but then we see clearly that such is not the case, this father is all we have and should be needing. He is the sweetest ever, with him is true freedom, under his shelter is true refuge, he brings the definition of love clearer than a mirror.
You guess right, I'm talking about God, our creator, his mercies are truly forever. The way he saves and helps even in times when our faith is low. I mean we could just be doing an intentional wrong that lands us in trouble, but as we pray to call on him for help, swiftly he helps and he doesn't take a dime to do so, indeed this father is the father of fathers, he operates also as a mother, he alone does it all and does it so well. Its amazing to see and hear of stories of people who shows unconditional love too, it clearly shows the zeal to emulate the being of God, it's not an easy thing to do to love no matter what and help in critical times but the fact that people can still do it, in this world is worth commending.
The inspiration came from the story of a popular singer who decided to share life story of a love unconditional, at first when she sang the song expressing a mothers love for her child, one would think all is well, only to recently find out that the son she sang for was disabled, yet she still gives an 100 percent attention and care even till the expense of her career. According to her, she has been advised to kill her child as such children are expenses and would drain her financially and emotionally but she refused. Here she his today expressing her mind, and yet still choosing to stand by that one son whom the lord has given her, such a hard decision, but true love exist, it's truly God in a human, it takes enough courage to dedicate one's life for another, especially someone as annoying as you an I.
God bless everyone who loves genuinely, I pray that your labour neve goes unrewarded. We thank God for his every enduring mercy, cause without it we would have been long gone. Thanks for reading guys. Stay Loving.
Do We Have To Lie?
Most times when people act like they have no motive to lie and they only tell the truth at all times, I just smile in disbelief, because I know it's not only about the age that subject people to lies but about the intensity of the situation. We are humans and as far as we are humans there are every tendencies that we are liars. Yes, no one is to be trusted. However I fear those people who lie for a long period of time, I mean those people who gradually lead you on, could be for days, months or even years, all with the motive to deceive you, those guys are a different kind of liars, that is wickedness I must say. However there is what we all do, lie to escape a present threat or predicament.
Lies have so become in our nature that we have to think deep to remember when last we lied, when in reality we just lied a few hours ago, reason we forget is because it wasn't a serious issue, or we have gotten so used to lying that it all appears normal. Nevertheless as diligence and truth has its benefits so does lie have its fruits too. Have you ever heard of the phrase that whatever we start with lies we would have to keep using a lie to cover up, and it wouldn't end up until the truth would eventually surface. Lies shouldn't be normal, we can actually not normalize lies anymore.
Yes we can get away with some lies, but still we won't get away with others. A good example has been as kids lying to our parents or just causally lying to a friend. Yes they may not discover, so true they may never discover, not everyone discover a lie, some would even die without getting to know some truth, its reality, as far as you seek you shall find, if you don't seek out the truth and you expect mother nature to suddenly pity you and reveal the truth to you somehow, then you've got to be very special or very lucky, cause it rarely ever happens. So some lies we've lied to our parents and they haven't discovered till date, they may never discover at all, even it's useless now, what does it matter anymore.
However there are some circumstances that have a lot tied to it, could be the tears of people, people hard earned money, families banking on something, and someone somewhere decided to use a lie to steal it away. Well they can get away with it though, yes very possible, but in most cases the victims are pained and are determined to get to the end of the matter, you really would wish they gave up, because each step taking is likely to expose the truth. Invariably it's a harder task to the liars as they need to set a lot of things in place to assist the lie gain more ground. You know what I mean right, just like bribing someone to falsely testify.
The path of the truth are mostly the easier route, its doesn't demand much planning and manipulation, it's natural state is good enough to testify. The moment we seek to go away from the truth, there comes the task, it becomes like a cumbersome job. Though then all we would care about is finding a way out of the problem, so if the lie seem to be a route, we wouldn't mind taking it. We really don't see that a lie is mostly a dead end, it always appear is the safest option, but then it's the road that destroys it all. Even when you're not all that guilty, once you're caught in a lie, it's hard to defend yourself anymore, all trust is gone.
Another implication to lie is really that trust betrayed. The people who hurt you most are those you trust most right? You must agree. Same goes for a lie, a lie needs an ingredient of trust for it to be successful. Ask people who have been hurt and lied to, they would mostly reveal how well they trusted the person who betrayed them, and ofcourse the after effect is that it increases the number of hurting people who find it hard to trust and give people a chance. The stigma of a lie really affects, it wouldn't matter much when a stranger dupes you, it hurts but never as much as when it's a close person. We can do better, stop hurting people with lies.
We all lies, it's normal, but when it would cause harm to someone feelings then I believe it's never worth it, the pains goes deep. Especially for those lies that steals off people sweat or accolades, such lies doesn't just go unattended to, the truth surely finds it way to come out overtime, the benefits only last for a while. Its actually very possible to cut down on lies to the barest minimum, and I mean even in tense situations, without much options we can still decide to stick by the truth, as it has already been established that only the truth can set us free. It's not really easy, but the truth is always worth standing by.
We can stay by the truth, we can do better, we can see no need to lie and hurt our brother feelings cause we don't need anymore person in the world going about with the trust of people, we need to establish that people can be trusted and this trusted people would in turn fulfill their end of the bargain. As much as the lies need to stop, people need to ease out on how they respond to the truth, if someone can summon a courage to tell you the truth, then you too should try your possible best to calm down on it. All is well, always have in mind that we are only human. God help us all.
Thanks for reading. The truth really sets free, stand by the truth.
Working On My Motivation
A lot is going on around the world, crazy happenings left and right, things that we constantly ponder on and it sets us off mood. We really need encouragement and if we can't get the necessary motivations as desired, then we've got to build it for ourselves. Growth is not an option, we must keep growing. How then can we build this motivations for ourselves? what can we do to assist ourselves? It's ok to take strategic steps, it's for your own good, for our improvements and success life. Just as a man packing out of a street to go live in another street that offers more attractions to people of his ambitions, that's a strategic step and its smart.
Being strong regardless is one thing I'll concluded to day everyday, the world would keep playing its game, not minding how we feel, but we also are to play ours, not angry or bitter, not disappointed or frustrated, maybe tired, maybe we are trying so hard to hang on, but quitting is not an option. To a greater extent we must find reasons to keep going, we must find motives to look ahead and believe a better day is around the corner, but how do we get reminded in a world of constant pressure, how do I correct myself in a world of constant pushing and struggle, just how?
