Which One Are You?
I don't know what works for you so I wouldn't generalize it. But if what I'm about to write works for you, kindly do it.
There are a lot of people that speak into existence. I mean that whatever they say with their mouth will come to pass. I'm one of them. I'm sure that a lot of us have met people like that. Now, it depends on how the person uses it. Some people know that whenever they say something, it will come to pass. They should always say positive things. I've noticed that most of these sets of people curse other people including themselves. They all ignore the kind of power that they carry because they believe it's fake or because they think that only the positive things they say will come to pass.
Also, there is another set of people who think into existence. I mean that whatever they think about will come to pass. I'm still one of them. To be very honest, I'm gifted. Whenever I think about something, it becomes reality. It comes to pass. It's not me, it's God but it's a gift given to me by God. And that's why I always think positively. And whenever it feels like I'm thinking negatively, I say God forbid and move on. I clear the thought off my head and my mind so that it won't come to pass. You might have met people like that but you wouldn't know because they only think about what comes to pass. They don't say it. And I know it's not possible to know what someone else has in his or her mind.
Lastly, some people write into existence. I'm still one of them😁. Don't be shocked. As I said earlier, it's God's gift. I noticed this right from when I was very young. I wrote my JAMB examination score before writing the examination and it came to pass. I also wrote my post UTME examination score before the examination and I got the exact score. Though it's not everything I write that comes to pass. I know when to write and I'll be somehow sure that it will come to pass.
Now, which one are you. Are you part of the writing gang, thinking gang, or the speaking gang? You need to find yourself. And know the time this works for you most. Some people noticed that this power works well in the morning. Some people also noticed that it works well in the afternoon, some may be in the night while some may be in the middle of the night.
We all are spiritual in our own way but it's important to find ourselves. It's important to find out which one works for you. For example, I've written my daily affirmation this morning. I have thought of the kind of life I wish to live this morning. I have said what I want this morning. I buttress all of that by saying thank you to Jehovah everyday.
It's left to you to find yourself.
Which one are you?
A Real Life Story.
Hi family. I was off for two days due to stress. I could not combine what I was going through with my blogging. One will affect one. I'm so sorry about that.
Yesterday, a friend of mine called me and broke down in tears while explaining her relationship situation to me.
I have known her with this guy for over three years. He takes good care of her and seems to be the most perfect man on earth. The guy has a very close female friend that we all know. Honestly, I thought nothing is going on between them.
Last year, the guy, his female friend, and my friend all relocated to Ibadan to seek a job. The guy had some issues with accommodation and he lives with his female friend. Presently, he still lives with his female friend.
He rented an apartment and bought all the necessary things he needed in the house. He has rented this apartment for over two months and he has refused to relocate to that house. He bought everything he needed to live there already.
Presently, his family members know whom he's living with and they are cool with it. The lady's family members also know that a man is living with their daughter. How stupid is that? And my friend knows all of these.
My friend has been making complaints here and there and the guy promised to move to his apartment during the weekend. Now, he told my friend that his female friend will be around most of the time. And my friend began to cry. She called me and broke down into tears.
When we hung the call, I went to her immediately. I met our third friend and we decided to excuse our friend who was in that situation and went to talk outside. I began to hear things I never heard from my friend.
Our third friend made me realize that this lady who we think is the guy's friend is his ex-girlfriend. Now, would you tell me that a man and a woman are living under the same roof for over seven months and nothing happened between them? Our third friend also made me realize that there was a day our friend visited the boyfriend and she saw sperm on the bed which is a sign that he just finished having sex with the lady he calls his friend. Isn't it crazy? I know my friend was scared to tell me because she knows I won't take it easy on them.
Something came to my head. I think the guy met my friend when he broke up with the lady. Maybe when he began to date my friend, the lady came back and he couldn't confront my friend that he's no more doing.
I had to sleep over at my friend's place so that she won't do something funny. While she was asleep, I took her phone to check what she and the boyfriend talked about. Would you believe that she was begging the guy on Whatsapp?
The path that she's taking is not good. She's the firstborn of her house and she's acting like a gullible. I called her brother this morning and reported her to him. I know a lot of people will think, that calling her brother is wrong. This lady is the only lady I know apart from my sister. She's my sister from another mother. Our parents have been friends before we were born and I won't see my friend going on the wrong path without letting her know.
Her mum has always asked her to leave the guy but she's adamant. I'll go to her house on Friday and tell her parents what their child is going through. This is a very toxic relationship and a lot of people have lost their lives to depression because of this.
God knows I'm very angry right now. My hands are shaking because I can't imagine this happening to me. I can't deal!!!
I'll make sure she leaves the guy. She's twenty-five and still struggling with another lady over a man.
If this happens to you or your friend, what would you do?
Can People Stop Pretending?
I think watching movies saves us from boredom. I've been tuning to different channels since morning until I saw a movie and the title seemed to be very interesting so I decided to watch it. I'll share part of what happened in the movie with you all.
It's about a man. He owns a television program and all they deal in is to expose evil-doers. Evildoers like those involved in human trafficking, baby factory, kidnapping, sexual molestation, domestic violence, and all sorts of negative activities.
That's all about what the man does. He travels far away from his home to another place entirely to leak people's secrets. I think it's a good idea because we all need to be aware of things happening in the country like human trafficking and some more...
The man was highly respected and I'm sure you'd think that people like that are saints and they don't engage in those things. After watching a few scenes, they showed the man when he was amongst his business partners. He was into drug trafficking. It's so crazy because he is highly respected in the community and a lot of people would not know that he does such a thing.
This man traffic is hard drugs from one region to the other, from one country to the other and so on... He later got caught and was imprisoned for longer years.
Let's come back to real life. Do you know that some people are highly respected in society and if you observe them well, you will know that they deserve to be jailed? The craziest part of it is that the majority of these people are government officials.
Let me use my country, Nigeria, as an example. When police officials arrest thieves or people doing some illegal jobs, they will collect money from those people and still release them. It means that they are giving those people a go-ahead to continue the illegal jobs that they do.
As we all know the embezzlement of funds is not good but these same government officials will embezzle funds and continue to tell citizens not to do so. Then, the citizens will believe that they have good government not knowing that all they tell them is lies and pretense.
It's just like people who condemn prostitution. A lot of ladies are also into this illegal business but they will come out like saints and act like virgins. I've seen a lot of people who do that. And when they talk, you'll think they are telling the truth. Some can even swear with their lives that they will never be prostitutes but they are.
I was talking to a very close friend one day. We condemned using charms to have money very fast because it's one of the fastest ways people make money in Nigeria but the repercussion is not good. A lot of people die, some people run mad and some other things... Would you believe that my friend also used charm to have more money? He has been using it since and I didn't know. And it's this same guy who condemned people who do such. It's crazy😅
Nigerian youths can be very crazy. The majority of them know the repercussion of engaging in money rituals but they don't care. They are hungry for money at the moment.
I find it hard to believe people these days. The saddest thing is that some people are telling the truth but because we have a lot of bad people who tell lies these days, we wouldn't know who's telling the truth and who's lying.
Why do people pretend?
I just love the fact that these sets of people know that those things they do are bad habits and that's why they can't come out to say what they do. That's why they are not proud of what they do.
Since they all know that the things they engage in, are bad. Why can't they just put a stop to it?
Can People Stop Pretending?
Is This Life?
There's someone I used to know. A cute, young, and good-looking man. A caring one who never complains about my bad habits. The one who's patient like God and he got me thinking is it's the real God in human form. The one who never gets tired of talking to me.
That person who tells me of everything he's going through. The one who listens to me whenever I'm making a complaint without blinking, without breaking eye contact. The one who had eyes for only me and I never caught him stealing a glance at another woman. The one who always makes sure that I'm happy and never stops putting a smile on my face.
The one who pleases me with a soft caress, touches, English breakfast, sensational kisses, slow sex, karaoke nights, listing under the chandelier. He never gets tired of taking my pictures. And whenever I look at him, I smile because he feels like my home. I had this when I was young. Young man, where are you?
I met another person.
There's someone I used to know. He looks so good. Handsome than the word itself. Looks like an angel and not like we human beings made with sand. I'm so sad that I fell in love with him. He's like a beast. He makes me cry all the time. Wailings here and there. Makes me depressed and he doesn't even ask for forgiveness. He's a sadist.
I'm so sad for falling in love with this man. He's like an animal in human form. Why would you be happy when someone else is sad? Why would you feel good about making me sad? There are many people like this. Why would you derive joy from someone's sadness? And you say you love this person. Is that love? I feel so sad that people who are of this desperate behavior look so good and cool. It's not written on their face. These people are wicked!
