Many leave their elderly parents in the old age home. But in Islam, Allah has given the status of pure parents far above. The parents who cause the birth of a child in the world, the parents who leave the old age home, they are no longer human. In the Holy Qur'an, Allah has mentioned the rights of parents only after their own rights. It has been narrated in the Qur'an that you should not worship anyone other than Allah and be kind to your parents. (Surah Bani Isra'il: 23)
Imam Qurtubi (Rah) says that in this verse Allah has made it essential for the child by describing the honoring of the parents and treating them with kindness. As in another verse, Allah has made it necessary to combine the gratitude of parents with His own gratitude. It has been narrated in the Qur'an that you should be thankful to me and to your parents (Surah Luqman: 14). Just as it is very important to express gratitude to God, it is also important for a child to express gratitude to his parents. (Tafsir Qurtubi 5/585) In this context, it has been narrated in a hadith that a person said that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said to pray on time.
He asked again which work is the most favorite? The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: Be kind to your parents. He asked again which work is the most favorite? The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: Jihad in the way of Allah (Saheeh al-Bukhari: 1/6). It has been narrated in a verse in the Qur'an that I have instructed man to be kind to his parents. (Surah Luqman: 14) From the above discussion it is clear that obedience to parents and taking advantage of them is essential for the child. However, parents have more rights over their children.
It has been narrated in this hadith that Hadrat Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: A man asked, O Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him), who is the most suitable person to take advantage of my company? The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, 'Your mother.' He asked again, then who? The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, 'Your mother.' He asked again, then who? The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, 'Your mother.' He asked again then who? The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: Your father. Then continuously close. (Sahih Bukhari: 2/83) Allama Ibn Katheer, quoting a hadith, says that this hadith proves that the mother's right over the child is three times greater than the father's. Because, Rasulullah (SAW) mentioned mother three times, father four times.
In addition, there are several reasons why mothers have more rights. One. Trouble conceiving. Two. Trouble urinating in the womb at the risk of life during childbirth. Three. Breastfeeding and childcare - the difficulty of being engaged in care. These reasons do not exist in the Father. (Tafsir Qurtubi-5/575)
Moreover, the Holy Qur'an mentions these causes of mother's suffering. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): The mother conceived him with great difficulty and gave birth to him with great difficulty, and she was thirty months pregnant and weaned. (Surat al-Luqman: 14) The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) has described many virtues of obedience and benevolence to one's parents in various hadeeths. As it is narrated from Hadrat Abu Darda (Razi), a man came to him and said, "My mother is ordering my wife to divorce me." The middle door.
Now you want to take care of it or destroy it. (Tirmidhi Sharif-2/12) In another hadith it has been narrated from Abdullah bin Omar (Razi) that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said that the satisfaction of Allah lies in the satisfaction of parents and the displeasure of Allah lies in the dissatisfaction of parents. (Tirmidhi Sharif-2/12) It has been narrated from Hazrat Abu Umama (may Allah be pleased with him) elsewhere that a man asked the Prophet (peace be upon him) what is the responsibility of parents on their children?
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, 'They are both your Paradise and Hell.' (Ibn Majah, p. 280) The purpose of this hadith is to take their obedience and care to Paradise and to treat them badly and to send their dissatisfaction to Hell. Many people think that in order to be obedient and kind to their parents, they need to have a saint or an honest person. Even if one's parents are non-Muslims, Islam strongly urges them to take advantage of them.
Imam Bukhari (R.H.) has narrated a hadith in this regard. Narrated Asma bint Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with her): She said: My mother came to me in a state of polytheism. I asked the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him): O Messenger of Allah! My mother came to see me, can I be kind to her? The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, 'Yes, do good to him.' (Bukhari Sharif-2/64) The importance of serving and benefiting the parents in Islam is so great that it is not permissible for a child to take part in jihad without the permission of the parents as long as jihad is obligatory. It is narrated on the authority of Abdullah bin Omar (may Allah be pleased with him) in Bukhari that a man said to the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him), "I want to take part in jihad." The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) asked him, "Are your parents alive?" He said, yes!
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, 'Then devote yourself to the care of your parents.' (Bukhari-2/63) It is obligatory on the child to serve, obey and take advantage of the parents in all circumstances.