Stay Around Encouraging Friends, it does so much to find someone who doesn't only listen to you, but he is ready to fight alongside with you till everything is okay. We never know how much steam we burn off whenever we share our burdens with someone. Its always said that a problem shared is a problem half solved. In actual senses the problem doesn't disappear, nor does it get lighter, what happens is that we get someone who would know exactly how you feel. Someone who can relate and make you know that you're stronger than the problem. We all need someone who can help us start a day thinking today would be better.
This help goes farther down the road, just like someone trying so hard by themselves can be discouraging sometimes, getting a companion at times helps makes the journey lighter, same goes with the troubles of life, having someone you can talk to, also makes the weight lighter. Mostly our families feel in the gap, more reason why we seek a life partner too, they are our tag team partners, we won't get stressed or frustrated easily. You know, we all can really use a shoulder at trial times.
Give time to study and learn about life, get wisdom and get knowledge constantly, this helps us think broader and see solutions to diverse issues. Writers and doctors are not that different after all, both saves with hands, one operates the body, another operates on the mind. Writing has been a tool that has saved us from time immemorial down to this present age, for example taking a drive down an unfamiliar road and you read Don't turn left, thereby directing us, or you see "Wet Wall" don't touch, how about "Highly Toxic" don't touch, or the tankers having highly flammable so we should be well cautious, all this and more are still nothing compared to those detailed articles and stories people have shared for others to read and learn from it.
However ensure it's a book writing by a wise person. Writers are no doubt life savers, overtime people have come out to share thoughts, experiences, ideas, true life events, and open it to the world, something that everyone can read and learn from. No doubt solutions has emerged from one or two books, be it a need for relationship corrections, be it a need for marital advice, be it a search for wealth, or a quest to improving an aspect of ones life, however it is, no matter it is, someone has experienced it and has shared it, therefore it's most probably written down already with a likely proffered solution. So for the new day, try to read, read something worthy of your desires.
I can remember an old time movies called "3 Idiots", something so profound happened In it, the fact that one of the lead characters, if not the main lead was always used to saying all is well. Now the movie depicted how things was rough and should be worst but that believe system worked to his favour and the end showed it all. All is well guys, no matter what the problem might be, our life is in Gods hands and everything is working together to favour us. Have this believe, meditate on it till it sinks into your subconsciousness, all is well, even deep down in a well.
Stay motivated guys, its paramount to us as humans, its more like a fuel to our growth, and our growth is tied to our ability to sustain and cater which also in turn influences our level of happiness, so you see in a way, trying to stay motivated, motivated enough to keep pushing better is in turn going to earn us happiness. Truly there are so many things that would want to deter our morale, but then we consciously and internationally fight against it by intentional motivations, surely being consistent in this would earn us happiness along the line. Try building your motivation.
Thanks for reading, let's continuously be motivated, if everything happening around is demoralizing you, then it's on you to build more, try harder, be motivated to succeed. I love you guys. Keep supporting.
Steal My Thoughts
Apart from time when I'm occupied there are time when I'm less busy and my head is still occupied, I'm fine with that anyways, but what I'm not cool with is this random thoughts affecting my mood. As soon as a task come forth to do, I do it in the right state of mind, but just one minute of idleness and some crazy thought comes around and now my mood has been influence either good or bad. Well I guess there are emanated from events we haven't dealt with, and its after effects lingers. Once this thoughts slides through and successfully steal our thoughts it becomes very hard to snap out of it.
One of the major events that can easily steal our thoughts are the actions or words of people who doesn't care about us, maybe they are only acting like they don't, but their actions appears as though they don't and this stings. Imagine getting insulted and the person is still not remorseful, like why would anyone disrespect me like that. We all want to be treated as kings and queens, it's more like a daydream for everyone even the men too that act so busy, we all love to be loved and respected, any act of otherwise would get us thinking and thinking deeper to know what just happened and we just want to urgently correct that act ASAP.
Can we correct it though? I guess the best and quickest response is to snap out of it, it happens and life goes on, don't treat it as such a big deal. Oh yes, snap out of it and find happiness else where. I have seen people get crushes that letter turns to obsession, and when their clear show of love is not being reciprocated, it gets them angry and annoyed, you can literally see that something has spoilt their mood, what then can you do. Not everyone has the ability to fight a strong emotion, no not everyone can say you know what, I'm done and really be done. It's as though life is being wicked, but not so, its only leaving us to learn vital lessons for ourselves. What do you do when that person you love don't love you back?
Get over it brother, get over it sister, you're stronger than that, if anything is more important, it is definitely you, you are the most important person to the world, then comes others, but this others are still arranged in queues. It's better this way, place them all in order of increasing relevance. Its not needed we hate on those who doesnt love us back, but we can't keep beating ourselves up, thinking what's wrong with us and why can't they have same emotions as you do for them. Come on get off it and focus more those who love you. Find joy then more joyful people would find you.
Another area where we find it hard to forget is when bad events occur, some occurrences would hurt so deep, we could stand for hours wishing and hoping things happened differently, but what can you do. Dwelling there is a stealer of joy, you don't want to ponder in the negative for long, so you don't start building up doubts in your subconsciousness. The mind is powerful and it bears fruits, the mind bears fruits that would be evident in our real life scenarios. So we must know what we plant in it, what we dwell more in, and so we dont get somewhat infested. Bad occurrences are lessons taught, as much as possible take the lessons and leave. Grieving is normal but not for long.
I completely understand how insane a bad occurrences can make one want to go. Feeling like what have you done wrong, why me, why now, as though there are people actively fighting to make you feel bad, but no that's not the case, life happens and what ever happens are hurdles, hurdles that's expected of us to win, challenges that mandates us to overcome. What is important is that we learn, once we've learnt, then it's time to move on, taking that which we have learnt and building a better tomorrow for ourselves. But dwelling there isn't a good idea, no not at all. Get up, its over, now what's next on the list for you. Focus on that.
