The underestimated pandemic effect on the black people of America
Covid 19 has been a stressful and often traumatic experience for millions around the globe. People are constantly feeling emotionally vulnerable due to the fear of contracting Corona, getting isolated and the helplessness of lack of control over it. Researchers have shown that the immunity of people gets affected by constant stress.
A Boston University study shows that more number of colored people are dying due to Covid, with figures as high as the death rate of black people is 2.5 times that of white people. Data also shows that more coloured/ black people are likely to be laid off from job due to this pandemic induced job crisis.
A study in 1992 had showed that how sustained stress takes a toll on the body of coloured people and can cause serious health issues. It was specifically found in Afro American women how socio economic condition can lead to deterioration in health in early adulthood. The study focused on black pregnant teens but was used to explain how racism can lead to high risk of blood pressure, heart disease and diabetes. The stress factors that affect black and coloured people are chronic in nature and continue for their whole life. But its effect is mostly felt in young adults and then continues till mid old age. To understand it we have to compare that if the effect of Covid like stress continues for whole life then what sort of health issues it can cause.
The debate on wearing masks and the denial of fact that covid is a dangerous virus is in itself a reaction to the stress. Everyone in the society is touched by stress and therefore its effect during the pandemic is not to be overlooked. It has a bearing on how we behave during the situation. Governments should be worried about the refugees and migrant workers who are already having toxic stress level. The combined effect of toxic stress and the stress induced by Covid can cause serious health issues including mental health issues, which may lead to more use of misuse of substances to relieve it.
Another point that needs consideration is how people are coping up with the grief due to death caused by Covid. The black Americans are facing a disproportionate amount of the grief. As due to restriction in movement most of this grief is shared through online video mode that in itself increases the stress of grief and trauma. The physical support of near and dear ones are not available. This can lead to post traumatic stress disorder, use of alcohol and other substances.
Small tweaks in our lifestyle such as exercising, stretching and trying to maintain a normal routine will help people. This message is not put out as widely as it should be. Even today speaking about mental health issues is considered a stigma and especially for the black people who are considered as physically strong. It has to be seen that how the stress caused by covid and the racism has an effect on the long term effect of the black community.
Even after this pandemic is over, this thing has to be watched and studied for months and even years after it to come to a definitive conclusion about its effect. Here incidents like the death of George Floyd and many such before that are a constant reminder that racism is still rooted in the American society. The black people are generally in the lower end of social and economic strata. Both the disease and racism has to be dealt in a sympathetic manner by the Government if it wants to create a socially equal society and the principles on which that great country was envisioned.
How to motivate yourself when feeling low?
We all face times when we are feeling low in life when things are not going as we plan. In those times it feels as if I am good for nothing. Our well laid out plan for a successful career goes in doldrums, our relations falter, our friendships start breaking. We start feeling lonely. In those times we are in dire need of a spark, a motivation, a support to help us go through those times. And when we compare ourselves with our peer group who have become successful then the pain is all the more stinging. In such times it is necessary we keep our composure.
I will suggest the following ways to keep ourselves motivated during those low times.
Affirm yourself
Thought the cause of the feeling low may be outside but the effect is played out in our mind and body. In such situation gaining confidence in self is very important. We need to constantly affirm ourselves that I will get over it. Words like I believe in myself, I can do it, I will get over it, I am not a failure when constantly repeated in our mind will give a boost to our morale. Here your relations and friends can also play a big role in supporting and boosting you. I have noticed it to be working in my case.
Take failure as a lesson and not as a defeat
Failure is a great lesson in life. We fail not because we are not good enough but because we need to reorient ourselves to achieve something. It can open up new thought process and avenues to try for success. A failure will not only give you important lessons but will also make you stronger from inside. So you should not take it as the end of the road but just as a halt en route to your journey. I have seen many give up in this stage, but those who used it as a launch pad have reached new level of success.
Don’t hold back and don’t give up
Failure is not a failure unless you give up. The dream should be strong enough to take you over these waves of failure. Focus on the happiness you will get when you are successful in fulfilling your dream. For some it may take less time and for some it may take more, but the end result will be the same. We also tend to be cautious once we encounter failure and hold ourselves back to fully dive into the efforts required to start over again. It is because for a time being our confidence has been shaken. If we do case study of people who have become successful even after facing numerous odds, we will see that they did not hold back and they also did not give up.
Read inspirational quotes and inspirational books
This will greatly help you to give you the necessary push in harder times. When you will see that failures are not unique to you only but everyone has faced it then you will gain confidence. You will come to know that people have reached great success though they had faced even worse situation than you have. Now there are so many motivational videos on you tube also and some are really good. Though for me these have short term effect but it becomes necessary when it is required. It is a good habit any way to start the day with a few pages or a few minutes of such inspirational books and videos.
Lastly you have to accept the fact that luck and destiny plays a crucial role in your journey to success. There is not set formula to solve. Every person has to find his or her own magic formula. No lesson that life teaches us ever goes waste, it will come in handy at some point of life.
How to stop projecting your insecurities onto others
Many a times we think that others don’t like me or people are judging your hairstyle or dress or whether you are gaining weight or losing it. Or maybe you are judging others on the same things, or maybe you hated someone because he or she likes something which you detest. These are all typical example of projection.
Projecting is when you believe something and you start seeing your beliefs in other people. You also start seeing your insecurities in people around you. It is as if you are wearing a tinted glass and therefore you see the world based on your views and opinions. Your glasses have been made throughout your life based on your experiences, pain and achievement. It is natural and you should not blame yourself for it. But when it starts affecting your life and relationship then it is time to get rid of some of them as it is not serving any useful purpose.
When you feel this realization that it is now time to change some of them then you can follow these steps:
Become aware
For changing your behaviour first you need to be aware of it because sometimes it is so ingrained in you that you fail to recognise it. If you are not sure what your insecurities look like or fail to see that you have a belief as to how others should act or not act, then how are you supposed to bring a change.
The best thing is to physically note it in a notebook or mobile because this realization may come suddenly and if you do not note it down then it is quite easy to forget it. Whenever you feel like you are getting judged or you are judging someone else, and then try to understand what exactly you do not like about it.
It can be like ‘I think people who go out every night are carefree’ or ‘I think others don’t like me because they think I am not interesting’. Then it will be easier for you to pin point the problem.
Why they exist
Why they exist is something you have to find out in yourself. It can be because your parents told you so, or it is coming out of your experience or from the experience of someone who is close to you. But in any case that is causing a negative effect. When you are able to pin point it to a specific event or people which is the cause of your belief then you can take steps to eradicate it.
When are you doing it?
Be conscious when these feeling are coming to you. If your thoughts are ruling you then it is quite easy to fall victim to it. When you are conscious of when you are doing it and take a note of it, then you will decipher the pattern. Then only you will be able to break the pattern. A lifelong habit will take time to break but once you are aware and determined then you take the first steps to overcome it.
Making a connection
Now that you are aware of your beliefs and the pattern of its appearance, so you can make the connections. Suppose in an office meeting you feel that your ideas were taken as dumb ideas, in fact you think that others actually think you are dumb. Now when you are aware that you have a perception that others take you as dumb and you feel that your participation in the meeting questioned your intelligence – now you will see the connection.
May be that you base your belief that you are dumb based on what others think about you, which may not be true. There can be other causes like they want to lay down you, so they make you feel dumb. Or maybe it is just heir jealousy.
So insecurities can be so deep rooted that you may need to take professional help also, don’t be shy of it. In some cases your assumption may be right also but there is always a way around. The mind is an incredibly powerful and unruly tool you have but thankfully we have some control over it.
The ultimate personal finance checklists before you turn 40
The thirties are a most chaotic time. In the twenties you have worked hard and got a job and may have climbed up a few ladders. You may be newly married enjoying a carefree conjugal bliss and not planned kids. Then come the thirties when you start getting out of the euphoria of the twenties. Now you are in the process of settling down from the wild twenties. Now the retirement looks quite far and the feeling of your work life is also old. You are just in between a college pass out and the middle ages. This is the right time to plan your finances. If you push it till the forties then it will be too late.
So I will give you a financial checklist in which you have to start from the start.
1. Calculate the surplus in your budget. Hopefully your income has increased but so has your expenses. Also you may have started some sort of savings. Just check your bank account and see what is the average amount that is left in the account at the end of the month. You will find some surplus which needs to be invested.
