Advice To Men On Relationships*
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1. Don't dress shabby, even if you don't have expensive clothes, dress well. Always look presentable.
2. Don't be extremely possessive: don't monitor
a lady (checking her phone messages, calls, her where abouts),you are putting yourself under unnecessary pressure, you'll die young. Don't stress and die for a lady you have not yet married.
3. Only give 100% of yourself to God, not a lady you have not married because he won't Break your heart.
4. work on friendship first, when friendship is sorted she will eventually see no other friendship that is relevant.
5. Appreciate a lady's effort to please you. (e.g. She buys a tie; don't say I don't wear ties or I don't like the color)
6. Hygiene is vital: shave your beards, don't be like a terrorist from Afghanistan. Even Joseph when he came out of prison he shaved before going before Pharoah. Smell well.
7. don't date a girl because of her image and status: most girls from rich families can't cook and are most likely not to appreciate your efforts to please them, they are hard to impress (e.g. you surprise her with a car, she be like where is the surprise?). But someone from a humble family will appreciate gifts.
8. Don't be moved by physical appearance: true beauty is her character. A foolish lady thinks everything about herself is her body.
9. Develop yourself: continue being educated...etc.
10. Never rebuke a lady in public, in public she won't see a rebuke but an embarrassment : call her to a corner or private place and tell her("what you doing is embarrassing me"). Because women don't think with their brain but with their emotions; use the right words.
11. Prove a lady's character before committing, don't hurry to commit or talk about marriage. Make sure she really has a good character, if she got something you can't cope with, don't hope, leave today.
12. Don't marry a lady for cooking or sex: nothing brings dignity like moral sanity.
13. Have a goal.
I feel like the 13th point there just covered most of the other points. "Have a Goal" When a man has that, then he is set to achieve almost everything and of course even a successful married life. Although there's no family without a problem but solving a problem in a happy home will turn out to be fun. When the children and the parents can easily open up and state out what they don't like about each other that is going on. You did a good job posting this my brother.