Now this events as explained already should not be an object of concern. Of course we can't help but dwell on it. But as soon as possible, as soon as you've realized it, get up and move out of it. Now focus on what Is truly important, what is this that is worth focusing on. You know them already, you've seen them by their works, they want you to be happy and to that they try indeed to get you happy.
You know whenever we feeling sad or down as the humans we are, your mind doesn't realize how happy some others make you feel, you forget those many good and channel on the bad, and this creates more havoc. So focus on the good, best learn to caution those emotions. You can do more from an happy place, more than you can do more in a sad environment. What makes, you happy, who makes you happy. Spend more time and attention with them, let all haters move aside.
Don't be quick to forget some interesting things have happened to you. Events that got you dancing and happy for real, you feel like the world is working in your favor, and because you feel this way, you were not ashamed to try again, you were not afraid to keep shooting for greater heights. That's what a good environment does to you, it encourages the mind to be able to do more, go more further, and believe in your self. All from a good event that took place. If good has also happened, then why do you feel the bad is more important to focus on. Remember the mind is the true power house, so give lesser concentration to the bad occurrences, simply learn from it and focus on the good.
With these we can set the mind and act straight. And say I more focused on the positives, and gain more value for yourself. Self value, so when people push you away, you can laugh unconcerned cause you know there are others ready to embrace you and truly love you from within, no forcing, just a pure concern for you, cause you do matter truly. Don't let anyone talk you down, or make you feel less important, nothing else matter but you. Focus on yourself, and to that focus on the positives. If at all no one cares, just know God loves you and truly do care.
Than for reading. You guys are amazing, stay loved and keep spreading love.
In Order Of Importance
Been learning to do things in order of their importance, well not just things but people too, and yes it has helped me feel good, whenever I go home and reflect on the days activities, I no longer beat myself up because I know I did things in order of their Importance. If two people come to ask for same favour, I know I have to do for that person who earns it more before the other, forgoing selfish motive, or sexual preference, it has to be based on importance, and you know what they say "family comes first ". Then clearly some friends do more than some other friends, also some situations are more demanding than some others.
It doesn't take long to realize that people would try you how they feel about you. If someone keeps ignoring your calls or busying your text then be rest assured that they don't hold you in high regards, there is no way to make it sound better. We all also know how we respond to people we don't want to be disturbed by. Often times we clear acts of favouritism right before our eyes, so much that we get angry at them, well we can keep getting angry or learn the bitter truth there is to learn from it and move on, moreover you owe your life to no one and likewise no one owes his life to you too.
I once heard of a story of a man who went to his friends house to solicit for help, when he got there he met a lady, dressed so seductively seated there waiting for his friend also, they don't know each other so they only exchange greetings and took back to how they were before, soon as the friend came in, the lady stood to greet him as he was sat laughing while they played a bit, then the two guys greeted each other, of course as guys. After much chats and laughing the two guys told to lady to wait as they wanted to speak more privately.
Such a heartfelt speech, he almost broke into tears explaining his ordeal to his friend, well the friend too showed all signs of remorse, and yes he gave and showed all proves to depict that he was seriously in need, however the friend promised to see what he can do, as he couldn't do anything urgently, but this is an urgent need I need to cover, yet he said he can't do anything urgently, and so he said ok. So they went back inside to keep talking. They got laughing, though this time he couldn't laugh more as his hope was been disappointed, he really hoped his friend could help out.
Now what can he do, he remembered so one else, another friend and thought to call him as the need was urgent. Well this other friend too was not going to help, he doesn't have to give to, now more depressed than ever, he leaned on a wall and fortunately can overhear the conversation between his friends and his supposed friend, he took interest, just for fun at least he could overhear a thing or two to insult him later with, apparently he heard more than a thing or two. The girl was speaking so strictly and annoying, then asked for a sum of money just for keep, she didn't even get a lie to make him find a good reason to give her, she said don't I need money, would you stop playing with and give me the damn money.
He still wasn't so angry when the friend brought out his phone to do a cash transfer to her, it was when the friend ask her how much is it again and he realized she was going to get more than double the money he begged for that he became so destabilized, he walked in and just said I'll like to be going, the friend still didn't pay close attention to him, he was more interested in ensuring the girl was happy and would be staying, apparently the girl was going to make him happy, he took this hate for his friend for a long time until he realized it's a human nature to want to care for what pleases them first before another.
Even the few that goes all out to please another first before themselves only ends up getting hurt, life they would say isn't fair, well the best you can do too is to do things in order of Importance. People would mostly do what pleases them, no one really care, believe it or not, no one would care for you If you aren't special to them, same goes for you too, soon we all learn to take care of ourselves. However there are few special people whom you would love as you love yourself, those you're in love with, family, and close friends.
Its unquestionable when it comes to your kids welfare, you going to try your very best unless such parent is highly irresponsible. Giving or doing things has always been in the order of Importance from time past till now, people picking to do one over another for its beneficial reason, helping one more than another with the hope that someday it will pay off, especially when you don't expect anything from the other. So when we get disappointed or someone gets a preferential treatment over us, we just see it as that annoying human nature, filled with selfish motives not even based on Importance anymore but pure selfishness. We can do better, at least let's do things in order of Importance.
Thanks for reading. Stay loved, stay happy.
Stand Your Ground Be Yourself
It's a good day to talk about being yourself, doing what you feel like you were destined to do. Why? Because its Easter and our lord and savior Jesus Christ on this faithful day was busy fulfilling destiny. And ofcourse destiny was fulfilled, a lesson for all. We mostly have the vision of the finishing line, how we want to be at the end, enjoying and glowing in our victories, but the process being the main thing, we rarely concentrate on the process being the main thing there is. We all need to stand our ground, each and every step, unwavering from the goal, we get the job done faster.
We've all got different paths to trod, though we constantly learn from other people's experiences as well as personal experiences which all drives our goal faster and wider, still no two person are the same, so at some point we are left to decide. To everything there is a beginning as well as an end, someday christ was born, someday he died, but then someday also he rose, and he is now seated at the right hand side of God as the highest name there is both in heaven and earth and everywhere. of course not an easy beginning but he persisted and now we clearly can see the pleasant end.