Would you believe that a lot of people who have caring partners don't deserve it? I'm so sorry to say that. We all deserve good things but some people are very heartless to serve such.
Also, some good people fell into the hands of the second man. It's vice versa. Some men are wicked while some women are wicked.
Another thing is that some people may fall into the hands of the second man or woman and they are so blinded by love that they would not want to leave the relationship.
Why is this happening? A lot of people deserve things but they don't get them. Is life fair with us? Is this how life is?
What is life itself?
Be Heavy On Yourself!
My topic may sound weird to a lot of people so I'll explain. As we all know, a lot of people came into our lives and they've left us. Also, we have a lot of people present in our lives and I'm sure they will leave. Also, a lot more are coming into our lives and it's likely for them to go. Nothing is permanent in life. Even our lives are temporary.
The first instance I'll give is love life. A lot of people are in relationships while a lot are single. It sounds weird to some people when they see someone who is single because they believe that everyone should be in a relationship while a relationship doesn't work out well for everyone.
It's cool to allow a new partner in your life. It's cool to love them unconditionally that you can't go a day without talking to them. It's cool to love them for whom they are even though they have their flaws too.
Remember, your mental health is important. If you're dating someone that seems not to be peaceful, I would advise you to sit that person down and talk about what's going on. If he or she doesn't change and you feel like you cannot cope, please leave!!!!. You should care about yourself first because you're the one for yourself. Remember, nothing lasts forever. And remember that you're doing it to save your mental health and also to make you happy.
I have always heard that it's worse to leave relationships when you're married. Especially when you've given birth. I know it's sad. It's a very sad experience. But, you need to remember how you were living before that person came into your life. Slowly replace them or take them outta your life. Let your so-called partner know that you're heavy on yourself and you're enough to make yourself happy.
Also, if you are working somewhere and the work is affecting your mental health, take a break. I won't tell you to stop because I can't feed you. I'll only tell you to take a break and analyze how you'll do the work so that it won't affect you. If it's not working out well, look for a new job that you can cope with before leaving the previous one. Don't think of what people will say. It's your life and you only know what you're going through. Be so heavy on yourself that what people say or think doesn't get to you.
Be heavy on yourself so that you won't let anything affect your mental health.
Be heavy on yourself that you never stop smiling.
Be heavy on yourself that you only seek things that bring peace to you.
Be heavy on yourself that even when your favorite person says goodbye to you, it won't affect you very much.
Be heavy on yourself that all you want is a soft life.
Be heavy on yourself that you can be alone all night long and still be happy.
Be heavy on yourself so that you won't place your happiness in people's hands.
Be heavy on yourself that you'll always want to be better than you were before.
Be heavy on yourself that you're your only competition. You don't need to compare yourself to anyone.
Be heavy on yourself that you always want to improve day by day.
Be heavy on yourself that you always want to look good for yourself only.
Be heavy on yourself that even though others are doing better than you, it won't make you sad.
Be heavy on yourself that you're you and you're not faking anything for anyone.
Be heavily on yourself that you're not living to impress anyone.
Be heavy on yourself that you don't wish to be in someone's shoes because they are doing than you.
Be heavy on yourself that only your opinion matters to you.
Remember, you're all for yourself.
It's Getting Worse....
I'm a very optimistic person. I'm part of those who believe that things will get better even when it feels like there can't be a solution to the problem. Though there's no problem without a solution there are problems that will make you feel like it's over.
The thing bothering my mind is the economic situation in Nigeria. It's getting worse each day and I always hope for the best but I guess I'm getting tired. I've had too much hope that I'm becoming pessimistic.
Two days ago, I was having a gist with my sister and her friend. We talked about different things we're facing in the country. We have too many problems in Nigeria like insecurity, unemployment, inadequate power supply, and many more... While scrolling through my phone, I saw that one dollar is now six hundred and eighty naira. It was so painful because things will continue to get more expensive as it has always been.
Yesterday, I took four hours break from social media. I just wanted to have enough time for myself. I slept and I felt good after I woke up. Whenever I touch my phone, the first application I open is Whatsapp. I took to my Whatsapp to check some messages and also check people's status. While checking people's status, I was seeing dollar and naira everywhere. I wondered what could have happened again.
I took to my Instagram account to check some blogging accounts. I realized that one dollar is now seven hundred and ten naira. The craziest thing is that I checked it the day before yesterday and it was six hundred as eighty naira and within a few hours, it Is already seven hundred and ten naira. It's just like a movie.
When I woke up this morning, I didn't touch my phone. I just did all my home chores which lasted for more than three hours. I cooked and finished eating before I touched my phone. As I said earlier, Whatsapp is the first application I open on my phone. I just saw that dollar is now seven hundred and fifty naira. That's crazy!!!
Things are getting worse each day and Nigerians are getting poorer. I'm just scared of what's going to happen tomorrow again. I'm grateful to readcash and other blogging platforms. I'm also grateful to cryptocurrency trading and other legal things Nigerians do online to make money. If not for all of these, a lot of us may not be able to afford our three square meals.
Nigeria is just like hell💔
The Bloodstain.
I think I spoke about my journey here, some time ago. I spoke about how I temporarily relocated from Lagos to Ibadan because of my movie academy. I chose Ibadan because the movie academy seems to be one of the best movie academies in Nigeria. They teach us like the theatre arts students at the University and give us the best form of education that we need.
The accommodation was never a problem. Ever since I relocated to Ibadan, I've been living with my sister. We live well in peace and harmony. When I first relocated to my sister's place, I saw a tailoring material and I know my sister does not have any tailoring material so I asked her who owns it. Then, she said it is owned by one of the housemates, and when she comes back from where she traveled, she'll come to pick it up.
After a few days, the housemate came. She greeted me and she seem to be very cool. I liked the first impression she showed me. She also bought something for me and my sister. It feels good to know a housemate of yours because a lot of people seem to be unfriendly here. And I can tell you that I only know five people living in this house.
So, the aunty comes to our place regularly and I love to give back the level of energy that I get from someone. I visited her apartment with my sister. The first time I entered, it was a bit dirty and I could understand because she had just come back after a few weeks of leaving the house.
Whenever I enter her place, everywhere is always rough and she doesn't put things in order. Three days ago, my sis and I went to say hi and we sat on her bed. Unfortunately, for my sis, she sat in a blood stain. I had to shout that my sis sat on a menstrual blood stain. The aunty acted like she was just seeing the blood stain. I didn't say anything.
Would you believe that when I entered her room today, it was still that same bed sheet that is on the bed and that same blood stain?. It was crazy. I wonder why you will feel relieved to be sleeping on a menstrual blood stain. It was so annoying.
I wouldn't want it to look like I'm bragging. I'm very neat!!!! Neat to my toes. It saddens me when I see a lady who's comfortable with dirt. Some people are so comfortable with dirt that they drink dirty water, cook with dirty water, and leave dirty plates for over three days before they now decide to wash them.
Ever since then, my attitude changed toward the aunty because I can't cope with dirty people. I can't just cope with them. They annoy me. You'll see some people looking very good and they have a mouth odor. They can't even speak comfortably in public. It's not nice. When you're neat, you'll have confidence. The confidence will just come from somewhere you don't expect.
I've visited some toilets that discouraged me to pee because of how dirty and smelly they were. Let's try to be neat in all ways.
Cleanliness is next to Godliness.
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Celebrity Lifestyle!
Who is a celebrity? A celebrity is a famous person. A celebrity is known as someone very popular either in a country or in the world. In school today, we talked about the celebrity lifestyle. We talked about what celebrities go through. When we began to talk about it, I began to get scared because I'm very sure that I'll be a celebrity soon and I know I'll break down or I'll cry if these things happen to me. I just told myself to get prepared because these things will happen.
As a celebrity, people expect you to be perfect. It's so funny how people take celebrities as mini gods and except them to be very perfect in everything that they do. To me, it's not supposed to be like that. As long as you're human, you are allowed to make mistakes. So, imagine that you're a celebrity, you'll always try to make sure that you do things right because you don't want to be dragged on social media.
As a celebrity, you should think about your fans even before thinking about yourself. Funny right? I'm talking truth. These fans are your supporters and you should always do things to impress them. These fans are the ones who made you famous, buying your products, reporting your works for more views, streaming your music, and all sort of ways that they can be of help so, you need to always think of how to make them happy. So, it's like you're living for some set of people and you know how uncomfortable that could be.
