The scammer(my experience)2
Continued from part one,this is when I was in Lagos,2017.
I didn't know it was so bad like that, okay my dad sent me money so I could get something,I was coming directly from the Market around that onike,for people that are familiar with that area,you will know that the market there is not far from almost all the houses there,so as I was coming back from the Market a car stopped right opposite my door,I was about opening the door when someone from the car signalled to me and said please do you know this place bla bla bla,I said no I wanted to enter and they said please come,I went there ,the man sitting behind the car said he was a pastor,I was like okay,he repeated again and said he is looking for a church at somewhere,I said I don't know the church abi.
As I was about to go someone was coming behind me and when he got to the car he said where are they going,they told him and said he will take them to the place,I was like okay,I had to go,the man was now saying something like prophecy,I didn't want to listen,I just wanted to leave there and go inside but the other man was like I should listen,the man was saying different things,i don't even know why I entered the car,the other man was like i should follow them so he will show me that place too, I entered without locking the door to my place, I didn't know it was not locked until I came back, the man was now prophecying, sincerely I thought the man was real because of his age, he was really old man, I didn't know everyone in Lagos was scammers, Lolssss.
He told me I have money and it's blood money😂😂,I said I don't have any money on me,he said I should be sincere,he told me my age,name ,I was surprised though,I told him the money with me was sent by my father,and I want to use it for something,he said it has blood in it and I need to bring it so he can pray over it,wooowww, writing this now make me think,how did I actually fall for that because I actually went home took my atm , withdrew the money from ATM and gave it to them😂,the man said he wanted to pray on it , like it was just like a dream,it was immediately I came out of the car that I snapped out of it, like oh mine!! I have been scammed!! They dropped me to a place I don't even know,I had to explain my ordeal to the bikeman,they were just piting me, telling me it has happened to them before or their siblings, truely heartbreaking,the bike man took me home without collecting money,the first time I was scammed,I never expected such. It shook me like crazy...
My experience about swindlers 1
What a beautiful morning it is,I was just reminiscing on the past and I remembered what happened to me 6 years back,I was in Lagos then.
What brought about me remembering that?
Okay I was just in my dm chatting with some people when I saw a message from someone,he said he got my number from Facebook and he just wanted us to be friends,oh really friends? No problem,he said I should save his number, after about an hour he chatted me up with another number again and I was like "how many times will you chat me up with different numbers"? He said he has two numbers and that means he uses his two numbers to chat and swindle people on WhatsApp, especially people that don't know he has chatted them up before,i already knew he was a swindler,I didn't even bother to reply him again until he sent another message and I viewed it.
After seeing the above message I had to just block him because I don't even want to hear anything of such,in this dispensation where everyone is looking for money,I can't loose money abeg. This happened to me before,there was a time around last year,I decided to give it a try,I knew o could risk just 1k and see if it's real even when I know it's not,I just wanted to give it a benefit of doubt,that person also sent this kind of message to me,so I gave it a try,I couldn't spend more than 1k though because I don't want to cry😂, I send the money to the guy and the next thing is that he blocked me, chaii,I couldn't stop laughing, just 1k and he blocked me,what a poor thing he was,I said I just wanted to give it a try so it wasn't painful because I was intentional about it even when I know it was all a scam.
So this year one of my friend wanted to fall into that same scam,she was talking to someone in her room and I could hear her loud and clear that she want to try it,that there are alot of screenshoted alerts that the guy has sent too,I had to intervene,I told her "you will cry, I pity you", I had to convince her they are all scammers and she shouldn't fall for it, funny enough they are sending those money to their friends scammers like them and they will screenshot and try to decieve people with it.
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Moral lesson: this generation is full of scammers,we should be very careful, don't everything you see online.
In my next post I will be scaring with you what happened when I went to Lagos,how I was scammed then.
For now bye and thanks for reading up till this point 🙏.
My siblings
While we were growing up we always pray to have brothers and sisters after us,i could remember when my mum was pregnant with our fourth child,I was praying it should be a girl but it was a boy,I have always loved children when I was little,I loved children so I will always carry them, especially females though.
When we were growing we loved each other very well, like I love my siblings but sometimes I don't let any wrong thing pass by without telling my parent. I could remember when my elder brother then wanted to leave home as young as he was then,I think he was around 12years old then,he wrote a letter and told me not to read it until he left,I collected the letter and he went outside,I couldn't wait till he leaves before opening the letter,I couldn't finish the reading when I ran outside,thank God he hasn't gone out of the gate,I held his bag and started crying that he must not leave,it was a bitter one,I wept my eyes out,he said he was going to stay at my grandfather's house,my dad's father and mother was alive then,so he wanted to go there ,it wasn't funny at all,my dad met us there and he wanted to beat me again for crying 😂,my brother didn't later leave Sha .
Growing up with my siblings was fun, I love coming home so many times because it's not a bad one, at least there are people I love and love me back, that doesn't mean we don't fight, we fight alot self, when my dad was still alive there are times me and my junior sister fight and my dad will be forced to intervene and will shout at us but now it has gotten better, I and my sister don't fight like before, even if we quarrel it won't take long at all.
My siblings are the best,they give me joy,when my brother was still around he was always joking around, making different comedy and we will laugh and laugh and laugh,I love my family they are the best.
What about your family? Are they the best?
My travel experience
"The world is a book and those who don't travel reads only a page"
Traveling is a good thing,I love traveling alot,it makes you experience different things,when we don't travel we only see what's around us alone,we get transfixed at one position, I have traveled alone before,I have traveled with friends and even with family but I haven't with with a lover,lol, if there is enough money to travel round the world,I would have done that because I love traveling.
My experience traveling
I have been to camp with my friends before,we boarded that big shuttle,it was so interesting,I loved it,when we were at the church where we were supposed to meet,we all met there but the bus didn't come that day,we ended up sleeping inside the church,as early as 5am the bus arrived the next day,we all woke up and started packing our bags inside the bus,when we were done packing we all started entering one after the other,it was filled to the brim,the driver started the bus and we started singing and praising God,some will pick the song from the back and others will echo it from the front,it was really fun, some slept throughout the journey while some didn't sleep at all,there was this brother that was just making jokes, cracking us up, anytime we get to the place where we are supposed to buy something, some people will always buy something,I bought some snacks too, because I need to eat something it was a long journey.
After about 7hours we all got there,my buttocks was already paining me,I couldn't even sit properly,I stood up on the chair for about 1 hour,then sit again, woww,it was stressful actually but it was fun.
Also when I wanted to go to Lagos to write one exam like that,it was 2017,my dad followed me,so I boarded the bus with my dad,it was okay too,I was just sleeping, funny enough our bus broke down when we got to one area like that,it was surrounded by bush,we startedhpraying, some people were just shouting saying it was the driver's fault because he was supposed to fix the bus before putting it on the road... luckily one driver that knew him was driving by,he had to help him call a mechanic from the next town we were going to enter,the mechanic came and fixed the car.
We thank God we were able to leave there that day,I got to Lagos around that past 6pm,it was not funny at all... But anyways travelling is fun and I love it,it makes you get new experience.
Thanks for reading, thanks for the upvotes and comments,you are all sighted.
Principles to success.
