What is self love

Very often I hear such a delusion from many mothers that they love their children more than themselves, justifying this with the phrase: “I will give my last panties for him.” In fact, this is a simple desire to play the role of a good mom when they are far from being such, but so that they are not deprived of parental rights, this exaggerated game begins.

The fact is that your children are just a part of you, often mixed with some kind of "asshole". And therefore, if you do not love yourself, then there is nothing to say about that incomplete part of you that lives in your child.

If you allow slavery in your life, eat cheap GMO pasta, live in the same apartment with a moron, then believe me, you cannot want your child to live a free life, eat fresh farm products and love a genius. As a rule, I see that such mothers put their daughters under even more flawed men, justifying this with the phrase: “but he is handy”. Since childhood, these mothers have been feeding their children with the same GMO pasta, and then they ask for cancer treatment via SMS. Etc.

You just have to understand that love in this case is not about dressing beautifully, going to a spa, or getting a manicure. On such an example, your child will grow up spoiled by worldly things and pathos. But he will not receive love either from you or from himself.

Self love is not to waste your nerves. Literally. After all, if we look into it logically, then any worry or negative emotion is just an unconscious delusion. Understand it, and the reason for being nervous will disappear.

Self-love is to develop in your virtue and logic. Do not disperse yourself on unfaithful friends, stupid relatives and pointless pursuits. Better lie down, think, read, and get a conversation with a scientist or a philosopher.

And only when you use the right love for yourself can you give your child at least a piece of it. You will teach by your example not to waste your nerves, and your child will be healthy and will not drown out his psychoses with drugs or alcohol. You can introduce him to interesting people, and he will communicate with them, gaining wits, and not hang out with senseless friends. And also teach him to eat properly from childhood, and then he will not see acne on his face and fat on his body, which can break his self-esteem.

It is impossible to love someone more than yourself. Love is a resource that we can only give out of excess. First, we can fill our lives with grace, and then give the excess to others. But if we give more than we have for ourselves, then we show an example of wrong altruism. And if your child follows your example, he will grow up an endurer who will be used by everyone and sundry.

Love yourself and your child will thank you for it.