Good morning, today I would like to write about when we are somewhere and we do not feel safe, in Chile the drug does not dominate the region but there are many extremely dangerous.
Today I had to help my mother in her retail store, I usually go there once or twice a week to order and store her merchandise.
Today was different, I wanted to look to the sides and I could see people who were part of some clan or mafia, not only next to me but all over the place.
Chile is going through difficult times, unemployment exceeds 10% which leads people to make extremely risky moves for very little pay or just for the delivery of benefits.
How should I react if I am in an unsafe place, generally is to feel the evil and be temperate, calm, do not observe much or generate aggressive movements.
One never knows how people can react, many times we do not know the deficiencies they have in their homes to reach these extremes.
You must be calm, not voluptuous and simple if not these people will notice your behavior and will go against you.
I have also felt the same feeling when I live in a new place, when I rent a room in a hostel.
There have been nights that I have not been able to sleep or the level of insecurity is very high because you do not have total control over your room, other people have keys.
It leads me to think that security is extremely important, without it we will not have a good time, or we will always be alert to any strange behavior.
Thank you very much if you can leave your comment or any point of view, I value every letter and point of your opinion.
This is a topic many expatriates eventually learn after a few years.
Being surrounded by people you may not understand
in a locale you have never visited before
can inspire an overwhelming sense of insecurity.
Insecurity, in itself, is simply observations by your mind
informing you about your multiple points of weakness
that can be exploited by others.
The biggest single weakness
is not being able to know how others perceive you.
If you are not an empath who can read hearts and minds,
then the best single thing you can do is broadcast yourself
as someone who
neither threatens nor has anything worth any effort to take.
As you noted - what you are looking at tells anyone a story.
The stories from some places I have been
about people murdered in coffeeshops
over the act of "staring at someone" are tales not soon forgotten.
Your body language must show you are neither defensive nor aggressive.
But the most important thing to understand that
Fear itself is your most important vulnerability.
Controlling your fear is the most important thing you can learn to do.
For each of us there are different techniques.
But the first is that you must understand what you fear
and how to put handles on your fears
and squelch your hormones
before they get you into a situation with no way out.
Fear always come from unknowns:
learn your unknowns and your fears can vanish in the light of knowledge.