Need I remind somebody today that no is not a negative word, it can be used to positive effect. There are many occurrences and situations we ought to stand up and say no to, staying idle is more like saying "here I am" do to me as pleased. Well the universe isn't so kind after all, the system too isn't to nice to the weak or feeble, it never was and not sure it ever would be, so we have to get up and seize what we want. Still not sure anyone has gotten their fair share of what is due them, just by laying wait for it to come to them, it's a word of beast and greed, you lose if you fold your hands.
Toss back and forth by the wind gives no claim to our existence first as a human being the most creative and most intelligent being ever created, secondly as one who has or would have people under their authority soon, be it your kids or mentee or simple that normal guy who looks up to you on the streets, and thirdly has one who knows the one true God. I know life gets tough most times, especially when your desires seems far away, most times we truly tried our best, and we're like what else do they expect from us now, what next should I do, huh? Maybe I'll just resign from these stress and push on to taking life and whatever it brings.
Not only to people, also to situations, to expectations, to ambitions, it may seem as though its not forth coming, but its waiting for you to claim ownership. I too am human, it may seem as though am nice but I still posses the usual human qualities, I love to have more, I still want to be gifted with the best things of life, I too get jealous of my successful neighbors, the only difference is people like us, knows best than to take our desires by force, so we channel all that energy into working on our own, channel all that energy into our work and see that we get better without hurting another. Well others won't and are ready to steal unfortunately, they can only steal from the weak and the mediocres who won't take actions.
More reason why it's good to have someone who has gone ahead and is currently in a place where you're aiming for or is currently doing what you want to do, so you can see their process and follow it. Those who say they have no one and make their own way, no books, no mentor, no research, they had better not be lazy.
Simply because it's in the human nature to think we have tried more than anybody else, to feel like if anyone can criticize, then let them step in our shoes if they won't give up faster, but the truth still is that many have faced worst and came out victorious, it'll be easier and faster for us, If could learn from this individuals, it's a way out of mediocrity, they can tell us "they don't accept this, go again, push again".
How do you feel when you wake up in the morning and your whole body is telling you to rest a little while, isn't that a leading from heaven that you should rest, maybe stepping out today isn't such a good idea, or yet isn't it just your laziness kicking it. Which of this would a mediocre likely go with, sure he would want to believe the hunch that the universe is speaking to him to rest off the day.
How about If he doesn't get the full reward of his work, wouldn't he be too lazy to fight for it, so at least next time they don't try it again. What if she has tired something multiple times and now she's tired, wouldn't she conclude the universe is speaking to her to change course, maybe that's not Gods plan for you. Don't give up the fight. Go for all you want and what you want.
Same reasons why we go further to know our rights as citizens of our country, this way we are not abused or made less of. Knowledge is one way the to stay on top no doubt. So if we really want to be safer and enjoy full benefits then we have to know what's due us, our rights guided by law, our powers birthed from citizenship. Others have been trodden upon, up until now they are still feeling powerless in their homes, yes maybe the system is fully messed up, or maybe they haven't taken the necessary actions yet. Most times all we need to be is tired of the current status quo, therefore we can fight for change.
What are you taking lightly, that ought not to be. What do you so desire but have given up on. Are you happy with whatever life brings your way or you're still fighting hard to bring a change. Quitters never win remember, you want it then you have to keep pushing for it. Consistency with the necessary upgrades we need to do to ourselves would definitely bring the right results, the upgrades could be to study more, could be to push harder or could simply be to walk up to someone. The truth is we are all capable of getting our desires, make up the mind, focus on it and push forward.
Thank you for reading, it's good Friday, its definitely going to be a good Friday. Stay focused, stay loved.
If We Could Correct Something For Yourself, What Would It Be?
A very interesting question for real, everyone has a thing or two they wish they had done differently, for some it's a word said to someone, for some it's an action done against someone, for some it's a decision not taken about a situation that later lead to mayhem, for some it's not arrive on time to a place, everyone have various reasons why they would seek back the hands of time. I know certainly that the young man who sold his bitcoin for pizza would undoubtedly be wishing he didn't sell his bitcoin, sometimes he would dream he took a different decisions and now wealthy.
It's TRUE we are humans and can never fully and assuredly predict how a decision would play out in the nearest future, our sight are limited and our knowledge of things are shallow, like I said in my most previous article, we can only promise but the fulfilling power are not ours to command. Have you promised and failed, now you're bearing the consequences or have someway lost trust, or maybe your integrity on others are now decreased. There are more reasons why someone would really pray for a chance for change.
Some mistakes are deadly, there's no recovering from it, mostly mistake taken in anger or out of ignorance. A good guy can find himself spending time being jail bars all for acting in anger, probably months to years got wasted serving time in the prison, definitely he wishes he could do better, he wishes he hadn't done such a thing to deserve such a punishment, if only he took things calmer and not do or say such hateful words. Clearly not only the law is a judgement in our world, people often take judgement into their hands, so we too have got to be careful with our daily dealings with people.
Do you read up the news or at least watch those crime movies, especially the drug cartel kind of movies, you'll notice that there are people whom one could talk to and they are going the extra mile to teach that person a deep lesson, now at least we've learnt how not to step on toes, cause you never know what someone is capable of, it's only wise we keep to ourselves and be conscious of words spoken per time. People have offended someone and are paying for it till date, the law agencies are watching to but they can't treat all cases or issues.
There are also some things we see everyday, they are already part of our everyday life and we don't like it, if we had a different option we would have tried changing things. For example a skin burn, a child from an unwanted pregnancy, a broken relationship, stigma from traumatic events, all these and more are undoubtedly hurting, but now they are here, letting it still hurt would lead to more depression or don't you think so? Rather can you love the present, how can we stop feeling bad about the scars, how can we love the child from that painful pregnancy moment, how can we forget the rough past?
If we could change something then it would be fine, but can we change it, I know prayers can change a whole lot, but waiting on it to change can be frustrating, I guess that's where the true test lies. However while we wait for a change, can we act better, how can we feel better and happier as all this and more are what gives our life a meaning. Only if we could change, what you can change then its your wish to so go ahead, find happiness, but somethings we can change, yet we must find happiness still. You never know what you've been missing out from by staying sad and angry at the recurring issues.