Being famous is costly. It is very costly and this part is making me scared. As a celebrity, you need to always invest in yourself. When I talk about investing in yourself, it means you should always look good and fresh. It means that you go for body wash, pedicure, manicure, fixing of nails, fixing of lashes, and all sorts of things that can make you look more attractive so that people will embrace your works.
As a celebrity, a lot of people think that you're rich. A lot of people think that celebrities do not go broke which is very wrong. It's a wrong mindset. Human beings go broke. I don't think there's a human being that doesn't go broke but I think it just has different levels.
There are many things you can't do as a celebrity. As a celebrity, you can't take a walk on the street without maximum security because it is likely for you to get mobbed, injured, or even kidnapped. As a celebrity, you can't even go to a local restaurant to eat because people will think that you've gone broke and in the next few minutes, you'll be trending on social media platforms that you've gone broke.
As a celebrity, you need to learn how to overlook insults and move on. A lot of people insult celebrities and some of those insults may get to that celebrity and he or she will break down. So, if you're willing to be a celebrity and you can't overlook insults, it may be hard for you to survive on social media.
Sometimes, it is likely for a celebrity not to reign anymore so that person would do anything to maintain the fame. This is why you'll see a lot of celebrities do things like drawing tattoos, quarreling online with other celebrities, or doing what will make people talk about them to keep their market selling.
Also, a celebrity is a creative person. A creative person needs to have a stable mind. For example, if a celebrity gets married and he or she is facing troubles in her marriage, it's likely for them to divorce because they want to maintain their stable mind.
It's not easy for a celebrity to choose her career over her personal life. Kudos to these people. Kudos to my favorite celebrities like Michael Jackson, Wizkid, Beyonce, Will Smith, Cristiano Ronaldo and a lot more....
Thanks for entertaining us everyday. We love you❤
Let Them Grow!!
It saddens me whenever I see parents that do not want their children to grow. A lot of you may not understand what I am saying so I'll explain. I have met a lot of parents who want their children to grow fast by making them face some real-life challenges and not making them enjoy their childhood. Do not get me wrong, everyone will face some real-life challenges. But I think we should let the children grow and when it's time to face real-life challenges we should teach them how to deal with them. Let them enjoy their childhood.
I'm a big fan of Michael Jackson. When I read about him, I realized that his childhood was no fun. It was full of fear. From what I read, Michael's father trains all of his children how to sing well. If they make a mistake, he's going to beat them. I believe some of us have experienced that, maybe from our parents or our guardian. He had no childhood fun that a normal child should have. I know their father wants the best for them but he didn't let them enjoy their childhood period.
We see a lot of parents that prepare their little children for marriage. This is very rampant in the northern part of Nigeria. You tend to see a child not up to his teenage, getting married. It's crazy. Why don't you let them grow first? Let these kids grow to a certain age so that it wouldn't feel awkward when you're talking to them about having their partners and similar topics.
Some parents don't want their kids to play. They're always wanting them to be very serious with life. It's cool to be a serious person but the truth is that children have nothing serious in their heads. They are filled with enough, laughter, play, and so on... Some parents beat their children when the child plays. It's not helpful. Beating your child will make the child dull and it won't make them outspoken.
Why don't we want the kids to grow? It's normal to prepare them for life challenges but I think we're prepping them too fast. Let a kid know that he's a kid. Have you ever noticed that when kids play together, they know nothing about race, tribe, color, religion and all but it's their parents that will begin to warn them of people from another tribe which is not supposed to be so?
Give them the chance to prove that child in them. Let them sit and look back someday and remember their childhood memories. Instead of warning your child against people from another tribe, let them know the primary things they should know. Let them know that it's good to pray to God, teach them that it's good to be obedient and respectful, and teach them that it's harmful to play with sharp objects. Teach them the necessary things they should know at their age. Don't take them too far. Do not prep them for what they don't need at that stage in their life. You'll still be the one to train them but you should calm down. Just chill and take it to step by step.
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Listen To Us!!
Talk!! I know you want to say something. Say it!! Say it and be free. Don't hold that grudge anymore. This is the voice of a mother to her child. The child seems to be a teenager. A teenager who is forced to say what she has on her mind. A teenager who has always been told to shut up since she was a child. A teenager who has a lot on her mind and she's fighting so hard to let those thoughts go.
Is it too late? I think it's a bit late for the child. Well, it's never too late. Anything can happen at any time so I shouldn't think she's running out of time. I think it's late for the mother to shout at her that way. Forcing the young lady to talk when she doesn't feel like talking. Leave her alone!!!!
Do you know the funniest thing about African parents? They'll blame you for everything. Oh yeah, you're responsible for your actions but I think they shouldn't blame you for everything. They have faults and I'm gonna prove it to you. I'll give you a few instances to buttress my point.
Every time a child looks sad, something is bothering her. Dear parents, I expect you to ask what's with her and give her time to express herself. Would you believe that some parents will ask the child what's wrong but wouldn't let her express herself fully?
When I was a little child. My uncle used to live with us. This man fondles part of my body but anytime I want to talk to my mom, I'm always scared because I knew she would beat me even before dealing with my uncle. My mom is very harsh and that's why I don't tell her everything. It hurts so bad because this is the first time I'm revealing that my uncle fondled parts of my body because I was too scared of my parents. Due to the fear that my mummy will beat me, I won't say what I'm going through. But now, my mom doesn't beat me again.
I know there are many children out there, dealing with this same issue and they want to talk to their parents but some of their parents are not available while some of their parents are too harsh and they believe that if they tell their parents, they'll be the beating of their life so they'll rather keep shut.
Recently, my mom complained to me in our family meeting that I don't talk to anyone in my family about my issues. I just smiled. I smiled because I've learned to keep quiet which was caused by fear.
Honestly, there are many things in my mind to say but I'm used to not talking to anyone. It's killing me but I find it hard to talk and I don't expect my mom to complain about that anymore.
You may have a child, cousin, niece, or friend who's always sitting alone or not looking sharp. Observe them and you'll realize that they want to say something.
A lot of people believe that a small child doesn't go through a lot in life. In Africa, older ones believe that experience is by age. I don't agree with that.
There are a lot of people who can't control their sexual urges because they also faced what happened to me when I was small.
A lot of us want to talk and be free from that thought in our minds. A lot of us want to talk to get justice. A lot of us want to talk because it's killing us inside but we find it very hard to talk because we have been shut up since we were small.
Just make sure that you're a good listener. I believe that we all want to talk. And I've been sharing some of my life experiences because most of the people reading my articles are not people that I know physically. Writing articles is the major way I express myself. I'm thankful for blogging.
Remember, everyone wants to talk but make sure you listen to us.
Can You Look Back?
I slept off after having my breakfast. I feel this way a lot of time. What about you? You know the feeling of you just finishing a very delicious meal, the next thing that comes is sleep. I don't know how it happens but it just happens. Or maybe it's my body. Let me just say it's natural.
When I woke up, I tune to a channel on the television. I didn't like it so I kept on changing and changing. My best channels are the music channels so I always tune in to one of them. I tune it to the one that plays the correct song that fits my mood. I so much love music.
When I tuned in to one of the music channels, their focus is on one female artiste which will last for an hour. What I mean here is that they will play different songs by that artist for an hour. So, I watched so many of her songs. The name of the female Nigerian artist is Tiwa Savage.
I watched a lot of her music videos including the ones she has done for over ten years. Varieties of music genres that she has sung. She's a very talented artist. Beautiful, sexy, and has an ear-piercing voice. And I know she has over three hundred songs but they couldn't show them all because of time. Remember, I said it was for an hour.
I wish she watched that particular music channel when they were showing her songs. I'm sure she'll be very happy with herself today. She has grown bigger and even better. One thing I know is that when you keep doing something every day, you tend to get better at it. That's how we grow in any field that we've chosen.
Who hasn't made a mistake in this life? There are some points in our lives when we were ignorant about a particular thing and later, we understood it. Presently, we all have many things we're ignorant about, and with time, we will learn and understand it better.
I watched a lot of her videos where she was dressed semi-nude. There is a particular video of hers where she was naked. She still doesn't cover some parts of her body but it's now better than how she does it before. Some people don't wear clothes that cover every part of their body. I'm one of them. Don't blame me😊. It's a choice.
I know one day, she'll sit and watch every of that and be proud of herself and still regret some of her actions. We're humans and we're bound to make mistakes.
To you, my reader. Can you look back? I know it's not all of our actions we're proud of but I know we are proud of some of our actions.
