What are you passing through?
WHAT ARE YOU PASSING THROUGH?
There was this old woman I knew. She had three legs(walking stick), was blind and could not do anything on her own. Despite been supplied with everything money could buy to sustain her in her condition, she got tired. She wished she could see again, walk again and carry out her daily activities by herself. If wishes were horses, beggars would ride. None of her dreams came to accomplishment, her condition deteriorated beyond treatment, she died.
There was this other woman whom we always help with farm work. She had an only son who deserted her and went to the city without bringing returns to appease the old woman. She was partially deaf and speaking to her meant dissipating a lot of energy if she must hear you. She became very old, with no one to care for her needs. Eventually, she became blind. Old age, partial deafness plus blindness. It became that bad. She died.
There was this old man I came across on my way to the market sometime back in 2020. Sitting naked right ahead of me beside the road, I slowed down my movement, walking calculatingly, perhaps considering him to be a mad man, waiting to see his reaction towards me. Since that was the only way I had to follow, I walked on fully prepared for what he would do. As I walked closer, all I initially thought was wrong. This man had his right leg decayed to the bone from the thigh down to the knee. My eyes turned away at the sight of that as though under a reflex action. Who would feed him? Who would have the courage to care for his health? Where was the family? I kept asking myself with no single answer coming up. I never saw him again.
What are you passing through?
You have been given the privilege to see today, it is not a right. Whatever you are passing through, remember someone is watching over you. Remember that the good things you have are not given to you because you deserve them, it is because of the love your creator has for you. Waking up this morning wasn't your decision, it was God's own decision to fulfil his promises for your life through his unmerited favour upon you.
Have you no course to appreciate your maker for all he has been doing in your life? God loves you. You are not better than those who are suffering from one situation or the other. A lot of people died without falling sick, the accidents and many more you can think of. The sudden death of people around you keeps shocking you but here you are, strong and healthy. God loves you. He needs no money from you, but you just have to appreciate him. Say something to your Creator today.
DISCIPLINE, THE FRAME OF REFERENCE
Growing up as a child taught me hard lessons about defaulting to the laid down rules. Being deprived of certain pleasures was not awesome as I usually felt dejected. Barely did I learn I was been streamlined to fit in for greater pleasures ahead.
Virtually every one of us passes through a little segment of discipline as enforced compliance or systematic method of obtaining obedience.
Discipline in its nature is not awesome in most cases as it denies us some things. Yes, that is how it goes. It goes beyond doing as you wish, but rather doing as the rule demands. When I was a child, I had this feeling that our father hated us. This came as a result of his persistent correction in the acts of beating. On the other hand, my cousins had the power to do and undo, they had the freedom to do whatever they wanted.
As it stands now, I can boldly say that we are now enjoying those things they enjoyed and we are morally upright. Their case is nothing to write home about.
Do not overlook any form of misbehaviour among your young ones. Dare to correct and reposition them on the right track.
Don't say; nobody is a child. No! Is not everyone we see is the adult we see in the physical, they are children on the inside. They need a frame of discipline to enable them to grow into adults. It is not by physically correcting them, but the way you talk to them backing up your discussion with reasons is a simple way of instilling discipline.
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Greetings Everyone
ONE OF THE GREATEST GIFTS YOU WILL EVER HAVE IS PEOPLE
One of the challenges I've had in the past was my inability to interact socially with people to get connections or personal advancement. My struggle to become my best self was rather slow and negligible. My knowledge and experiences were not enough to put me through my dreams and goals. Fighting within me by myself left me with weaknesses that overpowered me all of the time.
Success does not come by keeping your weaknesses to yourself, but by telling them to someone who has the potential to help you out.
On the other hand, being kind to people in need and preserving their privacy and integrity are some of the best gifts you can ever give to people.
Keeping silent at the expense of your personal growth when a single word can bring you to a point you have been longing to be is the worse decision you will ever make. Every situation no matter how hard it seems to be has a solution that can be given to you by one or two persons around you only if you open up.
We are not enough and that's why no individual can stand on his own to become the best he wishes to be. There are elevators (people) at every point who will serve as guides to you.
The people you have around you are a special gift of God to you. They are not there only to keep you company, it goes beyond that limit. With them, you will get to learn more and discover more.
Having one or two persons to share your challenges is the first step in solving them. Our experiences alone cannot serve us the best. Don't get yourself stuck at one point as a result of your inability to have productive networking with people. Go right out and make known your challenges to those who can help you.
I think it's right on point if I say you've got the best being a member of this group. Through people, you have learnt a lot and you are still learning. That is to tell you that the best of all gifts is people. A productive and purpose-driven approach will help solve the puzzle.
Make use of that gift.
UNDERSTANDING THE SUPERPOWER OF TIME
Time is one of the greatest assets available to man, the same time turns out to be the most misused asset by man. Time has only one direction. When it passes right by you, it carries with it many opportunities of a lifetime that you can never have again.
A survey carried out on 200 old men and women shows that many of them wish they could become young again, many wish they could love again, some wish they could go back to their past and correct the mistakes they made when they were young.
Time is wicked and same time nice. It depends on how you value your seconds and minutes. If you don't value your seconds, you can't value the minutes, if you don't value your minutes, certainly you can't value your hours, and the chain continues to a point where your dreams, goals and potentials will become valueless to you.
How you use your time determines whether you will meet your goals, temporary or permanent defeat in time to come. Every moment of your life, if not well utilised carries away more than it brings to you, leaving you with worries and regrets over opportunities you had but could not use them.
Time gives life and same time kills.
We all have our expiry date and so do our goals, dreams and God-given potentials. It is quite a common experience that in most cases, our goals and dreams expire even before us. This usually happens when an individual is not able to seize his lifetime opportunity and make the best use of it.
Time kills not necessarily physical. My friend once made a post with this caption that caught my attention; Death is not the greatest loss in life, the greatest loss is what dies inside of you when you are still alive.
We are not getting any younger, we must be willing at all times to forge ahead with time. It is better to act on time than allowing time to act on you. The best of all times is the one which you have at the moment. The decision you make now will go a long way in correcting many things in your future.
On every birthday, you celebrate. It appears to be the best moment of your life. That's not enough. It's good to celebrate, but it's much more important if you can celebrate that which you have recorded in all these years as your achievements. Making the right and productive use of time is the most important of them all.
You can't kill time, but it slowly kills you. Be wise and be careful, if you are not able to seize the opportunities at that moment, time will rob you of them.
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Growing Up
Are you a person of ambitions? Do you often have mind-blowing ideas but never get any of them to work?
Growing up, I had always loved reading and writing. I had even gone as far as getting started with a book back in 2016. What had motivated me was the talent show being organised by our church? I didn't know what to do but then I knew beyond any reasonable doubt I wanted to be one of the participants. After serious considerations, I decided I was going to write a book.
One would expect that since then I've been writing and under normal circumstances, a four year experienced writer. However, it will shock you that it is only three months back that I started being intentional about the writing issue. The book many awaited never became a reality. up to date, when I meet certain people they still ask me about the whereabouts of that book.
Learning about this challenge I was very excited about participating. I have been longing for such an opportunity and finally, I got one. All the enthusiasm contained within me seemed to be neutralised when I began scrolling through the posts of few people who had already gotten engaged.
" Hope, you can't compare with these people. This is not your place. You should take more time to better yourself before you can even think of getting involved in subsequent opportunities which may emerge. As of now, you are not good enough to partake" These are a few of the thoughts that invaded my mind.
Unlike several birds who leave their nest and then learn to fly, A swallow is one of those which often waits in its nest till it is capable of flying. Then and only then does it get out of its nest.
Most times, just like the swallow, we want to be fully equipped before we begin. Regardless, certain things can only be learnt in the course of the journey.
There comes a time in a bird's life when it has to leave its nest and failure to do so can be very disastrous. The same goes for us. In the three months, I decided to get intentional I've realised I got to learn many things I might have never learnt if I never began at all.
Remembering this, I then knew without any iota of scepticism that this challenge is going to strengthen my wings for flight.
What is that thing you've been planning to do but haven't started as of yet? You don't need to become the best before you start. You can however become the best if you start.
The sooner you start the better!
What if I don't succeed?what if no one thinks it is good enough?what If I am criticised? What if, what if, what if...
When anxiety is present, "what ifs" come to the scene. One of the reasons why we remain in our comfort zone is FEAR. Yes, you got me right fear. Fear of taking risks, fear of the unknown, fear of...