2. Increase your emergency fund. In the thirties it is important that you have a good emergency fund. Now you will be increasing the size of your family and your expenses will also increase. There may be a situation when you might get laid off. But you cannot lay off the expenses. So you will require an emergency fund. Unforeseen medical expenses can drain your resources. It will be good if you keep 6 months expenses as emergency fund. You can keep them in bank account or a liquid fund so that you can withdraw it quickly without much hassle.
3. Health insurance. If you haven’t taken one then consider taking it for you and your family. Also consider disability insurance. These insurances should be effective as long as possible and should cover maximum diseases. Also remember about the future cost, what seems adequate today will not be so after 20 years. So keep topping it up with age.
4. Upgrade credit card. Credit card is a good thing if it is used wisely. Try to make full use of the offers and discounts and the cash backs which it offers. If you plan wisely then you can also get free air travels as all cards give mileage points. But always remember to pay your dues in time without attracting penalty. Don’t fall for partial payment trap. If you don’t pay timely then your credit rating will take a hit.
5. Plan your retirement. Though retirement seems quite far but actually thirties is the right time to plan your retirement. Plan how long do you want to work, where you want to settle after retirement, How much will be your monthly expenses, medicare costs, how do you want to travel after retirement- luxury or budget. Once you have done the calculations then plan your investments accordingly. It is important you include the inflation factor in your calculations.
6. Set financial goals and achieve them. Once your retirement plan is ready now it’s time to set financial goals both short term and long term. Be a disciplined investor. You have enough time to have a comfortable finance if you are disciplined. You have to consider everything like children education, buying a car and a house, your holidays, job switch, even wealth generation for future generations. Even if it requires cutting some expenses now then don’t postpone it. Ideally your income minus your investments should give you the figure which will be available to you for your expenses.
7. Estate planning. If you have enough of those then you need to plan it. Always have nominee for all your financial investments and insurances. Also all your investments and insurance and properties should be known to your near and dear ones, more than one. Make a death file where you should keep record of all things which you would like your wife and children to know if you pass away suddenly. And the location of that file should also be known to them. Make a will for all your properties.
As per the present life expectancy you will live till old age but you need to plan from the thirties so that your old age life is comfortable and hassle free. This is an important planning and don’t put it off for any reason what so ever.
Bitcoin Blockchain hashing
This is the continuation of my previous article –https://read.cash/@Bharti/blockchain-hashing-explained-part-1-b6dd8e87
diagram block header
A block header has:
• The version number of block
• the current time stamp
• The difficulty target
• hash of previous block
• nonce
• Merkle root hash
Merkle tree
diagram merkle tree
Above is an example of Merkle tree.
Here each non leaf node is a hash of values of the child nodes. Leaf nodes are the lowest part of the tree. Here they are L 1 to L 4.
Child nodes. Just above the leaf nodes (data blocks) are the child nodes marked as Hash 0-0, hash 0-1 and so on. The leaf nodes are feeding the child node. The child nodes are feeding into nodes named Hash 0, hash 1.
Root nodes are the highest labelled as top hash.
So why is Merkle tree important in a block chain?
Each block has thousands of transactions. If we store all the data in a block in a series, it will be very time inefficient and finding any data of a particular transaction will be time consuming. But by using a Merkle tree it becomes easier and less time consuming to find whether a transaction belongs to that particular block or not.
diagram merkle tree hash finding
If we want to find whether a particular transaction belongs to a block, we need not look at each individual hash and see whether it belongs to that block. We can follow the trail of that has and it will lead to the data. It reduces the time significantly.
Hashing in mining-
Mining means searching for a new block that will be added to the block chain. Miners ensure that the chain keep on growing. There is a cap for each crypto currency, for Bitcoin it is 21 million that is there will be only 21 million bitcoin. If miners were given the liberty then they would find out all the bitcoins. Also there is a time gap between creations of each block, for Bitcoin it is 10 minutes. If this time gap is removed then there will be more collision as more hash functions will be generated. Also there would be more mining block, because due to over mining, new blocks will be created simultaneously and this will result in more blocks not getting to be part of the chain.
The difficulty level is also set to restrict block creation. It is like a puzzle game, the winner gets the reward. For bitcoin the difficulty is of 64 string character, equivalent to the SHA-256 output and it begins with a bunch of zeroes. The greater the number of zeroes, the greater is the difficulty. After every 2016 block the difficulty level increases.
The bitcoin mining process-
When a new block arrives the first thing that happens is that the content of that block is hashed. If the difficulty target is less than the hash then it is automatically added to the block chain and everyone acknowledges it. But this is rarest of rare case. Here ‘nonce’ comes in. Nonce is an arbitrary string that is linked to the hash of that block. It is then compared with the difficulty level. If it is found to be less than the difficulty level then the nonce is changed and this process will go on till the requirement is met. And then that block id added to the block chain.
To summarise it:-
• The contents of a block is converted to hash
• A nonce is attached to it
• It is hashed again.
• This final hash is compared with the difficulty level
• If found less, then the nonce is changed and the process is repeated.
• If it is found OK then it is added to the chain and the ledger is updated
• The miners are rewarded in bitcoin who made this possible.
The process is completely random in selecting the nonce. Then the software keeps on generating strings till the goal is reached. It is called proof of work.
What is hash rate?
It means how fast the hashing operation is taking place while mining. A high rate means more machines are working in the mining process. The difficulty level is increased is hash rate is high, and difficulty level us decreased if hash rate is slow.
Bitcoin and BCH Blockchain hashing explained
Hashing means that we take an input string of any length and then give it a fixed length. For bitcoin the transactions are taken as input and then run through the algorithm which gives a fixed output length. For bitcoin, SHA-256 (secure hashing algorithm) is used. The output will be 256 bits length always. Hashing gives security to the message transmission as it is meant for only one intended recipient.
Properties of cryptographic hash function.
1. Deterministic- It means if the input is run several times but the resultant output will always be the same. It is important because if every time we get a different result then it will be impossible to keep track of a particular input.
2. Computation speed- The give efficiency the hash output should be quick.
3. Pre image resistance- Lets take an example. Suppose you roll a dice where the output is the hash of the number that comes. In this case you will not be able to find the original number. So you have to find hash of all the numbers of the dice. As the output hash will be same for each number of the dice (input), therefore you can compare the output and find the original input. But when we are dealing with a large number of data then we have to use the brute force method to find out the target hash. That is we take a random input, put it through the algorithm to hash it and then compare it with the target has we want to find. This process will continue as long as the target hash is found.
4. Changes made in input will change the output- Even if we make a change in one alphabet in the input then the output will completely change. This immutability is one of the critical functions of hashing.
5. Collision resistant- For different inputs the respective output hashes will be infeasible. It is like if you try to match your birthday with one person on the street, the probability of matching is almost nil. But if you ask 50 people then the probability increases to find a match. But with SHA 256 such chances are almost nil.
6. Puzzle friendly – Suppose you are to choose a number between 1-3, it is said a slow min-entropy distribution, but if you have to choose one number between 1 and 1 trillion then it is said to be high min-entropy distribution. The distribution from which the output hash is selected is highly distributed so the chances of having a common output are negligible.
Hashing and Data structure
Two things are important here.
1. pointers
2. linked list
Pointers
They are variable in programs that store the address of another variable. Ex- integer g =5, it means there is a variable g which is storing the integer value which is 5. Pointers are however used not to store the value but will store addresses of other values. They point towards the location of other variables that why they are called pointers.
Linked list
This is a very important function of data structure. Suppose there are many blocks and each block has a pointer which directs it to the next block, and thus a connection is made. The last node has no pointers. The pointers hold the address to the next block only. A block chain is just a linked list. A hash pointer is just like the pointer but it holds the address to the previous block but also the hash of that data of the previous block.
Suppose a hacker changes the data in block 4, this will change the hash in block 4. This will change the hash and the data in block 3 and continue this way in block 2 and 1. The chain will be changed completely which is impossible.
In the next part I will cover
• what a block header look like
• Merkle tree and its importance
• The mining process
• what is hash rate
7 facts about long lasting relationship
7 facts about long lasting relationship
There is nothing as a perfect relationship. When two people form a relationship both enter it with their baggage of good and bad. But that doesn’t mean there cannot be a good and long lasting relationship. Relationships are like two circles which are overlapping each other. The more the overlapping portion the better the relationship will be. For a long lasting relationship we may to take up something and give up something, and then only it will work and last. If both the parties are rigid in their stance then it is bound to fail.
Now I will tell about 7 things which we can do to make a relationship long lasting.
Accept your mistakes
It is always better to accept you mistakes and apologise for it. Both of you are different persons with different views so it is bound to happen that something and some acts of a person will not be liked by the other. It is better to accept that and try to accommodate others view point also. Here being rigid will not work, adjusting is necessary.