Some people look at their past and begin to regret all they've done. It's normal to regret but I'll urge every one of us to move on. Just move on and learn from your past mistakes.
I think every reader here can vouch for their actions. Forget about the past mistakes. Right now, make sure you do things that you'll not regret when you look back in the future. It's hard but you can try. There are some of the previous actions that I regret today but I've learned from them and moved on.
And for the things you've done before, ask yourself a sincere question.
Can you look back?
Today's Gist!
What happened to me today is very funny😅. I'm a very smart girl but I don't know what happened to me today. I guess I was shy. Let me give you the full gist.
I love Friday classes at the film academy because it's always interesting. I'm a lover of phonetics and on Friday, we always have phonics class. Also, I studied English education at the University so I think it's one of the reasons I love phonetics. And I remember when I was in Secondary School, my friends call me phonetics because of the way I speak English language.
Friday class remains my best class because we're treating what I love. I think this happens to everyone. If you love a subject and the class is always interesting, you'd always want to attend the class. Also, I've never missed the woman's class because of her right attitude to work and the way she teaches us. She's so loveable.
I woke up very early today and left for school because the class will start at 7:00 am. I got to school a few minutes before 7:00 am and the woman began to teach while others joined us. She didn't get angry at those that came late. She's very calm and understanding.
The class was very interesting. I love to hear new words, know their meaning, and also learn how to pronounce those words well. The amazing thing is that the words I always thought I knew how to pronounce well, I mispronounced a lot of them😅.
When we finished the class, the woman drove us somewhere close to our place. Whenever she's done teaching on Fridays, she drops us off at a juncture very close to our house.
Today, she said she's gonna drop us off at a particular juncture, and we followed her. I have a friend who we go home together so when the woman was driving we already knew that she wasn't going in our direction but we didn't talk😅. We just looked at ourselves and began to laugh😅. It was crazy because we should have talked.
When we alighted from the car, the girl and I looked at each other and began to laugh. We trekked for over ten minutes before we got a bike that took us home😅. It was very crazy because I still don't know why we didn't talk.
Instead of us talking, we were just looking at each other and we were laughing 😅. We were laughing at our stupidity because it was very crazy😅.
At least, we should have told the woman to drop us off since we already know that the was not going towards our destination😅. I guess this has happened to a lot of us🤣🤣.
Please don't laugh at me😅
Should You Do What You Like?
Three days ago, we heard the sad news about an actress who lost her life. It's so disheartening to lose someone who seems to be your favorite actress or one of your favorite actresses. It's so sad. The fact that we see everyone post beautiful pictures on social media does not mean that we all are happy. Everyone is dealing with a lot. I'm also dealing with a lot but I'm trying to be happy while living with it. You know it's killing you but you've got no choice.
I had to read about the woman's story when I heard it from people. I realized that she's strong, she's a warrior, she's everything a great person can be. I know that a lot of people out there cannot deal with what she dealt with before she lost her life.
Here, I'm talking about a woman who lost her six siblings within two months. This is so sad. I've always heard about a lot of happenings but I never knew that there are other people out there dealing with a lot. Dealing with things I never thought could exist. Imagine losing all one's siblings. Do you know how crazy that is? It's too crazy!!!!
Still, within that two months, she lost her father. That's losing seven people in two months. So frustrating!!! The saddest thing about it is that she lost prominent people in her life. Having siblings is a blessing. Then, imagine how one would feel if he loses one of his siblings or all his siblings.
After two years, she lost her daughter. The only child in her life!. Imagine that one has just one eye and the eye got blind, it means that such a person is hopeless. Though, people say there are always solutions.
Now, the woman is late. What could have claimed her life if not depression? The craziest thing is that she was looking so healthy a few hours to when she died. She was dancing and was very lively. You wouldn't even know that such a woman is battling depression.
A lot of people out there battle with depression but look so lively when you see them. They look like their whole life is happy and there's nothing wrong with them.
And I know that a lot of things happen and you'd feel like you want to give up. Yeah!!!! It happens but can you keep grinding?
It's not easy to decide to keep grinding but I know it's the best decision you can ever make.
In school today, we got into a very deep conversation with our lecturer, and we realized that a lot of people are battling with issues. I used to think that people who commit suicide because of love are crazy but no... It's just so sad to break up with someone you talk to every day, someone you thought you would spend the rest of your life with, someone you never thought you could leave without, and in one day, the person calls you to say goodbye. I'd be mad!!!!
Dear reader, I know that you're going through a lot. It's very obvious. Stay calm and try to derive happiness from anywhere that you can. Don't forget, depression kills. Please, make yourself happy in any way that you think you can.
Is life crazy? The craziest thing about life is that, even if you're happy, you'll still die.
Dear reader, what do I advise you to do?
Do I advise you to do what you like?
Know Your Space!
If you're on a movie set, know your space.
If you're in a relationship, know your space.
If you're amongst your family members, know your space.
If you're amongst your friends, know your space.
If you're in class, know your space.
I listed all of this because I realized that a lot of people do not know their space in class, in people's life, amongst their families, and many more. One major thing I have learned from not knowing your space is that it brings about disrespect and insult.
Let's talk about a movie set. If you are the production manager on a movie set and you begin to act like the director. It's going to bring some insult to you because you're not minding your business. Imagine that the director is telling the actor what to do and a production manager starts to act like he is the director, the director will be so crazy. On a movie set, you should know your space.
I have been on a movie set countless times and I realized that a lot of people that do not know their space end up doing what they are not supposed to do. Imagine that you are a production assistant and you begin to run errands for everybody on the set, automatically you are an errand person on the set because you don't know your space and you don't even respect yourself.
Also, knowing your space is very important in a relationship. I have seen a lot of Girlfriends acting like wives simply because they want the man to marry them. It doesn't make sense! Know your space. You should know that you are just a girlfriend and not his wife and that is why you should put a limit on what you are going to do for your man.
Your man may be having a bad day and he may not want to share with you but his mother. Don't force it! You're not his mother. There are lots of responsibilities his mother should take for him instead of you. Don't rush!
I see a lot of ladies who get beaten by their boyfriends. One thing I believe is that, if your man loves you, he wouldn't raise his hand to beat you. And when you eventually get to know what is happening you would realize that the girl got disrespected because she doesn't know her space in the man's life.
Even when you are with your family members, you should know your space. You may be the richest child but not the first child. As Africans, you should respect the elder ones. You should be able to know your space as the last child even though you're rich.
Knowing your space earns you respect from everyone. People will respect you because you respect yourself. Knowing your space is just like respecting yourself. Don't lose that respect.
Whatever you do, know your space!
Has This Happened To You?
My sister has been dating a guy for a few years. They are so close and don't hide anything from each other. At times, I envy them because they love themselves too much😅. I love their love life. Also, they can't do without talking to each other during the day. They don't hide anything from each other too.
As Africans, when you get to a particular stage in life, your parents will ask about the person you're in a relationship with. This question hits the female gender mostly because a woman is expected to get married in her 20s. I think we do this because we want the female child to marry early and also give birth early but it's changing gradually. Things are changing in the modern world and it's very cool.
Back then, it was hard to see a lady who got married in her thirties. There are people like that but they were hard to get because our culture and traditions were highly put into practice during that time. Honestly, I so much love it. I'm also the kind of lady who wishes to marry in my middle 20s. Also, if I don't get a husband during that period, I wouldn't rush. Marriage is forever so I'll take my time.
It's nice to share your relationship experience with your parents. They guide you and teach you what to do in such situations. And that's why you tend to see a lot of African parents interfering in their child's relationships. It's not nice to interfere rudely. I think most of our parents don't know how to talk politely.
My mom did something very painful today. My sister's boyfriend called her to say hi and it didn't end well. My mom had to start telling him all that he did wrong to my sister. It's not nice.
I didn't say that age shouldn't talk about it but it should be in a polite manner. I know my mom and I know how she talks and I'm imagining what she must have said to that guy. He got angry and called my sis.
He asked why she was always telling my mom what happens between them. He felt insecure and I know if such happens to my sister, I won't like it. Imagine that my sister calls his mom and she was being harsh, I won't like it too. I may dislike the woman.
Only God knows what could have been running in his mind after then. This must have happened to a lot of married Africans.
Has it happened to you?
There's Someone For You!
I have always been a victim of heart breaks. I have dated different guys and it didn't end well. Though I enjoyed a relationship I had to break up with the person due to personal issues. This makes me think all the time because I feel like I'm not liked or loved by anyone.
