Until today, it seems difficult to explain a relationship without official status. It means establishing a loving relationship that is not tied to marriage. In the eyes of the law, people who are only dating are considered as citizens who are single and have no dependents. Not necessarily. He could have supported the life of his parents, younger siblings, or older siblings.
However, this dating relationship is often not recognized by many people and is considered invalid, especially if it does not have the intention of getting married. If asked if I want and will marry one day? The answer might just be. However, the possibility is always there. If you do meet the right person and the time is right, why not? But, if you don't want to get married now, even though you have a suitable partner, then why get married?
Of course, there are many reasons why some people don't want to get married. Usually related to financial stability and career path. Isn't it true that if you get married you have to be prepared, including these two factors? But, what is the response of most people? Often they comment, "No one is ready to get married, later they will be ready themselves." Or, "Just get ready, then there will also be his fortune."
Getting married is a big decision that can change a person's lifestyle. And, every major decision must be based on careful consideration, right? Therefore, people who decide not to marry temporarily or permanently must be respected. No need to force it.
Not necessarily all problems can be discussed with a partner after marriage. It can be a source of conflict. In the end, violence, right? So, people who have not or don't want to get married are not selfish humans, instead, they think for the common good if they get married.
However, still, many people often argue about whether someone is ready or not, especially women, in this matter. Women are always made to feel guilty if they choose not to marry. Is considered selfish, aka only selfish. It is as if a woman's destiny is only to get married and as if there are no other desires or options.
Not all love relationships have to end in marriage, because marriage is not the main purpose of life. Suppose someone asks, "What is the main purpose of your life?" Then, you answer, "Married!", Sounds strange, right?
Getting married or not is an option. Not getting married is normal, as are those who are married.
Make no mistake, having a love relationship with someone even without a marriage bond does not mean the relationship is in vain. Because, when you relate to your partner, you not only learn to get to know and adapt to other people but also learn to become a better person. That way, you can clean up and upgrade to a better level.
So, what if one day the relationship ends? Yes, automatically the process that has been undertaken so far becomes the provision for the next relationship. Of course, you will understand more and more what you want from your partner. If your partner thinks you are worthless, just break up. So, the time spent in a loving relationship, even if it doesn't end in marriage, still has meaning because it is a valuable life lesson.
I will not feel in vain if I do not marry a partner later. Of course, those who know very well the current needs of each person. Not family, friends, let alone neighbors.
In this life, women and men need to know exactly what they want in life, including relationships. If they don't go together, it might be best not to force them. It's time for us to normalize those who decide not to get married for a while or forever.