Wow,it's a new month again,a new month always coming by and an old one always passing by,how did the month of June go for you? Was it okay, successful or failed? Can you hold yourself accountable for what happened or it was natural? What plans do you have again for this new month,what are your set goals, success don't just happen,you have to be intentional about it.
There is principle guilding success:
Success is a good thing, even in our Christian Life alot of us think it is automatic to be successful because we are born again,that is what some of us believe in and what we have been taught,but can I tell you that there is principle guilding success, before you can be successful in life you must follow that principle. Let's take for instance,two men came from different family the both them putting on a tie they knotted by themselves at home without them knowing each other,but they already learned how to knot a tie,so it only takes seeing one of them knot a tie when you are there to be able to do it like them.
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Principle 1: you have to learn how to;
The number one principle is learning how to,you don't just know it by default,you must learn how to be successful, learning how to be successful will take you a long way, don't just assume this will work,learn about it,read about it to be able to figure things out,walk with people that are already successful,you can't plan to be successful when you are walking with novice, follow the principles and instructions to success,when a white man and a black man plants a maize,both maize will grow because they both follow the principle of sow and reap, the maize wouldn't say because it was a black man that planted it, it won't grow, no, it will surely grow,you must plant before you can harvest, so success requires alot of effort, successful people are intentional about it.
Principle 2: Relationship matters;
To be successful you must be surrounded by good and important people,you don't need to spend money everytime when you have people around,build relationships,learn how to build relationships,you might have a friend who is growing in his business or just starting, invest in that business,support that friend,when that friend makes it,they won't forget you,alot of people don't even have any solid friendship around them,they don't have successful relationships,what are you doing with that friend that is not going where you are going? Learn to call people and say hi to them not when you need their help,that your uncle you think is stingy is not,you just need to build a relationship with him, don't just call him because you need him, Learn to build a solid relationship with that friend, they are not fools,it's not just when you need them that you can them and then you expect them to help you out, sorry they won't, because they feel you are just a Fairweather friend or family. Build relationships to success.
Thanks for reading.
If I could make anything happen
Hello everyone it's another time here again, if I could make anything happen what would it be? Sometimes we all wish we could reverse the things that can't even be reversed, doing the unthinkable,there are things in this life that are constant,or things that have happened to us before and we wish we can do anything about it.
If I could make anything happen for someone what would it be?
I would make my family great,I would make my mum super rich,my sisters and brothers rich,I would make my love rich,I would make myself rich too, because that is what they need right now, some people will say the love of money is root of all evil,yes I believe that,I also believe that money answer all things,if there is no money everything won't go on well, either some are thinking,or Haven't eaten or even pay up some debts ,this life can't be lived without money.
If I could go back in time what would I change?
When we were growing up,we made a lot of decisions, about school,what we will become,even some made choices early about love, and some are being regretted right now,so I would love to change my choices again,I would change the choices I made ignorantly,choices that are not really good for me right now,I would change them and start all over again,but some of it cannot be changed again,some of it was already made and already gone so it can't be changed again.
If I could choose my country which country will I choose?
This is alittle bit funny,it is funny but serious and important,I would choose America,Finland,England or Paris but I wouldn't choose Nigeria,lol, some people will say the next time they are coming to the world they won't branch Nigeria for any reason,me too,if I could choose my country I would choose the mentioned country above and leave Nigeria out of it,infact if I have the chance to travel out now,I won't hesitate to do that.
If I could have a superpower it would be?
I would be reading minds by now,if I could choose to have a superpower,it would be reading of the minds,I would love to read the minds because the heart of men is desperately wicked,we don't know what the next person is thinking about us,even those who profess to love us can be hurting us,so when I see what you are thinking in your mind I would know if you are genuine or not 🥰.
One person I can't do without
Hello everyone,how are you doing? Well school has been tiring,stress everyday,it's not really easy trying to add everything together,reason I haven't been here for three days now and even when there was no school on Saturday and Sunday,we had fresher's Sunday,so we the welfare department had to sleep over in church to prepare the food we shared on Sunday,when it was Sunday already after everything in church,when I got home I just had to sleep off,I was so tired and weak,it's not a easy task.
I can't live without God
Many people were wondering who I wanted to say before,it's God o,I look at my life and I'm saying thank you Jesus. Last week was kinda rough for me,I had no money,the little I had on me,I used it to take bike to school,our HOD has been telling us about food week,we are to pay some certain amount,I was wondering how I'm going to pay the money,even my mum was cashless, another thing is I am the group leader of group A,I was like God please don't put me to shame,how will I do this,we had other money to pay apart from that,I called my mom in the morning to remind her about it but my mum was like she try and do something about it,when it was evening time one of my dad's friend sent me money,I was wowwed how God works,I called my mom back and told her,she was like she has been crying since morning because of everything I told her that I want to buy and for now she has no money,i was like why will you be crying, don't cry o,she was very happy to hear that,she was just thanking God about everything,and that brings me to a conclusion that I can't live without God,I can't do without him.
He is my everything,he has been there for me all my life,I can't but thank him for everything,even when I feel all hope is lost,he will still rise up and surprise...
He is the keeper of my family too,protecting us all,i can't live without him, infact without him my life is empty🙏.
Thanks for always stopping by to read my post. I am grateful.
I am growing into the best version of me.
This is an interesting one for me,I look at myself,for the past 15years of my life I think this past one year has been the best so far,when I was growing up I was this intimidated fellow,as a child I couldn't talk, always quiet,slow and dull,I could remember even in class then that I won't stand up to talk when I even know the answer to the question asked.
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When I was in secondary school my friends always ride me,they boss me around,that was who I was then,I could remember when I was in jss2,we were saving money to collect it at the end of the semester,I was not in school when they were concluding but when I came back the next day they said I should buy one bag like that, everyone of them did not buy it,my friend bought it but she didn't like it so she brought it to school so one of them can buy it with their money but all of did not,so when I came the next day they already talked to themselves to push it to me,and me because I was like that,I bought the bag with my little money, my money was the smallest then,it remained little change after buying the bag.
That was how I was till my ss1,I started getting better,I could confront you if you do anything wrong,I started getting out of that shyness and stupidity,Lol,they couldn't boss me around anymore,it started growing like that till now,I still have some shyness in me but not when you want to boss me around,I will surely talk ooo. I am really growing into the best version of me,I thank God because I am getting better.
Even to the issue of money,I was always this type of person who always want to work,I want to earn money,so after my ss3,I did some jobs,I get paid,but it wasn't like now, since a year now,I have been doing what I want to do,I have really grown to be a boss by myself with God's help,there were times I thought everything might not get better but now looking back I see the goodness of God,even readcash has done alot for me,my friend introduce me to it and since then it has been wonderful.
I know I am not there yet but with God's help I will get there soon.
My best friend and how we met.
We all have one friend we can run to,well I have friends but not best friend,I just have one best friend and super beautiful, and her name is oluwatobiloba,okay fast forward to how we met..
How we met.
We met in school,I mean secondary school,when I left my former school,that's girls only, during my ss2,I went to another school to start up my ss2,it was mixed school,I wasn't used to it when I first joined them but later I got use to it,my friend too came from another school and joined us,so we both came from another school to join the student In that school.