Some people are presently fulfilling their heart wishes by going the extra length of changing things on their body, someone born with a big nose, or small nose finally gets to meet the doctor and changes it, some rearranging their teeth, some amending their legs, and of course they are happier, I love the fact that those wishes can come through. I see nothing wrong in that, if you want something and it'll make you happier, then go for it, I guess the arguement has been "what of those changing their gender"? Well I'm yet to get a good reason to want to change gender.
What do you wish to change, what do you wish you could correct, who do you wish you took more seriously, who do you wish you had never met. What event do you hope had never happen, what event are you hoping you were a part of?.. of course too many wishes, we are only humans which means too many wrongs as well as too many rights, we live in a toss of choices all in the quest for happiness. Be happy guys, if there are any ways to be happy then go for it, but if you can't get it, then be happy how you are. We are all more than enough and deserved to be treated as such.
Thank you for reading, I'll love to hear of those few things you really hope you could change for yourself. Stay Happy.
Why Promises Are Often Not Fulfilled
How does it feel when you've been expectant, having put all your hopes in the believe that something would pull through or someone would come through only for it not to work on the long run, how disappointing is that? Very I know. As humans we can never stop trying and hoping, I mean everyday many people get up and expect, expect from friends, expect from family, expect from strangers, government, even organizations, with hopes that their promises come true. However checking through the stats we see that these promises often take longer time or are never fulfilled.
Reasons why a promise may never be fulfilled often varies, there are countless reasons but there is one most important reason, a good reason at which if we understand this truth, you'll rarely get angry or annoyed at anyone for not being able to fulfill his or her own end of the bargain. However let's dive around other reasons for a while. One of the good reason why a promise may never be fulfilled is when it's of lesser priority. This is often the case when there are so many things to achieve at that point in time, yes you want to do it but you can put it first before other important things, and just when you're doing the others, the resources to do this promise is already short.
Another reason undoubtedly is irresponsibilities, there are so many people who there words don't hold nothing. They can promise you wholeheartedly but afterwards they don't care about it. Often time we hear people say "I am a man of my words " this should be how it works, everyone should learn to keep to their words, but reverse is the case more often. This is one leading case of disappointments, who promised you? When you know the answer then you can know if truly to wait in expectation or simply just move on. For some persons can promise you till you get convinced in your soul but they know they are only just lying or aren't sure as at the time of promise.
Over familiarity to is a big cause no doubt, notice how parents can treat a visitor so well even sometimes at our own expense, they know we don't have a choice, we are family, we could only get angry but can do nothing, moreover if they are so kind or we flare up so bad, they would promise to make it up to us, that promise is often never fulfilled, we also forget, we know better than to expect anything from them. We still love them though. Over familiarity does just confine to family alone, it also happens among regular friends, when people get close to you and build a certain close relationship with you, they feel like you'll always understand, they might not know how urgent you need it, moreover it just you, you'll understand.
Now to the most important reason, and the main motive behind this article today, is to explain the fact that we humans are limited, we can promise but the power to fulfill is never in our hands, we are so limited and restricted by many factors, in fact when you reason deep about you, you'll see that no promises are certain, let's just hope and pray it come true. No wonder people often make promise with the clause "By God's grace' or "God willing", this is understandable and very correct, cause you really would want to fulfill that which you promise but never can tell what is happening tomorrow or few minutes from now.
I heard of a young man, who after many years living outside the country, had promised his family he would be returning to the country to see them and spend a lot of time with them, everyday he kept calling as a reassurance that he hasn't forget, rather taking steps every day to make sure it happens, he could beat his chest that nothing would stop him this time, even if it meant losing his job, that was how determined he was. However a little time to when he was intending to travel, the Corona virus strike, now If we can remember correctly, it was a time no one expected, no one could even predict the severity of the restriction but all nations stood still.
Of course the young man had to wait it out, he doesn't want to get quarantined, it wasn't his fault, neither was it the fault coming from his family, it was a situation way bigger than them, a situation bigger than their countries, everyone had no choice but to obey. This goes as far to show us how limited our powers are, you can make the promise but you can only fulfill it by God's willingness, however that doesn't stop us from trying our best to make it work, remember someone's hope is in it, you've promised so there is someone already who is banking on you, never disappoint, it hurts really bad, the strokes of disappointment isn't a good feeling.
As much as disappointment isn't a good feeling and anyone who promises should try to fulfill, there is also a role to play by the people who the promises are made to, learn to decrease your expectations from humans, humans can't always fulfill their promises, we are limited and won't always fulfill their end of the bargain. Learn rather that only God can say and do always not humans, the promises of God we can always bank on, anyday anytime the promises of God stands sure, we can only try as humans but can we fulfill all our promises, that almost impossible.
A lovely week to you, thanks for taking time out to read. Bank on the promises of God much more than the promises of men, God will never disappoint. Stay loved.
The World Is Affected By Individualist Decisions
The decisions we take today are the cause effect of what we see tomorrow, it's so for our personal lives, it's also so for our lives as a group, family, nation, or the world entirely. We need to know that our actions whether present or past are going to come again this time as a result or someone can say consequences. All this brings the question of "what do you want later", when this can be answered then the question of "what do I need to do now' can also be answered. As some decisions doesn't matter as the results aren't severe, some decisions are very severe and matters a great deal.
Decisions are seeds, you can't say what comes out of it, even if you're certain of what to expect, yet you can't know how much of it to expect. A pregnant woman doesn't know if it's a Male or female, a single or a twin, even If a maize seed is planted and a maize definitely expected to grow, yet we can't know how bountiful the fruits would emerge. Same goes with our decisions, sometimes we know what's coming for us via that decision but we never can know how intense it would be. A thief knows someday he should be caught, but can never know if he would be spared or jailed or even killed, this uncertainties is what makes life thrilling.
God gave us choices, free choices to make our picks to everything, even to the selection of whelter to serve him or not, however the choice of what to see or get is not us. The only guidelines we have are experiences, not really personal experiences, but from others in time past. Remember how we say "There's nothing new under the sun", yes it's TRUE and it's the basis of our guidelines. What you are intending to do, that actions you are looking to take has sometime been taken by someone else, by many people infact, then we look at what their consequences was, from thence we can know what to expect and make smarter choices.