This kind of feeling makes you feel inferior. Especially when you see two lovers that are so full of themselves and can't do without each other. I know it makes people depressed because they haven't felt that way. All they have felt is maltreatment from their partner. No form of love at all.
A lot of people are going through this. Some people committed suicide because they feel like they are left alone in this world. They have no one to talk to, they have no one to tell how they feel. If they're sad, they just find ways of making themselves happy because they believe that there's no one for them.
Would you believe that some people have always been loved right from time? There are a lot of people out there that haven't been heartbroken. I know two of these sets of people. They are very lucky and we are lucky too😁. Everyone is lucky but in different ways.
And we tend to realize that those people that have been heartbroken countless times even tend to do more when they meet a new partner. They'll be so caring and give the person all of them and at the end of the day, it may not end well.
I think this is because they are trying to satisfy the new partner so that he or she wouldn't leave them. Unfortunately, we have so many players out there. There are a lot of people who are not ready for a relationship but they'll pretend to love you just to take advantage of you. Some people have taken advantage of me. This has happened to a lot of people and I'm sad to tell you that it will continue to happen because some people are so good at faking their feelings.
At some point, you begin to think that you're not beautiful enough or you're not doing well enough and that's why they do more for their partner by forcing things on them. They force their partner to love them and do all sorts of things but at the end of the day, the so-called partner gets tired and breaks up with them.
One thing I know is that there is someone for you. If you're with someone that makes you feel inferior or that makes you feel like you're not enough, leave such a person. He or she doesn't deserve you. You deserve to be loved and cared for.
Also, if you are in a one-sided relationship, please try to ask your partner what could have done wrong and if he or she doesn't change after the talk, leave!!! Your mental health is very important. You need it to navigate in life. If you're in a relationship that costs your peace, kindly leave!!! Peace is beautiful.
When you eventually meet the person that is for you, you don't need to force things. The love will come naturally. It will flow because that is the person for you. It's quite unfortunate that some people met there one for them very late but they'll be doing better than they were before.
To a lot of you looking for a partner, just chill. Take a deep breath and smile again. The right one will come. That person wouldn't stress you. He or she would love you for who you are. Accept your flaws and live with them which means that you also have to adjust a bit. This is because you already have a partner.
Look, you're the right person for someone. They're looking for you and you are also in search of them. Don't worry, you'll meet in happiness, good health and wealth.
Remember, there's someone for you😊.
Should We Call It Fake Love?
Hi everyone. I know I've not been active for a few days. I was dealing with a lot and I could not combine it with my article writing. Also, I've learned that a creative person needs full concentration and a complete or focused mind whenever he or she is writing or creating what he or she knows how to do best. So, I decided to pause.
I think I should address a general issue here and I know that for sure, you will reason with me. It's my birthdate today and I'd say a happy birthday to myself. I wish myself long life and prosperity. I'm great and I know I'll be greater. I've got no plans for today😅 all I want to do is, sleep.
Should we call it fake love? I'm sure everyone receives gifts and birthday wishes from different people. Sometimes it's even people that we don't expect. And also, it may sometimes be from people that we expect. And you may think it's normal but I don't think so. Right now, I'm returning the exact level of energy I get from people. I guess I need it to navigate in life😅.
One thing I notice is that those people that are very close to you may not even wish you a happy birthday. You'll be so shocked. I'm the kind of lady that have people in mind. No matter the relationship between us, I'll still say a happy birthday to you. But I realized that I'm not everybody.
And some people don't even see birthdays as a big deal. It's just like a normal day to them. The only difference is that they will clock a new age on that day. I think most guys don't see a birthday as a big deal but I do😅. And I make a cake for my birthday. I so much love cakes😊.
There are a lot of my friends that we've been together with for over a decade, some of them didn't wish me a happy birthday, and I can't do without wishing them well on their birthday. Should we call it fake love?
Some of my friends that I don't even check on, are the ones doing the most. Wishes, gifts, and a lot more. I never knew a lot of people had me in mind. I feel good😊. I know this happens to everyone on their birthday. I don't know if it's normal but I know it happens to everyone.
What could have been their excuse? Are they busy? Didn't they remember? Yeah, I understand that we all have a lot that we deal with so I guess it's very possible to forget. So, with that, I won't blame anyone.
The funniest thing is that we give too much energy and show so much care to these particular people. And maybe that's why they think people can't do without them. Someone proved that to me last night and that's how I realized that some people are feeling like the directors of our lives.
For the love, care, and everything these people have been showing to us, Should we call it fake love?
Marriage Differences.
I was talking to a friend yesterday. We talked about so many things yesterday. We also got to talk about marriage. We talked about people in different marriages. We talked about those in an abusive marriage, those in a beautiful marriage, and many more. I was able to learn a lot yesterday so I decided to share it with you all too. Marriage may be very interesting to some people and it may be very sad for some people. In a nutshell, your type of marriage depends on your home and the understanding between you and your partner. I also learned that some people are not proud of their partners. Also, some people are very proud of their partner and this is one reason people flaunt their partner always. I'm sure that everyone has a couple on their Whatsapp list and they love to flaunt each other every time. I guess it's normal. One prayer is that we all should marry our best friends.
I learned something new about marriage yesterday. My friend told me that people have discussions before marriage but most of those discussions don't work after they get married. This is because marriage is not what we think it is, we only know better once we are married. He told me that some people make agreements before marriage. Agreements like; they won't have kids in the first two years, they won't flaunt each other, and many more. I guess everyone is weird😅 so if you meet another weird person like you, you may have some kind of discussion before you two get married. So I think one basic thing there is to communicate with your partner all the time. When you expect marriage to go this way and it doesn't go that way, you should have another discussion with your partner. Have that discussion and look for a way that the problem will be solved. Communication solves problems better than trying to fix them without communicating with the other party. I am very sure it works that way so you should try it too.
Also, he talked about how marriage changes certain people. He said marriage is what makes other men cheat and it's this same marriage that stops other men from cheating. If you're dating a partner that loves to have s*x all the time, it's either you adjust for them or you leave them alone. One thing I've always learned from my lecturers is that we shouldn't try to fix things that are not possible in marriage. If your man or woman is a beast, I don't think he can change. Such a person will continue to be the beast that he is. Everyone is a beast in their ways but these things differ. Like I said earlier, communication is key!!! You need communication for everything. Also, marry someone that can tell what's wrong with you even without you talking about it. Such people would have dedicated their time to studying you and knowing many things about you.
Lastly, marry your best friend. Marry someone that you're not scared to be with. Marry someone you can tell everything that happened without being shy. Marry someone that you can teach new s*x styles without looking like a prostitute or a fool. Marry someone that has the same goal as yours. I'm talking about someone that's pursuing a similar interest to yours. Marry someone you know. Study your partner. You should know when your partner is down when your partner is happy by their actions and not by their words of mouth. Also, don't change to bad after marriage. I've come to realize that some people pretend while courting their partner because they want their partner to marry them. It's not a good idea. If you have a good attitude, you should be known for it and if you have a bad attitude, you should be known for it so that you can learn and correct such habit. One thing you should do is to check your genotype even before going far in the courtship. Once you know your genotype, you'll know if you're to date the person or not.
Have a lovely day😊.
Yesterday's Journey.
It was a very stressful one. I'm the kind of person who loves to travel in the evening. I don't think have any reasonable reason for this. I just love to travel in the evening and get to wherever I'm going at night. I was still sleeping yesterday and I got a call. Sincerely, I didn't want to pick up the call. I don't pick up calls very early in the morning because if I look at my phone screen, I may not be able to sleep again. I struggled to check who was calling, it turned out to be my mum. She asked my sis and me to leave Ibadan very early in the morning because of traffic. I guess someone already told her how hectic the traffic was and maybe that's why she called us to leave very early. Honestly, I slept again when she hung up😅. Sleep is sweet and we shouldn't cheat on nature.
I woke up later around 9:00 am and began to pack my things and my sister too. We didn't pack many things. We only took things that we needed at home. You know there are a lot of things that we can't do without daily. I'm talking about things like toothbrushes, panties, and many more. We had clothes at home so we just took one each. We locked our windows, swept the house, disposed of the waste in our bin, and tidied the house very well. I love it when I come back to meet my house is very neat. One thing I'll never forget to do is to switch off all the sockets in the house. When we were about to leave, we informed some of our friends in the compound. Nigeria is not very safe and that's why you need to inform people about where you're going or where you are at the moment.