We weren't friends before until when we started talking, everything seems right about us,we started talking and then going home together,it was fun,we were partners in crime😂,I could remember when we were sent home for school fees,I didn't go home and some of our friends too decided to go to her house,her mom would have gone to office by then,so we were free,we got to her house, prepare rice and made stew for everyone that was there,it was really fun,when it was 4pm that we know they would have closed in school,we will start going home by then,I won't tell my dad that we were sent home from school,I might feel guilty ooo but then it was fun.
Have we ever had issues before?
Yes of course, there is no perfect friendship,when we were in school we had issues, sometimes we won't talk to each other for about two weeks, sometimes our classmates then will settle the issue for us,how time flies,we were good but we weren't perfect. I love her so much.
Most painful memory
She lost her dad before I met her so I didn't know her dad,it was only her mom that I know,her mom was a cheerful woman, there was a time we went out with a guy then,the guy took us,you know all this childish behavior,she talked me into going because it was me the guy wanted then,we went to out then came back past nine at home,wowww,it wasn't funny,her mum punished her,my dad punished me too at home,we later narrated the experience to each other when we got to school the next Monday,we said we will never do such again,I don't even know the kind mind we get them sef, Lolssss. The painful memory was when she lost her mom,omoo,na painful experience o,that separated us for close to two years...
It was December period, December 25th precisely,I called her number but it was not reachable and then I decided to call her sister and I was like,hey babe wats up now,how are you doing,the next I heard was "didn't you hear I lost my mum" ehnnn abeg abeg repeat yourself again?? I couldn't believe my ears,my best friend never told me then,she got angry that I heard and I didn't come,it was painful that she could think that I will know such a thing and Ignore her during that trying Period,no now,my friend would always say it,for close to two years I was convincing my friend but she won't listen,we later settled it and later believed me, someone else was with her all through those times until she travelled out of the country,her mum's sister in Australia has been processing her visa before her mom died but after her mom died her visa came through and she travelled out of the country...
I was happy for her,for close to five years now we haven't seen each other but we always talk on phone,we are back to been friends, infact she has helped me financially alot,that is my best friend and I wish to see her again anytime she comes back here.
So we actually met in secondary school and till now we are cool.
My tired is tired
Hey beautiful people,I have not really been engaging for two days now,I didn't post too,alot have been happening with me lately,and it's overwhelming,I really didn't know what to do.
I believe life is in stages,alot happen each day,we had election in our state on Saturday so everyone was at home, enjoying the moment, some students who were scared went back home but I decided to stay in school because I wasn't scared,I knew nothing could go wrong.
But that Saturday night stroke Sunday,I was okay,my emotions were down,it really betrayed me,I was just in door,I couldn't eat,I was just thinking about alot of things, Sunday was father's day,it made me to remember my father again,I posted him,I was so sad because there are things I need and would ask him but he is not here anymore,so when I saw people posting their dads and wishing them Happy father's day,I was just wishing him there in heaven happy father's day,I was completely tired,then it took me to when he was alive,when he would joke and joke about almost everything,we don't normally have a dull moment at home because he was there,but at the moment he is not here with us anymore,he can't crack joke anymore,he can't even pray for us or shout at us anymore.
A father figure is very important, people will say but I don't really understand until when we lost him,then we understood that father is very important in the life of their children,there are things my younger brother cannot do before but now that my dad is no more he will do it because he knows my mum will just talk and that's all about that. Some of my friends will say it's better for them not to have a father than the father they have right now, because they said their father is not useful,but I always tell them seeing him alone is good,but they said what is the usefulness of seeing him alone when he's not responsible..... Well to them,I know how they feel,the bible even said a man that cannot provide for his family is worse than an infidel,so I understand them. But my own daddy is responsible and great,so I would love to see him everyday of my life.
So I was down since but I think I'm better today,I miss him so much,I miss father figure in my life and family, I'm just trying to help my mum out because everything is just on her,it's not easy,but I pray God makes it easier than before.
Thanks for reading,I really appreciate your time and effort.
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Mothers- the epitome of true love
You can agree with me that mothers are really epitome of true love,if a mother is not at home you won't be happy with the other things,they are the true keeper of the home,carried the child from the womb for a whole nine months,it's a really a wowww,it's not easy,all through those times she will be hungry for foods she didn't see, backache,legpain, headache and so on,even during childbirth it's not easy,I have been opportuned to be at the hospital and even at the midwife's home,it's not an easy task,there was this woman shouting at the top of her voice when I followed my mum to a hospital,I was heading her voice from outside before entering the hospital,I had to ask what was the Matter,they said she wants to give birth,wow,this is terrible 😲,she was really feeling pain,why for some people it was easy, like no shouting,that doesn't mean they weren't feeling pain but my mum said it's easier in some than others,then after that,that minutes they want to give birth is like life and death, after that minutes they calm down,thats another start of motherhood.
Motherhood is not easy,she will take care of the child, feed the child, what about the days that the mother isn't sleeping because the child refused to eat and sleep, always crying,the times she will let the baby to sleep and after some minutes the baby will wake up again, those times believe me are trying times,for mothers that are working, after about a month or two,she returns back to work and still continue to take care of her child, take care of her family and everything. If I want to look for true love in this world,I will say let me meet a mother,a mother shows how love should be.... After all of this things they don't deserve to be treated badly,treat your mothers well, some children are even doing well in life but they are not taking care of their mothers or parent,love your parent whole heatedly,they have done so much and enough for you, reciprocate their love, appreciate them.
Shout-out to my mother, she's a real gem,an epitome of beauty and love,a strong and dedicated woman all working for her family,the love I have for her knew no bounds,I love her to the moon and back, she's really a woman of God,a woman filled with love,a calm woman,how she took care of us from her womb to she birth us and when we started to grow,then now that we are full adults,even after we lost our daddy,God didn't allow her to be tired,it isn't easy but God has been helping, from paying our school fees, buying us food,house rent in school, everything has been God through my mother. This article is for my mom and all true mothers out there,may you eat the fruit of your labour,it will never be sour in your mouths.
Let this go round to all mothers❤️
How to enjoy your youthful days full of vibe
Youthful days are days we still have the strength to run around,we can do alot of things,go out to the beach, go to work,go to school,do alot of challenges because when we grow old we won't be able to do all those things again,there won't be strength for it.
These are some of the ways you can enjoy life more as you age;
Go for an exercise.
When you wake up in the morning,try to do some exercise that will build your strength,let it be in your everyday routine,you can try jogging,plank exercise,yoga, cycling for those who have bicycle,these are some of exercise that help you ease stress,you can also try swimming for those that can swim.
Incorporate vegetables into your daily meals
Vegetables is a good source of vitamins,it is very good for the body like we all know,it aids digestion,makes the body system works well, make vegetables and fruits your Friend.
Try and read your Bible whenever you wake up.
When I was staying with my pastor's wife in Lagos,she always live home by 6 but before then she would have been awake by 4am to study the word of God,it will energize you each time you read,and by doing so you know you are set for the day,the power resides in you so you have nothing to fear.
Drink more water.
Doctors always say at least drink up to 2litters of water per day,water is life,you can't do without it,it refreshes you and rehydrate you,even when you are not eating anything,take some water,water is good for the body, don't feel dehydrated before taking water, always take a bottle of water with you whenever you are going out,you will surely need it.
Read books.