We are so familiar with the nest that fear prevents us from getting out and exploring that which is beyond the nest. Looking critically, there are several activities essential for birds but which cannot be carried out in confines of the nest? True or yes?
We, therefore, see that at a certain point, the best becomes a limiting factor. Step out of that nest!!
I imagine that when it's time to leave the nest, just a glance out of the nest tends to scare some young birds. "It's so high from here, I don't know how to fly what if I fall and not rise?
I can't go I'll better stay here" one might moan.
Its true fear can set in amid uncertainty. but then we need not let fear take the lead. The truth is this; if you are waiting for everything to become certain, if you are waiting for that time when you'll need not take any risk, you ultimately might never start.
It's not like it's easy it isn't. It takes a bold and fearless person to leave his place of comfort and bargain for that which is not affluent for the sake of being better and productive.
Come to think of it. If you do not start because of the fear of failing, you will eventually fail because you never actually started. To me, not starting is already a form of failure.
It is better to fail after trying than failing without trying at all.
But if you try it's never really a complete failure if you learnt something in the course of the process.
It is said, " The journey of a thousand miles begins with a step." That step might seem so little at the time but many of them compounded will someday yield something great.
Get out of that nest, rule over fear and become more productive. Your progress should be progressive, not stagnant. When it becomes stagnant, it's no longer progress.
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Three things I learnt during the lockdown which shifted my finances to a new level Part Two
3 THINGS I LEARNT DURING THE LOCKDOWN WHICH SHIFTED MY FINANCES TO A NEW LEVEL Part Two
Last week I shared the first two lessons the lockdown opened my eyes to. Today I will be rounding off with the last lesson.
3. TAKING ACTION REQUIRES SOMETIMES WORKING WITH A COACH
I have seen the impact of laziness and procrastination in my life and the life of others.
You can be so knowledgeable and passionate but BROKE. This happened to me last year until I paid for few sessions that boosted my execution skills.
I have worked with clients who never thought they will write and publish their first or next book. It was like a dream to them because laziness and procrastination held them back from becoming authors.
Sometimes you don't need the motivation to take action rather you need a push from a coach. That person is a no-nonsense coach who will push you out of your comfort zone until you start taking action.
Getting a coach will make you stop wasting money paying for online courses that you don't need.
I have seen many people pay for online courses they don't need. This is where working with a coach helps you identify what you need to FOCUS on learning and implementing.
I am sure you have seen from my experiences that the above LESSONS are key in changing your financial future?
Money is not hard to get rather you are the one not paying attention to principles like the ones I have shared above. You can start making money now when you apply for the above LESSONS.
Create other streams of income by learning digital skills, turning your knowledge and experiences into books, online courses or coaching programs people will desperately pay for.
Don't sit down comfortable with one stream of income no matter how small or big it is. Start a side hustle business even if you are an employee.
As a graduate or undergraduate, learn a digital skill and start working with brands online. There are many of them looking for skilful individuals to employ virtually. Get a coach today, stop waiting for freebies and depending on YouTube videos alone. Yes, those things are good but can't take you far in your financial freedom journey.
Go look for that coach now and pay him or her.
I AM TIRED OF BEING BROKE EVEN WHEN I HAVE A SKILL.
If this is the question going through your mind since the beginning of JANUARY 2021 then I got good news for you. I want to reveal to you the NUMBER ONE reason why you are BROKE even when you have a money-making skill.
There are at least TEN of these REASONS in my free audio course why many SKILLFUL individuals are BROKE but because of time, I want to dwell on just one of them.
I did everything possible to get high paying clients but all to no avail until it became crystal clear that my problem wasn't the lack of high paying clients rather it was;
MY MINDSET
Are you shocked?
MINDSET plays a big role in breaking out of poverty as a skilful individual. What you think, how you think and the information you keep feeding on daily contributes to the MINDSET you display daily.
" There is nobody that can pay me 50k for my SKILLS "
This is a mindset that will keep you BROKE even with your skills until you BREAK out.
"I have surveyed everywhere for buyers and no one WISHES to condescend me "
Another mentality you must BREAK out from. I don't believe that out of over 7.9 Billion people in the world and over 210 million people in Nigeria, there is nobody that can patronize your SKILLS.
Do you see that the first way to BREAK out is restructuring your MINDSET?
Any MINDSET that is reconfigured well to attract clients can't go BROKE. Whatever you are not making with your SKILLS now is first because your MINDSET is not yet configured to attract them.
Work on your MINDSET today or remain broke. Mention one major action point you will be acting on from what you learnt in this article. There are three major ways to crush your sales goals for May and beyond leveraging the internet;
1. Understanding your target market
2. Knowing where they can be found
3. Attracting them to your optimized social media platforms using content creation strategies.
Let me add one more as a bonus
4. Using what I call low priced information products like ebooks or online courses to get them to taste your business products or services before up selling to them premium services or products.
I used these four strategies to close a book project consulting deal during the week. You need to learn how selling online works or else you will keep struggling to crush your sales goals. Take out time to plan out your week and be intentional in crushing your sales goals.
Did you get value?
Yes or No?
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What if I tell you a story without a title
What if I tell you a story without a title
Nsikan!!! You must kill me today ohhhh. I said you must kill me today. Shebi you want to meet that prostitute. E no go to work today. After work, you go take all your money give am. Go check our kitchen, you no go find even a cup of rice. When you come back, you go tell me to say make I give you food.
Rose leave my trouser, I go injure you. The beating wey you chop yesterday never do you? Leave my trouser, Rose !!!!
This is me eavesdropping on this newly married couple arguing. My neighbour married his wife not up to three years now. Ever since they got married, this has been the atmosphere, fight upon the fight, new drama to unfold every single day, new punches to throw and new karate skills to display. They must be at it again, I thought aloud. Just then, I overheard one of the single ladies say "if this is how marriage is, then I would never go into it"
I was flabbergasted by the word "never". Fine Lady, handsome bobo listen up. Marriage is a lifetime goal, Stop making that woman regret why she chose you, stop making that man regret why he chose you. Stop making the singles and yet to be married loathe the word "marriage" Stop inflicting pains on your spouse. Stop making the companion of "love" to be the companion of "hate, pains and anguish"
Yes, marriage is not a bed of roses but with "communication" you can scale through. Marry your best friend, marry your spec, marry someone who could see the sadness behind those smiles. Do you know why that relationship is going down the drain? Because it lacks communication. You have refused to communicate. Better communication fosters better understanding. Instead of fighting, y don't you sit him/her down, don't talk to your spouse, rather "talk with your spouse"
Be committed and be faithful.
MURDERED
I heard my phone beep, I sluggishly took a snappy look and oh midnight, my study hour. Just then, I heard a knock on my door, I wondered who could be knocking at such an ungodly hour.
Who is there?
I asked that question three consecutive times but no response. Just then a quick thought meandered through my cerebrum, wait a minute that should be Sam, my boyfriend. He was supposed to come earlier today, what could make him come at this hour?
I tiptoed down to the doorway very consciously, I was sweating and panting at the same time. Many thoughts ran through my head, what if the highway robbers remembered me today? When I got close to the door, I called up to Sam and he answered. Heaven knows how I got a complete nerve relaxation at this point. I unlocked the barrier and he came in. We talked about many issues before we finally dozed off.
At exactly 6:00 am, I woke up to a figure standing in front of my mirror with a sharpened table knife. This figure had blood all over his body, I wiped my face to ascertain whether or not it was a dream but alas it was all real. I screamed hard when he changed to Sam and then back to the bloody figure I saw.
You wrecked my life, Because of you, I am now a dead man leaving behind my dreams and aspirations. You are such a grout!! I gave you all but you wanted more, what didn't I do to prove my love? If you hadn't forced me to come this night, then this wouldn't have happened to me. Because of you, those wicked ritualists murdered me and took away my heart. You will die!!! He drew closer, the more I screamed, the more closely he drew. He raised his hands with a raised eyebrow and........
Cut...
Cut...
You have to start all over again. This should be scenery, make it look real.
TELL YOUR STORY.....
Are you a girl, boy, adult, youth or a teenager? Have you been sexually harassed or molested? You're probably ashamed of it. This message is for you.
Now come close,
More close,
Most close,
Oya hold your two ears,
grab your popcorn with your left leg as I tell you this story...