Talking about other gender
When in a relationship, talking too much about the other gender can cause insecurity. If a girl keeps on taking about his other male friends and colleagues all the time then it is natural that the guy will not like it. Relationships are fragile that way, even long relationships can break due to this. So make an effort to keep it to minimum unless you are fully confident that it will not be taken otherwise.
Not giving you partner enough time
It is important that quality time is spent between both of them. Time is the best thing to invest in a relationship. It makes it strong and help both know each other better. The better the knowing the better will be the understanding. But one thing to be careful about is not to be possessive about the other. It will be wrong to expect that he or she will cut off from all other things for you. Ultimately he or she will have other obligations also which they have to fulfil. So spending some time alone or with others is natural.
Talking about your ex
Talking about your ex may not be always a good idea as it can cause insecurity. Ex is the past so it is better one tells about it to the other but this topic should not come out frequently. It will imply that the thought of the ex is still in his or her mind always. Also never compare the present boyfriend or girlfriend with the ex. This can seriously affect the relationship. It is a sensitive issue, sometimes it may be taken lightly but overdoing it will cause serious strain in the relationship.
Taking your partner for granted
This is also a no go zone. It is easily noticeable. When you start taking him or her for granted then you are making a cardinal mistake. However understanding the relationship may be but no one will accept that one take s the other for granted. It will be taken as neglecting and no one will like it. Give importance to the relationship so that the other feels that he or she is important part of the others life.
Be a good listener
When one is a good listener then that person understands the other person better. And when he or she understands the other better then the base of the relationship becomes stronger. It is not a one way relationship so the conversation should also be not one way. Even in relationship no one will like if only one is doing the talking, it will seem as one is overpowering the other.
Don’t be busy with your mobile when you are with the other
It is one of the banes of modern society. It looks really bad and irritating to the other. When both are together the focus should be on each other. A little bit of texting is OK, when absolutely necessary, but constantly checking mobile gives an indication that the mobile is more important than the other. 99% of the time it is not that necessary that it has to be attended immediately. But our habit is such that we cannot control it.
These are the smaller things but still important things to be kept in mind to develop a long standing relationship. I have deliberately not mentioned about infidelity as that is a cardinal mistake.
How Bitcoin was saved from US government monitoring.
Most of the cryptography that is widely used in commercial use has been created by govt agencies particularly of USA through National Institute of Standards and Technology (NIST). Generally when government creates ciphers for public use it raises some red flags but the cryptographers who know there job well, analyze and vet these algorithms. Unless, though highly unlikely, if govt has created some advanced math which is not known to the academic circle, these ciphers are highly secure. But this is not the case.
In 2007 Bruce Schneier reported a back door in the random number generator of Dual-EC-DRBG ceated by NIST).
‘This is how it works:
There are a bunch of constants
— fixed numbers — in the
standard used to define the
algorithm’s elliptic curve.
These constants are listed
in Appendix A of the NIST
publication, but nowhere
is it explained where they
came from.
What Shumow and Ferguson
showed is that these numbers
have a relationship with a
second, secret set of numbers
that can act as a kind of
skeleton key. If you know the
secret numbers, you can
predict the output of the
random-number generator after
collecting just 32 bytes of
its output. To put that in
real terms, you only need
to monitor one TLS internet
encryption connection in
order to crack the security
of that protocol. If you know
the secret numbers, you can
completely break any
instantiation of Dual_EC_DRBG.
This was an important development as the random number generator is a key component of cryptographic protocol. It can compromise the cipher. Edward Snowden was responsible for leaking the information that it was actually created by NSA and then given to NIST with a back door entry. What is more disturbing is that RSA security which widely develops this commercial encryption applications kept on using it until it was revealed by Snowden., even after knowing the truth of backdoor created by NSA. NSA paid RSA 10 million dollars to keep the backdoor.
Vitalik Buterin in one of his article revealed that a variant of that algorithm used in bitcoin also has the backdoor. But bitcoin was able to protect itself.
Bitcoin uses the ECDSA- Elliptic curve digital signature algorithm for signing transactions. This is used to prove that the private address is linked to a particular public address holding bitcoin. The ECDSA keys are derived from certain parameters of the elliptic curve. NIST recommended everyone to use the secp256r1 parameters as they are fully secure but this has a quite similar to Dual-EC-DRBG which has a backdoor.
The secp259r1 creates a random number by using a hash function of a seed. As the output of hash function is not predictable so the seed need not be random. Instead of creating a seed like 12, the secp256r1 creates a seed like D67Hjkk0987jJlnBbGgH5478 and there is no documentation as to how it was chosen.
How bitcoin dodged the bullet. Even if NSA came to know about a specific elliptic curve with vulnerabilities, then also they will not be able to rig the system because brute forcing of hash is not feasible. But if they find one flaw in say one curve in a billion then they will have to test those 1 billion to find the exploit.
NSA developed the parameters for secp256r1. But bitcoin uses the secp256k1 instead of the secp256r1. It uses the koblitz curve instead of the random curve, and id believed to be secure till now. Satoshi chose the 256k1 instead of 256r1, but no one knows why he chose this instead of the one which was used by everyone.
Was it a luck or stroke of genius of Satoshi who made the choice but whatever be the reason he was successful in avoiding the backdoor created by NSA and circulated by NIST.
Teenage girls should be careful about these things.
Now a day’s teen age years are high pressure years. The magnetic pull of social media, the openness in society, the desire to be popular is so ingrained in the mind of teenagers that they are not able to decide what is right and what is wrong for them. And the overflow of hormones is not helping at all. It is the age of attraction towards the other gender and the hormones and the new society norms are propelling them towards this direction.
Now not having a boyfriend in teenage is looked down upon. Her friends will flaunt their boyfriends and what they do together. They will make you feel insecure and unwanted if you do not have a boyfriend. In those tender years, girls usually succumb to this pressure just to show off that they are in high demand. We cannot change the way society norms are changing but what we can do is protect ourselves from its bad norms.
I will talk about 4 things which girls should be very cautious in teenage years particularly between 13 and 16 years of age.
Getting into a relationship
The first love is always a special one and is remembered lifelong. It gives the feeling which is unmatched by anything else. In the tender years girls fall in love but they mistake between love and infatuation. In those years it is only infatuation, getting attracted if the boy is handsome or stylish or famous in school. But that is not true love because the target of this infatuation keeps changing. If another boy joins the school with same qualities then her attention will shift. This differentiates love and infatuation. The outer qualities become more important than the inner qualities.
It is a great distraction in the age when girls should concentrate on studies. In this age the boy is also not independent also doesn’t understands things fully. He is also under the same society pressure which the girl is.
Premarital se8
Gone are the days when there used to be platonic love. That was in the generation of our father and forefathers. Now a day’s losing virginity is very easy. With so much easy availability of adult rated things in the internet, every second relationship will end up in premarital s-x and that too unprotected one. Now it has almost become common to lose it early in age. It gives a feeling of achievement for both the boy and the girl. Their friends will in fact psychologically force them to do it and they are not able to understand it. In yesteryears virginity was something which was protected till marriage, but now it is not so. Especially in big cities with fast life it is so common.
Teenage pregnancy
Unprotected se8 is bound to lead to teenage pregnancy as girls are the most fertile in this age bracket. Though the nature says that once a girl starts her periods she is ready to bear a child but actually the body is not fully developed by then. In earlier generations marriage was early and so was bearing a child, but in those days girls were hardworking and so the body could cope up with that. Now the lifestyle is easy, girls hardly do any form of physical activity. Pregnancy in this age will bring physical complication which can lead to death also. Then there is still a social stigma attached to it and is still looked down upon on the character of the girl. Nothing is said about the boy.
Abortion or teenage motherhood
When they hide it long then the time for a possible abortion passes. Then there will be no other option but to continue the pregnancy. This puts a great emotional and physical burden on the girl. She herself is not mentally developed to take the responsibility for herself, let alone the child which she will bring to this world. The boy or his parents will cut themselves out of it, the maximum they will do is to bear the expenses of abortion. The relationship which she was so excited about will break and she will be alone to deal with the whole situation.
The teenage years are the formative years of life and will build the base for future life. Do you want to get entangled in these things and ruin your future? If you can wait for 10 years then you will be both ready career wise and will able to enjoy a relationship more. Now the relationship will be more matured and understanding and physical intimacy will be an informed choice.
Things women notice in men at first glance.