On this note some people are so lazy,they can't just read any book,rather they enjoy watching films,it's good to watch films too because I do watch films,I love watching movie but once in a week you can just pick up a book and start reading chapter by chapter,one day at a time,thank God we have PDF files too,so there books in PDF format that will be very easy for us to read,try reading a book today, readers are leaders.
Do some tidying up.
I know we might not hear this often but hey! Why will you leave your room unkept,no no no,that's not good enough, always tidy up your home, don't let strangers or friends come in and complain,make it a duty,it has to be clean, don't throw boxers,undies,cloths on the floor or bed,wash the ones that needs to be washed and fold or hang the neat ones inside the wardrobe,be neat.
Hang out with friends.
There is no better days ahead to do this but now,hang out with friends,yeah I know you are an introvert but you can still be with friends once In a while,you are not old, enjoy your youth with Friends when you still have the strength to do it,go to different places, recreation center,travel, enjoy life.
Try out some random act of kindness.
Be kind to the people around,you can decide to buy some things and take it to the motherless babies home,you can give out clothes,foods and even money,you can decide to help an elderly person who is too old to do some house chores,there are alot of things you can do even if you don't have the money.
These are some of the things you can do enjoy your youthful days and make it memorable.
Decide who you are.
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"I don't want other people to decide who I am,I want to decide that for myself" - Emma Watson.
You are the architect of yourself,you build yourself the way you want others to see you,you decide for yourself what you want others to decide about you, don't get swayed by what people say, because darling you are not what they say but you are what you want them to say. The nature of men is to always talk,that is the nature of men, either you do the right thing or the wrong thing they will always talk,so do what you love best, don't let what they say affect your own decisions,you can't live your life to please humans,they can never be pleased,all they do is critize,that is what they are fond of,so do what is best for you.
There is this ever green song that was sang by Ebenezer obey,in that song he said A father and a son was going on a journey and when they got to half of the way they met some people and those people said why are they so dumb,why will they be walking when there is donkey that could take them to where they are going,so the father decided to sit on the donkey and as they went they met another set of people too,those people said the father is really wicked,why will he sit on the donkey and let the son be the one to walk,they said doesn't he know that the he is older and he should be the one to walk,the father hearing that got down from the donkey and carry his son to sit on the donkey,they continued their journey,as they went they met another set of people,those people said the father is so daft, that why will he place his son on the donkey and be walking when he is a old man😂,he should be the one to sit on the donkey and let his young son walk,the father listened to them again but this time around he and his son sat together on the donkey,he was tired already, everyone having something to say,as he went he saw the last set of people and they said the father and the son are really wicked,that they want to kill the donkey,how can father and son sit on a donkey at once,😂,it was very funny when I was listening to the song,it song says you can never satisfy people,no matter what you do they will always have something to say,if the father had not listened to those people and did what he thought was best for him,he won't have been frustrated like that.
Some people are just there to frustrate other people's life,they don't have good intentions, always stay away from such people, people will always critize,it is their nature, always do what you want, don't let people's opinions about you change you, don't let it have effect on you, try to live yourself to the best. Don't let other people decide who you are,don't! Let your decision about yourself be made from you,you alone!.
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Music- the literature of the heart.
"Music expresses feelings and thoughts without language;it was below and before speech and it is above and beyond all words"- Robert G. Ingersoll.
" Music is the literature of the heart; it commences where speech ends"- Alphonse de Lamartine.
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This is what I do most times, listening to music is a way to get rid of sadness at the moment, sometimes even when I'm angry, like when I know I can say something bad whenever I'm angry I will just switch it to music,open the music app on my phone and listen to whatever music I want to listen to at the moment.
Music commenses where speech ends is so true, music is life,it makes a sad person joyful,makes dull moment becomes lively moments,it also expresses what the heart says, either it's love or hatred,you can decide to listen to some music and people around you will know what is wrong with you without even words, without telling them anything at all. Music is good way to express your thoughts.
There is music about love ,ololufe in my language.
Moti reni keji mi,eni bi okan mi,mofe rajo ife,efa mi lowo Dani,Koko ife gbe wa lo,girl I can't live without you,ololufe mi ye e ye e.
The interpretation of this song is that I have seen my second half,the one of my heart,I want to go on a journey,hold my hand so that the car of love will take us through the journey,that is the meaning of this song and it shows how much you love someone anytime you sing it for someone or you listen to it yourself. Whenever you are in love it expressess more without you even saying anything at all. This particular song I love it like anything,I love listening to it especially when I was in love,chaiii....I like listening to it,it makes the moment great and wonderful, and expressess how I feel at the moment,there are times I will even compose song just to make the moment more great,music gingers,it channels happiness to one.
There are sometimes too that you listen to sad music probably because you are sad so you can feel more sad😂,yes it actually happens, things like this happens, sometimes instead of you to listen to a joyfilled song,you end up listening to a sad song that might even make you cry,at that point it's actually expressing your thoughts to the people around without words.
Music can heal from bad energy or feelings,learn to always listen to music anytime anyday and you will be fine.
Does perfect love go wrong?
I was just going through some status when I saw this status of my cousin,she said perfect love go wrong and I had to ask her why? She said because there is no perfect love anywhere and if a love is perfect the end might not go well....I thought about that for a moment and I realized she was right.
Love cannot be perfect,there will be days when there would be fights, problems and issues but when it is perfect,no fight,no issues, everything is going on well,it can be dangerous. I understand that our parent always say that even the tongues do fight,even twins not to talk of people that don't even know each other from Adam and they definitely have different characters, characters that may be irritating to each other but still they will end up loving each other.
I can actually say that from my relationship too, because when we first met we had issues, like we don't know each other well,we started having issues due to some things,and there was a time we didn't talk for two weeks plus,I decided not to talk to him peradventure the relationship might end there but after then we came back together again,we started all over again and here we are, right now we don't even have issues like before, things that will make us get angry before we just overlook it now and move on,we have grown to know each other well,that's it for us,so there is no perfect love anywhere, though what works for A in his relationship might not work for B but still once in a while an issue might arise,it might not be much but it will get solved easily.
So my conclusion is that any love that seem too perfect,no fights at all might really go wrong. One time the other person might get you angry and apologize and another time it will be vice versa,there will be up and down but it will surely be overcomes,so there is no perfect love anywhere.
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The beach encounter (The swindler).2
Hello everyone 👋, Happy Sunday to you all,how was service today? Hope everything went well,it's funny to see some things online,alot of people posting gun in church,charms and everything, saying that they won't loose guard again because of what happened last week Sunday at owo,quite funny but not funny too,that is the state of our nation currently,may God help us. Now let me continue with the story I was writing before..... For those that didn't read the first part please go and read the first part too so that you will understand better.
The swindler
The hotel was quite expensive,I was wondering why he decided to stay in an hotel instead of renting an apartment,quite awful. But I let the sleeping dog lie and continue with the relationship.
He showed me love and I forgot any other one exist,I continued with my daily work and my love life too.
There was a day someone called him and he told me he needed to attend to something,I kept wondering what he was but he kept quite about it.
Some secrets he doesn't want to talk about,I asked him about his sisters, brothers, family,he said they all live outside the country and probably some day I will meet them.
One day he was totally down and I kept asking for days he wouldn't tell me anything but during the weekend he told me he was into a business and he was suppose to invest in the business but it about to close and he doesn't have up to the amount he was suppose to invest,I asked him how much is the money,he said 20milllion.... Jesus Christ!!!! I exclaimed, that amount is too much.