You have grown ohhh. Look at you, bring the food inside for me. No fear me ohhh, I am your uncle. Come inside ma tell you something.
That was Ada's uncle talking, Ada who is now 15 has grown to be so beautiful. Not to mention figure 8 which she now possess. As a young girl who is naive enough, who has no primary background in sex education, who thought her uncle had pure intentions.
Why didn't she read meanings to his words? She was continuously raped by the one she calls uncle, by the one who chases her to go put on her pants when she was little. Now the reverse is the case. Her hymen was broken by her uncle who was supposed to protect it. As a first-timer, her system wasn't strong enough and as a result, she gave up the ghost.
Parents these days, tend to shy away from all sexual talks and for what reason? Anything is taboo but Maka why? Stop shying away from sexual matters, tell your story, stop being ashamed of it. Do you know that if you remain quiet, then they are likely to make the same mistake? You get to share that success story. A success story is not only in business and in academics. That you have trailed through that path, gone through all the depression and yet your still standing is a success story. Someone is patiently waiting to hear that success story. U gat to tell them how you fought those wars, how you fought that fear, how you overcame that depression.
DON'T STAY SILENT, TELL YOUR STORY
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How to gain Popularity
How To Gain Popularity
Being popular can be crazy, you can take action now, and become famous in 2 seconds. We have seen famous musicians, actors, and actresses, how people all over the world love them. Unfortunately, not all people in the world love their ways of movement. Do you wish to gain popularity and you don’t know the next step to take?
There was this time, I went for an acting class, this very man asked a question that got me thinking, and the question was “Why Do You Act?” A beautiful girl was called, and she stood up diligently to answer the question and this is what she said: “Because I want to be famous”.
Normally, we all know that actors and actresses are famous, but not all actors and actresses are famous, well, should I just say, there is a level of popularity. It just depends on how you be yourself.
ᴡʜᴀᴛ ɪꜱ ᴘᴏᴘᴜʟᴀʀɪᴛʏ?
ᴘᴏᴘᴜʟᴀʀɪᴛʏ ɪꜱ ʜᴏᴡ ᴍᴜᴄʜ ᴀ ᴘᴇʀꜱᴏɴ, ɪᴅᴇᴀ, ᴘʟᴀᴄᴇ, ɪᴛᴇᴍ, ᴏʀ ᴏᴛʜᴇʀ ᴄᴏɴᴄᴇᴘᴛ ɪꜱ ᴇɪᴛʜᴇʀ ʟɪᴋᴇᴅ ᴏʀ ᴀᴄᴄᴏʀᴅᴇᴅ ꜱᴛᴀᴛᴜꜱ ʙʏ ᴏᴛʜᴇʀ ᴘᴇᴏᴘʟᴇ.
Do you wish to be popular anywhere you go, try and follow these very steps?
Initially, don’t try to be popular! When you have the skill, your skill is your skill, you don’t expect people to like you or wish to be around you. Your first dream is not about popularity, it is the contribution of society. Your mind should be "how you will be able to achieve this than being famous". Popularity comes from nowhere, don’t think about popularity, think about the next step, because people who like you, like you because of what you do, and how you do it.
The first time I attended junior school, I was quiet and respected, all I do is observe and learn. Moreover, I have this career of dancing, anytime there is an exhibition in the school, I always wish to show my talent, but I was shy. Funny enough, My friends know that, when there is a beat playing, my body always moved. In the class, someone from nowhere said, Amna dance nau, plssssssss……
I danced, and surprisingly, the MC, who is in charge of the exhibition, was gazing at me, and she said, who are you? I introduced myself humbly, then, she finally said, you must dance in the exhibition, I said, Ma’am, I can’t. She finally said, “trust me, when you dance, you will be surprised”.
And behold, I danced and I was awarded the money I never expect. The known and unknown people started appreciating and also giving me amazing feedback.
In this aspect, I was known as a dancer and people were able to learn from me. I wowed.
You know for you to be known, be a lovable person, because when they start gossiping, they gossip about the good things you have done. You live by example!
"Think of others surplus than you reckon of yourself". What are you planning to give to the world and makes them feel good, is it inspiring or discouraging life. Don’t try to be someone else because you want to be famous, be yourself, and discover who you are.
I am cheering you on.
THERE IS NO PERFECT IDEA
If you are the type that is looking for an idea that everyone would agree with it. I will advise you to forget about accomplishing anything in your life. I have never seen a motion raised without opposition or a supporter. Every idea has its good and bad side. Never reject an idea because something is wrong with it because you will never have a perfect idea.
It is only the hypocrites that Labour to please everyone. Always remember that anything good you are trying to initiate someone will certainly excavate something wrong in it.
Don't stop pursuing a good idea because something is wrong with it. Perfection only exists in the minds of fools. It is better to attempt and fail than to do nothing excellently. When you direct your mind toward the things you don't have, it will create more problems in your life.
This can literally affects your learning, memory and achievement in different areas of your life. You would be an empty human being ample with worries and miseries.
Learn to direct your thoughts toward the things you want, whether you have it or not. Anything that can dwell for long in the realm of the Mind will soon manifest itself in the present.
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Be sensitive to the needs of others
BE SENSITIVE TO THE NEEDS OF OTHERS!
It was Friday at my place of work. As usual, I was trying as much as possible to clear my desk and to get all pending requisition and appointments fixed as requested by my boss.
My other colleague whose desk is just a few steps away from mine seems to have a lot of work to do. And if she doesn't get her desk cleared, then there's a tendency that she will be coming to work over the weekend.
I don't like coming to the office over the weekend to complete an unfinished task. So, I rolled up my sleeves and by 2:10 pm that Friday, I was already through with my work. I had enough time to relax, laugh and chat with some other colleagues in our office department. You know how the weekend groove just gets everybody going!!!
As happy as I was that Friday, I couldn't help it when I pictured Jane still flipping through one document to another, putting pen to paper, making calls to an important client and sweating all over!
So, I asked her reassuringly, ' Jane, it seems you're not through with your work yet. Would you mind me helping you?'
Whew! She was glad that I showed my intention to assist. Together we did the work and within 1 hour she got her desk cleared and was grinning from ear to ear too! Jane said something that struck me that day. She said, ' sometimes, the best gift you can give to anyone in need, is just a helping hand. Because a needy heart hardly forget a helping hand'
What a word?
Truth is, we need to learn how to be sensitive to the needs of others around us. We need to learn how to help people get through whatever they're going through. This is one of the easiest ways I know to find true joy, fulfilment, happiness and success!
DON'T JUST SAY IT; BE COMMITTED TO IT!
Have you ever asked someone a question regarding their performance level or productivity?
If you haven't, I have!
Recently I asked a young boy that question and you can guess the answer as much as I do.
The boy replied by saying, 'Sir, I'm trying'
Then I pressed on again to get the boy to be more realistic and committed with his response. Then he replied again, 'Sir, at least I'm not below average, I'm trying my best
The issue I have with this boy responses and that of many others is this:
1. Such a response doesn't get you anywhere, because they're not backed up by a specific or realistic goal.
2. Such a response also relieves your mind the ability to think creatively and get things done excellently.
3. It forces you to maintain the status quo.
4. It gives you the false idea, that after all, there's nothing more to be done.
5. It limits your capacity to achieve more!
Enough of this, 'i'm trying my best when in reality you're not! Stop 'trying' and just 'try', and give it your best shot and see what happens! For many of us, our language is what is deceiving us!
Change your vocabulary and be more committed to what you are saying. And that will be your starting point to success!
ARE YOU SURE YOU STILL BELIEVE IN THAT DREAM OF YOURS?
The pain of potential by T. D Jake's got me thinking yesterday as I flipped through the noise. cash. Most people look at themselves full of ideas and abilities, but they feel as if life has eluded them.
Have you ever been there where you asked some of these questions or reminisced over these mind bugging thoughts?
I thought by now I would have finished school. I thought by now I should have owned my own house. I thought I would have bought my car by now. I thought I would have been financially free by now. I thought I would be able to launch my new business in the last 5 years. I thought I would have been able to settle down. I thought I would have created my digital products.
I thought I would have increased my client base and attracted quality customers. I thought these products were the high ticket and would have made me rich. I thought I would have written this book. It's just so much, I could keep it going on and on...
Listen to me...
Ability is not the same as reality!
Your potentials need strategic juice!
Energy can be positive or negative. When you are full of ability and there's no strategic activity to turn your ideas into reality, you will be left with negative energies like bitterness, jealousy and laziness.