Men and women are genetically wired to get attracted towards each other. The society may try to put as many road blocks on the way but norms made by people or religion cannot undo the power of nature. The nature’s way is the natural way. It is for sure that men will get attracted to women and women will get attracted to men. The difference is only that men are more extrovert in showing there attraction towards women and women hide their attraction towards women by to pressure of society. That does not mean that women are not noticing the men. In fact women are more judgmental than men when they are in public place.
The physical appearance is in born, but now even that can be manipulated by exercise, make up, cosmetic surgery etc. Women don’t only look whether you are inborn handsome, fair or dark, tall or short. There are other aspects which will attract women. Women generally go for the complete package rather than any one aspect. Men are more attracted towards the physical beauty of women.
Now I will disclose the secret as to what women will look in a man when he is out on the streets. The man is completely unknown to the woman but certain things will make a women take notice of a man.
How you walk
Are you walking confidently or you are just dragging your feet. Women will not notice you if your walking is just like dragging your feet and shoulders drooping. Your walking should create an aura around you and make others notice you. It should show your confidence. But do not overdo it because that is also easily noticed. If your style is not natural to you then you will be caught. So try to imbibe it in your habit.
You posture while standing and walking
Your body posture is very important and reveals a lot about you. Your body should be upright and not leaning forward, your shoulders should not drop and your head should be upright. If you are making eye contact with anyone then it should be a straight eye contact and not like you are trying to steal a glance. Your shoulders should not swing like a pendulum while walking, it looks odd and artificial and flamboyant.
How you are dressed up
You may look great and show a lot of confidence but your dress sense will make all this to a zero. Women like well dressed men. It may not be costly brands but it should suit your personality. If you are introvert and try to wear something gaudy to hide it then it will be noticed. Dress should be neat and clean, women hate dirty dresses. Women can also easily make out if you are showing off through your dress. Your hair style should also be proper, whatever style you want to keep. The accessories you are wearing with your dress is also important. It can be a tie or a cuff link or a bracelet or a chain. Accessories should complement your dress and no the other way around. Your shoes should be clean and match with your dressing style.
Your smell
Women are fetish about cleanliness. However well you look and dress, but if you smell bad then it is a huge put off. So take bath daily, you cannot hide it with all the cologne and scents of the world. No smell better than bad smell. You can use a cologne or scent after that and it should not be too strong and pronounced.
Women have a strong sixth sense so anything artificial in your get up and personality will be easily caught. Be your natural self and within that try to improve in these aspects. As I have said earlier women look at the whole package, you may be having a gym physique or you may be slim or fat- how you carry yourself is more important.
So guys, now I have disclosed the secret. It is up to you how much you follow it to get the attention of women at first glance.
Is your girlfriend over materialistic?
Being materialistic is like a disease these days and no one is untouched by it. It is the outcome of our necessity as well as desire. Things are changing so fast and with that our race to keep up with the change. Previously people used to change things when it got defective but now we change things because the technology of the fashion has changed. As these two are changing pretty fast so are our expenses. That’s why we are in a race to earn more money. We don’t need it to live a decent life but we need it to keep up with the change.
Women are considered more materialistic. And in that girlfriends have a special place. Even if both are earning, then also the girlfriend will expect that the boyfriend should bear all expenses of her, even the mobile data recharge. In this men are equally responsible because they do not draw a line.
Men should keep track of these things to identify if their girlfriend is over materialistic.
Over demanding
When your girl friend is over demanding about materialistic things and gets angry every time you don’t give them that thing, or delay giving that thing, then it is a sure shot sign that she is over materialistic. She will never understand and will take offense if you try to reason with her. Her demands will range from new dress to shoes to hand bags to ornaments and make up items. It can go up to costly mobile phones also. She will expect that you take her out for shopping frequently and if you do not do it then she will emotionally manipulate you to do so.
Never satisfied
She will never be satisfied with whatever you have given her and will always demand more from you. The number of dresses you give her will always seem to be less. The amount of time you devote for her will always seem to be less. She will make you feel that way one way or the other. She will make comparison with her other friends boyfriends, how much they look after her. She will make you feel inferior. She may also threaten you that she will leave you for someone else.
Always talking about luxury
Her parents may not be able to afford branded clothes for her but she will demand it from you. Her choice of items will be on the luxurious side, because it will be free for her. The society is so obsessed with brands and her peer pressure will make her demand the best things always. She will not spend her money on these things but yours. If she is the type who is always showing off then you should be careful. You will be financially drained to keep up with her demands.
Always hanging out with you
She will demand your full attention all the time and will expect that you take her to lunch and dinner always. She will also interfere when you are busy and will not take a no for an answer. The more she will hang out with you the more she will have the opportunity to pester you to get her new things.
So these are the things which will help you identify if you are stuck with an over materialistic girlfriend. This can be the case with your wife also. If your wife turns out to be like this then you are in a much more difficult situation. It will be better for you to get out of such a relationship if you are feeling suffocated due to these things because you will never be at peace. I have seen so many relationships and marriage break due to these reasons. Girls need to be reasonable in this matter and don’t treat their boyfriend as ATM machine.
Crypto currency mining basics.
Mining crypto currency is a term we always hear in all crypto forums. The faucet sites are also full of advertisements promising very good returns in it. For those who are relatively new in this field like me, understanding it becomes a bit difficult. For this reason we fall prey to crypto mining scams and lose our hard earned money. This type of mining is unlike mining as we know that is going down the earth to get some precious metal. Here we get precious crypto currency by using the computational power of powerful computers. It’s all happening in the digital virtual world.
A simple example
Suppose you are a student and your math teacher asks a question. For a correct answer he will give you 3 candies. You answer it correctly and get the 3 candies. This is like you have mined the 3 candies yourself.
If you take the help of a group of your friend to answer it correctly, then all of you will get 3 candies. This is like a mining pool where everyone is contributing.
Mining crypto currency.
In mining, a transaction is recorded and stored in a block chain. When you make a transaction the miner verifies it and stores it in a digital ledger. Once the transaction is confirmed by the miner then it can be used by the new owner.
A new block is mined in a time which is different for different crypto currency. These new blocks are added to the black chain. Each block has a certain number of crypto currencies.
There are two types of rewards for a miner doing the mining process.
1. Reward in the form of new currency for creating new blocks.
2. Taking a transaction fee
Miners have to complete a mathematical puzzle which is a crypto hash algorithm. Then the proof of his work is included in the new block as proof of work (POW). Each block is added to the older blocks to form a block chain and all transaction records are kept in the block chain.
The mining code is like a treasure hunt, after a certain period a new code is generated and all the miners are in a race to solve it. The one who solves it first gets the block and the currency attached to it. A lot of computational power is required for this.
Mining mechanism
The one who completes the calculations first is rewarded. Let us take the example of Bitcoin. It is basically a long combination of password hidden in an encrypted algorithm. The miner who can find the matching password first gets the reward. There are 21 million Bitcoins and 210.000 blocks will be generated. Also every 4 year the block size is halved until it cannot be halved anymore. So its mining gets difficult with time.
As its quantity is limited so it is compared to gold and also called digital gold. With block size reducing and more and more miners coming in to mine it, so these miners are using more computational power to solve the algorithm first. The competition is fierce and the rewards less.
Even 4-5 years ago it could be mined on a computer but now it is not possible as the computational power is not there in a computer. Now specialised equipments are required to mine Bitcoin.
Formula for reward
Crypto currency generated from a new block minus the cost of equipment, electricity, maintenance etc = your reward.
The miners can then sell the newly generated crypto currency in the exchange or market if it is a bull market. Or hold it in a bear market and sell when the bull market returns.
Everything is controlled by the miners. If the reward is more then more miners will join to mine new blocks. If the reward is more for confirming each transaction then more miners will participate in it. Now it is in the hand of big corporations with big money. A person can also participate in it by making an investment and getting a part of the miners reward as return. This investment of yours helps the miner to meet his expenses.
Risk as an individual investor
As it is beyond the reach of an individual so now you will find fraud companies coming up which will ask for a token investment in return for reward. Most of these are not mining but actually running ponzi schemes, so please use due diligence before investing anything.
Are you having a satisfying life.
The race of life will continue till the last day. But how we run is on us. There will up uphill portions and downhill portions, the difficult and easier phases. Making our way through the proverbial forest is not easy and chances are we lose our way. Things were not easy and now Covid also got added to it. It is really difficult to balance work, relations, family and friendship. But we can do certain things which will give us satisfaction in the journey. Let is check the signs that you are having a satisfying life.
Planned for the future and working on it.
