Motherhood is every female’s dream, and God’s instinct is to instil the female’s instinct on her. The female performs her role as a mother by nature while she is a child while playing with her peers, playing the role of a mother who tends to her children and raises them and manages the affairs of their restaurant and refines their behavior as a tradition (for her parents) as if God Almighty prepares her for her innate role in life.
As soon as the little girl grows up and gets married, she begins to yearn to satisfy her maternal instinct, so she waits a month after the month of the occurrence of pregnancy, but she may be surprised that it does not happen, which forces her and her husband to search for the causes of his delay, so they go to the specialist doctor and ask them in turn for examinations for both to find the cause and treat it, if any. And it occurs when some spouses, after extracting the results, found that they need a lengthy treatment journey to achieve the dream of motherhood and fatherhood.
During the treatment phase, the spouses undergo psychological changes that may sometimes be the result of the treatment dose and sometimes as a result of psychological pressure and anxiety about the outcome of the treatment or the environment surrounding them through the many questions about childbearing in addition to the most important reasons which is the lack of cooperation of one of the spouses for treatment, which constitutes a burden on the partner The other, in addition to the psychological pressure resulting from treatment and the occurrence of pregnancy.
There is no doubt that poor psychological state affects childbearing, so anxiety, stress, psychological pressures, and repeated emotional trauma, in addition to the intensity of the attachment to reproduction, represented in (the unbridled desire for pregnancy may lead to the delivery of eggs before their maturity) all these psychological factors may affect for some on the delay of pregnancy And procreation .
Here comes the role of self-psychological support for the spouses to relieve the psychological pressure they face and the sadness and anxiety before, during and after the treatment phase, and here are some tips that help them to successfully overcome this stage of their life:
First: Religious support, and that comes with sincerity of trust in God in supplication and good thinking in Him, Glory be to Him, and adherence to acts of worship while taking the reasons.
Second: Living with the current moment of emotions of whatever kind, sadness, distress, anxiety, a desire to cry, optimism, longing ... and expressing them and not suppressing them because this would reduce psychological pressure and restore self-balance.
Third: Modeling by reading stories of characters who went through the same event, and how patience and supplication led them while taking reasons to achieve the dream.
Fourth: Re-attribution or responsibility in the sense that the spouses do not attribute or refer to the reason for their delayed childbearing to them personally, but there are several factors that are not due to them, for example, they attribute the reason to the will of God in the first place, and that it may be a gift from God to summarize their reward on patience and then feel the pleasure of giving after Long wait.
Fifth: full acceptance of the present-day experience without evaluation and judgment on this experience, and to focus on what is "here and now" with a commitment to doing everything important and effective in a person's life and what the person wants to do in order to lead a life of value and meaning.
Sixth: Addressing oneself with positive thoughts that result in positive feelings and behavior, such as if one of the spouses says to himself
“God will write for me the best in everything” or “I am optimistic about the grace of my Lord and I will fulfill myself in various aspects of my life”
Seventh: Relieve stress by practicing relaxation and meditation exercises.
Eighth: The spouses' containment of each other and their effective cooperation in the journey of treatment and the psychological changes that are going through, and the participation of each other in various activities has the greatest impact on the treatment journey and their lives in general.
Ninth: Focus on the positives of the event of delayed childbearing, and remember that each event has a positive side.
Tenth: There should be several pillars of life, not just one corner, such as the corner of social relations, the corner of work or study, another corner for hobbies and interests, one corner for health care, and so on.