Ideas are real, THOUGHTS ARE THINGS...
When you grab them and you can't execute, they become the source of your depression. God doesn't want you to live in a limbo, a place in time where you are confused...
AMNA, WHAT SHOULD I DO THEN?
Build capacity!
Most of the things you want and desire to achieve are on the other side of capacity (transformation).
Capacity building is a systematic process of crowning your ability with strategic blueprints and focused energy to help you produce results that compound over time. There's nothing like an overnight success, but there's something like little successes that exploded in one night!
The greatest honour I have is to help my clients (small businesses, coaches, students, e-commerce owners) 10x their sales and build an organic brand that is automated for steady cash flow. What you are struggling with is someone else's testimony, don't stay ignorant and far from your dreams at the same time.
ARE YOU PREPARED?
THE KINGS YOU SAW ARE COMING! WORK ON YOURSELF!
Build capacity
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Toxic People
TOXIC PEOPLE :
are those individuals maybe your friends or family members that are abusive, not supportive, those people bring you down more than up. toxic people are judgmental and emotionally unhealthy for anyone.
Toxic people are everywhere, in your school, it can be your teacher, a family member, you can find them in the church and mosques they are all over the place.
I will be sharing with you some of the attributes of toxic people so that you can easily identify them and help yourself by avoiding them.
THEY'LL MANIPULATE YOU:
this is extremely widespread in departments or connections where the equilibrium of strength is out. Harmful people have a way of sending that vibe that you owe them something. they also have a way of taking from you or hurting you then bolstering that they were doing it for you.
THEY MAKE YOU PROVE YOURSELF TO THEM:
They'll put you in a position where you have to choose between them and something else. And you'll always realize pleased to select them.
THEY NEVER APOLOGIZE: they will lie before they apologize, they will even twist the whole story, and retell the way it happened. they never accept they are wrong.
THEY WILL LEAVE A CONVERSATION
UNFINISHED: they won't pick their calls, they won't respond to messages you might find yourself wondering in your head, guessing about the status of the relationship wondering whether you have done something wrong, or have hurt them.
Any people that truly love you will make out time for you.
THEY'RE JUDGEMENTAL
they make you feel not important and less relevant. the best thing to do for yourself is void this kind of people, avoid them. Understand your uniqueness and originality. And stay clear from bad energies.
What you have to do is avoid every negative vibe, either from someone or an environment.
Anything that will tamper with your emotional health, and self-esteem, male healthy relationships with people who will understand you without judging you.
Stay positive!!
Maintain healthy relationships!!!
You are the best!!!
To your intentional development, let me know your take and how this has affected you in your previous relationship with others.
I can't do this! The word that has truncated destinies, and rendered many stagnant in life. You try to convince yourself that you are unable to breakthrough through the wall of stigmatization, but you know, something inside you tells you that you can, but how you keep asking?
You feel so afraid about what people might say concerning your journey to the fulfilment of Destiny, hence you compromise and betray your purpose of existence to fit in, to a society that doesn't care about their successes or failures.
I can't do this! You keep making excuses; I am too small, I don't think am good enough to handle this, why not give it to Mr A or B?
You neglect and ignorantly look down on your inner strengths while giving room for self-judgement, self-criticisms and self-analysis. the world lures you to develop the desires to catch up with the latest trends and expectations of this society, instead of the desire to bring out your ideal self, but surely your hearts and minds have not forgotten their purpose of existence and you too knows that well.
Listen!
There is so much of yourself that you haven't discovered, two years ago I never knew that I could write this well it never for once crossed my mind, but today I keep evolving in this field to something thrilling and amazing.
Before now, I use to be shy and afraid, especially amid new faces or a large crowd. I couldn't express myself or my feelings but I was willing to do the work but now I can do all things to Christ that strengths me. they are stories to tell, for others to believe in the unseen abilities inside of them.
Hear this!
No man is an island! no man has created a carbon copy. We are God's masterpieces, we're not just humans, but humans after God's resemblance.
When you understand what that means, you'll realize the depth of greatness that resides inside you are infinite. You and I have strengths and gifts hidden inside of us, but it will be impossible to manifest the hidden strength if you do not work with the ones you have now.
Don't wait till you are given the whole world before you think of utilizing what you have to impact, start with the little that you have to cause positive manifestations. Your God-given gift is expandable, it is elastic, it can not expand if you don't use them. You cannot utilize the gifts you have if you believe you don't have them, or your inner crit.
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Fear of Missing Out! (FOMO)
FEAR OF MISSING OUT! (FOMO):
5 tips to minimizing FOMO and leading a healthy life.
Have you had times when you feel like you're missing out on something fun and important?
Especially when you opt-out of a particular activity with a group of friends?
Or feeling like you've missed out on the fun when you find out that your friends did something without you?
Yeah, we've had such moments, some of us more than others.
It is called the "Fear Of Missing Out" a.k.a FOMO.
FOMO can be defined as a feeling of anxiety and fear that you're missing out on something. This something could be an opportunity or an event.
It is the feeling or perception that others are having it better than you are.
And this feeling is usually aggravated by social media sites like Facebook and Instagram.
Research indicates that persons with FOMO usually feel dissatisfied with their current state which leads to a comparison of what they perceive is the life of others to theirs.
This comparison leads to feelings of worthlessness, a decline in self-esteem, and all-around dissatisfaction.
Fear of missing out pushes people to stalk the lives of their friends and other people on social media just to know how these people are faring.
Normally, this would not be any cause for alarm, but people always tend to celebrate their best highlights and leave out their worst, and when persons with FOMO begin to scroll through a lot of success feeds, feelings of depression and low self-worth begin to set in.
What's critical to cite is that this fear creates a bad vicious cycle?
A person with FOMO is usually first dissatisfied which leads to fear and anxiety of missing out, it then nudges the person to surf the net and find out what other people are doing. When they do that, they see the highly exaggerated glamour of others and begin to compare, breeding envy, feelings of low self-esteem and a greater dissatisfaction which in turn amplifies the FOMO and the cycle starts again.
It puts a damper to mental health, and while it's not a mental health illness, (except in extreme cases) it needs to be addressed so we can lead happier lives.
5 tips to minimizing FOMO
🔸1. Journaling.
Persons with FOMO tend to pay attention to other people's engagement on their posts. And when they don't get enough appreciation, it sours their mood. Writing down your successes and failures in a journal creates a sense of private appreciation for your growth and the life you live. It eliminates the need to be validated by people and gives you a sense of worth.
🔸2. Focus on what you have and not what you lack.
Another way of minimizing FOMO is focusing on the things you have, and not those you lack. Focusing on the positive and not on the negative. The negative will always breed negative feelings but if we learn to be content, we can lead happier lives.
🔸3. Show gratitude.
Make it a habit of always having something to be grateful for each day. Grateful people are the happiest and anxiety-free people in our society.
🔸4. Limiting time on social media.
Social media is both the drug and the cause for the increased rate of FOMO and its negative effect on the mental state of people. Limiting the time spent on social media helps minimize FOMO.
🔸5. Building positive connections.
Instead of spending time stalking the lives of other people and comparing them with yours, go out there and build positive connections with like-minded people. Research says that the feelings of loneliness and depression are the brain's way of saying it needs connection. So instead of taking to social media, schedule a date with a friend, join enriching communities that foster growth and happiness.
When you direct your mind toward the things you don't have, it will create more problems in your life. This can affect your learning, memory and achievement in different areas of your life.
You would be an empty human being ample with worries and miseries.
Learn to direct your thoughts toward the things you want, whether you have it or not. Anything that can dwell for long in the realm of the Mind will soon manifest itself in the present.
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She did exactly what you said
She did exactly what you said
In a world full of so much toxicity, what do you do when you are on the verge of losing your mind, due to loneliness and confusion.
I have heard numerous suggestions about how to deal with a toxic day, but most times, it doesn’t go well.
I am aware that people teach or mentor based on their personal experiences which is not fair.
I’ll tell you why.
But first, how can you be in a world, where there are different shades of people and you expect one technique or one formula to work for all? Or better still, you expect everyone to use the same technique and get the same result.
That has proven abortive over the years and we have failed to see it.
This is the reason why I said, using the same experience to get the same result for everyone won’t work.
- We are at different levels of mental health. Yes, our mindsets are in different stages and levels. Therefore, the way one information could be useful to one, the same information may not be useful to another because mindset differs. You wouldn’t blame the latter.
