Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
This saying has always been established,"absence really does makes the heart grow fonder". When someone keeps coming to you,you feel exhausted from their presence because you are used to them but when they leave,you feel you need them more and then you miss them,this is the key point some people use in their relationship.
There is a greater affection between friends, family or even lovers that have been apart due to one reason or another. For instance,you have been living with someone for a long time or May your cousin or friend or brother, sometimes you just get tired of them and you wish they just travel but immediately they travel,you start missing them and feeling a greater affection for them more than before, just because at that moment you feel their absence and you wish they were there that time.
These is been used by lovers too, because alot happen in relationships, sometimes when you see that person everyday you run out of things to talk about,you might not even love the person the way it should be, that's why sometimes in marriage,you get tired, sometimes it's not love that keeps the marriage going but commitment, dedication keeps It going.
So in relationships I would prescribe this dose sometimes because it really works,when you feel that person is not really giving you attention like before,stay away for sometime,give him or her space, probably you have been too clingy and been clingy sometimes makes the other person tired of you. It's not really good or advisable to make yourself available too much,give it some space,give that man,that woman some space,let them breathe,been too clingy makes you loose that respect, just because you are always available,they don't value your worth anymore,they just assume you will be there at all times,they always misuse that opportunity when you too available, valuing yourself really matter for someone else to value,what you portray will be given back to you.
Think about this, naturally you get tired of the things you see everyday,even you yourself when someone keeps coming to you,you tend to ignore and get irritated sometimes,that's how we are wired to be, people tend to Know your worth more when you are not too available,let me take you back to when you just met, when you just met, you really want to know that person more , you talk about everything, you grow fond of each other everyday, you always call, chat, talk Everytime,the love grew from talking about everything,you already know this person,the love is still there but now that you've known each other very well, you don't feel that enthusiasm you felt before because you are familiar already with this person,you just want to call and say hi sometimes and there are some days you would talk for hours non-stop,that is how we are. But when you feel someone is giving you attitude or showing you some signs please give that person some space,when you sure there is nothing more to it but because you are too clingy,give him or her space, during that space it doesn't mean you won't pick up his/her calls but you won't be too available.
But be very careful don't give too much space, always check on them, don't leave entirely,when you feel they are back, resume entirely.
One month baby on readcash.
Wow...today makes it one month on readcash,how time flies,I have been meaning to write when I was two weeks but I would always postpone it,but today it can't be postponed any further.
It looks like yesterday when I first opened this account,when I looked back I said to myself God has been faithful,I say to God again,thank you for the gift of men!🙏,when I first joined I thought alot will just mind their business and won't even recognize me,but the people here have been amazing,they never let me regret ever joining this community. Thank you @Princessbusayo for always standing by me,thank you @Olasquare for always making me to feel at home, @wakeuplincs and @MichaelBCH my wonderful sponsors, @BCH_LOVER she first noticed me when I joined,thank you all for supporting, commenting and upvoting I really appreciate it, I would not forget my ever upvoting doll @TheRandomRewarder thank you so much for my making my time here worth it.
I actually had another thing to write about today but as I opened my account I saw users for one month,I was amazed it's one month already,when I first joined I saw users for one month,two months,five months,1year,I was just wondering when I will get to that level too but look at it today,I got to one month already, just this one month hasn't been easy, writing article is not an easy task,there are times I would not feel like writing because there was nothing to write about,there are also times I would have something to write about and won't feel like writing,and there are times I would feel the energy to write but in all I would still end up writing 🙂,it has been easy finding topics and then writing the body or sometimes you already have the body without the topic,Lol.... I thank God for always giving me the body and topic to write about.
Alot has joined but opt out because they couldn't continue with it, maybe there was no time or rather they feel they will just waste their time or Maybe they actually have nothing to write about, someone told me everybody cannot be a writer,well I don't about that but grateful through it all.
Each time I would always check how everything is going on,I realized through the people has been here since either 6months or a year that the patient dog eat the fattest bone,when you are patient and hard-working you will experience success soon or later,I know alot that just joined would check through some profiles and say how I wish I am like this person,yes you can be when you continue to write here and not give up,they all started from day one too, everything was gradual process,my advice to myself and others is to stay calm and focus, continue with the hardwork and you will get there.
Never lose focus,be disciplined,with time you will be successful here, though I'm still a baby here too.
Enjoy your time here!!!!
Dear me in five years from now.
This is really a good thing to write about,as we propose in our heart what we want to be in the next five to ten years,God disposes it if need be.
"Man proposes but God disposes"
That is the popular saying but with that we all want to be somebody in life,we want to get to the greater heights,we want to achieve something tangible, some wants to be famous, some wants to build house or buy cars, some wants to travel out of the country while some wants to build that career they've always wanted.
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This takes me back to what I wanted to become in my last five to ten years before I talk about what I will be in the next five years....
I had always wanted to be a medical doctor right from my childhood days, because my mom is a nurse,I too wanted to be a doctor,till I left my secondary School I really wanted to be a doctor,I wrote my waec once but I kept writing jamb because that's all I wanted to do,each time I write my jamb I passed but not up to the cut off mark of medicine,it was tough for me,I later changed to nursing but that was not what I wanted,I changed to food science and that opened my admission....
That is the other thing I can do if I don't go to medical line,I will go to food line😆,even before then I told myself I want to be this before 2020,but everything didn't work out the way I planned,that took me back to "Man proposes but God disposes". I am having another plan for my future,I pray God grant my wishes again 🙏.
In next five years I want to be a well known food scientist,I want to also own a restaurant,I had always love cooking food too,the main reason why I went to learn catering,I learnt cakes and decorations too,I always want to start my food business little by little,no Rushing till I get there,I want to do small work then big money 😊. I also want to travel out of the country, because I would have completed my university degree but God's grace,so after that I want to travel out of this country, probably Canada or France,I want to serve God with all my heart and also get married to Someone after God's heart so our home can be habitation of Godliness,I want to enjoy what I haven't enjoyed since my childhood days,I want to travel to different countries and eat different foods I haven't eaten before,I want to see things, beautiful places I haven't seen before.
I want to take care of my mum even before that five years,been the elder sister is not an easy task, though I have a elder brother but my work cannot be underestimated,so I would love to be taking care of my family and also take my mum overseas too,that's my plan for next five years,so help me God 🙏
Dear me in five years from now,please work hard, achieve alot and love God with all your heart.♥️
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A challenge I am grateful for.
Okay,so I just picked one from the 30days challenge @Princessbusayo is writing about,I decided to write about a challenge I am grateful for, sometimes life has been fair while another time life will be unfair but how we are able to get through it makes us stronger.
There are alot of challenges I faced before this time,let me start from when I went to Lagos,when I came to Lagos to write jupeb exam in unilag,I didn't know anybody there,but I decided to attend one redeem church there that evening,after the evening service I decided to talk to their pastor if they will allow me to sleep over and he said yes,they weren't sure at first but they later accepted (I mean the pastor and other minister present that day) I slept over,the next day I went to write my exam,when I finished my exam,I went to take my things in the church and I said thank to the guy staying in the church too but he was actually guarding the church,he allowed me to enter when I first came,I carried my bag and left.
When the result came out,they admitted me then into the o'level program,I went to Lagos again,we really didn't have enough money when I gained admission to that program then,but I had to go because it was late already and lecture had started a month before,so I hurried my mum and dad to just give me transport fare,I went back to the church when I got to Lagos,I already collected one sister's number then when I first came to write the exam,she was the one that called and said I should come to church again that they will be able to help me,when I got there they help me and gave me accomodation in church,I stayed in church,there was another building at the back of the church then ,that was where I stayed.
It wasn't easy,I kept on calling home,the tuition was on the high side for the jupeb program but we've got no choice but to pay,a week to my exam I haven't paid tuition fee, someone just helped out again and my dad paid back,I wrote my exam,all thanks to God, staying in church wasn't easy because you can't just go anywhere,you must account everywhere you go to and you can't bring friends too,even when my friends wanted to come and greet me,I didn't allow them,those where part of the challenges I faced, finally my dad sent me hostel money and when I wanted to pay it,I got swindled,I only use to hear about them but I don't know it will happen to me,I was swindled of my money and my phone,I cried my eyes out,when I called home,my dad abused me on the phone,I didn't know what to do,I kept crying and crying,but help came from the church,they gave me money I was happy.