I have the money but I was scared to drop it,it is too much,what if the business later collapse.... I didn't know what to do but guess what? I actually did drop the money,I gave him the money and he disappeared....
Yes you just heard what I said,he disappeared into thin air,it was the second day I called him we talked and that was it, after a week his phone stopped ringing,his number wasn't going through again,I was scared,I didn't realize I had been duped until I got to the hotel he lodged,I ask for him and they said he already left... Ahhhhhh!!!!! Where do I start from?
I trusted this guy....I said it! Something was off about him,I didn't figure that out,the reason why he was staying in an hotel,I really fuc**ked up so bad......
My hard earned money!!!!! I must look for this guy at all cost,I must....
Do you think I will find him?
I really don't know but I will.....
The beach encounter.
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"Hey beautiful" he said, stretching forth his hand to me.
As I look up I was mesmerized with his handsomeness,chaii this guy too handsome,where on Earth did he come from,even his masculine figure,omooo no for here.
I disengage from my thoughts and answer him, stretching my hand too.
"My name is Kingsley,what is your name too"?he said looking at me.
" My name is gift" I replied trying to figure him out.
Let me start by saying Its a Saturday morning and I decided to go to the beach to relax myself of all the work stress from Monday to Friday,so I decided to just enjoy myself today, while enjoying myself this handsome dude walks up to me and started talking.
We exchanged contact and that was it for me, let me add this I'm quite rich, I pay my bills myself,so when he offered to pay my bills on that day Saturday I rejected and told him not to bother. We chit chat alittle bit and he left.
The following day he called,why wait till the following day,I asked myself,I don't want him to feel like I like him already so I didn't pick when he called first,but when he called again I picked up,how did I know he was the one, remember I said we exchanged contact,so I already saved his number.
He called and greeted me,he asked for my free time but I told him I will be busy at work,he said just for lunch,well I gave in and we went to lunch together on Wednesday,he was really good at everything he does,but there is something off about him,I didn't know what,he was just too good to be true, like everything seems perfect, everything he does,we started getting closer.
After about three months we started dating,I like him before but I soon fell in love with him,we continued like that,we would go out for lunch,he would buy alot of things for me,I wonder how rich he was to buy those expensive things for me,he had a very expensive car,he would always come to my house,I didn't go to his house due to my work,I I'm a busy kind of a person,but soon enough I was eager to know his house, anytime I bring up the topic he would always avoid it or find one excuse or another,but when I started disturbing him and it became suspicious to me,he decided to tell me where he was living,lo! And behold! He took me to an hotel, like who does that? Untill he told that was where he lives,wow!!! I mean wowww?! How will he live in an hotel?
At least he has money and he can rent an apartment,he told me he was always traveling and he didn't want to waste money on house yet untill he settles down,I decided to believe what he says but something seems really off.....
What do you think is off??
Do you think he is lying?
Do you think he is not who he claim to be??
Wait for the next episode as I unravel what is behind this man .
Thanks for reading.
My games
Hello everyone,how are you doing? Hope you are all doing great ? Okay. I'm going to talk about the games I love playing,they are all super fantastic.
*Candy crush:
Wow I like this game,if you are really familiar with this game,it has a place you can connect to Facebook in case you loose your phone and you buy another one,you will just log in through the details you have provided before and continue from where you stopped because it has long levels and you wouldn't want to start from the beginning again,candy crush is a very good game I love to play.
*Word cookies:
Word cookies is a game used in searching for words, there are boxes,then you fill in the appropriate words,it is very technical, there are times I don't even know some particular words exist but playing that game makes me know some words exist. It is very good for those that want to learn some english words,it is very effective in that area. There are times I won't finish one level until after a week, trying to insert the word but not correct,I will spend alot of time on it but I never let abandon it.
*Subway surfer:
I love this game like anything,my best game ever, I can keep playing it from morning till night,it is what I love,it is a game of running,there is this lady always running from police man,the police man must not catch up with her,it is a very good game,she can jump,fly with the help of some things available in the game,even skate too,for those who have not try that before,this is a challenge,try playing this game and you will love it.
*Angela😂
Some people think it's for little children but I love it,for those who knows this game,it's actually interesting,Angela is a cat,you brush her teeth,bath for her,give her food,even play game inside that Angela app after that when she's exhausted she will go and sleep and wake up hours later,this game is really funny but also interesting,you even get to change the cloth of Angela,her shoes and even her hair and makeup 😂,I really love doing all those things,it's really fun. This game also have male version too,its called Tom and friends,that one too is okay but I love Angela more.
*Car race:
This can be difficult sometimes but I like it,I love car racing, whenever I'm playing it my heart is always racing with it, I get scared so it won't hit any obstacles on the way, it's really a good game, you can try that, I know guys love car racing so well, most guys have it on their phones, they have played it one way or another.
*Bobble shoot
This is when there are different colours of balloon attached together,you will find the colours that match and shoot a balloon with the same colour so that when it hits the other balloon with the same colour it will burst. As it is bursting gradually it decreases till the balloon finishes. It is very interesting game too.
So these are my games and I love them.
Thanks for reading.
Is love really enough??
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I always ask this question everytime,if love is really enough, love is really good,I mean what draws you to the person in the first place really matters,why are you into that person,is it the physical things or there is something more? Love is a good thing especially when you find the right person.
I always thought love is enough before because why won't love be enough? When he or she loves you then everything will go well in the relationship but over the years as I grow older I realized that love is not enough,infact love is never enough,love brings you together and you get to know each other but other helps you to stay with that person even with flaws or without flaws,when you start to find out alot that you don't like about them,you want to go but you will stay because;
Respects makes you stay;
If don't have respect one bit for someone you tend to loose the relationship as fast as you can even though you still love the person, respect really matters alot,it's not all about love,respect is one crucial thing that will make a relationship move forward from where it was before.
Understanding makes you stay;
When you both understand each other the relationship becomes easier, understanding is a very key point to keep a relationship flowing if not it would hit the rock without both of you understanding why,you can love each other and still not understand each other,so learn to understand each other.
Communication makes you stay;
Really,who won't want to communicate in a relationship,you have to talk about everything,sadly some relationship don't communicate,they are always mute,when you only love each other and you don't communicate,how will you know the person well? How will you his or her next moves, communication is Paramount, very crucial for a relationship to last longer.
Even the same mindset makes you stay;
When you have the same belief and value,it's not as if you are going to this direction and he/she is going to the opposite direction,loving someone should include having the same goal with the person,it will be very difficult to stay together with someone of alternate passion,it will be really difficult,as love is mutual so other things too should be mutual.
Faithfulness makes the relationship last long;
This is very essential, without this the relationship might finally crumble,be Faithful to your spouse,let your spouse know you are for them, without this love cannot stand,love is not enough without this,you have to be faithful,it is your responsibility,they should be able to trust you.
So with time I know love is not enough without these things I have mentioned above,if it's only love that is holding the relationship,it might not work well,all these criteria must be found in it. Stay happy in your relationship and work on it.
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Dream it to achieve it.
Bimbo is a lovely girl from the family of four,she is beautifully made and because of that everyone loves her. Her parent are not rich,they are struggling to send her and her other siblings to school. She has always believed in working hard,when her parent couldn't sponsor her again after her ss3 waec she had to start trading, helping her mum with farm goods. All her dream was to become a lawyer,but now she has started Hawking foodstuffs.
