What is Love for You?

It is not Valentine's day today but I want to write about the thing that makes the world go round. Maybe its because I am always drawn towards understanding this topic or maybe it is because I have just read @gertu13 article entitled "Its Too Late for Love" and the article from @Amazing-Grace "What Love Looks Like in Action"

Today, I am inspired to write about love. While thinking about this topic, I have thought about the question,"What is love for me?" What is love for other in people? But since you guys will be reading this, let me throw this question to you all, as I answer this based on my experiences and point of view. What is love for you?

Here are my answers;

Love is making time for those you love.

I once read a quote by Dieter F. Uchdorf that goes," Love is spelled T-I-M-E." Which I believe to be true because if you love someone, you will spend time for them, make time for them and be with them. We show our love for those we love by being there for them not just on times of laughter and joy but also on moments of grief and sorrow. We mourn with them, we sing with them and we want to experience the pain when they are suffering-that for me is love, true love. So when a person do not make time for you, be with you on moments when you need them the mots, it is clear where you stand in their life.

Love is forgiving the unforgivable.

I know someone who was betrayed by her husband. She was a hard working mom, juggling two jobs while his husband stays at home and takes care of their son. You know what was very painful with the infidelity, she caught him on December 24th-yep Christmas Eve . The most painful yet the best rescue gift ever. She said she felt as if her whole world came down and that her heart felt like it was lashed out of her chest. After following through her husband's conversation with her mistress on a different device, he confronted him and asked the very cliché yet most painful question of all time,"what did I lack?". My heart went out to this girl. I have seen her struggles. I have felt her pain on days when his husband has been such a jerk. I can say with all sincerity how she does not deserve anything like that. But you know what she did? She forgave him. And that to me is love.

Love is accepting weaknesses and shortcomings.

We are all imperfect. One time, I realized how ironic we humans are because we keep on saying how imperfect we are but we criticize, belittle and ridicule when our fellow being fails. Isn't that ironic? Accepting the fact of our fallibility but making fun of others when they fall towards it? Well, that is one are of growth we should work more on. Since we all are imperfect, we do things that hurt those that we profess to love. Or sometimes we have shortcomings that no matter how we try, we just can't overcome. And you know what's funny when you love someone? You overlook all these! You turn a blind eye to their weaknesses their shortcomings and all. Why? Because your heart roots for them endlessly. You just sincerely love them.

Love is communicating daily.

Communicating daily is one of the best tool in nurturing a relationship. It is the water that keeps us alive. It builds trust and destroys doubt. What is funny about this whole communication things is that you can tell when someone is just doing it unwillingly or if someone is doing it sincerely. We can always tell that, through their efforts in talking to us and letting us know about their whereabouts.

Love is saying sorry.

Would you believe that "sorry seems to be the hardest. Well, its a kine from a song but it is true in real life. Have you tried saying sorry when you have done something wrong? If yes, then you have practiced that culture of humility in you. But have you tried, saying sorry when you were right and you did nothing wrong? Because if you say yeas, then you must have loved that person so much that your relationship with him or her is more important than your pride. Love apologize even if it wasn't even your fault in the first place.

Love is lowering your pride

Pride is a stumbling block, it is a blockage a hindrance to any relationship. When you have pride you act as if you are always on the top, always right, always the boss. And that is not nice nor handsome at all. Pride is ugly! It is a pest that eats up the good in us and the good in our relationship with others. When you lower your pride, you accept other people's perspective into your own. You try to see through their eyes and you look at the world via their lenses. When that happens you begin to understand them and love them even more. True love blossoms more when two people are willing to lower their pride and let love and God prevails in thier lives.

I am not a love expert nor am I a sociologist. But I think there is no need for someone to be a master in those two fields to be able to explain and experience what love is. We all have our escapades and experiences in life that caused us to somehow understand this feeling. I am in awe of how amazing love is and how it makes the world go round.

Thank you for reading my article dear friends! Love you all!