What happened to the discipline?

Family life in some Western countries has changed in recent decades. At the same time, the parents were responsible and the children followed. In some families the opposite seems to be the case. It is increasingly common for parents to cede authority to young children. It wasn't that long ago kids knew who the boss was and they weren't.

Of course, many parents go out of their way to instill appropriate values ​​in their children by not only setting a good example, but also making firm but loving corrections when necessary. But parents who recognize its value, like the book cited above, are swimming against the grain of culture.

Parental authority is weakened

Some people say that parental violence began to wane in the 1960s when so-called experts urged parents to be more relaxed about their children. They said, "Be a friend, not a person of authority." "Praise is better than discipline." "Instead of correcting evil, get your children to do good." Rather than striking a balance between praise and correction, experts seemed to suggest that praising children would hurt their fragile feelings and later lead them to regret their parents.

Not so long ago, experts also announced the benefits of self-esteem. It was as if the secret to a good education had suddenly been discovered, and it was just that: making children feel good about themselves. Of course, it is important to give children confidence. But the movement of self-awareness has pushed things to their limit. Experts told parents, "Avoid negative words because it's not wrong." "Keep telling your kids that they are special and that they can be whatever they want." It was like feeling good was more important than being good.

Ultimately, some say that the consciousness movement has done little more than make children feel empowered, as if the world owes them something. Many young people "have sheltered themselves from the inevitable criticisms and passing mistakes that occur in real life," Generation Me says. A father quoted in this book says. If you file a negative report at the office, your boss won't say, "Hey, I like the colored paper you picked." Preparing children in this way means doing them a terrible service.

Shifting different opinions of people

Over some decades, parenting practices often reflect changes in people's attitudes. The discipline is constantly evolving. It reflects the changes in our society. It is very easy for parents, to be thrown by the waves and carried here and there by every wind that teaches.

It is evident that the current wave of lax discipline has had a negative impact. Not only has this weakened parental authority, but it has left children without the guidance they need to make good decisions and face life with genuine confidence.