She is a girl of her dream,she never accepts failure,even when she was in secondary school she never fails,she was one of the best student in school then,so she said to herself that she won't give up no matter the condition,she will work hard to reach her goal.
After about two years she started learning hairdressing,at least she won't hawk anymore and she will be learn well,she was the best among all the apprentice,she was a fast learner, within the space of 1 year she was able to master and started making hair for people. Her boss loves her so much,she doesn't want bimbo to leave but there was little she could do because bimbo need to start up her own business as well and start earning,all she was after is to save up.
Her mum got her shop for her and she started making hair for people,she started saving up since she knows that university is not a joke,alot of money will be spent even after she secured admission,she was able to save up some money after spending about 4 years at home,she took part of the money and registered for jamb only since her waec was good already,she collected the forms and filled them,she started reading towards the upcoming exam. Her mother was happy because her daughter was determined to go to school,she really wanted her to go to the university but she doesn't have the capacity,so she's always behind her daughter, supporting her all the way.
While some of her mates continued in farming and couldn't finish school,she was determined not to end up like them,so because of that she worked hard.
One day one of her customer came to make her hair but dropped her child with bimbo,she got a call and went to attend to it at the office,she told bimbo she would be back that she should take care of her child, after she left bimbo took out the assignment of the boy and helped him to solve it,when his mother arrived she made her hair and Left.
When she got home she told her child to bring his assignments but he told her he already did it,she was amazed when she cross check, the boy told her it was aunty bimbo that helped him,she was wondering if the lady actually went to school. The next day she went back there to thank her and ask her some few questions,she said she will get back to her. The jamb exam came,bimbo has preparing hard for that exam,she went for the exam, after about a week her results came out and she couldn't believe what she got. She really passed more than the cut off mark for law, she was Happy she stood a chance to be giving admission.
She called the woman and told her about it,the woman decided to help her in money aspect
"Bimbo you see,I have decided to help you with money issue, considering everything you told me about what happened to your schooling and everything,I can see you are a hard working lady,you deserve to be helped",the woman said.
Bimbo was very happy, her joy knew no bounds,she went to write post utme and her result came out well,she was later given admission to study law at the prestigious university of her choice,she was happy,the woman decided to sponsor her through school
After 6 years she graduated and proceeded to law school,she was happy she never gave up her dream to become a lawyer,she was happy she never settled for less,she overcame all odds,she became a woman of her dream and her family was happy because she never gave up her goals.
Let him or her go !!
Relationship is not a do or die affair,it should be mutual,not one party heavily overweighted.where you are been disrespected,respect yourself and leave including relationships. Some relationship start getting sour from the beginning, probably because they don't know each other well enough but later becomes great at the end of the day, while some start off really great but becomes bad as times goes on. If he/she is threatening to leave the relationship, don't try to stop them,let them go,I know it's not easy,I have been there so understand when you say you love someone,it's not easy to leave them like that but please gather enough courage and do that,trust me you will be glad you did at the end of the day.
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Don't let it get to the issue of violence,life is beautiful and good when you are with the right person,don't try and compare your relationship with another person's own,it won't be beautiful, comparing your relationship will only make it worse,it's a life threatening thing you did or probably you have been doing it, maybe that is the reason you wanted to work out or the reason why your relationship is not working, please fix your relationship and stop comparing with others.
When we are in a relationship we are expected to enjoy the reward but sometimes it's not always like that but please and please if you are been beaten, Maybe just a slap for now or real beaten,or emotional tourture,stop going through the pain, whatever you don't want in marriage you have to stop it now, don't give it a chance because it will continue if you give it little chance,stop it right there, there are so many people out there who will love you better only if you step out of that dangerous relationship,if you let it go and allow a new person into your life,you will experience the perfect love you've always wanted only if you watch carefully and pray earnestly.
We all know that there will be days that you will have issues, disagreement,it's not thoroughly full of roses,but it shouldn't lead to emotional blackmail,both of you should be connected,when you see that things are not working well,it's breaking your heart, you've tried to fix things and it's not working, please help yourself by fixing yourself,love yourself by walking out,let it go, don't bother holding unto it, don't bother stressing it,let it go,if it's for you it will come back with the acknowledgement of loving and respecting you for who you are,Let him or her go and focus on yourself,you deserve better,you deserve to be treated right,you deserve to be in good hands, allow yourself to and you will be happy you did.
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What a stressful day it is
Happy Sunday everyone or I should not really say a happy one, everyone has been saying it's not a happy one because of the massacre that happened at owo,ondo state,today is a bad experience for most people, children killed,adults too killed,it was all over the internet,what is really happening in our nation,even some news are trying to cover it up saying what is not,we really don't understand oo,my apartment mate has been thinking since she saw the news,she's also in my department in school,she attends Catholic church,since it happened in Catholic church,her boyfriend called her not to attend Catholic church again,she told him why won't she attend her church because of what happened,she was very sad since morning,I didn't go to church today actually,that boils me down to how today was stressful for me.
Today has really been stressful for me,I had to resume today at all cost so I left home in the morning with lots of baggages I carried containing food and clothes,our school has resumed since two weeks now but I wasn't ready for the resumption coupled with the fact that I had to get alot of things because I rented a new apartment,so I needed carpet, curtains and other things to,so I didn't want to go to school without buying them but I ended up not getting some of it.
When I arrived at the apartment it was so dusty,the windows,the floor,the wardrobe,I thought within myself, I'm I the one that will clean up everywhere today,I was not happy but I had to do the cleaning,I started with sweeping of the floor and wiping out the curb webs,I packed everything and threw away,then I fetched some water that I will use to wash the floor and clean the windows,then I started to clean up the window,it was that old kind of window,I started cleaning it one by one,it was two window set,so I had to clean it two times,then I started to wash the floor with water and soap,I washed it very well because of the dust and sands,it was tiring,then I packed the water inside bucket,I swept the floor again while pouring clean water,then I packed the water with packer again.
After that I left the place to dry off, when it was close to evening time everywhere was dried so I started unpacking some of my stuffs,my beds and clothes,bucket and all,it was really frustrating, I'm actually feeling pain in my legs right now,it hasn't been easy,I couldn't still fill up my gas today probably tomorrow.
That was how I spent my day today, clearing everywhere,also with the terrible news we heard, today is not utterly good but thank God for the safe journey for me and everything I was able to do.
Thanks for reading, tomorrow Is Monday,work at your best.
Just a minute between life and death.
My network has been bad since,I couldn't post early, so what do I have for today.. life and death correlate,when one happen we can't stop it from happening.
Yesterday morning,I just heard my mum shouting my name and my siblings name,I was still on bed because it was so early,I and my siblings quickly rushed out to know what was happening,it was about my grandmother,she has been leaving with us ever since I lost my dad,my mom brought her from her house because she was sick then needed to be taking care of by us,there are two girls staying with her back at house but they couldn't really take care of her.