- We hail from different backgrounds. Right here, understanding is key. A person could not see any wrong with having to deal with two or more boyfriends. Am I saying this is the right thing to do, regardless of backgrounds? No! All there is to it is, tackling the foundation and knowing what to do based on her background. If there is a need to build a mindset, that would be the best thing to do in the second place.
- Religion. I won’t talk much here. Religion has a larger effect on us when it comes to what we do, say and practice. The core of this is to hold firm to what you know. When you need to upgrade, then you move. This comes with intentionality.
- Environment. Where you grew up matters a lot. Your relationship, career e.t.c. is affected by the environment. It takes a higher mindset to stand firm away from your surroundings.
Hence, if all these are taken into consideration, no one will lure people into what they think is right. Most people try to use the Bible which is good. But the point is, don’t show them, make them search and find for themselves.
Self-discovery is the best medicine to avoid any form of toxicity.
A toxic day
A toxic relationship
A toxic career
A toxic financial state
A toxic job.
I hope with these few points of mine, I have been able to convince you and not to confuse you that self-discovery is better than the world’s discovery of you.
While growing up as a teenager, I used to act like I would be a teenager all my life. I mean, I thought I would never grow up to take up some keen responsibilities.
As a teenager, I would solely depend on everyone around me, especially my parents. In other words, I didn't make decisions on my own. Or better still, I didn't know how to make decisions all by myself.
Depending on everyone made me lack self-confidence. I didn't believe in myself. I didn't believe I could make sensible decisions that could turn my life around. They were investment I could have made on myself that would have yielded fruit today. I didn't come across words like personal development, so I didn't strive for growth. My life revolved around coming out with good grades and going further in my education.
How I wish I could turn back the hands of time, I know I would have done extremely well on my personality and growth.
I am writing to someone today. I don't know who that person is. But whoever you are, I want to let you know your self-confidence is your beauty.
This concerns both the man and the woman.
It's time to learn how to make decisions to get productive results. Results gotten yields self-confidence. How would you build self-confidence, if you don't make up your mind to take decisions?
You might ask yourself, what kind of decision do I need to make today.
Well, I know someone has the responsibility to decide his/her personal growth.
I know someone also has the responsibility to decide on handling official responsibilities, or social responsibilities regardless of whoever ought to do it. Just to make things right.
The ball is in your court.
You might be loved and cared for by everyone around you. But when they are absent what would you do.
Learn to make decisions today that will build your self-confidence. You never know what results in you would achieve.
Be the ruler of your kingdom and be the captain of your ship. It might look risky, but don't you ever be afraid of taking risk except you would love to forever move in circles.
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Please Read To Save Yourself From Future Challenges
"PLEASE READ TO SAVE YOURSELF FROM FUTURE CHALLENGES"...
Read on to know who I'm referring to...
Greatness is what everyone wants to achieve in life, both young and old. And this has lead to people mapping and setting out big plans for themselves to achieve their desire. But, do you want to know the secret to greatness? It's in reading!! Yes, it lies in proper study and research.
"Study to yourself authorized unto God, a workman that requires not to be ashamed, rightly allocating the term of the validity". So says the scripture. You should always understand that there's no other way to success or greatness, except in reading and researching. In fact, which plan are you making when you have not properly made your research?
You want to set up a business or ministry, and you've not done proper research on what you intend to do. I'm sorry to say this to you, you're a joker! Yes, you are!! Listen to me, the challenges and trials you're passing through right now have been experienced by someone else, who has authored a book about that situation you're passing through and has revealed ways to overcome. But ignorance won't let you be!!
You are so lazy in reading books! Nobody will force you to grow or develop yourself. Whatever you fail to do now, you will surely reap the result later. I know you're not financially equipped enough, but you spend at least #200 on your phone daily or even more. Why not use that money to download ebooks and feed your mind, if you can't afford a hard copy.
And for you, that kept on saying that you don't have a smartphone to download ebooks. You can as well borrow from friends or neighbours. Listen to me, ignorance is not an excuse!!
NOTE: Your present challenges have been overcome by someone else, who has authored a book, and at the same time revealed to you how to overcome it. It is left for you to sit down and study properly! If you don't develop yourself by proper study, you might weep tomorrow.
"PLEASE READ TO SAVE YOURSELF FROM FUTURE CHALLENGES".
PLACE VALUE ON YOURSELF!
The majority of the world's population don't place value on themselves, only a few do and those are the few that rises to the position of influence. Do you want to become great in this life?
Place value on yourself! Arrive with me, let me indicate to you something.
What is VALUE?
We have different definitions of value, but allow me to give you the dictionary meaning of value.
Value means to regard highly
OR
Evaluate or estimate the nature, quality, ability, extent, or significance of something or someone(emphasis mine). Like I said before, we live in a world where only a few people place value on themselves, while others are left to dance to the dictates of men. Those who place value on themselves can never be manoeuvered by any man, not even the kings and presidents of this world.
Placing value on yourself is, giving yourself a standard definite protocol in all spheres of life. I know you don't understand this.
Come with me
It means letting people know what you stand for, anytime, and anywhere, without compromise. Some people can't fully define what they stand for, that's the reason why anyone can use them anyhow they want and still go their way. If you don't exist for anything, you will plunge for something.
In this life, there's no neutral ground. It's either you place value on yourself and stand for it, or you're used by others to the detriment of yourself. Most ladies are easily lured to bed because they refuse to place value on themselves, so a man can flash some few cash in their presence and before you know it, they've already fallen for the man and that leads to their defilement.
What a pity!!
When the value is in place you can't be cajoled to do what is not your desire! Place strict value on yourself so that anyone that sees you will know what you stand for, and for this reason, give you a high level of respect. Placing value on yourself is not pride, it's an act to define who you truly are and what you stand for. Respect can't buy you value, but value can buy you respect.
Think about it.
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I Am Not An Alien, Have Honour For Me
"I AM NOT AN ALIEN, HAVE HONOUR FOR ME!!"
We live in a world where women are not valued, and we can see the trends in our families and society.
There's this kind of gender discrimination we find in our society, discriminating between men and women. A lot of it happens even in our religious settings, women are degraded and chastised.
A married man will not allow his wife to rest all because she's giving birth to female children as if she is the one that produces children. The man will end up threatening his wife to the point of marrying another woman or driving her away from his house.
What a disgusting scene to behold!!
Having a male child is good, but if God didn't give you a male child don't kill yourself. Raise your female children and you'll be shocked that they'll do better than male children.
Some men will explain, "if I don't have a male kid my name will be dabbed out of this world".
Listen to me!!
God did not create you on earth for your name to be sustained here on earth, he created you to give birth to those who will liberate men, and to also become a voice in their generation. So, if female children are the ones that God will use to carry out that assignment, He will make you give birth to female children.
As a man, your name will still be remembered on earth, because when your daughters start impacting lives positively and doing what God wants them to do on earth, no man will care to ask the names of their husbands.
Men will surely trace them to their lineage and not to their husbands' lineage because she came from a family!!
Mrs Ngozi Okonjo Iweala is a woman doing great things, she is the first African woman and the only African person that has ever emerged as WORLD TRADE ORGANIZATION (W.T.O), DIRECTOR-GENERAL. She didn't get that position through bribing, neither did she get it on a platter of gold. She competed for that position and won. She served as the minister of finance in Nigeria, under former President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan, and she did well.
To my honourable men who wants to kill themselves because they have only female children, is Mrs Ngozi Okonjo Iweala not a female child?
Spend your resources on your female children, and you'll see them do wonders upon the face of the earth. Women are wonderful, kind, precious, peaceful, great, excellent, loving and caring.
To everyone women out there, you are great never allow any man to intimidate you, you are not cheap except you to treat yourself as one. Give value to yourself and watch how men will honour you, the goal is not to receive praises from men, the goal is to be relevant.
Anyone that disrespects you, tell the person that "I AM NOT AN ALIEN, HAVE RESPECT FOR ME!!".
I ADORE YOU ALL FROM THE CORE OF MY HEART.
MY CONFESSION
Your tongue is a powerful tool, whatsoever comes out of it whether good or bad, will surely become tangible and visible.
Let me explain...
When you keep on saying good things to yourself, those things that you have been saying about yourself will one day become a reality. The same also applies when you say negative things to yourself.
Master the act of speaking good about yourself, even when things are not working well.