We got to the park and in a few minutes, we began the trip. Ibadan to Lagos is supposed to be one hour and thirty minutes. Would you believe that the traffic was very hectic that we couldn't leave the premises of Ibadan in three hours? It was so amazing. The traffic was so hectic that I almost passed out due to the heat on the bus. It wasn't funny!!! I almost cried because a journey of one hour and thirty minutes turned into an eight hours journey. We left around 10:00 am and got home around 7:00 pm. It's still not my longest journey so far but it's one of my delayed journey. The traffic delayed us. On the other side of the road, the traffic is as long as the third mainland bridge. I'm just wondering what time those people will get home.
I'm grateful to God that my sis and I got home in peace. We were not involved in any accident.
Permit me to wish a friend a happy birthday. Happy Birthday to you, @Jumper-01. I wish you long life and prosperity.
Happy Eid El Kabir❤
We Sent Him Outta The School.
We reported one of our lecturers in school today. We all are adults and we are in a film Academy but we had to report this lecturer because of the way he teaches us.
Even though we all are adults you should not use some words in class or you should not talk about some particular topics because it is not everybody that loves to talk about those topics.
This man loves to talk about sex whenever he is teaching us in class. I am not very cool with it but I didn't talk or make any complaints since none of us spoke about it. I thought we all were cool with it except for me.
Then one of the school directors came yesterday and asked us how far we have been coping with each lecturer. Then we all talked about different lecturers and the way they teach us and what we enjoy about how we were thought.
Then they asked about a particular man. We all kept shut because we were waiting for one of us to talk about him so that we can say what we feel about the man.
Then a lady complained about how the man used sexual words in the class. Honestly, I was very happy that she brought up the topic because I know most people wouldn't talk.
We began to talk about everything the man has always been saying in class. The head of school was disappointed because she never expected the man to do such.
They thought we were lying until one of us played the recorded voice of the man while he was teaching. I think most of us are familiar with some people who record the teacher's voice whenever he's teaching in class so that if they are not able to write everything down they will hear it when they are trying to remember what the teacher or the lecturer said.
I am glad she recorded it and that was when the head of school believed what we were talking about because they trusted him so much that they never knew is that terrible person.
One thing I know is that, whenever you are in an educational organization, there are some words that the lecturers should not use in class because it is a way of digressing from one topic to another and it may even cause confusion in class.
I am very sure that some of us in class may begin to think about all those topics and all those words that the man uses in class. Someone had to confess that she almost masturbated but she was able to control herself and went to sit outside the house.
And I am very sure that she is not the only person that went through that but she was the only person that was able to speak out about what she went through.
I studied an educational course at the university and I know what it takes or how offensive it may be to use sexual words in class. The only period when I feel like these words should be used is when you are teaching about sexual education but if that is not what you are teaching then I see no reason why you should digress to search the topic.
Aside from that, this man is a very terrible person. He's the only lecturer that behaves fraudulently. He dupes the school and even the students. This man has tarnished the image of the school and such a person should not be accepted in an organization.
Thank God the management was able to check the man out of the school immediately.
I know a lot of awesome people like this at our workplace. It's either they cheat, lie, defraud or not abide by the rules of the organization.
Don't be like them!!!
Perspectives!!!!
Would you believe me when I tell you that a lot of people have heavy hearts? A lot of people are going through a lot but a lot of us don't know because we see couples post each other and we think everything is going on well.
Something happened to a friend this morning. She has been dating a guy for a few months and she realized that he was married. Before going further, if it were you, how would you feel? What would you do? My friend called me and started crying.
God knows I can't take it. Why will a man woo me without telling me that he's married? It's very wrong. God knows I'll never forgive such a person. When wooing a lady, you should tell her your stance. You should be plain about what you want her for. This thing is painful and I can't even imagine it happening to me.
My friend began to cry like a baby. I felt her pain. I've been heartbroken countless times because I know how it feels to say goodbye to a lover. Especially when you realize that he has someone he will spend the rest of his life with. It's so devastating and I'm imagining what she's going through right now.
The guy is very wicked. He jilted her!!! Why didn't he let her know that he was married? He used her and took her for granted. It means he doesn't love her. Many guys do that to ladies and it's very wrong. And that's why you see some ladies do crazy things to guys.
Though there are a lot of ladies who are cool with it. They see it as no big deal. They even prefer dating a married man to a single guy. I've seen a lot of ladies like that and I won't blame them because we all are different people with different perspectives.
I have a friend who prays to date a married man all the time. Whenever she tells you that she is in a relationship, just know that she's talking about a married man. And right now, she's married to a married man. She's doing well because it's from her perspective. Anyways, I can't do it.
And a lot of married men approach me daily too but it's one thing I don't wish to do because I won't feel good when someone else is dating my husband. I'll feel very bad. God knows I can't take it and I can't give what I can't take. It's a bad habit.
I know there are many things you find weird that some people like. There are some things other people find weird but you like them. We're different people with different ways of reasoning. So, I won't blame anyone for his or her actions. And we shouldn't judge anyone because there are many things we never planned to do but we find ourselves in such situations.
What about you?
Can you date a married man?
What Happened Yesterday.
Our movie shooting has always been fun, interesting, and peaceful. We never had a reason to fight each other or to use negative words on each other. We are a very playful set of people. We all relate like we are mates. And I love it that way because such a relationship shuns all sorts of discrimination. But no matter how much you play with people or no matter how much you play with elderly people, we should always be mindful of the kind of words we use for such people. Little things get people angry. I've always known that and I confirmed it again yesterday. I think we all know that the kind of words we used for people matters a lot. No matter how much we play, we should know how to talk to people in the right manner to prevent emotional outbursts. So, let me tell you what happened yesterday.
The filmmaking process got easier day by day. Even though it's very stressful, we still found a way to make ourselves happy on the movie set. At times, people smoke, some people take alcohol and some people even believe that such substances give them strength. So, we all took alcohol in the evening and we went on with our work. As usual, we began to play with each other while the work was going on so that we won't get bored.
Then a man called the production manager a riff-raff. Though they play with each other. But the word is not nice. This man got angry and slapped the other man. The fight got so serious that we thought it was a result of the alcohol. We separated the fight for over an hour. They threatened each other and promised to kill each other. I got scared that I wanted to run away. It has never happened on set and I was shocked!! The fight got so serious that they went physical. Some of us were locked in the living room due to emotional outbursts.
We finished very late last night due to the fight. And I didn't even wait till we finished because it was very late. I hope that the fight doesn't continue today. And if it continues, I'll leave because I don't have the strength to fight😂. I know how much we wasted and how many minutes we wasted yesterday. If the line producer were there, he may sack a lot of people and even people that didn't engage in the fight. It's all well and good.
Fighting is not good. It spoilt a lot of things yesterday and I know the fight has its results. Who knows if they will still attack each other outside the studio? Or what if they involve their family members? Only God knows what will happen.
Let's all be careful of the kind of words we use for people. Not everyone enjoys those words. Let's be mindful of it please.
Have a nice day😊
Different Experiences...
I went to the movie academy this morning. After that, I'll go to the studio. We have three new students so we had to introduce ourselves again to know each other better. I guess it is needed in every gathering maybe for future purposes.
The first story is from the lecturer. He's an Albino and he said the first time he had s*x was on August 29th, 2009. He says this countless times😂. He shared different experiences of himself and when he was in University. He talked about the segregation he faced due to his skin color.
The first lady didn't share many experiences. So, I'll skip that. I guess she doesn't have much experience in life. Is there anyone who doesn't have an experience in life? Let's skip that😂
The second lady said she doesn't want to study at University. She complained about the poor facilities of the country's Universities so if she will study at the University, she will study in a foreign University.
I also didn't share many experiences. I only told them that I love music and I love to stay alone. At the same time, I'm talkative.
Then, someone said she doesn't like s*x. Hehe😂. I'm sorry for bringing this up. Why will someone be frigid? We all began to laugh when she said so😂. I've never seen someone that doesn't love s*x. S*x is life😂.
Then a guy shared his experience. He said he is a member of the confraternity. He's a tough guy, he has tattoos, smokes weed, and does all sorts of things. I love guys like that but I don't like it when they are rough😂. Don't get me wrong😂. I love good-looking guys. I mean guys with tats, nose piercing, ear piercing, cut and scents nice.
Sorry, I can't share many experiences here😂. Someone said she does not want to get married😂. Though marriage is not an achievement. I feel like marriage is needed in one way or another. Well, not everyone wants to get married but I have friends that are married and I was told that marriage is sweet😊. So, I'm going to get married. I'm sure of that😊.