To play safe can also be a bad decision in some cases, while it can be the right decisions in some cases. A young man can decide to save up his money for a certain occassion, while another decide to use this money for an investment, so that when the time comes he would have regained as well as enjoying profits, and the last guy decide to spend the same amount lavishly, hoping he would work before then and get the money before the D-day, all three people same amount but different decisions, but one aim, to pay for that future need.
For the first guy who decide to save, this is a typical example of playing safe, it's the safest anyone can choose, but then the future too is never certain, anything could have happened, time could evolve and the cost of living very high that the money save would be short of sorting that need, the he begins to wonder why he didn't invest for more, in another vein, that money saved can be stolen either fraudulently or force and he begins to wish he had spent it at least, then it wouldn't hurt so much, but in all there's every possibility that his choice to save up came out best as he could sort out his need at the very time needed.
The second choose to invest, investment are truly wise decisions but often the greed of the world has gotten people into bringing all forms of fake investment plans, could it be that the money was invested to the wrong plan and all that money lost, this would make the choice to invest a wrong one, however the plan can go well and when that set day comes he is the happiest person, cause he could sort out the need and still have enough for himself. The last guy is undoubtedly the most foolish, he's only solace would be for the other two plans to fail so he has companion to bear the brunt with, he definitely may not have to pay up, cause his mind is built on present pleasures.
The world would continue to be governed by cause and effects. And it's very good we are considerate in our decision selection, especially when there are people involved in it. Evil are mostly emanating from selfish causes, greed, disobedience too, but disobedience too are mostly cause of the selfish need to do what you want more than what someone else mandated you to. All these causes are definitely going to have results, or did we forget. For someone who stole, don't you know there's an effect to it, both to the world, the person and the thief himself. The thief can get more motivated to steal more, the owners getting sad, angry and taking it out in unpleasant ways, the world gets more uptight and security conscious.
I've learnt personally that the best decision a man can make is to seek the direction of God In everything we do. Luckily for us, there are many things we already know what God would want us to do based on how we know him being a good father and creator, there are other decisions we need to go into prayers for. However some decision are very unnecessary we seeks Gods prayers as our human intellects tells us what to do, things like eating, sleeping, safety mindedness, all this we know it's right already, however some decisions we've better take it to God in prayers and let him guide us through, cause as much as we have free choices, we can be wrong, only God is always right.
Thanks for reading guys, hope you all are having a fun weekend, stay happy!
Excitements All Around Us
Look around you, there's a reason to be happy, well there are reasons to be sad too, but as long as there are reasons to be happy, why not concentrate more on the reasons to be happy. God in his graciousness has surrounded us with beauties and varieties on every side, just when you're tired of seeing this view, you could simply look aside and you're seeing another captivating view, so it's all beautiful and intriguing, factually we are all beautiful and in varieties, one friend is funny, the other is strict, the other is lazy, another is stupid, all blended into acquaintance with you give your world excitements, no wonder somethings you remember gets you smiling all alone.
The world has a story to tell on a daily basis, have you read the news today, what did you hear. More than the broadcasted news on air, has anyone told you about what went down recently, have you ever been with close friends and there is nothing to talk about? Stories keep conforming, people keep doing crazy things, just when you think you've seen it all, boom there's someone somewhere else doing another. We really put up a show for heaven to watch, we living our normal lives would still be the best movies the heavens would watch.
You alone is exciting to know, you know yourself, you know how dynamic you can be, when you decide to switch up, you know how crazy things could get. Now, I too know what I have to offer, the world sure wouldn't have a complete show without me and you. Living with me is already enough excitment to watch, the fun can be enormous, as well as chilling with you. Now imagine the billions of people living in this closed earth together, many of which are not just crazy, they are insane, many of which are smart, many of which are so talented, many of which are troublesome, oh you need a show, the world Is constantly producing epic shows, we only aren't watching now.
Well I can't dispute the fact that among this contents constantly produced by the earth, we have some very troubling images, many killings and kidnappings and rape, homicides, suicide, and the likes keeps happening and so many crimes to add to the list. The world is not all funny, nationwide the world experience chaos and trying to deal with some sect who have determined to make living unpleasant for the other citizens, these we frown at, whenever the news comes again and we hear of these barbaric attacks, we'd feel like the world only has suffering to offer, switching on the TV screen nowadays feels like the bad never stops.
Yet as humans we are natural producers of joy, all the crimes and attacks would only try but good wins at all times. It feels like otherwise no doubt, in the real world it does feel like the bad gets away with everything they do, but it's never so, there is always are compensation.Those who sow evil has surely and would surely reap evil, balance keeps striking each and every giving time. While those for good has good to harvest, with this we are rest assured that no matter the feats of evil, we would still be coming out victorious and happy.
It's an interesting place we live in, full of fun places, intriguing locations to blow your mind, among the many cause of sadness present in the world today, a larger percent would be owned to the people, we are the main cause of concern to ourselves and its many as a result of selfish greed and jealousy. If we can change our ways and just go for goals especially in the leadership bodies then we would have a reduced matter of concern. Many then we would have to pray against the natural disasters. Life as we want it to be would be more interesting if we collectively fight for it.
All this not withstanding we still have our ways of catching fun and being happy. Hang out with friends, family dinner, the arguments, church, mosques , schools, concerts and so on, all so we can smile and have a good memory to recall later. Channel more to having fun and life would be worth living. All around the world everyone has his or her way to catching fun and they do it well, even the places you can think to be very boring or of little excitements, I bet they are very happy over there, excitements can vary with locations and whatever a person has adapted into, therefore we are mandated to fish out happiness for ourselves.
There are already more reasons to be sad on a regular basis, whelter we like it or not, and the bitter truth is that the world would get worst, its already predicted in the Bible being the book of truth, to further buttress this fact is a critical study of our environment, as we see people get more greedy by the day, loss of responsibility and more concern for personal self even at the detriments of others, don't you see the tears of the innocent being unattended to, and this is getting more rampant by the day, there are so many reasons to get someone moody, but for the sake of growth and healthiness we've got to stay happy, be more focused on the excitements you see around you and be a good person.
Thanks for taking out time to read up this article, indeed there is excitement all around, live a happy and productive life. Come on!