Staying there has been a challenge to me,another challenge I got and I'm grateful for is when I was staying in the church,the guard was there,he made me got closer to God,we became very good friend,he Normally read his Bible and pray then but I don't,so it was really a challenge for me when he would say today you must read up to three chapters of the Bible,I wasn't really used to it but I decided to accept the challenge,I started studying my Bible and praying too,he was there to guard me through,I was now better at studying my Bible and praying, I'm always grateful that I went to Lagos at that Time and met someone like him.
Going to Lagos then really thought me alot,I became a better person when I came home,I started from been lazy to been agile,it was really a challenge but I'm grateful for that challenge. The people I met there were really good people,God used them to shape my life in a good way. I'm most grateful for that,the challenges I faced there made me and didn't mar me.
After all the challenges I went through in Lagos I didn't later gain admission into unilag after all fees I paid during my program and the exam I wrote,it was a tough one,I cried everyday because I wasn't given admission,my dad would abuse me sometimes,I nearly gave up that I wasn't going to school again but thank God I didn't.... I'm now grateful that I wasn't given admission then because if they had done that I might not have gotten to where I am now,I might have gone astray, I'm very grateful to God for that,he knows everything. 🙏🙏
Arachnophobia
Hello everyone,it's a new day today,the beginning of this week and hope we all spent our weekend well, weekend has gone,we all have alot to do this new week before weekend comes again,so what's your plan for this new week? Have you set any goal or you are just going to sleep and watch film alone this week,get ready to leave that your comfort zone,good things don't come out of the comfort zone,you have to go out and brace yourself self for that new task ahead of you. Have a lovely week.
Now let's move on to today's topic,am going to talk about arachnophobia (fear of spiders),there are people who have phobia for spiders and thereby affecting their life anytime they see this insect.
Having phobia is more than fear, phobia can limit your ability to work efficiently,it interferes with your daily routine,alot of people dislike spiders,we hate seeing it around us but having phobia for it impact and affect lives.
Arachnophobia-fear of spiders
Spiders can be irritating but they have importance, most times it helps get rid of some dangerous insects like mosquitoes or using their web to catch them,we know as tiny as mosquitoes are,they are more dangerous and they cause malaria, spiders have their importance which some don't know,they are not dangerous as we paint them to be.
Spiders silk in history has been used to make bandages, some of the scientist also use it to load antibiotics in bandages. Spiders known as golden orb is very common in Australia,their web can be used to catch bats and birds because their webs are very strong. They are also good at hiding themselves,they want to be left alone,they run whenever they feel the presence of someone,they are not agressive as we think they are.
Phobia for it can hinder you from playing with your friends or family,you feel anxious when anyone talks about it,you feel threatened with the sight of it, either the web or spider itself, thinking about it alone sends shock through your body or keeps you up at night when you think about it.
Arachnophobia is mostly developed during childhood or adolescent,it is mostly found in 15% of the entire population and mostly that percentage is common in women. Women develops fear more than men, little things makes them anxious,that doesn't mean men don't fear too but it's more in women than men.
These symptoms helps you to know if you have phobia for spiders or not;
Freezing whenever you see it.
Upset stomach,you just want to throw up.
Sweating or shaking at the sight of it.
Highrate in the beating of the heart.
Difficulty in breathing.
Dizziness,you feel you lost your head or something,feels like your head is banging.
These phobia can be caused by
Childhood experience-maybe you have a terrific experience with spider when you are little,I could remember I watched one American movie like that,this lady developed phobia when she was little,she saw a big spider where her mum died so she thought it was the spider that killed her mum,so ever since then she has been scared of spiders,till she grew up, because of the knowledge she had about it,so it may be caused by what we experienced when we are little,(now talking about phobia generally).
Seeing one's parents getting scared of it- while growing up you might see your mum getting scared because of spider,it tells you otherwise too,it makes you feel the same way without knowing why.
How do you get rid of arachnophobia-fear? These two therapy will help you get rid of it.
Cognitive behavioural therapy - this happens when you see a medical specialist, saying some of your experiences,how you developed it,and where and what happened to you when you see it. These questions and helps you get proper view on it,they will try to explain to you why you should not be scared of spiders and many more.
Exposure therapy - these therapy expose you to the real thing you are scared of,these therapy is highly recommended for people with phobia of something,they make sure you see the picture of what you are scared of or brings you the place,in the instance of spider,you see the picture of the spider or you see the spider in real ,they believe it you start seeing it everyday and you know it won't harm you,it start reducing your fear little by little. The more you see it the more you are less reactive to it.
I hope you all learnt one or two things from this article. Thanks for reading 👍.
The this or that question 2
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Yesterday I talked about the this or that question and I'm going to continue with the part 2 today of what I would prefer more.
Which would I prefer;credit or card?
I love credit alert alot,I love to see alert come in rather than cash,it always makes me happy that I have something in my bank account.
Which would I prefer; shopping in store or online?
There was a time I shopped for bag online,I really wanna use that bag so the lady told me the bag would arrive prior to the day I will use it,so sent her the money and also delivery free,two weeks gone,I haven't seen my bag,one month,two months,four month,she was just giving excuse after a year I just forgot the bag after sending her a lot of messages,I later realized she has swindled alot of people too so since then I don't like shopping online,I prefer to buy it in store unless it's from a trusted person, like my friend I have ordered alot from her so I know she's authentic, and some few people too though.
Which would I prefer; shower or bath?
I would prefer shower o,I love showering alot,it gives me this calmness.
Which would I prefer; football or basketball?
I would prefer basketball game,I don't really like football,I still watch basketball very well but not football.
Which would I prefer;cats or dogs?
I would prefer dog,I love dogs not local dogs though,we had a dog then,it looks like teddy bear,we love the dog especially my dad,but the dog died after confirming it ate poison,we normally tie the dog beside our fence and our fence was short then,so anybody passing by will always see the dog bark, from there I think someone threw poisoned food to her,we cried,I personally cried,my dad was pained......I would prefer dog to cat,I don't like cat at all,and also in our area they always see cat has been possessed because of past experiences.
Which would I prefer; hats or headband?
I would prefer headbands,I can't wear hats everywhere but I can use headband to everywhere I go.
Which would I prefer;blue or green?
I love blue, royal blue precisely, so I would prefer blue to green.
Which would I prefer; reading or listening to music?
Listening to music has always been food to the soul,when you are angry just listen to music you will be feeling relieved little by little,there is no way I would be angry and start to read😂,i won't even assimilate at all,at any time at anyday listening to music would be my choice rather than reading.
Which would I prefer;hot tea or cold tea?
I love cold tea, might be weird to some people though but that is what I love to take,I don't like hot tea, except I need to take hot water and instead of just drinking hot water like that then I will just add my tea to it,that's in extremely cold weather,over the years I always take my tea cold,so I would prefer cold tea.
Which would I prefer; Romance or loyalty in a relationship?
Deep question for those who wants romance in a relationship but for me I love loyalty, loyalty is the key,I love celibacy so I would prefer loyalty in a relationship other than romance but when it comes to marriage,I would love both,I wouldn't leave out one since we are married.
This brings me to the end of the this or that question,I hope you all enjoyed the first and the second series? Thank you for reading and supporting.👍👍
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The this or that question 1
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This questions ran through my mind, which would I prefer and I am going to share with us here.
Which would I prefer; television series or movie?
Wow,I would prefer television series,I love series, the suspense and everything,the eagerness to wait till the next series is out and watch,either downloads or on TV,I love
Which would I prefer;bus or train?
I would prefer train,I haven't board train before though but I don't like bus for anything, always jam packed together,I would love to board train one day
Which would I prefer; Delivery or sit down restaurant?