Now, make this confession...
I AM GREAT
I AM WONDERFULLY MADE BY GOD.
I CAN'T BE POOR
I POSSESS WEALTH IN ABUNDANCE
THINGS ARE WORKING FOR MY GOOD.
I CAN'T STRUGGLE, BECAUSE I DON'T KNOW HOW TO STRUGGLE.
WHEN OTHERS ARE CRYING, I AM REJOICING.
I AM RICH.
I POSSESS WISDOM IN ABUNDANCE, I KNOW WHAT TO DO AT EVERY GIVEN TIME.
I WAS INVENTED TO MAKE A POSITIVE INFLUENCE.
KINGS SHALL COME TO SEEK WISDOM FROM ME.
I WAS BORN TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN MY GENERATION. NATIONS WILL KNOW THAT OKORONKWO VICTOR JEPHTHAH EXISTED.
VICTOR(mention your name) YOU ARE GREAT, YOU POSSES UNCOMMON WISDOM, YOU WERE BORN TO DRAW MEN OUT OF DARKNESS, YOU WERE BORN TO SHOW MEN LIGHT
NATIONS WILL BOW TO ME!!!
GOD IS WITH ME!!
Confess these things to yourself, and watch what will become of you. Add many more good things that you want to see in your life and you'll be amazed to see what your life will produce. Your tongue can create and it can also destroy!
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Life and Challenges
LIFE!! LIFE!! LIFE!!
Life and its difficulties, life and its sweetness, life and its challenges, life and its goodness. Life with its so many advantages, Life with its so many disadvantages.
Sometimes, when life's issues come knocking on our door, we feel like running away from life, we feel like disappearing totally and not having to face it anymore, but yet there is nowhere to run to, we have to remain.
But you see, life is so fair enough, by giving us an option, an option meant for only the coward. An option to run. Only the cowards run from life, only the cowards disappears when the issues of life come knocking, only they take the deadly option life has given.
For as many that is still standing strong, even when the issues become too much. For as many that are still moving, even in the face of difficulties and depression. For as many that haven't allowed the challenges of life to sweep them away.
You are welcome!!
Keep staying strong
Bad times will come
But I want you to know
That it is a phase
Phases go away with time.
Every disadvantage has an advantage.
Sweetness will come
Goodness will soon arrive
Happiness will come knocking.
Life is just the way it is.
Still, we should live.
Till God says it is over.
You should not run away.
You should not be like the cowards.
No, you should not.
LIFE CAN BE VERY FRUSTRATING...BUT
It is necessary to teach yourself how to be happy even in the phase of sadness. Many difficulties are liable to come a man's way. Many things you so wish you have but unfortunately, you do not. Many things you wish to change but which you can not. Many situations you never wanted to be in. Periodically, you peek at yourself and say "Am I the one getting on through this?"
Sometimes you inquire yourself problems like "What is occurring to me?" Sometimes you feel the world is just against you. You feel the world is against you because of your inability to do better. Because the things you have been striving and doing without success is what some are doing without fail. Don't pressurize yourself too much dear. The world is just like that. You can not be in the world and not face challenges. You can not just wish for a thing to happen and everything will start happening.
Life is not a bed of roses. All you need is to work out your faith. Pray and believe that all will be well and it will. Stay strong and solid for yourself. Keep trying for the sake of everyone that looks up to you. And do not be angry with your situation. Just hold the cross. Watch the lord. And he will come.
It is the will of God that every true believer of his words gives thanks always.
I understand that the situation you have found yourself in might be too heavy for you to bear, but be grateful and give thanks still for this is the will of God.
Be grateful for every little thing you have. Be grateful in every situation. Be grateful to God for every disappointment you face. Be grateful for every success you have. Be grateful for life, every day you wake up. Be grateful for health either sound or week. Be grateful for that your successful journey every day.
Be grateful for grace. Always remember, that it is not always because of your ability to pray but it is grace you have received. Be grateful that you can eat. Be grateful for every activity you were able to do successfully. Be grateful even for your financial status, strong or week. Be grateful for salvation. Be grateful for every privilege. Be grateful that you can play. Be grateful that you can bounce. Be grateful for life. Be grateful for peace. Do not be ignorant of this little thing that others are ignorant of. God deserves all the praises. Be grateful always.
SMALL THINGS AFFECT PEOPLE OF SMALL MINDS!
A man was standing in the queue, waiting his turn to withdraw some money from the Automated Teller Machine (ATM).
After it got to his turn to withdraw, suddenly, the machine brought out a notification that reads:
'temporarily unable to dispense cash
Gbam!!! this man angrily slammed some of the operating buttons of the machine.
Everybody was shocked at his lack of self-control. Some fellow started rebuking him for his attitude, but he never showed any sign of remorse.
Interestingly, one of the security personnel walked up to the ATM area to observe the extent of the damage. After a thorough examination of the machine, it was observed that some key buttons had been rendered inoperative.
At long last, we were all advised to leave and use other banks. Funnily enough, it was only this bank that was stationed in that busy commercial area.
Sadly, after spending about 3 hours queuing, we were all brought into this difficult situation, simply because a man cannot exercise patience in the face of a minor challenge.
Indeed, small things do affect people of small minds!
When things don't go your way as you had planned, how do you react? Do you just throw tantrums and start acting in a manner that's inconsistent with your values?
People of small minds allows petty difficulties or inconveniences to make them lose their cool! For some, they can easily become infuriated, over-blurted and envious just for no reason!
Do you get into argument with the waiter/ waitress simply because your order wasn't taken on time?
All this and many more goes a long way to show what manner of people we are made of!
Be a person of love, understanding and patience; and you will see how fair the world is!
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Being the right audience for a depressed guest speaker
BEING THE RIGHT AUDIENCE FOR A DEPRESSED GUEST SPEAKER
In my previous post, I said I was going to talk about "How to be the right audience for a depressed guest speaker"
Yes, It can be very disarming knowing that someone you care about is depressed. Not only does it hurt knowing he/she is hurting it's also frustrating when you try to help and your efforts seem fruitless because you were expecting an immediate result.
Helping someone going through depression isn't an easy task. It requires a lot from you the caretaker and helper. Now I hope you aren't asking why we need to take care of them since it's a whole lot of work?
Because we've established in my previous post that just like malaria and cough, depression is a sickness. And you'll take care of a friend or loved one that's sick right?
Yes, you will.
We also established that one of the reasons people don't open up about depression is because the first time they did it, it was to the wrong audience and they were hurt instead of helped.
That's why we're going to have this walk and I'll show you how to become the right audience for a depressed speaker.
🔸1. Listen
So simple yet in practice, so hard.
Very few people know and practice the art of listening. Listening doesn't just entail sitting and hearing the words coming out of the person's mouth.
It's an exercise in patience. Even when the person isn't saying anything or is yet to say something, you wait-- without pushing and forcing-- for him/her to work the courage to speak out. All you have to do is listen. Giving advice isn't an obligation. Sharing your experience too isn't part of it. You just sit and listen because it's about them and not you.
🔸2. Don't colonize or compare feelings
The worst thing that you can do is compare how you feel/felt to how they do or colonize their problems.
You are not the exclusively single that obtains hopeless.
I deduce how you are discovering, it's an amenity factor.
Earlier days I felt like this, you didn't inevitably anticipate.
Making these statements belittles the condition they are in and you don't want to do that. Whether you understand or not, acknowledge the fact that they are going through a lot.
🔸3. Don't pressurize or force them:
At some point, you might be tempted to say, "Snap out of it." Because you're tired of the fog they seem to carry about.
Don't.
Understand that they aren't there because they want to. Depression comes with a whole lot of lethargy and apathy towards daily activities. You can encourage them, cajole them with love to do something but if they are non-responsive, ease up and try another time.
🔸4. Assert that you're always there for them.
"What do you need me to do?"✅
"I'm always here if you need me."✅
"Have you eaten?"✅
"You want me to stay with you?"✅
Depression makes people feel alone. You can eliminate that by always being around, ready to help with anything he/she wants.
Make certain they comprehend that you are there for them.
That is, your words and action have to agree and conform with each other-- even if that's the first time it's happening.
🔸5. Bring up topics of interest other than the person's mental health
Yes, he/she is depressed. But that's not a defining feature of that person.
There are things/activities that such a person is known for.