Many of us are not happy with our job and the pandemic has reduced our mobility and options also. We may feel stuck. But if we have planned what we want to be and work out our way to get it then we are going in the right direction. The present may not be that rosy but the future will be better for sure.
You are not wasting time
Pointless entertainment is a bad habit and we get into it very easily. We may be spending too much time on Netflix, or spending too much time with friends in the bar and restaurants, partying. Or we may be overdoing the internet. We do these things at the expense of the limited quality time we have in a day. If we have checked this and limited it then we are in the right direction.
Single or in a relationship but you are happy
It is up to you what your relationship status is but you are happy in it. You are not having the hang over and pain of a past broken relationship. Your status is your choice and not that is beyond your control. Neither loneliness is bothering you nor is the commitment bothering you. If you are single, you are not scared of a new relationship. If it is the case then you are in the right direction.
You have a good relationship with your near and dear ones.
You keep in touch with your near and dear ones regularly and don’t neglect them. They have a feeling that they can trust you in difficult times. Whenever you meet them there is a feeling of happiness. Others find you easily approachable. If this is your status then you will have a satisfying feeling.
Your bad habits are under control
If you are having any bad habits like excessive smoking and drinking or drugs, even shopaholic and you are in control of it then there is nothing better than that. You control them and they are not controlling you. These things are not affecting your work and relationships or mood then you are in the right direction.
You are treating yourself well.
You are in a positive state of mind and you love the way you are. You are taking care of your body mind and soul and are not dragged into negative zone. You accept yourself the way you look, act and behave with no sense of inferiority or insecurity. You are feeling great the way you are.
It is not easy to get a tick mark against all the above points, but it surely is worth a try. The rewards will be in the form of a feeling of satisfaction and winning in your life. Faltering in any field is natural but fighting and making a comeback is what decides how you take life. When you feel that you are in control of things which you want, knowing fully and prepared to take on challenges when these things will not be under you r control someday. That is the state where you will feel that you will win the race of life.
Are you a target of love bombing?
A relationship in a young age is like being in cloud nine; everything seems to be so perfect. All the attention and care and gifts and flowers make you feel that there can be nothing better in life. Girls feel like they are the luckiest person alive. You will enjoy each moment of it. But sometimes this can be the beginning of a toxic relationship.
But beware, are you a target of love bombing. It is a manipulation where you are just a target for conquest, nothing else.
Here you will be showered with a complete undivided attention and importance and will always feel overwhelmed by the behaviour and gifts. It will be such that you will never question your boyfriend and never doubt that you are being made a target for love bombing. The intensity of things should raise your doubt. You will see that he will get angry when he is displeased with something you have done or not done, or you will notice that he is angry when you will get attention from others.
Signs to take notice.
You are getting gifts too frequently and too costly.
Gifts are what girls expect from boyfriends and girls simply love getting gifts. You will be regularly showered with them. And those gifts can be costly also which you will know is beyond the means of your boyfriend. But still you will like receiving them as a sign of the depth of love. Seldom will you question. Also during your discussions if you tell that you like something then within the next few days you will get it as gift. Though you may feel elated but now you should get cautious also. Things are too good to be true.
You will always hear words that will make you feel good.
You will be showered with words that will make you feel that you are the most important thing in his life. You will hear words like ‘without you I am so incomplete’, ‘you are the reason for my happiness’ etc. Which girl doesn’t like hearing such things? The choicest adjectives will be used for you. And he will also expect the same from you and if you don’t do it then it will make them angry.
The boundaries will be slowly broken.
This will be all an emotional drama about how he got ditched in love previously and you are the true purpose of his living. Slowly he will plan trips outside with friends but they will not turn up for some excuse and both of you will be alone. You will be emotionally manipulated to take the relation to next level by giving the pretense of pure love. These things will happen regularly where you will find yourself alone with him. And at some point of time you will give in because you love him so much. You will think that you are hurting him by not listening to him. Even if you don’t want you will get sucked into it if you are not getting his intentions.
You will get isolated.
He will completely want you for himself and will not like you meeting and socializing with others, particularly male friends. He will try to false wrong pictures about your friends and will try to distance you from them. He will want that you just give your undivided attention to him and leave all others. He will use all types of manipulation for this.
The subtle change
You will start noticing subtle changes that he is slowly giving excuse to see you or talk to you. You will see that the gifts are drying up; the talks of love are reducing. You will see he is busy in other things with very less time for you. You will find him making excuses for everything. If you confront him then he will try to put the blame on you. He will then eventually give some reason to break up with you, for the purpose for which you were made the target has been achieved. Now it is the time to move on and find a new target for him. You will be left high and dry, emotionally broken and left to fend for yourself.
It is then only you will rewind the cassette and try to identify the signals which you ignored all through the time. But by then the damage has already been done. So always be cautious before blindly trusting anyone in love and be careful in that journey also. If something seems too good to be true then probably it isn’t.
There is a thief in read cash. He translated my article into Bengali and reposted it without my permission. Random rewarder could not catch him and rewarded him also. All his articles are in Bengali so I think he is doing it with other writers also. I have reported it.
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Don't let your kids do these till they are 15.
Children are way smarter now than they were earlier. They catch up things easily and due to their immature mind things get engraved in the mind easily. Due to widespread access of internet and television it becomes difficult to regulate what they are viewing and what they are doing. Also when both parents are working then it is not always possible to keep a close watch on children. The mind of a child is always curious and wants to explore things and what better place can be than the internet or television. Parents in there busy life finds it easy to hand over the mobile to children to keep them busy and then do their own work. It becomes easy for the parents as children get engrossed in the mobile and now they can do their work without any hindrance.
But it is necessary to keep a close eye on the activities of children. I will say about some activities which should not be allowed for children in the before teens age group.
Do not let them use social media.
Social media is an unregulated place where hundreds of types of ideas and topics are floating. Children don’t have the mental ability to understand these things, for them what they see is what they believe. In this growing age if they start believing in wrong things then it will have a long term effect. Though some social media sites may have age restriction for joining but in a virtual world it is so easy to manipulate those. Children can easily create social media accounts and operate them. If parents don’t keep a close watch then this can continue uninhibited. There are not much productive things to learn from social media but children can easily learn those things which are actually to be avoided. But such things are packaged such a way that they will believe that such things are to be imbibed.
Watching TV and movies not rated for them.
This is again an area which can have harmful effect on the mind of the children. Now a day’s even movies and TV programs which are rated as universal have contents which are inappropriate, but due to changes in society these things have become common. Once the remote is in their hands and there is no one to supervise then all those things are within the access of children. Channels like Netflix and others are now full of contents not suitable for children. Once they are exposed to these things then it would be natural for them to explore it in real world also. It is important that some sort of filtering or child lock be there to restrict them from accessing these sites.
Unrestricted access to internet.
The above two points are also related to this. Internet is a landmine of information both good and bad. It is also easy to get drawn towards what is bad. I have seen children in early teens getting hooked up to adult sites and parents are totally unaware of it. I have seen intimacy even in pre teen children due to this. As I said earlier it is easy for parents to keep their children preoccupied by handing them over mobiles while they do their work. Without a child lock to filter out adult content, it is a matter of time only when they will find those sites and starts exploring them.
Keep a check on their friend circle.
Children cannot differentiate between a good friend and a bad one. It may be that you have controlled the above mentioned points at your home, but if he or she has a friend circle who are exposed to these things then it will automatically reach your children also. Children find an excitement in doing what they are told not to do and coupled with bad friends they are always susceptible to taking the wrong path.
The growing years are the formative years of their life. Whatever impressions get imprinted in their mind stays for a long time, until they have reached a mature age to discern things. It is the responsibility of the parents to regulate their mind, whatever be their commitments. Otherwise they will have themselves to be sad and blame later on.
How to be an entrepreneur
Now is the age of start ups. The younger generation in particular has developed a keen interest in the concept of be your own boss. It is a good development as previously more focus was on getting a job and now a growing breed of entrepreneurs are becoming job giver. But this field is not fraught with danger of losing money and failing. Still most of the start ups do not survive the first two years.
With a lot of finance which is available these days from banks and angel investors, now funding is not much of a problem. Also the younger generation has a wide range of options to begin a start up. Many have grown to be multimillion dollar businesses.
There are certain ground rules to be a successful entrepreneur, today I will tell about them.
Risk taking appetite.
The world of start up is all about risk taking ability of the person, and that too with the money of loaned money from bank or angel investors or private equity. Also many people have good ideas but fail to start anything with those ideas because they do not have the ability to take risks. An entrepreneur without this ability will not be able to take the first step in this direction.