I would prefer Delivery,the sweetness of eating at my home,no drama,no shyness,Lol,I am a very shy person though but I'm getting over it little by little. Though sometimes sit down restaurant would actually make sense for some kind of occasion like dinner evening but I would love delivery.
Which would I prefer; paper book or ebook?
I would prefer paperbook, reading ebook is not really easy,even in school when an ebook is sent to us we would photocopy some of it so it would be easy to read, sometimes my phone might be down,i won't be able to read if it's not paperbook,and also paperbook can be stored safe but ebook can formatted from the phone if the phone has any issue,so paperbook have more advantage than ebook, I'm not saying ebook doesn't have any advantage too,you can easily bring out your phone anywhere and read your ebook but I still prefer paperbook.
Which would I prefer; mountain or beach?
I would love to go to the beach other than the mountain,I had always love water,I haven't been to the beach before but I had always seen it in the pictures,movies and all,I always love the sight of it,I would prefer beach than mountain.
Which would I prefer; rice or pounded yam?
I would prefer rice because I love rice than pounded yam but there are times when I see pounded yam I would leave rice,but that happens only when it's been long I took pounded yam.
Which would I prefer; ice cream or yoghurt?
I would prefer ice cream,I love ice cream alot,so I would prefer ice cream to yoghurt.
Which would I prefer;call or text?
I love to call more than texting,I love people calling me more than texting,it really means alot🥰
Which would I prefer; coffee or tea?
Tea,I love tea alot,I don't really like coffee but tea is preferable.
Which would I prefer;long hair or short hair?
I'm a fan of long hair,I don't like short hair unless on a rare occasion.
Which would I prefer; vacation or staycation?
Vacation oooo,I love to travel so I would prefer vacation anytime anyday, going lovely places to relax and enjoy is what I love to do best.
Wait for the next part tomorrow as I share with you the this or that question of what I would prefer to do.
Focus on the solution not the problem.
"Every problem has a solution, you just have to be creative enough to find it"- Travis kalanick.
Humans on a daily basis encounter various difficulties, sometimes this problems are straight forward which can be easily solved while another time these problems can be difficult which can take you alot of hard work to get solved.
Problem solving refers to a drive for reaching a goal,it also means working through details of a problem to reach a solution. When you focus on the root cause of a problem not the problem then you tend to find solutions quickly rather than when you focus on the problem.
This reminds me of when I came home for holiday last month,I realized there was more mosquitoes than I have ever lived in that house,I asked my mum what the problem was,she told me that my brother is always opening the door and closing it,even my room too,every area of that house,after fleeting it today by tomorrow there will be mosquito again,the ones in the sitting room will share themselves to the rooms when the door is opened,we wasted all our mosquito repellent on it but we realized they were coming over and over again,my mum was mum was just wondering what the problem could be again, just lastweek she just realized that there was hole in the net of our sitting room window, whenever the window is opened, mosquitoes will fly inside through the hole in the net,when she realized that,she knew the problem was not the mosquito or the repellent but the hole in the net,so the next day she quickly called the person that will fix another net there,when another net was fixed,we realized that there was no more mosquito. The problem was gone,and so the cause of the problem too.
When solving the problem,learn to solve the problem from the root,don't focus mainly on the problem but the cause of it.
We have different ways where by we can solve a problem;
1.step by step problem solving.
This is when we follow a guiding manual,when we solve a problem step by step e.g when we just buy a new refrigerator or a new DStv,we follow the steps in the manual and solve the problem,we check through it to know how to turn it on and then switch it from one channel to another,what to do and what not to do.
2.trial and error problem solving.
This is when there is a problem and we continue trying different methods until the problems are solved e.g let's assume you have a business meeting by 9:30am in the morning, then you decided to take your car by 8am unfortunately the broke down on the way,you checked your time you still have 45min left,what will you do? At that point you decided to use the theory of trial and error,you opened the car bonnet,check the battery if it's intact,check the blade or check if there is fuel in it, before the time elaspse you can find the solution to the problem by trying different methods but if you can't find the solution to the problem you can call the mechanic. That will lead us to an external problem solver,you cannot solve some problems on your own,you will have to look out for other people who can solve that particular problem.
How to focus on a solution rather than the difficulty;
Identify the problem first, Know what you are dealing with.
Check and change what doesn't work,when you are done identifying the problem,you have to change what doesn't work before and implement new idea.
Decide which solution will work best
Put that solution you've found into play.
Build on each of the steps that is successful for you.
Problem are bound to arise everywhere,at home,at work,in school,in relationships, in business,try and find out the root cause of the problem and then find a solution to it.
Not all that glitters is gold
There are so many things that looks like gold but in real essense they are not gold, they just fake,so it takes someone who looks deep to notice it's not gold, we can't just jump at everything we see, some are danger in light of peace,they are not what they portray,that is why it is required to check things well before indulging in it. It can be work, school,friends,spouse or even opportunity to travel out of the country. There are stories heard about people that jump on the opportunity of travelling out without finding to root and what they are now doing oversea,it is not what they can write home about.
Even here some people will leave their children to strangers because they promised to send their children to school bothering to find out if it's true or not,when the kids get there they end up doing chores or prostitution without going to school thereby destroying the future of the kids.
Some will even push their children into unwanted marriage because of money,this takes me to the film I watched lastweek; ***when the kids grew up the eldest daughter was ready for marriage so the mother wanted her to get married to a rich man,even the siblings too,she a younger sister and a younger brother,she told her mom she is not getting married to that rich man that came to ask for her hand in marriage,her mother was so furious but her father on the other hand supported his daughter,but the mother and the siblings were the problem,they wanted her to marry a rich man and then start paying for their bills but the lady was against it,she said her spirit doesn't tally with the man,so later the lady found another man whom she loved,but he was poor,she took him to her parent,her mom rejected him but later agreed by force,she got married to the man,the man was a very poor man,the mother made her life a living hell,later the second child which is a lady too decided to get married,she was determined to marry a rich man herself,so all the poor guys that came for her hand in marriage was sent away. Later she found herself a rich dude and got married to him,her mother was very happy but her happiness was cut short when after a year her husband was arrested and all their properties was confisticated including her own account,it was freezed due to illegal dealings,she ran back to the village and she started all over again.***
Alot of times things don't look the way they seem,if you look at the flower in the picture,it looked like gold but not gold,it was just painted in gold colour,if you don't look deeply you might assume it is gold,but that's not the case. Duplicate always look like the real deal,they always portray themselves like the real deal,but they are not,they just have some characteristics that might make you believe they are good but when you check inside they are rotten.
Before you accept that proposal check deeply,it can be any kind of proposal, marriage,work, travelling abroad,check,pray before you accept,it might not really be what you think it is.
My appreciation goes to almighty God for me inspirations to write always and also to my supporters,upvoters,and the green baby,thank you so much.
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Turning back the hands of time..
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I was motivated to write this article through @Olasquare article about stopping time,I wish I can stop it,I was eager to open it when I first saw the article,you should read it too,he talked about how he lost his sister 1998 and his mother and father too around year 2008 and 2006 respectively. It was actually a painful event and he wish he could stop the time and remain in those year peradventure something like that won't have happened. https://read.cash/@Olasquare/i-wish-i-can-stop-it-c0c57098
I really wish I could stop time too,it took me back to the year I lost my dad too,he has been sick since the second section of the year,we thought it's something simple and not too deep,so we never thought he would die,how I wish I can go back to year 2020,day 29th of November and stop the death,I wished that day never came and we just stay on day 28th of November. I wish I could celebrate his birthday for him that year,his birthday was 27th of November,so he died two days after his birthday,it was a sad event for everyone. I wish I can go back to those days where I thought he didn't really care,I wish I could go back to that Time when I disobeyed his orders,I wish I could obey again.
I also wish I could go back to that time when my brother was around,I wish he never left,ever since my dad died he left home and didn't come back,I wish I knew what was on his mind then,I wish I played more with him,I wish I respected him more even though I respected him.