He likes to watch football games.💥
She loves Games of Thrones.💥
He loves playing chess.💥
She loves to play dress-up and read magazines. 💥
Find that thing or topic your friend likes. Then together, go through the activity with them. The best gift you can give him/her is to act like you would if they weren't depressed. What I'm saying is, making them feel normal and not less than who they are, goes a long way in combating their depression.
This is because, in the fog of depression, feelings of worthlessness, purposelessness, and inferiority are abundant. Get them to understand that they mean a lot to you as a person and you may just have saved a soul. Lastly, take care of yourself. You don't want to burn out while taking care of someone else. It wouldn't do the both of you good.
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The right time to Give Up
THE RIGHT TIME TO GIVE UP
For me, the month of May has been a period of learning, unlearning and relearning. May 2021 holds a significant position in my history because it marks the period when I gave extreme criticism to certain principles in my life.
Since 2019, I have been an ardent preacher of the gospel of tenacity and persistence. I have always cringed each time someone used the phrase "give up" to describe a decision they took. I believed that there was nothing in this world that was not worth pursuing, as long as the right mindset was employed.
Things, however, took a different turn when I started reflecting deeply on all my values. I began to read books in a bid to find clarity and precision, to ensure that whatever belief I decided to keep will be worth keeping.
In the course of this journey, I have come to realize that there are times when it will be suicidal to keep pressing for a dream. I realized that four factors will make it logical for a man to give up on his dream.
You will know that it is time to give up on a dream:
WHEN YOUR DREAMS DEMAND YOUR VALUES AS A COST PRICE
While reading John Maxwell's "Put Your Dream To The Test", it dawned on me that there are certain costs that are just too high a price for your dreams.
Any vision or dream that forces you to compromise your value system isn't worth pursuing. This is not talking about your religious affiliations, as we are usually quick to confuse our value system with our religious inclination.
When you calculate the cost of birthing your vision and you realize that it has placed a demand on your integrity, honesty, faithfulness and other values, it is a sign for you to give up on such a dream.
WHEN YOUR DREAM PLACES AN UNREASONABLE DEMAND ON YOUR HEALTH
While it is true that pursuing success may cause you to stretch, it is important to know that there are certain points when your health should not be stretched any further.
A vision that places unnecessary strain on your health or requires you to neglect your health, without room for compromise is not worth pursuing. Your health should never be sacrificed on the altar of achievements because only a healthy man has the potential to see a dream to fulfilment.
If it demands your health, it is no longer a race for fulfilment but a race laced with over-ambition.
WHEN YOUR DREAMS REQUIRES YOU TO REMAIN IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP
Toxic relationships, no matter how they are painted, have no good to offer. They are channels through which energy is replaced with strands of frustration and bitterness.
You will be making the right choice by giving up on a dream if it forces you to remain in a toxic relationship if its success is hinged on your "enduring" a toxic marriage or friendship.
You should not be controlled by your goals, but be guided by them. So, when the alarm goes off on your dream and the source is an uncompromisingly toxic relationship, you just have to brace yourself, lay down your cards and walk away. Why? Because the success of your dream is largely dependent on your mental and emotional stability.
WHEN YOUR DREAM ALIENATES YOUR FAMILY FROM YOU
My family is the only group of people that is worthy of a compromise. This may sound biased, but it is the truth.
Believe it or not, there is a level of compromise that we can reach when it comes to our families. Except yours is a disintegrated or loveless one, every one of us has bent the rules for family's sake at one point or the other.
In pursuing your dreams, you must take care that such dreams do not completely detach you from your family. Yes, there are times when it would seem like we have to choose to distance ourselves from them. But in the actual sense, it is all for the greater good.
Before you decide to head out on that path, calculate how much of your attention to your family it would cost. If such a dream will force you to become a stranger to them or to create a gulf between you and your family, you might need a second thought.
Note this...
Our dreams will naturally pull us out of our comfort zone, so it is normal for it to seem as if it is going against these four criteria.
This is why each dream must be subjected to extreme scrutiny. In cases where you can wing things around (except for #1!), I believe it is normal.
However, we must be honest enough to pull the restraints when the price becomes too high because, in the end, it is not just about birthing the dream. What matters is living the dream.
Till I write you again.
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Natural Morphine: How to live the high and happy life
NATURAL MORPHINE: HOW TO LIVE THE HIGH AND HAPPY LIFE
"Life no balance" is a popular expression used frequently around the social media space today, and even in our daily physical conversations.
But come to look at it. Yes, life isn't fair, and neither is it black.
It is up and down with shades of grey as the sauce between. Life is a dirty player that throws you a curve ball at one end and expects you to pick it up at the other end of the court.
And most times, you find yourself running to and fro, feeling stressed, disorganized, and overwhelmed by all the passes. So vastly that you can't bear up with.
You are breathless, restless, exhausted, overwhelmed, and "Can I just have a freaking break???"
Yes, you get to that point where you zone out and just want to forget about everything.
As is the natural order of things, your body seeks a high.
Your body NEEDS a high.
Anything that can distract it from the pain, worry, anxiety, disappointments, uncertainty, fear, and the host of negativity hanging around.
The brain Is stressed and depressed. The few peanuts of your energy are then channelled towards 'the how and need to feel better,' to feel good-- no matter how fake and temporary that good is.
'With no choice,' you allow yourself to be serenaded by alcohols, pain relievers, hard drugs, and a whole lot of feel-good substances.
You want to indulge.
But wait!
What if I told you there's a better option. One that takes you high and doesn't leave your world crashing around once it wears off.
What if I told you there is a natural "feel good" drug that you can board on and be assured of a safe flight without any crash.
Oh yes! There is.
They are called endorphins.
What are endorphins?
Endorphins are substances released by the body to ameliorate stress and pain. They operate similar to opioid drugs like morphine and elicit feelings of euphoria. They are moreover realized as feel-good hormones.
So here's the question.
You have a drug that costs you monetarily to procure, and its side effect is always detrimental to health. And you have another one, free of charge, with no cost and no side effects carrying out the same function. Which would you choose?
The second option right?
Yes, that's what I'll choose too.
And how do we get access to this better option?
We produce them.
There are activities we carry out that stimulate the body to release these endorphins.
They include;
1. Exercise.
2. Laughing.
3. Giving to charities and helping the less fortunate.
4. Having sex (If you're married.)
5. Yoga and meditation.
6. Creating art.
7. Dancing.
8. Eating dark chocolate.
All these activities release endorphins in the body, improve our moods, and make us happy. Research says that these are just as effective as your morphine and opioid drugs.
P.S. You're in doubt? Try not to spit it out until you've tested and found it bitter.
At least, I for one know that alcohol tastes bitter. That's why I've spat it out and subscribed to a healthy and more fulfilling route to relieving stress and pain in the body.
Keep Your Focus Sharp!
I think of focus and the image of a shooter comes to mind.
He kneels on a knee or two, gets a clear picture of the target and aim. Only after he has a sharp view of his target will he aim, lest he misses it.
In life, if you want to have a good shot, if you want to nail the target, you have to cut away distractions and remain focused. Focus on that big picture, focus on your vision, focus on making an impact.
Whatever it will cost you to remain focused, please pay. Even if you have to squat instead of kneeling, ensure you do. You have to nail it. You have to accomplish your objective on the planet.
Ensure you keep your focus sharp.
PROUD OF YOURSELF
I proud of everyone who is facing many problems in their life, but they moved forward and facing every problem, try to solve it. Your courage to solve problems inspires others. Whatever happens always proud of yourself, your heart.
Curb attempting to give life a quantity or a timeline or a passing date and just relish the sermons. Enjoy the lift,
Rejoice in the voyage..!!
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The sting on Depression: Reasons why depressed people don't open up
THE STING ON DEPRESSION: REASONS WHY DEPRESSED PEOPLE DON'T OPEN UP
"I AM DEPRESSED"
Yes, that's what I said. Stop looking at me like I said I killed my parents. Yes, I'm still the person you knew, stop trying to look at me in a new light.
No, It shouldn't change the fact that I'm human, strong, and a great person. It shouldn't change the certainty that I'm intelligent, charismatic and someone to be admired. No, it shouldn't make me want to hunch my back, bend my head and squeeze myself around corners when I'm out in the open.
"I am depressed," shouldn't and doesn't make me weak, incapable, or ungrateful.
Don't you think it's high time our perspectives on mental health and depression change?
The sting has to go!