Implement the idea.
If a person has the risk taking appetite then only he will be able to implement his ideas. This requires a lot of conviction- to take the first steps. There is too much competition in every field so the journey is not easy at all. But when he decides to implement his ideas then his start up starts taking a shape.
Perseverance
This is a quality which is required in every field of life and here also. Nothing happens over night here. A lot of effort goes into it, taking a lot of time, with many failures. So the ability to stick around is very important. You should have the mental toughness to whether all the ups and downs.
Challenge yourself
It is you who has to do it primarily and no one else, so keep challenging yourself that you can excel in every step of the journey. You have to challenge yourself to deliver it better than your competitors, and then only you will be able to survive.
Be passionate about your project
The project is your idea and your baby, so you have to passionate about it. If you try to copy and paste others business model then you will never be passionate about it. It will just be a borrowed idea. A lot is at stake and being passionate will help you to increase your dedication towards it.
Reduce fear
Fear of losing is a big fear. A lot is a t stake and all your known people are following you. Some may be supporting you and some may be waiting for it to fail. You have to overcome the fear of failure in order to go full throttle.
Visualise your goals
Always revisit your goals. Always remember why you started it, this will give you the motivation to continue especially when you are passing through difficult times.
Have good mentor and partner.
A good mentor will be an asset as he is experienced in this field and will be able to guide you through the whole course of the journey. You are new and accept the fact that though you may have done a whole lot of research but the mentor has the practical experience in dealing with these things. So is a good partner if you have one. He should be trustworthy as he will also be a part owner. Most importantly both of you should have a mental match otherwise there have been many cases when one partner leaves the business due to difference of opinion.
Plan your finances.
It is most likely you are starting with borrowed capital. So planning your finances is very important. It is easy to overspend in business due to emotions but a careful road map is required to follow. Any deviation from it should be backed by a solid reason.
Being an entrepreneur in young age is an exciting journey where you give wings to your ideas and try to make a place of your own. But always remember that your success and failure is mostly dependent on you and no one else. You are in charge of everything. If you keep these things in mind then it will help you to become a successful entrepreneur.
Habits that will increase your wealth
Wealth is the biggest aspiration of people these days. The lure of money is so great that people even resort to unfair means to gain it. That’s why so many scams are also there these days promising get rich quickly and people regularly fall prey to it. The glare of materialistic happiness is so strong these days that we get hypnotised by it easily. But creating wealth is not a short term project but a long term one. Short cuts in creating wealth will always lead us t the world of crime or getting scammed. It is better to take a slow and steady approach to it. Financial decision is a key factor in creating wealth.
Now let us see some of the things we can do to create wealth for us.
Save and invest.
This is one of the key factors for the middle class family. But these two are two different things. When we are keeping aside some money in liquid form from our earning then it is called a saving. It can be kept in home or in a savings bank account. Investing means to utilize the saved money in some schemes which will generate income or increase the total amount over time. In young age we should save/ invest at least 40% of our earning. You should develop a reserve of 6 months expenses. Don’t wait to have a sizable saving before starting to invest, but start investing small amounts also.
Dont put all your investments in one basket. Spread it across 3-4 options, and don’t feel afraid to invest in stock market for the long term.
Spend wisely.
Here we go wrong in young age. We generally overspend when we are young and earning and unmarried. Most of these spending go in to things which we can do without. Always ask yourself these two questions before purchasing anything.
- Do it need it?
- Do I need it now?
This will give you the correct answer as to whether you should spend on that thing or not. A lot of our expenses go in to eating outside these days which can be easily avoided. Also don’t try to keep up with the latest fashion trend always; we keep on piling up dresses and most of the older ones we wear very less. Also don’t change your mobile phone too quickly. If it is working properly then don’t go for a new one every 6 months.
Don’t go out for shopping with friends who spend too much on shopping. In this case you also end up buying things which you actually do not require.
Work hard.
For the middle class people like us, hard work is proportional to more earning. In the young age especially it is important to work hard to increase your income as you have more energy and motivation. Also money earned in the young age will get more time to increase when invested wisely.
Have a budget.
Always do budgeting of your earning so that you are clear about how much you earn and spend and on what things. If you keep a record for 3 months then you can analyse what type of spending habit you have. This will help you take corrective action. It is said that after you reach your saving and investment target, whatever is left that you can spend. Follow this rule and try to cut expenses after analysing your expenses.
Invest in yourself.
Always be open to learn new skills and upgrade your knowledge with the changing trends. Always keep yourself up dated in this field. This will help in creating a demand for you in the job market. Any amount spend on this is basically an investment which will always pay good returns. There is nothing as free money; no one will give you that. The only way to increase your money is to invest in upgrading yourself or investing your money in some good and reliable schemes.
As I said earlier discipline is required to increase your wealth. The earlier you start investing the better for you. A lot have been said about the power of investing early and the power of compounding which all of you know. It is also not bad to take some risk in investing but be sure to keep it limited.
How to overcome fear.
Fear is a common thing among all of us. We have multiple fears in us. We may fear about public speaking, fear to interact with others, fear of starting a new venture, fear of getting into a new relationship after a break up, fear of heights and many more like these. You will hardly find anyone who does not have any type of fear though many may boost of so.
Out of these fears some may never affect our mainstream life and some will affect our life directly. If we do not overcome these fears then we will it may affect us professionally or emotionally. Anyways it is good to face the fears and overcome them.
Today I will write about some common ways to overcome your fears.
Accept you have a fear.
It is important that first you accept the fact that you fear a particular thing and have avoided confronting it for so long. This acceptance will open up the way to take steps to remove the fear. Then make a mental point that you want to overcome that fear. This will give you the necessary push to confront it rather than escaping from it. There are many people who have overcome their fear by taking the first step in that direction.
Find the cause of your fear.
The fear may have a root in your past experience. It can be an abusive past relationship which makes you avoid a new one and you believe all men are like this. It can be something that is rooted in your childhood. Parents may be the cause of some fear that lingers on till grown up age. If you were beaten up regularly or kept locked up in room then you will certainly develop fear of these things. So try to find the cause of the fear. It may not always come from your experience but you may just develop it by seeing others fears also.
Tackle your fear
To tackle your fears you may do it yourself or need the help of your friends. But to tackle it you have to revisit those fears again with awareness that you fear them and now you are in the process of overcoming them. You have to be mentally strong and take these fears headlong. It may take time and effort but at the end you will be successful. If you have been in an abusive relationship then you can be cautious about it the next time and make it clear to your partner. Always be strong inside. If you have fear of public speaking, then practice it at home and then try it outside in every opportunity you get, do not shy away from it.
Have positive thoughts.
This will help you gain confidence to tackle your fears. Have faith in yourself. If you have positive thoughts then your mind is programmed to take on fear with confidence. Fear is rooted in the mind so positive thoughts will help expel those fears from the mind. You can also read books on how others overcame their fears and apply them in your life also. This will give you confidence.
Take help
Do not be afraid to take help of people whom you can confide or even from a psychologist. Some timers the fears are so deep rooted that professional help is required. Do not be ashamed of sharing the causes of fear because only when the cause is known then only someone can advise and help you ion overcoming those fears.
Journal your success
Keep a record of steps you are taking in your effort to overcome your fears, and your success, however small it may be. Celebrate your success. This will again give you confidence that you are in the right path. This will also help you identify the wrong steps you took in the process and help you identify the right path. Now you will be clear of the milestones you need to cross before you finally overcome your fear.
If you fear, fear, then fear will get over you but if you decide that now I will get over my fear then you will surely be successful in it.
Protect your social media accounts
The present generation is hooked to social media. Like it or not, they feel incomplete without it. Social media is less of a social interaction site but a way of projecting them self to the world. A considerable amount of time is spent on social media as all have multiple social media options. It is important to keep these accounts secure so that they are not hacked and misused. A lot of people are preying the social media sites looking for innocent targets to exploit.
I will share some tips on safeguarding your social media sites.
Don’t save password in public devices
Saving password is an easy way to log in to your account as we need not remember and type it every time we log in. While logging in this is the first thing google asks, do you want to save your password? And routinely we accept it. When in a public computer then also we may inadvertently click ok for it. So be careful when accessing social media or any sites from a public computer or even your friend’s device.
Log out
Always log out when the work is done, be it your device or a public device. That way, your account will be more secure. Have patience to log in the next time. Hackers have ingenious ways to hack your account so you have to take all precautions. Don’t make your e mail address or phone number known to those who do not require as these can be used to retrieve your log in information.