I also wish the massacre at the toll gate never happened,It was two days before my birthday,so my birthday was suck!. I wish I just stayed in year 2019,year 2020 was an awful year,if I stayed in year 2019,I won't have witnessed all the bad things that happened in year 2020. My dad would have still be with us now,he would have been alive by now,I miss him and I love him so much.
*That year was also a year where everyone had to stay home because of the Corona virus disease, everything was slowed down, school closed down, churches and even mosques too,we can't even finish mentioning all the organization that closed down during that time, some are just recovering, while some are still down,they don't even have hope of getting up again,for me it was a bad year, while for some people it was good because that year was the year they recuperated most, someone even said it that that same year was the best year for except for the lockdown, everything he had always wanted came in for him,but I guess for majority that year didn't really go well. I would have loved to stay in the year 2019 so I won't have to witness all the happenings in year 2020,but here we are still,all glory to God.*
Thanks for taking out time to read this article, thanks for all your upvotes and comment.
Discipline
*Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment- Jim Rohn.*
*Find what you love to do and go do it,you will never be successful until you have plan and the discipline and determination to go through with that plan- Julius Williams.*
Achieving anything in life depends on our discipline and determination, discipline requires us to set plans and time to achieve that task,you can't achieve if you haven't set anything, maybe you just wake up each day,no plan, just brush your teeth,cook,eat,go the the office and that is all,it repeats like that 365days of year and at the end of the year you look at yourself and say you haven't achieved any goal.
Probably some even wrote down their plans for the year at the beginning of these year and when you look at it now,we are almost entering into the half of the year and yet you haven't even achieved a single thing out of all the goals you wrote down for this year. Discipline is a vital role you have to play in achieving those set goals.
When you look at the picture,it is impossible to learn karate without discipline and determination because it is difficult,that also goes to every area of our lives,we can't get good grades in school if we don't discipline ourselves to read,it's not possible,when others are playing if you play with them when you are suppose to read you won't get good grades,time waits for no man,plan your time wisely,know when to do something and when to rest,you can't be frivolous everyday of your life, you've got to be serious with that plan.
**Leaders are rarely born,they are made,you don't just stand up one day and begin to lead, your commitment and discipline leads you to the path of a leader,true leadership starts with discipline and ends with commitment,you must be committed to the work at hand and if you are not disciplined enough you will screw things.**
When you go through life, discipline is needed,for example if you are not disciplined enough you will eat anywhere at anytime,even the people you are going to visit they already know you as a glutton,you can eat anywhere without refusing,that should not be the case,you must be able to discipline yourself with food,don't just eat anyhow,let them Know you don't eat anyhow. Late food too is not good,when I was exercising last two years for a flat stomach,I always eat at night,even when my sister we tell me I should stop eating late at night because it's not healthy,I love eating at night, and still I want flat stomach,I was just stressing myself with the exercise because I wasn't disciplined enough to take my eyes off the food that late,it didn't reduce to the inch I wanted it to reduce to then,so I stopped,I wasn't disciplined enough and that is why I couldn't achieve what I wanted then but I started again this year,I was determined not to eat at night and I don't eat too much too during the day,I started my exercise again and believe me it worked, being discipline goes a long way in achieving your goals.
I am very sure some people are like that too,if you want to achieve something deal with the enemy of that thing.
It goes into marriage too, discipline helps you to follow through that commitment you made to your spouse on that wedding day, without discipline you won't be able to because love is never enough,you can love someone and still not be committed,when you are disciplined you get committed to them no matter what happens, because alot do happen in Marriage even relationships,it makes you stay with that person.
Even in spending,you can't gather enough money it you are not disciplined in spending,you want to buy everything your eyes sees, discipline is very important,you cannot buy all the clothes,bags,shoes, utensils in the world,new things comes everyday,if you are not discipline in spending you cannot acquire wealth. That is why the rich are different from the poor,they buy assets while the poor guy liabilities,those assets gives them money later on but the liabilities extort money from the poor.
You know yourself that you don't have the money but you want to be like that rich man beside your house but you don't have the investment that rich man has and you want to buy the Same car he is using,slow down a little and be disciplined if not you might end getting poorer. Live in your own world, don't live in another person's world,work hard,with discipline and determination you will get there too,try to save, don't spend all the money, little drop of water makes a mighty ocean if it's continuous but if stopped,it won't make a mighty ocean.
Thank you very much for reading,I hope you make use of this word and implement it in your daily life,thank you for supporting,for upvoting and commenting 🥰.
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Birthday surprise.
Lastweek was my grandma's birthday, she's really an old woman but she knows everything happening,so we decided to surprise her,we called everyone, family members from far and near to start preparing to come over,alot of money was sent over to start the preparation.
We started the preparation,I had to visit my boss,my boss is a caterer so I had to go to her,I won't be able to cook because I knew I won't be chanced,when I visited her she was so happy to see, it's been a long time since I saw her,I only called her once while in school because I was busy,I was one of her trusted trainee then,she didn't want me to go when I was going, sometimes my colleagues will even get jealous because my boss liked me very much. When I got there I told her if she will be chanced to cook,she said yes,why not,she gave me the ingredients to buy for the jollofrice and Friedrice,we bought half bag of rice because we want it to be surplus even if we didn't invite a lot of people.
After that I went to get the decorators to know how much we will spent to decorate our compound,we did it in our house,they gave us the price and we payed,we bought new cloth for grandma.
On the day, some arrived before the day and others arrived on the day,my boss started cooking in the morning because we planned to start the program by 4pm,so the decorators came too, everywhere was decorated, before the program started everything was set,joy was blooming everywhere,we got to Grandma's place and brought her over to our place,she was so happy and excited,it was surprising for her😊,we have her her new cloth,she and she came outside. It was fun.
I had invited some of my friends before so they came,food was served, we thank God because we were able to make her happy while she's alive.
That was how the birthday went,I also thanked my boss because she didn't disappoint us at all,it was a great food.
My childhood memories.
Good afternoon everyone,am happy to share my childhood memories with you all,we all have our memories and sometimes we wish we can go back to those times,it was actually fun until we all grew up and started snubbing each other 😂.
Childhood is actually fun,when I see kids playing it brings me back to those days that we play with sand,I could remember then when I was little, after going to school,I will come back home,do my assignment and then rush outside to play with my friends,we were living in what we call face me I face you then but it was upstairs,so my dad actually paid for a row,a row contains 5 rooms but still facing our neighbors,so I have never experienced sleeping in the same room with my mom and dad,there was this Muslim kid then downstairs,a boy,we do play together most times,we attended the same school,we will go to the backyard,put three stones and place tin on it, while we put sand inside it and leaf,the sand represent rice and the leaf represent vegetable, and we will start cooking without fire😂,funny right? Then after cooking we will feed ourselves like we wanted to eat real food,then throw it away after that.
There is another one that I remembered, using sand to build house,we will put our leg on the sand and then we form heap of sand on the leg, and use our hands to press it down so that it will form what we wanted without collapsing,after that we will remove our leg.
Playing inside rain is also another one, me and my friends are always happy to play inside rain,I guess that has an effect on me now as an adult,I can't enter inside rain again,I will just be shaking,there was a time when my parents were not around,there is this thing they do that whenever there is rain the rain will gather there,from there you can place your Bucket,so I went to stay there the rain was raining on my head,the effect was so obvious,I never did that again in my life.
Making clothes for doll is also another one,I will use needle and thread to make cloth for my doll then,it was always fun, playing hide and seek game too, running around looking for another person. There was this game we call tinko tinko then,when my sister was playing with her friend I just smiled,these are the things we have done then as kids.
Making of kite,I really don't know to make it again but I can remember then that I was so good at making kite,I love making it and after that we will attach thread to hold it and throw it to the air to it can fly. Lolssss. We do make canoe too with paper,I don't know how to make it again though, after making the canoe,we will throw it inside water so it can float.
