When you physically punish your son, this may leave scars and visible scars on his body. But when your son is exposed to verbal violence, the effect is completely different, as hurtful expressions do not leave a mark on his body, but the extent of their depth and impact varies according to the sensitivity of the violent person, and therefore no one knows what will happen to the children after this type of violence and therefore it comes in multiple forms, including screaming, blaming, ignoring and different Verbal abuse that causes pain and leaves scars on an individual's personality and his interactions with his community.
Therefore, the extent of its depth and its impact varies according to the sensitivity of the victim.
When the language of dialogue between parents is absent, it is replaced by the language of force. Violence is the behavior prevalent in some families and societies, where the phenomenon of violence is one of the most important social phenomena that occur in all societies without exception.
According to a study conducted by Professor Natalie Sachs-Erickson at the University of Florida on verbal violence, she found in her study that people who were exposed to any type of swearing during their childhood had symptoms of depression and anxiety more than 1.6 times more than those who were exposed to no verbal abuse and the likelihood of suffering from verbal abuse was doubled. More anxiety or mood disorders in their life.
Verbal violence may come in several forms, including:
• direct
Indirect
• acquired
Self-direction
Symbolic
Social factors leading to verbal violence:
The factors that contribute to raising the degree of violence differ from one society to another, and they are multiple and intertwining factors. Therefore, the family is considered responsible with the school as it is a social institution that has a close relationship with the human life from birth until growing up.
Factors causing verbal violence:
* Weak religious faith among fathers.
* Discharge of external pressures to which the husband and wife are exposed.
Harsh living conditions.
* Illiteracy is widespread among children.
Eating intoxicants.
* The style of some children, such as stubbornness.
* Some parents have become accustomed to a pattern of verbal violence in their childhood, which reflects on their upbringing of their children.
* Intervention of the spouses' parents in family affairs.
Consequences of verbal violence:
In most cases, it is a hindrance to the psychological and mental development of children and this is under the aggravating nature that appears with time.
Also, violence becomes for children a method of solving problems that they face in his life, and this leads him to face many challenges as he tends to treat any issue or problem in this way, and it may be a factor in his future failure.
Message to parents:
* Take the initiative to apologize to your child, and if you lose your control and utter harsh words to your child, do not hesitate, but I apologize.
Do not give your child any names or nicknames that will offend him.
* Do not shout, your child deserves respect. If you want your child to respect you, respect him.
Focus on the behavior that needs focus and try to correct it with its help.
Remember to always look at the positive.
* If your child does a positive act quickly praise him.
* When you are angry, try to avoid sitting with your children.
* I understand the reasons and discuss them logically and calmly.
* Many parents are young or inexperienced and may not be able to take care of their children and are not aware of their needs during their different stages of development. Therefore, they must deal with their children according to the aforementioned solutions.