In my little research of why life becomes so miserable for some people.
It isn't pointed to the fact that life chooses to be so for them and fair to others but because, they allow it to be that way.
They give life chance to take them unaware over what and how it should be instead of creating for themselves the kind of life they would love to live, bringing into it what they would want and want not to be.
Life gives to you what you give to it, you can't act careless and allow situations take a whole of you and then expect to see things happen or come in the right direction for yourself.
No!
Alot which has happened to you in the past and made you desperate all sums up to the fact that you allowed life to create those ill limitations and circumstances round about you.
You take the passive lead while you allow those circumstances to take the active lead, cheerleading you when you're suppose to be cheerleading it as the sole owner, controlling and guiding over what should be and not to be.
You are a living corps when you allow life take decisions for you instead of you taking decisions for how life should be for you.
When you hear people talk about you leading your life or taking the boss sit as the owner that you are, what they mean is you taking up the responsibility of everything that happens in your life and creating for yourself a life that will be more suitable, meaningful and relevant to you and the world at large.
You need to enjoy life my Dear, so step in and exert positive energy to everything you do right from the decisions you make.
It isn't well when you are not feeling you and living like the owner of yourself.
I Know life is cumbersome and full of loads of problem, but still in it, there are good things you can create for yourself, is it the height you to want to attain, the things you want to possess, achieve or own?
Name it!
They all stand at where you place yourself in it, the choice and attitude you use to grab the good things to yourself.
So without hessitating, step in and create for yourself the life you would love to live.
I totally agree with you on this.We are responsible for all that we ever become,or happens to us in life.I think no one will help us to get to wherever we ought to, except we make the bold move on our own.If one has decided on his or her own that he or she wouldn't do well in something, definitely all the help that friends would offer would just be wasted.We have to take it upon ourselves to act and make out the best in life. All our dreams can always come true if we have the courage to pursue them.