Childhood memories are fun, sometimes I wish I can play like before but not anymore,we are all grown adults, there are things I can still do now but I won't be proud to say or do it outside like kids do. Nowadays a lot of children don't even play anymore like that because their parents might say they must not go out,they are always locked inside. Everything is changed already, some parent don't even allow their children to play at all,so they won't even have those memories when they grow up,it's not good to be too harsh on kids,let them play a little,give them space to express themselves, childhood is sweet.
Hope you enjoyed your childhood days well? You can share some of your experience here too.
Worryless
"Worrying never saps tomorrow of it's sorrow,it only saps tomorrow saps today of it's joy"- Leo Buscagalia
" Worrying is a waste of time,it doesn't change anything,it just messes with your mind and steals your happiness".
Worrying is thinking about the unpleasant things that might happen in the future or things that already happen that leaves you scared or sad. It doesn't change anything,it only adds to the problem on ground,it can give you high blood pressure as you know,it doesn't make you feel good but worse,so what is the essense of worrying about that thing,why don't you find a solution to it instead of thinking too much about it.
When you worry you think too much about things that might happen but will eventually not happen,it can cause alot of mishap, worrying doesn't solve anything, worrying about the possibility of something happening later,you are not sure if what you are worrying yourself about will come to pass or not,if it does happen it means you are only adding to the already weighed trouble but if it doesn't happen it means your worry is useless,it doesn't amount to anything. Always Know that most of the things you worry yourself about doesn't happen, your anxiety paints things big more than they ought to be.
Relax your mind whenever there is a problem,don't panic too much,I know it's not easy but you will doing yourself a big favour if you don't pressure your heart. There was a time my dad was ill,it was on a Sunday morning,we were to take him to the hospital,he was so so sick,my mum was already scared and because of that she developed high blood pressure even before we took my dad to the hospital,she couldn't even stand up,it was another problem again. So you see worrying can cause another harm than the one on the ground,so you don't need to panic too much,just look for a way to solve the problem going on, panicking won't solve anything,it has never does before so it won't solve it later.
We all know everyday is full of trouble,so sometimes we always have to share in that trouble,life is full of ups and downs,its not always straight,it's sometimes rough so whatever we do in times of trouble,how we handle it either makes us stronger or weaker,so handle it well, worryless.
Thanks so much for reading,it's another great time here today.i love you all.♥️
Unfriendly friend
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"Someone who smiles with you too much can sometimes frown with you too much at your back" - Michael bassey Johnson.
We never know who the real friend is,there are alot of friends who doesn't want to see us grow,they are called backstabbers. I have a friend like that too sometime like that,I met her while I was in secondary school always wanting to be like me,I noticed quickly because she once said am I the only one that is entitled to everything? Feeling jealous graduate to envy,envy can cause death.
Unfriendly friends are enemies like friend,they have this covering of friend on there face but their inner self speaks hatred,they want to see you grow sometimes but they don't want you to grow more than them. A fake friend always want to control,abuse or manipulate people,they do not ask themselves if they are the problem,they always tell themselves they are not the problem but other people are,they always find fault in others, while they think they are faultless,but the truth of the matter is that they are the ones with fault,they will always cause trouble in the friendship,they always focus on the achievement of their friends rather than focusing on how to grow,how to move forward,all they care about is bringing others down,they don't understand that while they are planning to bring others down,they too will remain in the trench,they won't grow too.
True friends stick by you no matter what,they will be right there by your side but you see frenemies? they are always in the dark whenever you need them,they don't come to the limelight,they always act as friend in your face but act as enemies at your back,that is why they are call frenemies. Whether it's at work or school we always have this fake friends around us,most people want to see you do better but not better than them,real Friends will always believe in you but fake friends believe in rumours,you don't question the intentions of real friends because their intentions are always pure and true but the intentions of fake friends are always questionable.
When you notice that your friend is always bad-mouthing you please get yourself out of that Friendship,it is not healthy for you because they can make your helpers leave you,check yourself too,if you are good then move with good people like you, people that will always be there for you in times of need not the people that will run away after they hear that you need some help. Be cautious of who you move with,who you move with sometimes determine your progress in life, don't get carried away,be CAUTIOUS AND CAREFUL.
Take it one step at a time.
"It's the faith that makes you stronger,the only way to get there is to take it one step at a time"- Jordin spark.
We often hear that the journey of a thousand miles begin with a step,you don't just start one day and get there that same day,it's not possible,it takes time, effort, discipline,courage to get there. First thing first,you need courage to take the first step,you don't start building from the roof,you start building from the foundation,when the foundation is intact then you can now talk about taking it to lintel and then from there you will take it to the roof, everything has principle. Life is guided by principles, principle we must follow so we don't fall back to the ground. Sadly alot has fallen back because they started from the roof,they didn't go through the preparation process, they just started and it ended just the way they started.
It's also like taking a step to reach the top of a mountain,we can't just fly to the top,we have to struggle and strategize on how to get to the top of the mountain,if we make any mistake of rushing to the top and not take it step by step,we will find ourselves crashing back on the floor.
Many want to get to the same top some people have been working towards for years,you want to achieve what someone else achieved in 10years in just one month,the reason why there are bad influences out there, success requires taking it bit by bit,not rushing it, eventually it will come to you automatically,for example my boss has been in her business for close to 20years, acquiring everything she has today step after step and now she's now a big woman,let now say I want to start mine too and now aiming that position my boss is in less than three months,you see am just trying to fly and I might find myself hitting the floor so hard that I might not stand again.
Copying is very bad,why are you focusing on someone else achievement thereby rushing yourself,you have to focus on you,after taking that first step,you have to continue taking that step, don't stop, continue,you might not be seeing result now but trust me you will surely see result soon,you will get there without knowing,the journey ahead of you requires strength, knowledge, determination, preparation, while taking those steps,keep preparing yourself for more,as you move ahead it might become tougher,so it requires your strength and determined mind not to quit.
If you starting a business learn alot about the business,if it's marriage first know who this person is, don't just conclude,don't just jump into the marriage,take it easy,bit by bit. Apply that principle in every facet of life and you will see yourself moving forward. Don't worry you might not see the ending of the staircase but when you take a step forward and take another step,you will surely see the ending and you will surely get there when you continue taking that step one at a time.
How I enjoyed my holiday
Good evening everyone,how has been your day,wow I will be going to school this weekend,I really do not want to go😂,we were only given short break 😭,I still want to spend like two weeks at home, some people have been at home for some time now, the ongoing strike has been affecting them,they are even tired of staying at home now but on the way round strike is not affecting my school so our academic calendar is going the way it's supposed to go.
Before we had break our exam took us more than a month before we finished the exam,our exam time table was the worse among all the department writing exam, some finished their exam two weeks after everyone started and some finished theirs three weeks but in our department and some department too,we finished after a month,I hate it that way because people that finished early and we that finished late,we are all resuming the same time,they couldn't even give us more time 😣😔.
So let's talk about my holiday,so I was looking for a new house in school last semester,my friend took out her time to check for the house but I went home,when I got home I didn't have much to do,I stayed idle the first and second day after my arrival but after that I started working,my mom would call me to come and prepare food, do this and that,I really had more time writing here on readcash, it was fun,I love it.
I had more time to think,write,read and sleep😁,I love sleeping actually,my friend was not around so I couldn't play with her,it was me alone with my work,I did some bakings,some fascinators too.
Yeah I also used my holiday to strategize on my next line of action,how am going to move my work forward,how I will visit offices and schools to introduce my business to them. I know they would love it because it deals with food.
I also attended programs,there was one particular program I attended,I love that program,it really changed alot,even my brother became more responsible after attending that program,it was a life changing experience and I wish there will be something like that soon or in the nearest future.
Okay,alot would have been expecting that maybe I went to different places 😆but sorry I was mostly indoor,there was no much place to go,I did all my holiday at home sleeping, reading, writing, praying or fasting.... Lolssss.
I really want to say a big big thank you to everyone who has been here with me since day one of joining readcash, believe me writing isn't easy but thank God for always bringing to our thoughts what to write on,thank you so much,I love you all 😚😚😘
The choices we make today
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"You are not the victim of the world but rather the master of your own destiny,it is your choices and decisions that determine your destiny - Roy T. Bennett
Life is a matter of choice,the choice you make today will either Mar or make you tomorrow. The path you take today will take you to your,it's either you end up at the right destination or the wrong destination.