When my mum shouted,I was kinda scared, when we got there,my mum was already pouring water on grandma's head,grandma couldn't move her body,my mum said she was boiling water for grandma so she will bath warm water because that's what we do every morning,we boil water for her and mix it with her cold water to bath,so my mom was in the kitchen,grandma was going toilet so she didn't notice anything was wrong,when she got out of the toilet she stood at the kitchen door,then later went to sit in the sitting room,my mum said she was expecting her to talk while Standing at the kitchen door, because my grandma will always talk,my mum looked back and couldn't find grandma at the kitchen door so she decided to be doing what she was doing but her mind just went back to her and she quickly went to check on her because she didn't hear any sound coming from her,when my mum got there she was about to die,her white eyes was out and she couldn't move,my mum started calling her, like what was wrong her, started shaking her body,she poured water on her head right there in the sitting room,gave her water to drink,she couldn't even open her mouth well but we pushed the water into her mouth,my mum was terribly scared,she started calling her brothers,she was just vomiting all the water, nothing was staying in her stomach,but she was gradually getting better and coming back to life.
She said she doesn't want to die now and it was funny, because my grandma is 95years, she's not a small baby but and elderly woman,so when she said that It was funny to me,she said she didn't want to die Young,I was like young keh!! At 95year?!! Wowwww,my mum brother was like,there is no money now o,she shouldn't die now, everyone know she was old enough and if she should give up,it is old age but they are concerned about the money they will spend while grandma is saying she doesn't want to die now 😂.
My mum prepared pap for her,we bought can milk and little inside water for her,she regained her strength and was okay. After that incident my mom said something and it struck me,she said you see,it only one minute that is between life and death,that what if she consumed in what she was doing and didn't notice anything,that was how grandma would have died and left like that, because she was already going,she wasn't here anymore.
I ruminated on it,I concluded that whatever you do will speak after you are gone,a plant that is green today will wither tomorrow,if you are bad person and you think you have it all, remember that nobody can hold death when it knocks,if my grandma time was up,nobody can hold her from dying, nobody. Life is too short to hold grudges too,when you are gone you won't even remember who offended you then,why don't forgive and forget when you can now,love while you can,play,enjoy life while you can, tomorrow might not laugh, make use of today wisely.
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Don't just judge anyone.
Judging someone means concluding about them a manner that is bad without hearing their own side of the story. I think this is common in our society this days, because you heard something about someone,you don't if it's true or not,you just conclude that it's true without doing your findings well enough. Judging someone is a wicked act, anyone don't have the right to judge another person,that person might be going through alot,you never can tell untill you get close to that person.
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There is this series film I'm watching,the guy is a policeman and a very good person,he is a straight forward policeman,who doesn't want any cheat around him,he is always fighting against injustice,his father was an honest Corp before he died but he was killed because he tried to stop some malicious transactions going on,he was killed. So his son decided to take up his father's cross and follow the foot step of his father,he was known for his honesty but some of his colleagues are dishonest policeman,they tried to ruin him because he won't collect bribe or anything,so he was implicated with drugs and money,alot started accusing him due to that,they said but he calls himself an honest man,how come he was found in that kind of place with drugs and money,they never knew what really happened before they started judging him,they don't want to hear from his own side,only those closer to him believed him,they believe he will never do something like that.
So please let's quit judging others,it's a very bad attitude,let's find out the truth first,I mean the truth,not on the basis of "I heard it from someone or I think so", before we accuse someone of doing something,let's gather the facts first,the truth will only set you free from guilt of believing lies about someone,be factual.
People we know or we don't really know face alot of things everyday,we come across alot of atrocities everyday on the internet or right there in our neighborhood,we really don't know which one is the truth or lie,we just believe what we hear but let's stop pointing accusing fingers,it's very bad,even at our home,our siblings are fond of annoying us,they take out without telling us and because of that we think they took everything we are looking for,there was a time I was looking for something,I thought it was my brother that took it,I accused him of taking it,he denied it but I kept accusing him until I found that thing,I was very sad I accused him wrongly,I should have checked very well before asking him and I shouldn't have accused him like that,what if I didn't find it after all the searching,I would have believed he was the one who took it, whereas I was the one who lost it,it is really bad judge wrongly,very bad,when we find the truth, the truth will set us free.
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Relationship questions 2(longest &shortest time frame)
Okay yesterday I started with this question,I was able to answer just one,we all have different experiences when it comes to relationship, From our past relationships to present relationship...love is a bit fair to some people while it's not really fair to others. Let's continue with the relationship question series.
What is my longest and shortest time in a relationship?
I will start with my shortest, would you believe my shortest was two months,likeeeeeee😁😂,I even tried for the two months self,why was it that short? Okay when I left secondary school I couldn't date anybody,so after I decided to give this guy a shot,he has been on my neck for a long time,so I felt I will forget about my first love if I should try and love someone else,I gave it a try,but it wasn't working,I endured for two months,even the guy self no try,I just ended the relationship on good level,no fighting,we both went out separate ways,I was happy I was free.
And my longest is one and half years, some would say like seriously? Yes like seriously,that is my longest time in a relationship,well I never thought it will end though but he cheated and I left,he was loving, was really open when we started our relationship,he would give me his phone without hiding anything or feeling scared because I have his phone, gradually I started noticing that he would always hold his phone anytime I'm with him, even if he's going outside he would hold his phone, always guiding against that phone, I asked him what was wrong and he will always say nothing was wrong, there was this female friend of his, I know her to be just friends until they started talking earnestly, like almost Everytime,for almost an hour they will still be talking, he will reply me and say she's the one always calling him, I decided to calm down, then one day I got access to his phone,I checked his WhatsApp messenges,the actual reason why I did that was because when we started he never his any message from me,I can access his WhatsApp or any part of his phone,when he started guilding against it I knew he was cheating,I checked and lo! And behold! He was already in a relationship with the girl,it wasn't even only the girl but also two girls,I was so shocked to see that,I couldn't cry,I promised myself not to cry.
I'm a fan of celibacy,so I practice celibacy in my relationship, maybe he wanted to have sexual intimacy with the girl but what about the other two girls,that means he was just a cheat nothing else,then I asked myself this question what if I had give in to his sexual advances,he would still have had another girl because a guy who is a cheater will not change,he told me he regretted cheating on me, he wept and knelt down but my eyes of mercy was already blind to him, after about a year,he said he wants me back,I told him it will never happen,he said he loves me,he said he already changed,that if I come back to him,he will make it up to me,but I know he was seeing that lady,I actually broke up with him 2weeks before my birthday,I didn't want anything from him,I left and that was my longest time in a relationship.
It's nice being here today again,let's continue this series tomorrow again,byeee.
Relationship questions
Wowww,this is really going to be interesting 😂, quickly,how has been your day? Hope it went really well,for me I have been indoor since, Hoping to go back to school soon. There are some relationship questions I would love to answer. Sit back and grab your juice or popcorn as you read;
Do I have a first love?
Wow 🥰,I actually have, though we never ended up dating, okay it went like this,when I was in my ss2,I left girls only school and went to a mixed school,so when I got there I wasn't friend with anyone at first but I became friend with this guy,he actually came to me and asked for my name,I told him and he told me his name too,he said he wanted to be friends with me,I said no problem but I don't know why his friends shouting his name then,Ignored them though. After about two weeks we started talking to each other more often,he collected my phone number and started calling me everytime we get home from school,he asked me out but I declined,I told him that was not the right time,I told him I don't want to date anybody until after my secondary School probably but not in secondary,after that we became really close,we would go home together,even sometimes he bought something like snack during lunchtime for me, everyone taught we were dating in school then including teachers,our class teacher then put us to sit together in class,she didn't know we were close, everyone hailed him.
