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In life, we are faced with a high level of expectations by parents and the outside world and surrender to the coercion of being someone that we are not. We thought that freedom is a natural right. But freedom has become a delusion that wrecks our lives. People like to think that they have the freedom to live a life as they see like. But it is rather the opposite.
The moment a person was born, The parents will already have his life planned. His mother plans for him to be the next Doctor while His father wants him to be a lawyer. Meanwhile, the child wants to play with toys. He can not even understand what the future is meant. But the parents have imagined it and plan to raise him along with that plan.
As we grow older, especially for males, we will be faced with athletics. Father will sign us up for a football, And he will expect you to be the next Lionel Messi, The father will not leave you be until you're a home run hitting, goal-scoring, He will keep you out In the back yard practicing all day long rather than doing your homework or watching TV.
The mother also plays a vital role in planning the child's life, As she will always the child with others. When the child fails a test, She may ask: Why didn't you pass, like your brother? And the answer to that question is because the child is not his "brother" nor did the child want to be. Everyone should live his/her own life they choose, rather than how someone else chooses for them.
Parents also try to shape a child by comparing him to a celebrity. When a child refuses to do as he/she was told, he/she will ask: "Do you think Steven Rodgers or Angelina Jolie ever told his/her mother he/she was not going to do as told? The parent thinks this will persuade you to be respectful and do as you are told. When the child is perfecting his ball scoring, in the back yard with dad and got tired, the will dad says: Do you think that Messi ever gave up when he was just a little tired? Parents will try to persuade a child into things by mentioning an inspirational subject to mold you into the perfect child.
Growing older makes the importance of secondary education and a career increases. Parents may want a child to attend the same college as they did. Mom wants him/her to study medicine at Princeton, just as she did, while dad wants him/her to study law at Harvard like his brother. Again the child is not giving a chance to make his/her own choice. But if the child was given a choice, he/she might rather just study accounting at Saint John's University. No matter what path the child chooses, either mom, dad. or his/her choice will be disappointed because you can not please everyone.
Another approach on this article is destiny. One's life may be predestined. One who grows up poor and somehow manages to create his own dream and become successful. One may have achieved this because he/she was destined to do so. It was not the freedom that enabled him/her to gain so much. Agreeable, Freedom allowed dreaming and becoming successful, but it was destiny that let the dream become a reality. One's destiny can also control his/her characteristics. Like, Why is not everyone born with the ability to sing with the same skill? A simple answer to that question is that they were not born for the same purpose, that skill was never part of their destiny.
The Constitution set by the government control our lives too. This the reason why we do not live in disorder. Without the laws, there would be minimal awareness of right from wrong. Murder would be an answer to any misunderstanding, as a horrible crime as it is. Without law enforcement, people would live with no respect for others' freedom. This is the reason we need to have rules to govern our lives, rather than live with complete freedom and liberty.
Many times we find ourselves absorbed by our right of individual freedom: However, others do have a dream of what we will become and significantly affect our actions to see that we achieved that dream. The sharpening of our lives begins at birth and will continue until we are on our own, If we were to be given the freedom to live as we see fit, we would not be so much. Hence, our prime concerns would not be reasonable. When it is time to learn something new, we would want to play, and when it is time to work, we will not be prepared because we rather play than learn. Therefore we must appreciate the guidance we received when we are raised, for, without childhood guidance, we could never become successful.
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Peace
Too much expectations ruin so many relations