There are different choices we make today and tomorrow it's either we thank God for making those choices or we hate ourselves for making those decisions, like the choice of school,the choice of work,the choice of husband or wife,when we choose rightly we tend to enjoy it in the future,for instance the choice of husband/wife, imagine choosing someone who is not right for you,you probably won't enjoy the marriage but when you choose the right partner your home will be heaven on Earth.
Choose the right kind of friends,when you choose the right kind of friends be rest assured to have support/backing from them,they will be genuinely involve in your situation. Choose the right value that are important to you,you Know you have the right/privilege to make your own choices yourself but you do not have the right to choose the consequences that follows. The choices we make help us to know who we are and to other people too.
We hold in our hands the power to change our lives,the lives of the people close to us and the power to choose our destiny,this power effect change,when we make the right decision we effect change positively but when we make the wrong decision we effect change negatively.
Our decision today to face and solve problems or run away from the problem will definitely affect our choices tomorrow, instead of us facing the problem and challenging it and thereby leading us to overcoming it,we might choose to run away from it and thereby affecting our capabilities to face or grow from future challenges.
As you move forward in life there are stepping stones you must step on and overcome so as to move to the next stage,but when you decide not to,you remain in the same level you are thereby affecting others around you too. We must know that we are not alone,we are connected to lives around us so the decision we make affects them too,for instance our financial wellbeing, when we work hard and we become financially stable we tend to fend for our families or people around us but when we don't make a better choice of working hard or when we become lazy,our financial lives becomes nothing to write home about and thereby affecting people around us.
We should always be intentional about the choices we make,we should always have it at the back of our mind that if we make the right decision tomorrow is going to be great and the people who are connected to us will thank God on our behalf but if it's the other way round,you know what might happen.
It's another beautiful day here, thanks for always upvoting and supporting my posts,have a lovely day.🥰
My secret wedding.
I'm finally bringing my fiancee home dad,"i said smiling at my dad😊.
My dad and mum has been waiting all this while, disturbing me to bring a wife home,let me introduce myself,my name is Kennedy,I am 32years of age,I graduated 6 years back at the age of 26,luck was on my side I got a job quickly that was paying well,I started investing those money I got,at the age of 30,I was already okay being the CEO of my company,not too big but it's doing well, since I was already doing well everyone believe I should bring my wife,my mum started first by disturbing about bringing a wife home then my dad joined. Sometimes I had to leave the house for them because I was actually living with them being the only son. I already had it in mind to buy my own house before I get married.
When I told my dad I'm finally bringing home someone he was so happy but nevertheless the happiness was cut short when I brought her home and my dad heard the name of her father.
"Young lady,how are you doing"?
"I am doing well sir"
" Where are you from"?my father asked facing her and smiling.
"I am from ijebu ode sir" she replied picking her nails.
" Wow,that's so good,no need to tell you where we are from because I presume your husband to be already briefed you about that,is that not right"?
" Yes sir I know sir".
" Very well then,what is the name of your father"?
" My father's name is olawale david"
"Which olawale david are you talking about here? Starting to frown his face.
Getting confused"my dad is a lawyer sir, anything the Matter sir"?
" Please stand up from my house and leave"I don't ever want to see you here again!! He yelled and walked inside.
I was just dumbfounded seeing my dad acting that way,why would he send my fiancee out of the house,I went to meet him and ask him what went wrong,he said there was nothing but I cannot marry that lady,I told him I will marry her with or without his consent.
The same thing also happened in her own house too,her family sent me out after hearing my dad's name,then I knew something was definitely wrong. We couldn't figure it out at the beginning so we decided to get married secretly.
On one Thursday we bought nice cloths for our court wedding and we went ahead to the court,we were joined together and we were so happy,now we are husband and wife,but to our greatest surprise I met my dad at my place because I already moved out of his house to my own apartment. I asked him what he was doing there,he said he came for prayer,he brought one pastor and declared seven days prayer,my wife had to leave because my dad insisted and he mustn't know we got married without him there.
He saw my marriage ring and asked why I was wearing that,I had to lie to him that I just bought it for fashion sake.
After some months we later knew why both parents doesn't want us to get married to each other,that's because they have wronged each other when they were young men,my wife's dad betrayed my dad and married her mom,my dad was supposed to marry her mom but everything went sour.
My mum was angry because my dad won't forget about it,we told them to forget about it but they said no.
I really wish o could tell my dad that we are married already,he will just skin me alive so I think I need to keep my mouth shut till the right time.
Maybe in the nearest future they will finally forgive and forget about the past and move on I really don't know but I hope so.
Thanks to everyone always here to read my post and support me,thank you very much 🥰.
My parent's career and not mine!!!
My name is Kingsley,am in my late twenties,I love music alot, since my primary school days I love singing,as time goes on I wanted it as my career,I wanted to sing not just in my bedroom but outside to world but I have one obstacle and that is my parent,they are both medical doctors and they also want me to be the same.
I hate to be a medical doctor,I want to be a musician,my dad would say the only future he sees is been a doctor, as a child I don't have much say because my dad is strict,he doesn't listen,all he wants is for me to be like him. When I finished my primary school,he told me to choose science and not art,I had no other option but to choose science, everything was going on well in my junior class,I got high grade in most of my subjects until I got to the senior class,when I got to senior class I started having issues in my course subjects,i hated physics and chemistry with passion,I had no interest in them,it was too hard.
One day when I got home I told my dad I wasn't interested in been a doctor.
"Dad I really don't think I can cope,I hate those subjects! I really can't cope,I am going to fail them!" I said almost crying.
But my dad will not oblige,instead he told one I have never heard from him before in my life.
"I already told you that I want you to become a medical doctor and that is final but if you refuse to listen to my bidding,I will have no other option than to disown you,you really want to bring shame to this family right!!? You must love those subjects and learn it very well,if not you will see what I will do!!" He yelled and walk away.
I was so scared,I tried everything I could not to fail so that my father won't disown me,my mom too was in support that I should be a medical doctor but she wouldn't support my dad disowning me.
With that I graduated from secondary School,I didn't fail but I didn't get high score,he started preparing me for medicine and surgery as I read day and night, after about two attempts I gained admission into medical school,my father was so happy,he bought everything I needed for medicine, unknown to him that i already had what I want to do in my mind.
I started both medicine and music,I struggled hard with medicine just because of my father,I also continued singing and learning more about it outside on my own without my father knowledge,I was working hard to just gain the certificate as medical doctor but I had no interest in it,when I got to my fourth year in school it was difficult moving to the next level,but because I went to a private university I was able to move forward,I finished my university and I was given my certificate,It was my dad's career not mine,when I got I home I dropped the certificate in his room and I left home.
This is the sixth year I left home,I am now a known musician,I love what I do,I went to study medicine just for my parent, music is my passion,my life,if I had chosen medicine probably I won't be doing well like I am doing now,I might have made a lot of mistakes with surgeries,my mom kept calling and I told her I was fine,my father thought I would come back and pick up the certificate but to his greatest surprise I never did,my father wants me back,he said he already realized his mistakes,he shouldn't have told me to become what he became.
I am now a successful person in my career, this same thing alot of parents have altered their children's life thinking they are doing the right thing or helping their children,it is wrong for a parent to choose a career path for their children,let them make that choice themselves, don't interfere,don't interrupt,just support them,that career you think doesn't make sense might be the best for you child,you might think it's useless and child might do it and make a difference. Respect your children's decisions.
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Manifestation
Good morning everyone,I could post yesterday because I went for a program and there was no time,in my last 20years that program was the hottest,I could not even phantom not going in the first place. The program was about manifesting, where some of the fire packed ministers ministered there.
