The pains are no longer present, and all that remains is joy!, this implies that we are bound to encounter challenges, i.e it is apparent inevitable, but our approaches to tackle it hunt us down, therefore, once you give a tactical approach, the pain will be no more.
In this article, i gave several instances base on life experience, which is about my trip and outing during my present and past school time and it is the memorable experience i ever had.
Trip to a desert
When we went out into the desert, it was one of the most memorable experiences of my life. We were accompanied by our friend Ayo, whose vision was severely impaired. We would serve him and provide him with water, dates, and coffee while he insisted, "I must help you." I'd like to collaborate with you. “Give me something to do,” meanwhile, In the meantime, we'd all forbid him from doing anything.
We'd slaughtered a goat, cut the meat into pieces, and carried it with us in a pot, ready to cook. We hadn't yet started the fire because we were too preoccupied with setting up the tent and arranging other things. Ayo was overcome by vigor, and while we wished he hadn't been, he stood up and turned to the pot to inspect the meat inside.
He determined that the first step should be to pour water over the meat. He went through our belongings in the car, looking for things like an electricity generator, wires, lamps, four bottles of water and gasoline, and other items. He took the nearest bottle to him and happily returned to the pot, pouring half of it in. When one of us caught sight of it, he screamed, “No! No! Ayo!’ while we immediately snatched the bottle away from him and began to laugh hysterically with tears in our eyes, as we noticed that the bottle contained petrol and not water! As a result, we only had bread and tea for lunch. However, the trip was not ruined. It was, in fact, one of the best trips we'd ever taken. Why should we continue to torment ourselves over something that was already done and dusted?
I also recall going on a trip with a few classmates when I was in secondary school. One of the cars' batteries died. We brought another car up against the broken-down vehicle in order to connect the two batteries. Meanwhile, Kola arrived and took a position between the two cars. He connected the first battery to the dead battery. He then requested that a friend start the engine. This friend of ours stayed in the car, oblivious to the fact that the vehicle was in first gear.
The car jumped forward as soon as he turned it on, and Kola's knees were struck by the car bumpers, causing him to fall to the ground, while our friend in the car kept asking, "Shall I turn the engine on, again?" We separated the cars and assisted Kola in walking.
He was limping and in a lot of pain in his knees. What surprised me was that he didn't aggravate his pain by yelling and insulting anyone, or even rebuking them. He simply smiled cheerfully. What was the point of yelling when the situation had been resolved and our friend had realized his error?
As a result, if you want to enjoy your life, follow this rule: Don't get caught up in trivial matters. We often torture and react negatively ourselves because we are upset, distressed, and in pain. However, pain does not solve any problems. Assume you attend a wedding wearing a beautiful gown and a beautiful headscarf with a headband to keep the scarf in place, and you look more handsome than the groom himself! You begin shaking hands with people one by one when a child appears from behind you, grabs the tip of your headscarf, and pulls on it, causing it to fall along with the headband and hat. You start to resemble a clown. In this situation, what should you do?
Many of us react to such situations in ways that do not resolve the issue. One could chase after the child, yelling, insulting, and cursing. What was the end result? The child achieves his goal of attracting attention, causing uproar, and making people laugh. Others may film the scene and send it to one another via Bluetooth! In this case, you are not punishing the child, but rather punishing yourself. Assume you're wearing a new outfit that you haven't fully paid for. You attend a job interview at a company. You walk through one of the freshly painted doors. There is a warning sign next to it, but you don't notice it. Some of the paint accidentally rubs off on your clothing.
The painter starts yelling at you, embarrassingly and rudely. So how do you handle such a situation? We frequently deal with such situations in ways that do not aid in the resolution of the problem. We'd become enraged and insult the painter, saying things like, "Why didn't you make the sign clear?" Which he would respond to with even more rage. As a result, you may end up covered in dust rather than paint!
Take your time! Do you realize that you're only punishing yourself by acting this way?
You can say the same thing if you're dressed up and walking down the street to somewhere, and a car passes by as you're approaching, driving over a puddle and splashing water all over your clothes. Would you punish yourself by yelling at the car and its passengers after the car has already left? Similarly, there is no need to dwell on the difficulties we have encountered in our lives.
These traumatic events should not be remembered. The pains are no longer present, and all that remains is joy. As a result, don't kill yourself with grief.
Likewise, do not kill people out of grief and blame. Sometimes we approach problems in ways that do not lead to solutions.
Thought!
Dealing with a problem in ways that do not solve it only punishes you and does not even solve it!
The deed has been done. What is next is to find solutions to it rather than dwelling on it and wailing yourself down Crying and wailing won't solve Problems, they will only add up to the Problem causing you more harm and before you know it, you are already hurting yourself within Stop worrying over things you can't control but you just should ignore and find solutions to it.