One thing I learned is that we are from different backgrounds and one reason we're in school is to be able to live and mingle with people from different homes.
I'm glad we were able to share our experiences to have so to know what's happening in other people's life. Also, we would be able to learn what to do whenever we're in a particular situation.
I'll see y'all later😊😊😊
What We Go Through!!
I know that a lot of us must have seen a fine girl. Sorry, a very beautiful one. I'm one of them😊😊. Asides from the fact that I'm a fine girl, I'm also sexy and attractive. Maybe due to the way I dress, the way I talk, my beautiful piercings, my leg chain, or because I'm naturally sexy.
Have you ever had a deep conversation with a beautiful lady? Have you ever asked her how she is or what she has been going through lately? As for me, it's been hell. I wouldn't say that it's not favorable because it helps at times. Most times, you'll feel bad about what people will do to you.
I'll share some of my experiences. I'm a lady who's always on leg chains and skimpy gowns. I love to dress neatly and put my things in order. A lot of people have a different perspective about me but I'm trying so hard for those negative talks not to get to me.
I've had countless guys who came to meet me just to have s*x with me. I know how embarrassing and disgracing this could be. Most people see pretty ladies as an s*x machine. They just want to do theirs and leave. I'm not sure some people here understand how I feel.
Even if your pretty girlfriend is the most loyal person on earth, you may not trust her. I've battled with trust issues in relationships so many relationships. God knows I've never cheated in any of my previous relationships but I've heard a lot from outsiders. Thinking I'm a prostitute. It hurts!!!
I remember my previous relationship. I told my ex that I was no longer interested. I thought he would feel remorseful but all I could get was "bye-bye". I almost lost my sanity. He only wanted s*x from me. I can't forget how I felt. I felt so bad!!!
I've been in the Nollywood movie industry for over three weeks now and I must say that it's been hell. Advances from different men. Married ones and single ones. The craziest part of it is that none of them wants a serious relationship. They just want the s*x. Even my Dad friends woo me to know how bad it is.
I'm the talk of the location and I know as long as I go to other locations, I'll get more advances from different men. Also, I wouldn't want to have something with any man in the industry and that's why I'm trying so hard to be on my own.
I can't say no to every man that comes my way. I'm a human being with blood in my veins. There are some men I'd love but I don't know what they have in mind for me. So, I think I should just be on my own. I don't need anyone😊.
The worst part of it is that I'm a true lover and I'm a very soft person. It doesn't take me a whole day to fall in love with someone. I feel very bad for that part of me. I won't hate people because of what I'm going through but I'll try so hard to control my emotions.
It hurts so bad because some people see me as a worthless lady. And I know I'm not worthless. I wish I have a man that will treat me like a little sister. I'm alone with my thoughts and I'm writing this with tears rolling down my face.
This is what every pretty lady goes through every single day.
Being a pretty lady is hell!!!
My Heart Palpitates!!!
I woke up this morning and checked my phone to be sure of the date. Wow!! It's July 2, 2022. Tims is running faster than I thought. That's amazing!!!
I wrote an article about my birth month yesterday. It's my birth month and my birthdate is July 16. My mind becomes heavy as the day approaches. This has always happened to me right from small.
Though I am very happy to clock a new age but scared of what will become of me in my new age. Then my heart began to palpitate.
What exactly is expected from me in this new age? Career development? Marriage? Kids? Or what exactly?
And I know there are birthdate vows. A vow that everyone makes on their birthdate. Things that you've promised yourself to stop doing, things that you want to start doing, people you want to stop moving with... We all do that right?
I know... I can't change in a night. It's not possible. I can't stop talking to those sets of people immediately after I make the vow. I should work towards it before the birthdate.
Then, I spoke with my heart. My heart feels like home and I know it's home. My heart feels like someone I used to know. How do I do this a few days before my birthdate? How do I change some of my wrongdoings before the date?
Hello heart? How do I learn to live alone? Success doesn't need a crowd. You hardly see a successful person with too many people with him. Dear heart, teach me😪. My heart is heavy. Teach me and let it be like a movie to me.
Hello heart? How do I act according to a new age? Oh yeah, it's not too necessary to act like a mature person but you know my attitude towards myself and other people matters. Teach me. I'm watching you.
Hello heart? Is it possible to stop procrastinating before the date? Talk to me!!! When I think about a lot of things, I'd tell myself that I'm supposed to be in a better position but due to procrastination, I'm still shaking and baking in a position. Dear heart, teach me!!!
I guess you see the reason my heart palpitates. I'm sure you've had that feeling in one way or the other.
At times, I feel like I'm scared of getting old. I'm gonna face my fears💯.
This got me playing a very interesting song by Adele. The title is "When we were young". And it eased my mind. The heavy mind that makes you think you're having an asthma attack. The heart palpitation can never be compared to the pounding of a yam. The pounding comes melancholic.
Or should I just continue to be a kid?
Should I pray to be young again?
I don't want my heart to be heavy anymore.
I don't want my heart to palpitate anymore.
Dear heart, teach me🙏.
It's My Birth Month
Have you ever heard of the word 'perfect'? Every month is beautiful but July is more beautiful. July is perfect and that's why it's known as the month of perfection. The month in which everything becomes perfect. If it's gonna be sunny, it will be perfect. If it's gonna be rainy, it will be perfect.
July is the seventh month of the year. Asides from the fact that I was born this month, it's my favorite. It's a new beginning to the last six months of the year. A very beautiful month that provides beautiful people.
Have you seen someone born in July? They are so loving and caring. Sincerely, July born's are sweet. Sweet in every way. I know a lot of people who were born in July. People like @Tomi-Ajax, @Jumper-01 and some other people. Also happy birthday in advance to someone very close to my heart. The vibe hits differently when you meet someone born on your birthdate. This is to @Ellawrites. Baby girl, I love you so much. I've always loved you but the love increased when I realized that we share the same birthdate. I hope it's the same year too😁😁.
And if you were born in July and I didn't mention your name, I'm so sorry. It's either I'm not aware of your date or I forgot to mention your name. Just know that I have you in mind and I love you so much. Happy birthday in advance to you.
How was June? June was full of preparation. What do you think I'm prepping for? I'm prepping for the perfect July. The perfect month ever. My June was full of stress and happiness. Yeah, it was stressful but I was happy at the same time. I achieved a lot in June.
For those that read my articles very well, I'm sure you remember the time I wrote an article about my new post on a movie set. Let me remind you, I'm the assistant director of a popular Yoruba series which is always shown on African Magic Yoruba. Also, I won a role in this series and I've been able to act in six scenes so far.
I was dumbfounded when I was told to come and act but I did it well. I didn't expect it to be so quick. This is one of the major reasons June was being nice to me.
It wasn't easy though. I am a new student of the movie academy and I'm the only one who has this opportunity. Even the previous students don't have this opportunity. I know that every day cannot be rosy. Every day can't be sweet which means that I cannot win roles every day. All the same, everything will be alright.
I love to pray a lot. I pray every day but I don't have a specific time for prayer. And in a new month, I'll just pray for the month to be nice to me. But once it's July, I'm always having a deep conversation with my creator. I'm about to clock a new age and I need to tell my creator what I want for the new month.
Also, I pray fervently on my birth dates. My birth date is just like a powerful day to me and I've put it in mind that whatever I say on my birth date comes to pass. I programmed it in my head, believed it and it has always worked fir me. Let me tell you something. Whatever you believe in works for you. I've always learned that since I was a little girl and it's still working out for me. Isn't it amazing?
Lastly, there's one thing I've been requesting from God for over ten years. I know he has done it. I can feel it. I can smell it. I see it coming but I don't want it to be late😪. For the love, you have for me, please beg God for my sake. I don't want it to take long anymore😪.
To my wonderful sponsors @Talecharm @Tomi-Ajax and @Charlotte7. I love you all. Thanks for renewing your sponsorships. It means a lot to me.
Also, I pray that July is nice to everyone reading this. I also pray that July is nice to BCH😁.
Long live read cash!!!
Long live BCH!!!
She Lacks Home Training.
My sister has a friend. Her name is Adeola. She's very close to my sister and she comes to visit sometimes. At times, she sleeps over at our place and I don't complain. You know it wouldn't be nice for a friend to come to visit me and my sister will be so cold to the person. So, I treat the lady the same way I treat my sister.
Two days ago, the lady called my sister that she wants to come around. As a friend that's close to us, we can't tell her not to come and it's not even her first time coming around. I got home very late at night and I met her inside the house. My older sister already made Spaghetti for dinner. We all are and slept.