We should be able to manifest as believers,our manifestation should be on the outside not inside,we should know what we possess as believers,we are not permitted not to manifest,we should be able to manifest in all aspects of our lives, physically, financially, maritally, spiritually etc. A life is dead when it's not showing forth,the first minister said if you carry that fire,it will spread around people around you,they will catch the fire,he shared his experience when he was in school then he was already a preacher,one of his friends came to ask him for food and he told him to go and check his cupboard there is enough food there but he told him not look inside the cupboard, and the food will not finish,the guy kept coming everyday but when it got to a time he decided to check the cupboard but that was when the food finished. He said he has been manifesting since university days. When we have the Holyghost,laziness is not permitted,we must not be lazy,he said when you are lazy the Holyghost will disgrace you,he doesn't join hands with lazy people,when you are going for interview prepare well like you don't have the holyspirit,even when you are going for exams read well but when you get you manifest,we must go all out to manifest in different areas not only in church, infact church already has light,share the light outside the church, show the power in you.
The second preacher said he never said no to any opportunity,even when he doesn't know what it is all about,he won't say no,rather he would go and learn more about it,he said there was a time someone asked him if he can supply granite to them and he said yes but he didn't even know where they are selling granite but he said yes because he doesn't want to loose that opportunity of becoming great,you don't know what you will do exactly that will make you great,so that is the reason why you shouldn't miss any opportunity, grab them as they come, don't give excuse,there is no excuse for staying in that position,use your head,be wise.
The third woman said when God created us,he had manifestation for us,he created us with purpose in mind and that purpose is manifestation. God made sure your eyes are in the front so you can be forward looking and not backward looking,you are a spirit that lives in a body,that is spirit is YOU. We are just carrying about the body but what you will do or become in life is in that spirit,we think first then show forth what we are thinking, everything is created twice twice, first as a thought and second as a thing,it is your responsibility to manifest who you are,the frequency for manifestation is gratitude,we must show our gratitude, show gratitude as you go,then he will continue to lift you up,you dont arrive suddenly because he doesn't throw up,he lifts up, show gratitude.
And lastly alot of people are holding another people in their hearts because of the wrong that person has done to them,it might not be easy but please release them from the prison of your heart if you really want to manifest, holding them in your heart means you are holding yourself down too,you can't move forward,it's like tying a rope to the neck of someone and holding the rope,you will always be with that person because you are holding the rope and you won't move from there too,so please release that person,I understand the person has done alot of evil against you, please forgive wholeheartedly because one of the criteria for manifesting is forgiveness.
Thank you everyone,it's been a wonderful time here, thanks for all your likes, upvotes, comments, subscribes,I am grateful 🥰.
Helping others is gain
This life is in turns,just like a circle,it never has an end,what goes around comes around,whatever you sow you shall reap,it's not possible to sow stingy hand and expect to reap giving,you are in that position to be of help, people are connected to you so you can help,alot of destinies are connected to you,God has put you in that place to raise somebody up,if fail to do your path somebody else will come forward and your relevance will be cancelled.
When I lost my dad I gained admission the following year,my school fees was a much,I had no money neither my mom but I had to go to school,I ran helter skelter,i could not raise much because most of them didn't want to help but surprised me the most was someone like a father that I wasn't close to before,I always see him from afar off, though he knew my dad,the day I told him I was Mr so so daughter,he told me to see him in the office and I went,he completed my school fees. Alot of help God has raised after that,when God sees those people we trusted wasn't helping he raised someone else.
Now assume that man needs my assistance in the nearest future,don't you think I will do it with all my heart? Of course I will. That is why a proverb says"whatever you sow you shall reap".
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When I was going through the internet yesterday,I saw this àmerican lady helping a small poor boy,in the video it was said that the young boy was abandoned by his parents because they thought the boy was a witch and behind their misfortunes,the boy was really sick,so lean because even the villagers didn't help the boy,the were all afraid to touch him because of what they thought the boy was,I even had pity on the boy when I saw him,he was so lean and was about to die,but the American woman came,took the boy to her motherless home, started treating him and gave him food,that was when the boy was 2 years old till when he grew up to be more than 10years old,if you see the boy now,you wouldn't believe it was that boy of then,he was handsome and chubby.
Please when you have the capacity to help others please do,when you help others you gain more,you don't loose because if it's not waiting for you now,it will surely wait for you in the future, good things you do today will surely come back to you tomorrow, don't feel embarrassed to help others, don't feel reluctant, always be happy to help,if you do good people will talk about it,if it's the other way around they will still talk,why don't you do good and let others talk about the good things you've done. HELP OTHERS.
Boarding school; more harm or more good?
Hello everyone,I wanted to write a different article today but when I was going through @Chief_Mekus articles,I stumbled on this one of his articles, "Boarding or Day" which he talks about boarding school and day school, it gave me a new article to write on, when I was reading his article,I flashed back to when I was in secondary school,alot of things happened then,I attended a girls only secondary school,when I was I jss1 I told my parents I want register for boarding in my school because my school has day and boarding students. My parents said when I get to ss1 I will register,I was so eager to be in the boarding house, anytime I see my classmates going back to the dormitory I always wish I was part of them because they always carry themselves with much ego.
When I got to jss2 I started hearing different things about them, some seniors will lure their juniors to have carnal knowledge of them, some will tell their juniors to fetch all the waters they are going to use and also wash their clothes,I have a classmate then sometimes she sleeps in class,when she's asked why she will reply that she worked for another senior the previous day or she was punished the previous nights,those things are uncalled for, how can some seniors be wicked as such, different things happened back then.
When I was in ss1,I snapped out of the dream of going to boarding house,I preferred going home after closing hour, because I don't think I can undergo those torture,there was an incident that happened when I was in ss1 then that made me to vow never to go to boarding house again,a new student was admitted to our school at that time,it was rare to admit new student to Join us in ss1 but this girl was admitted and her sister too,she was from Abuja then, after about a month because she was registered for boarding house,so she was in the boarding house,one day a senior sent her to wash her clothes when she refused that she can't,and I think this girl is from a rich home so she doesn't do any strenuous work,when the senior realized that the student won't answer,she went and called her mates,they told her to kneel down and beat her,after that her back was heated with a hot iron,the news spread throughout the school then.
After that the lady went back to Abuja and she never came back to our school again,alot of things happen in boarding school,I understand that there are s some good students there but the bad ones are much and they have spoilt the good ones,you will hear news of broken locker,all foods stolen and all. Things are really happening in boarding school,even students with good morals from home sometimes get corrupted by the other students. I prefer day to boarding school.
Boarding house can cause more harm than good,they tend to relax more since there parents are not there,there are two of my students that went to boarding school last year,both siblings,there mom reported to me that they are not reading again,these kids when they were in primary school they are always the first in class both of them,but now because their dad can't supervisor them,the eldest got 26th position out of 38 last session and the youngest got 13th out of 30 student, isn't that backwardness??
Boarding house can cause more harm than day, after everything I came to a conclusion that I won't allow my future children to register for boarding school,I won't. Thank you very much for reading.
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Are you really adding value in that relationship?
Hi everyone,it's good to write today been the first day of may,2022, quickly we are close to the half of the year,it looks like yesterday when we started this year and there was alot of revolutions for this year,alot was written down by different people,I know my readers are also part,we are close to half of the year,just one month remaining to enter into June,what have you achieved? What is that goal you think you are already close to or probably you've achieved yours, congratulations to you,for the remaining month in the year let us look forward and work towards achieving that set goal,may the Lord help us all, amen.
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Quickly don't let us divert from today's topic,what is your importance in that relationship? Are you just a figure head or you are an asset? Quickly ask yourself that blunt question,have you added value to the life of your partner or you are just there for enjoyment sake. Since you started that relationship,can him or her say you have been a great solution provider? Is the other person appreciating or depreciating since you started your love journey? Are you really adding value?
