Inner Peace: three key ways to find it
The key to find peace, even in challenging times is to learn and practice detachment.
Detachment means to disassociates one thing from other, like yourself from something that is not yourself. It is something that can takes time to understand and to master, it can take more than a year even after learning the concepts.
It make sense logically but still hard to do, just like any other habit or mindset, it takes constant practice and reputation to ingrained.
What you have to do
Detach your sense of self worth from everything
You have to detach your sense of self worth from anything outside of your control, your looks, education, career, money, family, your significant other or what people think about you, everything. Your true worth is not in what you have but in what you are.
If you want to find your sense of self worth in something deeper and intangible like your soul, the fact that you are alive a living breathing human being, your existence is worthy enough. You don't need much more to proof your worth regardless of what the society wants you to believe.
Before I used to tie my sense of self worth to the numbers, like how many viewers I get or how many likes I get, and if the numbers were dropping I'd feel it. Taste of failure threw me into a novice rag, because it meant something really scared to me 'lack of love'.
After spending years detaching my self worth from my success and career, I now feel more at peace and more detached than ever.
Detach from any expected outcome
Release your expectations from what you think should happen, how you think your life should go. If you are tie to one outcome, you will be disappointed is life don't go the way you picture it.
Don't hold on too much to an expected outcome that you can't entirely control nor predict, detach instead live in and stay greatful for the present moment because tomorrow is not promised.
The present moment is your place of power, is the only place where life is real and when you can take actions, change your mindset, connect with people and make a difference in your life.
If you are attached to your ideal outcome you will be frustrated if things go wrong, but with detachment you will be willing to accept the outcome with ease and use the present moment to ask yourself, "what is the best thing I can do about this right now".
Detach from your thoughts and emotions
This might sound abstract, like how can someone detach oneself from own thought and emotions when they are naturally part of me. You will understand this more if you read books on spiritualism.
You are soul living in a human body, with human brain and human emotion. During this lifetime your soul is formless and timeless, it is the quiet observer of everything that you experience in life.
Most of us don't spend enough time or effort quieting our minds to feel the presence of the soul, but I'm positive that you felt it in your life.
If you close your eyes and a thought comes up, pay attention to the two parts that need exists. Someone is doing the thinking and someone is doing the observing, your mind is doing the thinking while you are observing, you are not your mind but you are the observer of your mind and your emotions.
Meditation is one of things that build this awareness that you have for the quiet observer, that is your soul. With practice you will notice that you will be able to observe your thoughts and emotions as they come and go.
You don't have to attach meaning to them other than, "that was simply a thought or this is simply an emotion I'm feeling".
You don't have to identify with that your thoughts or emotions to let it escalate into something more, you see it and feel it but know that the thought and emotion is not you and it will pass.
Learning to detach from your thought and emotion is life changing, you will be able to ride the waves of life easier, see more clearly and accept yourself for who you are right now.
I hope you have gain something from this today on how to detachment in your life and find more inner peace, especially during hard times.
This article is timely to me, I need this.. thank you.