A Right Response Does It All
Its necessary we don't mistake the right answer for a soft answer. Sometimes an harsh answer could be the right answer, we just have to see ahead, have a foresight of the afterwards effect. For peaceful resolution we have often seen a calmer approach, a scenario whereby the peace makers are making both parties feel good, hoping that the lighter mood would get both to cool down their fire intensity. This often works but not all approaches would this methodology by best suitable for. Places like home, schools where there are most likely to be constant fighting, this approach may not be best.
Even the bible said "Spare the rod and spoil the child", there are times whereby the means to ending this are to inculcate a bit of fear, or maybe an outright scolding, may not look like it at first but on the long run it gets the job done. I guess the police and other protection agencies are familiar with this approach and guess what they are also called peace keepers, do you know that the police though they arrest and jail, are with the responsibility of maintain law and orderliness In the environment, so there would be peace for all to coexist. Do they use the apologizes approach always, No.
Imagine you were supposed to settle a dispute between a bully and the bullied, or an oppressor and the oppressed, how would you settle all of that, definitely one is so wrong, and the other so innocent, trying to calm the oppressor may send a message to him that the world is scared of him, and nothing can touch him as he is yet pleaded with to take it easy. What is the aftermath of this approach, definitely expect him to do it again. I'm not sure a dialogue have ever stopped a bully, it serves as a fuel, no one wants to stop gaining benefits because of sentiments.
For those having an older sibling like me, remember when we were younger and would get into a fight with your elder brother or sister who could effortlessly beat you up. At that young age as a boy, your older sister can still beat you up cause your muscles are that strong yet. Now when the fight happens, how does mummy settle the fight, of course she shouts more at the elder siblings, yes shout at us too, but our shout are more of an advice, you would hear things like "Don't insult your elder brother again, he would simply beat you up", we would still be acting all tough, but we know it's true, few minutes back we were already having the beating of our lives 😂, thank God mom separated it.
It's a different ball game however when you're in a position to lead a lot of people. A president, king, managing director, a writer, journalist, celebrity, as long as there are people attached to your work or position, you really want to careful with your response. Emotions are sometimes not the best approach for these positions, cause one dirty act can negatively affect the whole career flowing astray the years of consistency and dedication. Unlike every regular people, a famous person has got to be double careful, especially with how he or she responds.
Being on a social media platform like Twitter or Instagram, you must have experienced this a whole lot, with just a single tweet and the whole country is buzzing up and down, can you remember any celebrity who has been insulted online, how bad was it, yet did that celebrity respond by Insulting back, no he can't, the people are his or her market, no matter what they want to be on the peoples side, although some celebrities are so crazy they don't mind, well we all are humans and a display of emotions are normal, we are firstly human, then a popular figure.
How about the politicians who clearly know they are surrounded by opposition watching their every move, simply awaiting the right moment to strike, wouldn't they too be extra careful, I bet they would. They live in their world like it's a law court "whatever you say or do would be used against you in the court room. Most times they are faced with tricky questions, more like a trap with everyone waiting for the next response or actions so they can use it as a tool against him, at this point only the right answer would save the day. One has got to be careful and smart to get the right answers per time per season.
The right answer is helpful to everyone, we all need to think things through, our experiences each day are some how dependent on the response we give. The right words can either calm down a situation or stop it completely, but the another word could escalate things beyond your control. Do you know the aftermath of your intending actions, have you thought it through. Life is better enjoyed in an environment of peace and growth,we grow by being happy. Stay happy everyone.
Thanks for taking time out to read guys. Happy New Month and a lovely week. Stay Loved.
Some People Are Crazy
People exhibit the craziest of characters, one moment they act all saints and nice the next minute they've become beast. Indeed it's a world filled with the good the bad and the in between, everyone showcasing their selves on a daily basis, no one we see frequent fights, yet frequent laughter, there's bound to be agreements as there are disagreements too. Personally we must have encountered people with questionable characters, yet you know other people with commendable characters, with this we don't write anyone off, it becomes our duty to study each person and know the best way to relate with them.
For me, I'm careful to whom I roll with, because I'm someone who readily gives his all when he is close to you. You would see my going out of my way most of the times all so that you can smile and be happy, and your happiness makes me happy. I feel like I'm that one guy that can take care of my self by myself, so I make the sacrifices at my own expense and feed off your smile, that's all I want, to make you smile. Well, overtime I've noticed some sense of entitlement, I dont mean from the opposite gender alone, even between my close guys, I still see such crazy sense of entitlement, like they deserve the love and I should keep on bearing. How nice is that.
I too need to be pampered you know, forget the beards and muscles, men too have emotions and that huge guy could break down in tears any moment. The heart doesn't care how many kg of weights you can lift, if your experience is overbearing, then you could find it hard to be okay, and its okay to not be okay. You are human after all, and we all need to be loved, most importantly, we all need to learn how to love another too. It's a reciprocative act, its toxic to be one sided. I never buy the idea of someone not being able to love but expects to be love, no that's selfishness, or just a lie to get someone off your back from expecting anything from you.
No more hard guy on my part. No more tolerating this toxic relationships, I'll not change myself, no way, but I'll pay more attention to those few who truly deserves it. A few numbers of people are sticking around during my downtime, they don't get unbearable or frustrated by my striving moment, in fact they help me through the process, and it's funny how shortly after the process, when things gets rosy, I see a great crowd approaching. I get surrounded by so many others and I keep making them happy, I'm a good person I say. Whereas those who were there in my trying times would never demand and so I feel all is ok. Well it isn't.
Learn to spot the toxic loves, they can be subtle and cunny, but when you pay detail attention you'll be able to spot them out. Well you probably are fine by it now cause all is well, but all can be better if you know them know. Its vital we know who makes up our armies when we are still comfortable, not when the sound of war comes and you see that the great crowd you thought would fight with you are only helping the enemy camp. Know who is truly for you, pay attention to the past and present experience, see what went down and those who came through regardless, you never know the shocking news you might discover.
I'm taking no one off the list, not that i don't trust any one or that, I'm just rearranging the house, and so I'm bringing everything out and rearranging it, what's there to fear, those I trust would pass the test, wouldn't they?. My girlfriend, my boyfriend, my best friend, my husband, my wife, my friends, parents, neighbors, everyone is being assessed. I know I shouldn't have mentioned parents and wife or husband, just as I didn't mention kids, cause parents stood by us while we were yet dependent and they helped us a great deal into being the person we are today, likewise our husband or wife decided to stay by us, it's a choice worth appreciating. But all cases are not the same.
