...At First Sight!
A few days ago, Zizy Mena had me laughing so much in one her posts where she told us of one of her encounters with a man who saw her at the bus stop and decided to pay for her cab and since then he won't stop disturbing her with calls and messages saying he loves and misses her.
To be honest, there are some ladies that you encounter sometimes and they just blow your mind away, you almost certainly feel your soul reaching seventh heaven. They are so divine and flawless that they completely sweep you off your feet and you immediately just wish them to be the mother of your kids and the one to spend eternity with. Love at first sight!!
However, a question beckons in the corners of my mind and that is; is it really love? Or is it some form of basic but deep attraction disguised to be love? A deception of physical appeal or a pseudo-love embedded in bodily enticement?
Is it really Love at first sight or just mere attraction to what is being beheld by our very eyes?
It is no doubt that attraction can evolve into something deeper if fed with the right ingredients and nurtured with the right nutrients! There also comes the place of being purposeful, being intentional about what you want! I once heard the story of a popular actor who was on set in an enclosed room, and a fellow actress who had never seen prior to that day walked into that same room. Immediately he saw her, he told his colleagues, pointing to the lady "That is my wife..." They have been happily married for over 40 years now and counting...
If you ask me if he loved her at that first instance, I'd say no, was he attracted?? Hell, Yeah!! But that attraction led him to be intentional about his desires, he was purposeful! It wasn't just by accident! He drove home his intentions.
Attractions can be physical and mental or both at the same time, they can happen by accident and can happen in an instance! Love on the other hand grows, requires being intentional, and I dare say do not happen by accident!
Love is all-encompassing and must be nurtured properly, purposefully and sacrificially.