On the next day, my sister wished her a happy birthday and I did so. I didn't even know it was her birthday but immediately my sister wished her a happy birthday, I did the same. I was so tired yesterday so I got to work very late. My sister left home very early for work and she left her friend and me inside the house.
Later, the lady received a call. She said a friend of hers is around the street. Sincerely, I was thinking that the person lives around my street or the person came to do something on that street. Suddenly, she brought a man inside the house. I was very angry but didn't show it on my face because it wouldn't be nice for me to behave harshly towards the visitor.
Then, she began to act like she owns the house. She even had to lie about how much she rented the house. I was shocked because she wasn't supposed to do that in my presence. I didn't talk. I just kept on doing my thing.
The guy presented her with a frame. I had to delay myself at home hoping that the guy will leave in a few minutes. After I waited for about forty-five minutes, I left the house because I needed to go to work. After a few hours, my older sister called me to gist me but I told her to wait for me to get home.
When I got home, she showed me various posts of her friend. Do you know what she did? She brought a lot of people to our house to celebrate her birthday. I was shocked. Why will someone do that? It's so absurd because you shouldn't even do that in someone's house. We left the house for her because we trusted her and she f**ked up.
Do you know the worst part of it? She had to take our keys along with her. She didn't even care about how we were going to enter the house. The took two keys along with her. Thank God we have an extra key. Then, when it was evening, she called my sister to ask how we entered the house. Isn't it absurd? It is absurd!! It shows that she lacks home training.
So, it means that she didn't even come to greet us. She only came to our house to celebrate her birthday without our consent. It's not making sense. It's deceitful and it shows that she is living a fake life. For her to pretend like she owns the house, shows that she is living a fake life.
And I'm sure that there are lots of people out there that do this too. I'm sure some of you would have had one or two experiences with this before. But, why do people behave this way? It's very wrong behavior and it shouldn't be accepted in society.
Right now, we don't even know how we will collect the key from her because she already left the house. My sister and I began to think of various things. What if someone comes tomorrow to ask about the lady since she already lied that it's her house.
I told my brother and my best friend. We all began to laugh because it is so amazing and absurd. Honestly, I will never indulge in such activities. I can't do it!!! I can't live a life that I am not. I can't pretend to be what I am not. I am me and I love the lifestyle that I live. I'm not ashamed to live the lifestyle I'm living. I'm not fake. I don't like fake life and I love my life!!!
The Rain Delayed Us.
When I got home last night, I met my sister's friend at home. Today is her birthday. So she decided to sleep over at our place so she will celebrate her birthday at our place.
I woke up very tired this morning. My phone battery was very flat and I was very tired to stand up. I'm supposed to wake up very early to work but due to my tiredness, I went very late. I'm supposed to resume work by 7:00 am but I got to work at 10:45 am.
If I had known that we may not be able to work very early this morning, I won't have even gotten there by 10:45 am. When I got there, they were shooting exterior scenes. The rain didn't let them do it because it was drizzling and it was going to affect the shoot. And if we continue to shoot, the costumes will get wet, the cameras will get wet and everyone will be cold.
So, we went back to the studio. Though where we shoot the exterior scenes is not very far from the studio. It's just a five minutes trek from the studio and since it's inside an estate, we don't need to go with the cars.
When we got to the studio, we all slept like a baby. We could not even shoot the interior scenes because the rain sound will affect the shoot so we all slept like a baby.
Then the rain stopped. We had to go to the exterior location again. Immediately we got there, the rain began to drizzle again😂. We all had to wait in the rain to shoot just four scenes. Right now, we are in the fifth scene. And we have over twenty scenes for the day.
Hehe😂. And it's even possible for the rain to fall again and we will have to pause till the rain stops😂. This is how stressful it is when you're shooting a movie. And that's why some people do not like to do things during the rainy season because it's either it delays them or it stops what they are doing.
Also, there's one thing about shooting movies. Everything has to do with Tim and we all know that time is money. So, the more we waste time, the more we lose money. The generator fuel will be wasted because there has to be light, and the actors may demand a higher amount because we are wasting their time so we have to keep to time and that's why we have to shoot two episodes per day.
Right now, we are in the fifth scene and it's getting late but we gotta finish the two episodes😂. So, I don't know the magic we are gonna perform to finish over twenty episodes today.
I think I'll run away...
Societal Negative Vices.
I didn't go to the studio where we shoot the movie this morning. I first went to the theatre where we receive lectures before getting to the studio. I just got to the studio not quite long and I seem to be very tired. We didn't have our Yoga class today because the instructor is not around. He already told us that he's traveling and will be back after a week. So, that was an opportunity for me to have my breakfast.
Then, the second lecturer came. We talked about improvisation in acting and some other topics. Then, we talked about the societal negative vices. The lecturer was advising us on want it is likely for us to face in the industry. He also told us the things we can do about such things. There are many actresses out there that are embracing negative vices in society.
I don't know if you notice all of these things. You'll see a lady that you know very well, you know her background and so many things about her, you'll even know when she began her movie career, and then you'll hear that she has built a house. It's quite alright to build a house. We all know that it's a good thing to have a house of your own.
What are they doing to get these houses? What work do they do asides from acting? Yes, we all know that it is possible to make a huge amount of money from acting but it is not even up to the money that they are spending up and down. You'll see some people bake a cake for over $3000 just for their birthday. They'll buy exotic cars and they are not even working.
I'm sure a lot of us know that all they do is prostitution. Most of these actresses are prostitutes. And the painful fact about it is that they are embracing these negative acts in society and a lot of people are also accepting these acts. It's very hard to see a lady that is not into prostitution these days. Why all of these?
I know they are doing it because of money but I know there are other ways to make money. And I know that a lot of people do not believe in themselves when it comes to achieving their dreams. They believe that they can't make it and that is why they all are finding ways to make quick money.
All of these are not right. Prostitution is not a way to be wealthy. There are lots of women that made it in life without engaging in prostitution. There are great women out there that are very proud of their success. Do you know what amazes me? If we begin to ask these ladies how they made it in life, what will they say? Will they say they made it through prostitution?
Will they say they made it in life by sleeping on every man's bed for roles?
And I know that if you sleep with a man for a role, you will continue to sleep with different men for roles. It's just like a challenge. If you have sex with a man because you are facing a particular challenge, you sleep with another man when another challenge comes up. Challenges never finish. No human being is above challenges!! No one!!!
What response will they give to their children? Will they begin to stammer or lie? What response exactly?
Work hard and I know you'll be there. It's gonna be like magic but trust me, you will be there!!
I Was Angry!
I've been on my natural hair for days and I decided to change my look. I've been looking like a very small child for days. I remember a few days ago when I posted about how someone yelled at me because of my stature and that's how I look. Then, I thought of my look and my hair. Hair adds to one's beauty and also, makes you look older in one way or the other.
I left my house by 3:30 pm to make my hair yesterday. When I got there, my hair stylist told me that someone already booked her before me. I told my hair stylist to take that as an opportunity to make my hair and I promised the woman that when the lady who booked her come, I'll stand up for her to make the lady's hair.
Not quite long, the lady came. As I promised, I stood up. After a few minutes, the lady said she was coming. She went out and my hair stylist continued my hair. A few minutes later, the lady came back. I stood up again fir her to continue her hair. After a few minutes, she stood up again and said she was coming. I was happy because it was an opportunity for me to continue my hair. She didn't spend much time on this and she came back.
My hair remained just ten strands and I thought she would be able to wait for me to complete it because I won't spend more than twenty minutes completing the hair. The lady didn't let me completely mind and she promised to stand up for me when it remains little.
Then, I began to help her puck the attachment to make it faster. I stood for two hours to pick her attachment so that when it remains little, she will stand up for me. And when the hair stylist was about to make the last part, I reminded the lady of what she promised. She began to yell that she can't stand up.
But why would she make me help her pick her attachment for over two hours when she knows she wouldn't fulfill her promise. I was angry but kept shut. I just told the stylist to complete her hair before touching mine. It took the woman three hours to complete the lady's hair. When she began my hair, she finished it in less than twenty minutes.
Then, I began to ask myself. Why are some people like this? I know we all have things to do but what will cost her to wait for twenty minutes for the woman to make my hair. I WAITED FOR THREE HOURS. Honestly, it's so annoying. I got home by 9:54 pm last night and I couldn't even cook anymore.
I slept angrily but I'm good today😊.
Hello everybody😊😊
@Bisolammy