Some parents aren't necessarily there for their kids, for those who abandoned their kids only to find them when they are successful, well it could be a genuine repentance or they could only care for the wealth. It's a behavioral pattern which anyone can have. Also wife's and husband has also been played, history has it, you'll begin to think if they understood how sacred a marriage tie is meant to be. In time past we have seen people wed someone all for the benefit, when they finally gets it and have no reason to continue, zoom they go, that marriage is ended, they file for a divorce. So it's a smart choice to assess everyone around, seek out the toxic lovers.
This is necessary in placing us one step ahead. We already know what to expect and could just play along smartly. This way we don't feel angry at the betrayal or taken unaware, in fact we saw it coming and have planned towards it already. Not necessary I cut ties with them, we could still br close but I know how I relate with them and what I do so they don't get to close. If need be especially if I think it's for the best and for my safety, I might cut ties completely, no more association again, dont worry when we meet in heaven, we can be friends again, there I'm safe, but here on earth I have to be smarter.
As there are toxic lovers, there are true lovers also. I must acknowledge that fact, genuine lovers, who truly want to see me happy. I know I can be annoying sometimes but these guys never forgets to cheer me up. My family tops the list, then followed by some friends turn siblings, I'm so grateful for such help they do offer. To them I can go out of my way to help and not rethink my actions, they deserve it and more. Also its better to offer to the needy and those around who need help than those who feel they can get it by playing you for a fool. Come on guys, seek out those toxic love. You deserve better. Every one needs the right kind of love, if its not coming then wait for it, never settle for less, never settle for love that brings hurt on the long run.
Thanks for taking time out to read through, love you guys. Stay true.
Writing To Remember
Putting hopes in our memory to always help us remember can sometimes be fruitless, often times I could be singing a song repeatedly and the next minute I'm there trying to remember what song I was singing. So trying to remember can be hectic at times that is why is great to always keep note, you can choose to write it down on your diary, note pad, save it on Facebook if you'll be needing it for a longer period of time, tell a friend, basically trying to do something more than your memory, something more static, that won't forget or be lost. Remembering is an essential part of life, its helps in our right decisions, so we've got to take it more seriously.
Writing down is also a good way of saving documents or any thing very valuable. It doesn't have to be on paper, you could write down on your gadget, it's all for the purpose of reminder when need be. Most times our minds are occupied with other thoughts and to this we may forget that matter we ought to take important, that idea that just came to mind and is making sense, could still be forgotten in the next few minutes, that why it's best advice to always go along with a material you could write on. It never gets old, learn to write things down as our minds can forget.
I can remember how I used to read for exams. Burning the mid night candle they say, we read and read all through the night cause the next day could be exams. I found out that the best way to ensure we had better retention memory was to read and write down what we have read. That is, after I've read the said article, I'll write it down to know if I got it correctly, what this does to me is that, it make the study stick better. While those few who resulted into storing on their heads alone, they don't necessarily understand the topic, but they just store, should they get into a deep discussion, I bet they would forget everything they had once read, but those who read and can write it down, would find it easier.
Our head are not certain to store up information without forgetting, until the matter is one of concern, one you've prioritized. Before you prioritize a particular matter, you've got to ponder on it from time to time, more constantly than anything else, then our brains begins to receive the message that this is worth taking note of. Why not write it down, the bible directed us in this process too, when he said, "write it down, make it plain, so that any who sees it can run along with you. Habakuk 2 vs 2, and that's just the way it is. It has to be boldly written down so you can refer to it and reflect on it from time to time, this helps draw your mind closer.
There's a reason why you can walk into any company and see their mission statement boldly pasted at the entrance of the building, for any who walks in to see. It helps the employees keep in mind what they ought to be chasing after. It provides a course of direction, for them to take, and not wavering to and fro. It also helps the customers or general people hold them accountable, because they know this is all what they company is about, and this is what we expect, therefore any shift negatively or down slide, people can call back their attention. This is also good for the company, cause in all, they would be better productive.
Write it down guys, and be super fast about it, do not postpone it, not at all. Probably when they say opportunity comes but once, that could be what they meant. Cause some crazy ideas comes at the craziest of times and you might not find it comfortably to seize it if you don't start building the habit of writing it down. Many of lost mindblowing ideas all cause the let it slide and not jot it down. Later on they start racking their heads to fish it out again, but no it's gone and you can only pray it comes back to mind. Well most times it returns but other times it's gone and gone fully.
One night I was with a friend of mine, who is a musician and while we were both walking home, I got an inspiration for a song, the song came so strong in his soul and he had nothing to jot it down, not music is not like a other profession where you only need to write down the key points and you'll be good to go, for music you can write down the lyrics and still forget the melody, and that would change the course of the sound correctly, but if he could get a pen and book at that moment he wouldn't mind using it. So he asked if I had my phone with me, and I did fortunately, he took it and recorded the sound on it, I can tell you, that song that night is one of his biggest tracks yet. And he could have forgone it, if he didn't put it down for remembrance purposes.
Someone once asked me how I manage to write on something new everyday and not run out of ideas, well the truth is that I do run out of ideas, but then I pay more attention to trying to get an inspiration, It could come from any and everything, maybe a walk up the street, maybe conversation, maybe watching the TV, it could come from anywhere but I'm always prepared to observe and take note. Once it comes, I quickly write it down, I might not get the topic then, but I'll write in a way I know the direction I'm going to write about. Sometimes I get more than one article inspirations at once, I take note of them all, at least, those would help me for some extra days.
How about those vital informations gotten from dreams, how many of your dreams you thought you'll not forget, have you forgotten now, many I guess. Building the attitude of writing things down would help your dream storage too and help you access more, believe me when I say some things are not yet revealed to you because the Almighty revealer knows you probably might forget again. As soon as you get up, it's the best time to take note before being carried away by the days activity. Write it down.
Thanks for taking time out to read. Make sure to always take note, you never know when something awesome would pop up as an idea, you really wanna jot it down.
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