The development of social skills needs practice. Just like you wouldn't expect to get good on the guitar without any effort, without putting in the time, don't expect to become socially relaxed. Having said that, you can start tiny. To be more confident and social, take baby steps, then expand on those accomplishments.
How to face the greatest social fears you have
You want to progressively face your fears when it comes to the things that really scare us, beginning with circumstances that are mildly uncomfortable and working up to more anxiety-provoking scenarios. Think of it as a stepladder, a little more stressful with each rung than the last one. Don't move on to the next level until the step below has been a positive experience for you.
For example, if talking to new people at parties makes you extremely nervous, here is a stepladder that you might use:
Go to a party and smile at a handful of people.
Go to a party and ask someone a simple question (for example, "Do you know what time it is?"). Once the person replied, thank them politely, and then excuse yourself. Having the conversation quick and sweet is the key.
Ask a friend at the party to introduce you to someone and help initiate a brief conversation.
Select someone who seems friendly and approachable at the party. Present yourself.
Identify a non-intimidating group of people at the meeting and approach them. You don't have to make a big entrance. Only participate and listen to the party and the debate. Make a comment or two if you would like, but do not put too much pressure on yourself.
Join another welcoming, approachable group. This time, try to engage a little more in the conversation,
Tips for conversation creation
Some individuals seem to instinctively know how, in any location, to start a conversation with anyone. If you're not one of these lucky types, when you first meet someone, these tips will help you start talking:
Here are some simple ways to talk to someone who is new
Remark or occasion on the surroundings. For instance, if you are at a party, you might comment in a positive way on the venue, the catering, or the music. This song I love," "The food's fine. Did you try the chicken? ”
Ask an open-ended question, one that needs more than just a yes or no answer. Adhere to the credo of the journalist and ask a question starting with one of the 5 W's (or 1 H): who, where, where, what, why, or how. "For instance, "Who here do you know? "Where would you usually go on a Friday?" "When have you moved here?" "What keeps you occupied?" "Why did you make your decision to become a vegetarian?" "How's this wine?" Most people like to talk about themselves, so a good way to get a conversation started is to ask a question.
Make use of a compliment. For instance, "I like your purse so much, can I ask where you got it?" or "You look like you did it before, can you tell me where I'm supposed to sign in?" ”
Note something that you have in common and ask a question to follow up. I play golf, too. What's your favourite local course? "My daughter went to school there, too, and how does your son like it?"
Keep the conversation going. Don't say anything that's explicitly provocative and avoid heavy subjects like politics or religion. Stick to light subjects such as the weather, the atmosphere, and anything like education, movies, or sports teams that you have in common.
Effectively Listen. Listening is not the same thing as waiting to speak for your turn. If you're shaping what you're going to say next, you can't rely on what someone does. Focusing entirely on the speaker and showing interest in what's being said is one of the keys to successful communication. Nod, smile at the individual sometimes, and make sure your stance is open and welcoming. Encourage the speaker to proceed with tiny verbal gestures such as "yes" or "uh huh."
This is applicable to me. Because im too an introvert