2 factor authentication
Always go for 2 factor authentication, it is a double layer of protection. Most of use prefer the direct way of log in without this but then you are making yourself more susceptible to hacking. There is google 2 factor authentication or you can go for receiving a second layer of OTP in your e mail or phone number.
Clean up browser regularly
If you frequently visit unsecured or shady websites like porn etc then you should clean up the browser regularly to prevent unwanted virus and phishing attacks. An adware removing tool is helpful in this regard.
Spyware and malware
If you download any application from a non trusted source or unknown source then most likely you will become a target of malware and spyware which can easily get access to your saved data including passwords, PIN etc. So do have a good internet security package of a reputed company and don’t forget to keep it updated regularly. Also have regular scanning of device.
Lock your account
When we give phone to someone else for repair then always lock your social media accounts if the feature is available. Even if you know the person repairing it then also you have to be careful. Sometimes people record there intimate moments and then those can get disclosed and you can get blackmailed or these videos and photos can be up loaded in porn sites. Though this point is not particularly related to social media accounts but I thought it to include it. Even when mobile phone is lost then also you can face such issues.
If you account is hacked then approach a knowledgeable person to deal with it who have save your account. There have been many cases where pictures of girls have been taken from social media sites and morphed to show nudity and then blackmailed for money or sex. So it is always good to stay protected at all times. Also as we are doing more and more online transactions so protecting our bank and other account is necessary to secure our hard earned money. It is our responsibility to keep ourselves secure and in the online world everyone is anonymous and criminals easily stay unknown. If your phone is lost then make sure to log into your accounts from another device and lock the accounts which you want to keep secure.
Increase your longevity
Everyone desires to live long and stay fit also. It is normal for us to do it. Though genes play an important role in it but lifestyle, diet and environment is more important. The biological process of decay is natural with age but our habits decide how much this decay will affect us. In the earlier times when marriage was early people used to easily see their great grand children but now with late marriage and a city bred lifestyle, some even miss out the grand children also. We can inculcate some habits to increase our longevity even up to 100 years.
Avoid over eating
Over eating that too with an overdose of junk food is a big no. The more we eat means the more calorie we intake and in our lifestyle is such that we don’t exercise much. Therefore it accumulates as fat in our body. It is never advised to eat a full stomach however hungry you feel. In this regard Ayurveda says that we should eat only half full and one fourth should be water intake and the rest one fourth should be empty. Also the last meal should be before sunset so that the body gets enough time to digest.
Eat more fruits and nuts
It is recommended that we should have our daily dose of vitamins and minerals from fruits and nuts rather than depending on supplements. The natural source is always better than the artificial source.
Eat more green vegetables
Plant food like green vegetables, beans, seeds is extremely beneficial doe health. They are not only easier to digest but also easily absorbed by the body. In fact we can reduce the consumption of rice and make it up for by eating more quantity of these preparations. Meat particularly red meat should be avoided as much as possible as it is a high source of fat and cholesterol. Also avoid processed food.
Stay active and exercise
It is important that we exercise the body at least 5 days a week. This way the body muscles and joints keep in an optimal state. Muscles start reducing with age so to prevent that to some extent it is important to do some resistance training. Our joints also start getting stiff with age so by giving it motion it will stay flexible and supple. With age yoga is a good form of exercise.
Stop smoking
In the young age many people take to smoking which is a bad habit known to all. It causes high blood pressure and constricts the artery. Even if you are smoking then quit it in the forties at least. The lungs take about 10 years to return to its normal state for a chain smoker.
Moderate alcohol
Heavy drinkers generally develop the problem of liver and pancreatic disease. These organs have a limit to its filtration ability and continuous overdose of alcohol seriously affects it. With age one can shift from hard drinks to wine.
Avoid anxiety and stress
These two are silent killers, so stress and anxiety is to be avoided as much as possible. Though in our present lifestyle it is difficult to avoid it completely but if we develop a mindset then we can reduce its effect. We should try to stay happy as much as possible then our hormones will complement our longevity.
Drink water
We often neglect it but it is important to drink at least 4 litres of water in a day. It is the best flushing mechanism for the body for toxins. Also we should avoid taking drinks like cola and Pepsi as they actually do not quench our thirst but only increase the sugar level of the body. Better to stick to plain water and fresh juice (not the packaged one even if it says fresh)
Sleep well
Sleeping in the only actual relaxation for the body. If our body did not need sleep then there would have been no concept of sleep. As it has developed through the evolution that means it is a mandatory requirement for the body. Now we cut back on sleep for other trivial things. The timing of sleep is important. We should sleep by 9 PM so that we can wake up early. Also we should sleep for 8 hours at least, uninterrupted. If we have such sleep then there won’t be a requirement to sleep in the afternoon.
This will surely help in increasing longevity and also the quality of the longevity.
7 ways to make your man love you more
Men are a complex being though less complex than women, so it is easy to make men feel good so that he loves you more than ever. Like women, men also have their weak points which can be used to impress them. Then you will get a lot more attention and love from him. Women need to understand that men have a different set of requirements than men. The mistake which women make is that they are more attention seeker for themselves and therefore they are less likely to give attention to the emotional needs of men. But if the women change her attitude then they can always make their men happy and avoid the insecurity of being left for other women.
1 Men have ego. Accept the fact that men have bigger ego and it has to be kept satisfied. They always want to be on the top of a relation and expect their women to be submissive and obeying. That does not mean that you will have to take abuse from the men. That is a strict no. But if you handle carefully then you can both satisfy his ego and maintain your self-respect also.
2. Men love respect. The common mistake teen and young girls make is that they do not respect their man and always throw tantrums. This can put off a man because men also have ego. So it is always better to give them due respect and listen to them also. When a man feels that he is also getting respect then he will automatically keep you satisfied in the relationship. If you start comparing him with others and lay him down, then the relationship will not last long.
3. Men love food. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. It is true. And men love it when his girl cooks good dishes for him. So better start learn to cook and make new dishes to impress his taste buds. Men love food prepared by his mother, so that thing carries on when he has a girl friend or wife and expects the same.
4. Men don’t like nagging women. Women are known for throwing tantrums in a relationship. They always want to be treated like princess and seek full attention; women like to be showered with gifts on any occasion. But in this women forget that the man may be busy in his work or passing through a difficult time financially. So women need to understand the situation and not always nag the man all the time.
5. Be yourself. Women try to impress men by trying to always look fashionable and with lot of makeup. They try to impersonate the celebrities and lose their individuality. Men like women who try to stay the way they actually are because that is the way he liked you, as you are and not as a copy of someone else.
6. Look good and smell good. This is not contradictory to the 5th point. By looking good, you should keep yourself looking fresh and clean with a smiling face, even with minimal makeup. Always have a dress sense that complements your personality and to follow the latest fashion trend. And don’t forget to smell good, men love it.
7. Be good in bed. Accept the fact that men have fantasies and that he wants to fulfil in the bed. So don’t try to annoy him in bed, ultimately it is an enjoyment for both. Accept the fact that men have more stress in life and this is a good stress reliever for him.
It is beneficial for both of you and the relationship that both have a good understanding. In a good relationship it is not bad that sometimes one has to take a step back to prevent clashes. Only then a relationship sustains and flourishes.
Some success mantra
Success is what we all strive for but it eludes most of us. Success in financial matters and success in relationships that is what our whole life is all about. First we try to get it, and then we strive to preserve it. But success is not easy to achieve and there is no set formula for success. Different fields have different ways of achieving it. But there are some common qualities which can be applied to all, in whatever field they may be striving for.
I think the following qualities are a must to achieve success.
Find your passion
This is the first thing and also the most difficult thing to do. For most of us life goes by without being able to find it. We are so engrossed in our daily routine that we seldom give a thought to it. We just make ourselves happy by doing what we are doing. Even when we are able to find it then we might face difficulty in following it because of financial constraints or family condition or lack of time or family support. For the middle class and the lower middle class gentry this is a stark reality and 90% of the dreams are nipped in the bud in the beginning only. So the next best thing we can do is to make it a hobby rather than the primary work. Passion does not always mean being a climber or sea farer or explorer, it can be a business or accountancy or math, anything.
Take responsibility of your actions
Even if after all the constraints you manage to take steps to follow your passion then take responsibility of it. It is your own journey so you yourself are responsible for it. The journey will be tough; there will be failures and misfortune. At that time you cannot put the blame on others and crib. It is your baby and you have to raise it. You may miss opportunities and situations will seldom be perfect and you are responsible for whatever actions you take under various circumstances. There are no shortcuts here, it is all hard work.
