Do you always say yes to everything people ask of you?
Why We Try To Please People
1. Fear
People who please others are afraid of conflict, hence, they are avoiding it by making everyone happy
2. Learned Behaviour
Sometimes the will to avoid conflict stems from childhood. When since you are a child and you were raised by parents who were constantly arguing, you may have learned that conflict is bad and keeping people happy is the best way to prevent arguments.
The Problem With People Pleasing
1. It Damages The Relationships With People on the brink of You
Think of your friend asking you to go out to watch a movie or play video games but if you do that your spouse will get angry because you two already made plans. In situations like these people-pleasers will sacrifice the connection with the people closest to them to please others.
2. You Lose Sight Of Your Values
You will stop doing what’s right and only specialise in making people happy whether it’s good or bad.
How To Stop Pleasing Everyone
Determine Who You Want To Please
It’s not your job to stay everyone happy, just specialise in the people you're closest to and devote some time to creating them happy.