Things went on like that untill one day he didn't sit with me or go home together with me,he started avoiding me and talking to other girls,that was when I knew I was in love with him,my friends taught I was getting mad with love,I would beg them to help me beg him if I offended him but he would always say I didn't offend him,that nothing happened and he just moved on,I was really pained,I knew I didn't want to date at that time but I was already in love,he left our school before the end of ss2, he went to write waec,I was so sad that he left,he was the only one in my head for close to 3 years,even after I left secondary School,I still hear from him when I was in ss3,I knew he was dating a girl where he went to write waec because he was always posting her on 2go then😂😂(anyone who used that app should know what I'm talking about).
I loved him still,but I wasn't sure if I wanted him back then, after my waec,he called and asked me again to be his girlfriend but I declined,this time around I was done with my waec which means I was done with ss3 but I declined because someone who could have acted that way to me, telling me there was nothing could do more again if I accepted him,I said because he broke my heart before I don't want him again because he might break it again and keep me in the dark probably if I do anything wrong, but believe me that was a hard decision to make but I guess I was a strong girl then,I loved him but I still turned him down the second time.
He never asked again and I didn't bother him,I was in love with him but I was okay without him, after my ss3 I didn't give any guy chance,the one I gave a chance to lasted for two months and we broke up because I couldn't just find myself in the relationship.
Wowwww,I wanted to talk more,I wanted to answer more questions but these one question took all the Time 😁,well maybe better, be ready to read more tomorrow because I will continue the relationship question tomorrow,byeee 🖐️
A spilt milk cannot be gathered back into it's container.
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Life is full of ups and downs,alot happen in our lives daily,we make mistakes but we must not let those mistakes drag us down,we must fight it, accept that yes you've done this and you are sad about it but hey! Snap out of it,look out for the way forward Instead of wallowing in regrets.
Brace up because you can't afford to stay in the past,there is always a new day,how you make use of that new day matters alot,there is a chance to be better,to be stronger and healthier,yes I understand what happened was tough but is the essense of crying over a milk that has been spilled already,it has been poured out of its container,it can't be gathered back again,it's useless. There is point getting sad or angry over something that has happened and cannot be changed,the only thing you can do to get and focus on what next step you need to take.
Yes we are bound to make mistakes because we are human,it is our nature,we are not the almighty,but when we do make mistakes we should forgive ourselves for those mistakes,it only teaches us to be better tomorrow. I do tell my friends whenever something that we don't need to think about it too much,the question is "what will you do next"? How do you get out of that situation,all you need to be looking for is how to move forward from there,not sucking yourself up in regrets.
*"Ralph Waldo Emerson's famous quotes says that Finish each day and be done with it,you have done what you could, some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in, forget them as soon as you can, tomorrow is a new day,you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense".*
Always Know that you are given a new opportunity to start a new day,so you can start something new,you should stop dwelling in the past,it becomes a distraction when you dwell too much on it everytime,it won't make you move forward,learn to always accept the truth and then move on.
It also extend to sad memories we have in the past,some tragic things has happened to us before and it was like dagger was used to cut through us, Like losing our loved ones,father,mother, siblings it friends,there things are difficult to forget but we can always learn to accept our fate and move on in life,we should stop dwelling on what had happened, some has refused to move on because of these things, don't let it drag you down, instead drag it down,if they are not dead,they would have wanted the best for us,so let us give them the best by been the best,by fighting out way to the top. Always make plans to be better each day.
Thank you for reading ♥️.
The ship(friendship+courtship).
Happy Sunday everyone,I hope you all had a wonderful service today? Okay quickly,I have been sleeping since but before I slept I was ruminating over something,in church today we talked about the ship (friendship+courtship),And friendship means to go extra miles for your friend,that's if you call that person your Friend,and that what Friendship is suppose to be,but it has been changed because even people that are jealous of themselves still call themselves friends,what kind of friend is that,that even when your friend is achieving more than you,you get envious of that person,that is not a friend,a Friend should be able to see his/her friend achieving something great and still support them,that is what true friendship means....
So it was said that someone who has not set a true friendship,who doesn't know what friendship means shouldn't take it further to courtship,"in quote,those type of courtship most times doesn't end well". A true courtship should start with friendship, like the two people should be friends with each other first,try to know each other, having a healthy talk not an unhealthy talk,and also in the Christian context be mindful of going to each other house too often to avoid temptations.
So a question was asked,"should you go and do duties in the house of the man during courtship"? So the question was answered in this way,yes you can do the dishes, like most ladies doesn't like seeing something dirty,they might want to sweep the floor or wash the dishes or even cook,but you do it as a duty,you are not yet married,you are still in courtship,it shouldn't be a duty yet,you can do something sometimes but not Everytime,or probably the guy will now leave it for you and call you to come and do them,that is not acceptable,so that is just the answer... But what do we think?
Do we think that should be the case or Maybe the lady shouldn't even do anything at all since it's courtship? I want our opinion on this please and also should you cook for someone you are not yet married,maybe with your money most times?
Confront your fear
"Each of us must confront our own fears,must come face to face with them,how we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives,to experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it". - Judy Blume.
Fear is very dangerous to our growth, either in relationships, business,career or life itself.yes I'm aware that we can feel it,it happens,when we are about to start a new business,talk to someone about something or even in school when you are asked to speak in front of your coursemates,you easily get grabbed by fear,fear will have the better part of us if we give in to it, like starting a new business and you are feeling like how will people react to it,will they buy the idea or goods or they will ignore it? Why don't you start first,the outcome will tell you if they want it or not,but if you don't because of fear,you will never know if you will succeed in it or not.
It's always good to have a positive mindset, even if you are scared to start be positive that when you start the outcome will be great,have faith over fear,keep the faith burning,fear will never allow you achieve anything great because you won't be able to come and do what you are suppose to do,what would you have achieved if not for that fear that is holding you back?you would have achieved alot right? Probably if not for that fear you would have been a great musician, probably if not for that fear you would have been a great actor/actress,you would have been a good chef,you probably would have been someone great if you had step out of that fear and faced it.
Yes you will make mistakes,you might even fail, I'm not disputing that fact,but don't be too fearful to start again,you would have learnt the reason why you failed before,you would have learnt your mistakes too, forget about the failure of the past and focus on the success of the future. Fear will not only run you of the success but will take it away finally, don't allow fear to get the best of you, don't allow fear to get rid of you but rather get rid of fear,it has nothing good to offer,have faith at all times.
Alot of people die many times before their death because they are cowards, cowards die even before their deaths,they fail even before failure comes to them because they are too afraid to do something, overcoming fear is the best step you can take to start that thing you want to do. Everything you ever desire is at the other side of fear,your own now is to cross to the other side,if you can't cross to the other side then fear is blocking you from reaching that goal.
"*Nelson Mandela once said that courage is not the absence of fear but the triumph over it,the brave man is not he who does not feel afraid but he who conquers that fear"*
It is a sure thing to feel afraid because we are humans,but we become brave when we conquer it and move forward, confront that fear today and you will overcome it.
#SAY NO TO FEAR#
Question- what will you do if you weren't afraid??
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