Find a mentor
It is always beneficial to find a mentor from your field. He has gone through the process and has loads of experience to guide you. Don’t be overconfident; there is no harm in taking help of others. A mentor knows what is ahead and will significantly reduce your time and effort to achieve your success. A mentor will help sharpen your skills and identify your weak points.
Set goals and follow them strictly
Success is not a one step process but it is like climbing a staircase. Each step is a target, a part of the goal which you have set. These small targets will accumulate to be you final goal. You may get stuck in a particular step but you have to continue to stick to it and push on. Don’t get de motivated. Each step is a test of the strength of your mind and your perseverance. A lot many fail here, to continue when things get tough. That is why we see so less successful people in this world. Always have belief in yourself.
Patience
Any great thing doesn’t happen instantly, we all know the quote about Rome. This is true. Everything takes time. Some may achieve it earlier and you may get stuck on the way. But if you have patience then you will be able to slog on. It is a marathon so have that mindset. In India there is an age old saying that the fruit of patience is always sweet. So hang in there.
If you are able to follow the above things then success will be yours, with time. It is important to enjoy the journey because we know that the end of the journey will always be joyful.
Good habits of morning
For most people morning is the most productive time. One is fresh from a good night’s sleep, the body and mind both rested fully. It is always better to be an early riser to snatch a few hours from the 24 hours. Early morning gives a few hours of better quality time than those whole try to steal some waking hours at the end of the day. At that time the body and mind is tired and it is difficult to focus attention on anything. If we extend the night waking hours we mostly waste it seeing TV or on the mobile, which is basically unproductive work.
So now we go into the details
When we open our eyes in the morning and still on the bed then it is better to stay that way for 5 minutes at least. Enjoy the feeling of freshness and let the hangover of sleep leave you. Let yourself be completely awake and conscious about the surrounding. When we are lying on the bed the heart does not have to pump the blood very hard but if you suddenly wake up and get out of the bed then the sudden vertical stance makes the heart go into hyper mode immediately. This is one of the reasons why people have heart attacks and strokes mostly in the morning.
Also avoid turning on the lights immediately, let your eyes adjust to the little outside light that is coming from outside and then switch on the lights.
Don’t just reach out to your mobile to catch up with what happened during your sleep. Nothing useful happens in social media that requires your immediate attention on waking up, avoid seeing the latest news as it actually doesn’t affect you and avoid seeing emails from office, that can also wait a few hours. As it is the whole day you are going to do this only. Give your eyes rest from the screen.
After getting up do not straight away drink tea or any other beverages. The first thing to drink in the morning is lukewarm water that too 2-3 glasses. You can put lemon and honey if you wish otherwise plain lukewarm water is good enough. This will help in getting a good bowel movement and also restart the stomach in the correct way. One should take beverages at least one hour after waking up. Also do not start the day with coffee, it is better to have tea or green tea.
Have a healthy breakfast and not a heavy breakfast. The quantity can be as per you diets but avoid meat and heavy things which may make you feel heavy and bloated. You should feel light and energetic and not heavy and lethargy.
After getting up have some ‘me time’. It can be in the form of yoga or meditation or running or even prayer. Whatever you want to do but that requires your attention concentrated on yourself than focusing on what to do all through the day. The coming time of the day will usually be stressful and busy so it is better to have some peace within yourself before you get out of the doors in to the world.
Students have the best retention ability when they study early morning, though it depends on individual preference. The beauty and freshness of the early morning is far better than the night. In Indian culture it is said that it is best to rise with the rising sun. The first oblique rays of the sun are good for us.
If we can follow this routine in the morning it will make a peaceful start of the day and will increase our lifespan also.
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Above is God, below power users.
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India Plans to Introduce Law to Ban Cryptocurrency Trading
India plans to introduce a new law banning trade in cryptocurrencies, placing it out of step with other Asian economies which have chosen to regulate the fledgling market.
The bill is expected to be discussed shortly by the federal cabinet before it is sent to parliament, according to people familiar with the development who who asked not to be identified, citing rules on speaking with the media.
The federal government will encourage blockchain, the technology underlying cryptocurrencies, but is not keen on cryptocurrency trading, according to two people. India’s finance ministry spokesman didn’t respond to call and a message seeking comments.
Cryptokidnapping, or How to Lose $3 Billion of Bitcoin in India
The Indian central bank had in 2018 banned crypto transactions after a string of frauds in the months following Prime Minister Narendra Mod’s sudden decision to ban 80% of the nation’s currency. Cryptocurrency exchanges responded with a lawsuit in the Supreme Court in September and won respite in March 2020. https://www.rbi.org.in/Scripts/NotificationUser.aspx?Id=11243 https://cointelegraph.com/news/five-wanted-for-indian-crypto-scam-operating-since-2017
The win in court prompted an almost 450% surge in trading in just two months since March, according to TechSci Research, reviving concerns as more Indians risk savings amid job losses and an economic slowdown worsened by the coronavirus pandemic. Bitcoin marketplace Paxful reported 883% growth between January to May 2020 from around $2.2 million to $22.1 million. WazirX, a Mumbai based crypto exchanger grew 400% in March 2020 and 270% in April 2020 on month-on-month basis, according to TechSci. https://www.techsciresearch.com/ https://paxful.com/buy/bitcoin/india https://wazirx.com/
Regulating Trades
India’s decision will be crucial as more Asian nation countries weigh pros and cons of virtual currencies. Rival China, which banned initial coin offerings and virtual currencies in 2017, recently allowed Bitcoin trading as virtual property, not as fiat money. It is also planning its own central bank digital currency. Both Singapore and South Korea regulate crypto trades.
India’s federal government think tank, Niti Aayog, is exploring possible uses of blockchains -- structures that publicly store transactional records or blocks in several networked databases -- to manage land records, pharmaceutical drugs supply chain or records of educational certificates. And while it is planning a virtual currency, the government is averse to the idea of the cryptocurrency trades. https://niti.gov.in/sites/default/files/2020-01/Blockchain_The_India_Strategy_Part_I.pdf
A renewed trading ban could affect more than 1.7 million Indians trading in digital assets and a rising number of companies setting up platforms for the trade, data shows.
It will also affect companies like Singapore-based CoinSwitch, which added 200,000 users after starting India operations in June and was reporting volumes of about $200-300 million, according to chief executive officer Ashish Singhal. About half the users of the Sequoia-backed company’s local arm CoinSwitch Kuber, platform, which allows virtual currency purchases in Indian rupees, are less than 25-years old. https://coinswitch.co/
Singal said state-owned banks are reluctant to work with companies given lack of regulation clarity. And because there’s no legal recourse, there is the risk of attracting “fly-by-night, negative players trying to cheat” investors, he said.
Defi Project Yfdex.Finance Vanishes With $20M Investors' Funds Just Two Days After Launch
**Yfdex.Finance (Yfdex), a new liquidity mining pool, has reportedly exit scammed, making off with up to $20 million of investors’ funds. The decentralized finance (Defi) project convinced people to hand over their life savings following just two days of aggressive marketing on social media, and then disappeared without a trace.**
Crypto investor and analyst Cryptowhale on Thursday tweeted about Yfdex’s alleged dramatic plunder, a classic hit, and run. “Another day, another Defi scam!” the analyst ridiculed. “After promoting themselves on Twitter for 2 whole days, Yfdex has taken a total of $20M of Investors funds in their recent exit scam,” he added. https://twitter.com/CryptoWhale/status/1303665831570743296
News.Bitcoin.com followed the breadcrumbs. A visit to Yfdex’s official channels on Telegram and Twitter showed that both accounts had been pulled down. The protocol’s website as well as its page on Medium, all of which were used to promote the project, returned an error message.
But much of the work had been done prior, in the past two days, to be exact. On September 8, Yfdex announced the pre-sale of its eponymous token, starting at 16:00 UTC, according to earlier screenshots posted by the Yfdex community on a Telegram discussion group, now a hotbed of regret following the alleged exit scam.
Yfdex, which touted itself as “a powerful player of industry (sic) that breaks down all barriers”, said the pre-sale was to last only four hours “until hard cap is reached… [and any] unsold tokens would be burned immediately.” For each ether (ETH), an investor would receive 12 Yfdex tokens, it added. https://markets.bitcoin.com/crypto/ETH
Within a few hours, a total of more than $20 million had been locked into the Yfdex protocol from thousands of investors. And that was it. Soon after, on September 9, the project completely disappeared from the radar, leaving investors facing financial ruin.
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