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Relationship is not just the loving type, it can be related to the boss and employee relationship, friends or family, church members,but today we are talking about the erotic relationship, relationship between spouses,love can be easily said but can it be easily expressed? Loving someone means looking out for that person, always wanting the person to move forward, always contributing to their lives, if you are not impacting the life of your spouse positively then you are not worthy to be in that relationship,if it's only about you asking always, always taking and not giving back,it's a bad omen. One of my mentor once said one good egg and one bad egg cannot make a good whole egg,the bad egg will spoil the good one,the same way for a relationship,if the other person is good and the other one is bad,they can't compliment each other.
What if you are the only one always contributing, always adding value to the life of your partner but he/she is not doing the same for you, please bring the issue up,tell the person about it,if the person won't yield to it and you don't see yourself moving forward in that kind of relationship,you know what to do, please do the needful.
You have a long time to go, marital relationship is not just one year or two years,it's lifetime relationship, missing it in marriage is missing it in all,you deserve to be happy, choose wisely,open your eyes wide, don't let love cover it,if there is no good impact now,it is possible there won't be in the nearest future,talk about everything, don't leave one stone unturned.
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What colour are your thoughts?
Colours signifies our daily life,art and cultures,in ancient times colour was used to represent different things,even warriors then,when a warrior dies and they want to paint,they use the colour the warrior stands for to paint so that people will know what the life of the warrior was like. So today I am going to talk about colours and what it stands for in relations to our thoughts,our thoughts are meant to have colours, most times artists paints from their thoughts,what is going on in their mind or head, sometimes it comes out beautiful or shows anger or worry. So let's move to today's article.
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Colours and their meaning.
Out of all the colours in the universe,we will only talk about this few colours;
White- purity, cleanliness, virtue
Red- strength, passion,energy,war
Yellow- happiness,warmth
Green- growth,nature, fertility
Blue- sadness, calmness
Gray- moody, reserve
Brown- dependable, wholesome
Purple- royalty,creativity,nobility
Black- fear, evil or sadness.
Now let's pick them one after the other;
White- we all know what white stands for in our society,purity and virtue, many reasons why some people choose white even in their engagement ceremony,we all know white is the definite colour for white weddings, it depicts holiness, cleanliness and happiness,it used because that day is sacred. Now let's relate it to our thoughts,when our thoughts are clean and pure,or has virtue we can say our thoughts are white, when we think about only good and valuable things,when what we think about others is pure,we say our thoughts are white.
Red- To most people red stands for danger,I can agree on this because when there is war or problem,we can use red to signify that,this colour is linked with power, energy, strength,when we relate this to our thoughts,if what we feel is strength or energy we can say our thoughts are red.
Yellow- This is the colour of the sun,it depicts sunshine in someone's life,when there is sunshine,there will be happiness, warmth and hope,our thoughts can also show that we have hope or that we are happy,or when we have hope in someone or we are happy with someone,it shows our thoughts is yellow 🤷.
Green- The colour green shows nature,natural resources,growth in a place or nation,coldness, vitality, fertility, harmony,it shows something is fruitful. Now showing that in the context of our thoughts,we say our thoughts are green when it's fruitful or fertile,no bad vibe.
Blue- the colour of the sky or the blue sea, it's a calm reflection, sometimes it reflects sadness or hatred,it's also an act of responsibility,when your daily life or your thoughts is associated with this,you can say it's blue.
Gray- moody appearance or gloomy, your thoughts can be moody or reserved.
Brown - when you are a type of person that is dependable or when you have a wholesome mind,when your thoughts are truthful or honest.
Purple- purple depicts royalty, creativity,wealth,nobility,in ancient England the royal family wears purple to symbolise their status,when you have a creative thoughts,or your thoughts are noble,full of knowledge and wisdom,we relate it with the purple colour.
Black- Black colour always reflect negativity,it depicts fear, sadness, evil,mysteries or death. Sometimes when black colour is used we tend to understand that something bad has happened,our thoughts sometimes get connected to this,when all our thoughts reflect is fear , sadness or negativity we say our thoughts are black.
It's been a wonderful time here since I started,you all have been supportive,thank you so much for reading and upvoting.👍👍
Strong as United,weak as divided
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"We are each other's harvest,we are each other's business,we are each other's magnitude and bond". - Gwendolyn Brooks.
When I was going around this morning,I was just going around the compound and I saw this army of ants together and I decided to take a close look at them the reason why they are together, it occurs to me that they are actually carrying one thing together,it simply means if others leave and remained just one ant to carry that same thing,the ant won't be able to carry it because the others are not joining again but when the rest were there,they were able to carry it together.
Then I checked the lives of the ant and the lives of us as human beings,I concluded that we can do much better if we are United but when we are divided we can't do much. When you see a company moving forward and higher,it means everyone is working towards the success of the company but if there are rebellious people in the same company the company won't move forward unless those people are taken care of(sacked).
A proverbs says a house divided against itself cannot stand. We all know that when there is no enemy within,the enemy outside cannot hurt you,only the inside enemy will take your matter to the outside enemy,we can't be divided and expect much.
We are only as strong as we are United,but as weak as we are divided"- J.K Rowling. We cannot be United and weak,we can only be weak when we are divided, division doesn't birth something good,it births lose,pain, failure, unachievement and so on. We cannot be divided in interest or purpose and expect to end in the same direction,that is not possible.
Only people of the same goal can work together,unity has a long way to go in people's life,as tiny as the cobweb of a spider, when they unite they can tie in anything,when there is teamwork and collaboration alot of good things can be achieved. Unity in a nation has a lot to do towards the success or progress of the nation, a nation that is not moving forward is already divided against itself,only when the citizens are United then the nation can move forward. Unity is the key to progress, without unity there is no progress,when a family is United it will be easy for the family to achieve their common goals,it will be easy for them to move forward but when they are divided,they tend to loose focus thereby not achieving anything.
Thank you so much for reading my article.
Flee that hazardous relationship
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"Never beat a woman unless you are a bigger woman" -Daniel Tosh
The rate at which relationships are getting more toxic is getting higher by the day,no respect for the other person again, some people believe if there is no fight there won't be love,they are used to fighting. Alot of this things start from home,alot of abusive people out there have learnt to be abusive from home,it's either the father is beating the mother or the mother is shouting and locking the father's cloth,these things do emotional damage for the kids.
You can't expect a kid that comes from a emotionally damage home to know how to treat his friends at school,they always lack the love,what they don't have,they can't give. When you notice such kids they are always abusive,dull or always sad. When such kid grow up they tend to do what their parent did before in their own relationship except with divine intervention.
When abuse gets to the level of beating please leave,if you can't leave totally, separate for some time,there is this news that is still going on about the late osinachi,she was a popular singer but her husband cut that glory short by beating her to death,he has always been beating her but she doesn't want to leave her husband,her husband dictates every of her daily activities to her,what she must do and what she must not do,when she is called for a function to sing there,her husband will always reject that,she was given a studio in Abuja but her husband didn't allow her to take it. I see that as envy,her husband was envy of her,he didn't want her to get to a higher position than him,on several occasions as she turned down invitation because of her husband,that is the height of it. The kids later testified to it that even when they are coming from church he would push their mum down from the car and leave her there to take bike home, don't you think that's an height of wickedness? I was shocked to hear all this things about her and yet she still decided to stay in that marriage, and now she is no more,her family said they have told her to leave but she said God is against divorce and that her husband will get better.
Who gets better from beating? No one right,a wife beater will always be a wife beater,my pastor once told me that if he slaps you in a relationship,he will beat you up when you get married,there nothing like he will change,a lot of people fail to understand that marriage magnifies problem it does reduce it.
Let's not forget the fact that some ladies are abusive too, some even beat their husbands,when a woman is always angry and aggressive,she will soon kill that man, husband love your wife and wife respect your husband,when you love someone you don't raise your hand on such person,it a taboo to do that. If you are experiencing an abuse in a relationship please leave,take your leave, don't let it get to beating at all, respect yourself,love yourself, don't let anyone maltreat you anyhow.
Give your kids a better life and future, don't make them believe beating and fighting is the best,let their be love in that home,let them experience love so they can share with others. STOP THE ABUSE
Thank you everyone, thanks you to all my upvoters, thanks for the massive love I have received since I have joined.
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