Sickness can befall anyone. Though some are susceptible than others, it can happen to anyone. If nobody is labelled 'weak' or 'inadequate' for having a cough, a fever, or a malaria infection, why then should depression be stigmatized in our society?
Do you believe depression is for the weak?
Do you believe that it's only those who can't cope with what life throws at them that get depressed?
Yes? That's the sting I'm talking about. Someone isn't depressed because he/she is weak, or can't cope with the realities of life.
Someone experiences depression because;
🔸 1. His/her brain Chemistry.
Depression, whatever may be the cause, is first and foremost manifested in the brain as an imbalance of chemicals called neurotransmitters. The imbalance of these chemicals leads to excitation or inhibition of certain areas in the brain that manifest as depression.
And for this reason, it is an illness just like any other disease that attacks the body.
🔸2. Genetics.
The blood genotype AA, for all its glory and presumed 'power type' is genetically susceptible to malaria infection. An infection that has a very reduced effect on their AS counterparts.
Will I be correct to call the AAs weak? Because they can't help but always fall prey to the mosquitoes transmitting malaria infection?
No.
The same goes for depression. Some people are more prone (genetically) to depression than others, and so fall victims to it more often than others.
They shouldn't be stung "weak" by the populace.
🔸 3. Other factors such as; loss of a loved one, failure, trauma, hardships e.t.c.
Nowhere in these causes listed above was 'weakness' mentioned. Yet, society has ignorantly added it.
This added stigma is a catalyst reason why depressed people don't open up about their depression.
Here are some of the reasons;
🔸1. They're ashamed of being depressed.
Which shouldn't be the case because no one is ashamed of having a cough or a cold.
🔸2. They're afraid of being called 'weak' by people who once admired them.
Most people going through depression are role figures that people look up to in one area or the other. Admitting they're depressed will change people's perspective about them.
Which I say again, isn't supposed to be so.
🔸3. They might have opened up before and they were misunderstood.
They may have tried opening up but alas! It was to the wrong audience and because of that, they've decided to lock up.
(Watch out for my next post on how to be the right audience for a depressed guest speaker.)
🔸4. They don't want their feelings to be trivialized.
In sync with the previous reason, and because of the sting of depression coupled with the ignorance of society, many people don't know how to handle depressed victims when they open up.
In their arrogance and ignorance, they tend to point out to these victims that they aren't the only ones going through this and should snap out of it.
This belittling of their situation makes the victim not want to open up the next time.
🔸5. They don't want to burden their loved ones with something even they can't understand.
Yes, sometimes, depression arrives without reason and when that happens, victims are left wondering why they feel the way they do.
If they don't understand, they might not want to open up to another person.
In summary, most of these reasons stem from the outlook society has on depression and its victims. The victims shouldn't be stung by society. They are patients as much as the malaria victims and should be given the same treatments.
As someone going through depression, you shouldn't go through it alone. Speak up to the right persons (professionals; therapists and doctors) or a loved one who would help.
Remember, depression isn't something to be ashamed of. It is an illness that needs treatment.
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Make The Right Confessions
Make The Right Confessions
Each time I hear people make confessions like"I can't, it is not possible", I feel hurt. A lot of people have become addicted to saying no to even the simplest thing.
Many have trained their minds to believe that nothing in the world is possible. This way, many have limited themselves.
"It is hard, it is difficult". All these confessions cripple destinies. Students saying they can't pass certain examinations just because they believe they can't. Business owners seeing their businesses only within the environs, believing that they can't cross the borders.
What people don't know is that the confessions we make as humans are connected to our subconscious mind. Thus, whatever our minds conceive become reality.
Those who understand the power of the mind and confessions have learnt to say "I can and it is possible".
They know that not everything that appears impossible is not possible. They believe in what the Bible says that as a man thinks in his heart, so is he.
This is the league you should belong to.
You have to come out of what wrong confessions have brought you into. You have to start telling yes to recourses.
You have to say no to what will hold you down. You have to start making positive confessions.
You have to start seeing possibilities in all you do. You have to confess that you're rich, you're a scholar, you are not limited, you are made for the top.
Though, your mind might doubt if it's possible but keep at it. After all, what good does making negative confessions do to you? Nothing, it only leaves you where you used to be.
I don't know what you want to start making confessions about but believe me, it's one of the things your life needs.
Make positive confessions every morning and every time. Write it in your jotter, on the walls of your home. Confess aright everywhere.
It's a beautiful new week, begin with the right confessions and take actions.
To Stand Out Or To Fit In?
This is a question you should be able to answer after reading this piece.
Both come with a price but only a few people understand it. Due to this, the majority take the latter option.
Standing out means not following the crowd. To stand out, you have to question and not conform. Standing out is for those who want to get better results than what society offers.
When you stand out, you don't just do things anyhow. When you stand out, you stop complaining like the masses, instead, you seek a way out.
When you stand out, you give yourself to be groomed to become a better person. When you stand out, you don't just want to be there, you want to be there for a reason.
Those who stand out do extraordinary things to get extraordinary results. Those who stand out give up pleasure for treasure. Those who stand out understand that heavy is the head that wears the crown.
Standing out is painful, costly and beautiful. It will cost you all it takes to fit in. It will hurt you when you're restricted from submitting to the norms. It will bring you distance than you comprehend. Paying the price to stand out will place you in a high position.
Fitting in is also costly. It means living like everyone else. It means accepting the norms. It kills creativity, it keeps you low. It supports mediocrity. It means getting the same result as everyone else.
You have to make a choice either to fit in or stand out. Your parents won't make that decision for you. Society won't urge you to be different. It must be your decision.
Left to me, I'll advise you to choose to stand out, that way, you'll surely gain from the pain.
Decide to leave the wish state and come to reality.
Decide never to live short of purpose.
Decide to command results.
Decide to be a champion and not a dupe.
Decide to start living intentionally.
Decide to make each day you spend on Earth count.
Decide to decide.
That starts now. Stand out, don't try to fit in. When things are tough, stay strong. When things seem difficult, stay encouraged. When things seem to go bad, make strong your morality. When you feel your world is coming to an end, don't give up.
Winners never give up.
Ready for destiny. Labour at your young age so that your old age will be beneficial. Never think of that problem of yesterday. Solve the problem today to strengthen adequately tomorrow.
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Complaining Solves Nothing
Complaining Solves Nothing!
It solves nothing. Not even the least of man's problems. Yet, we all embrace it. We all have complained at one time in life or the other.
We complain about our job, family, friends, nation, and anything that seems to make us inconvenient. We think doing so will lessen the burden, but no, it makes it heavier.
Only those who believe that complaining does not solve any problem push it away.
Sadly, many do not know that complaining affects the mind negatively. The more you complain, the more you get accustomed to seeing nothing good in what happens to you.
The more you complain, the more you believe there's no way out.
The more you complain, the lesser the possibility for you to embrace the new man in you.
Complaining is never an option! Doing so is following the pattern in society.
Those who have places to go, do not complain about the obstacles. Those who know that behind the dark cloud lies a silver lining, refuse to be held back by anything.
In life, everything can't be rosy, you have got to expect problems and solve them. Decide today that no matter what happens, you would seek a solution and not complain.
Stop complaining about not having sponsors! Stop saying "I don't have a job". Stop magnifying your limitations. Live a life that sees opportunity in everything.
Think about this as you go about today; Complaining solves nothing.
GET OUT OF THAT PHASE!
What is your past to you? A visiting place or a dwelling place?
Most times, we get excited about past success, achievements, and happiness. This excitement makes some believe that there can be no other place than the past, so, they remain there.
To others, past success and achievements motivate them to do better in future.
Some have painful pasts with bitter experiences. While the majority refuse to let go of this phase and hold tightly to it like treasure, others have learnt that the past can not be helped.
Which category do you fall in?
Are you a past dweller or you've moved to the future?
No matter what your past looks like. It is gone. It is a phase you can no longer control. You lost the power over your past the minute you stepped into the present.
The past is only a place of reference. A place to visit and say "I'm glad now is better than then". A place to look at and smile. Smile that you refused to hold on to rejection, failure, sorrow. A place that sets the foundation for the future.
Hey! Don't tell me you've moved away from your past when your actions and thoughts are still directed towards it.
You will know if you've moved away from the past by your readiness to become new, aim higher and become better.
Dwelling in the past limits. Get out of it by shunning every thought that takes you back. You have a beautiful future before you. You have now, a phase which you have power over.
Your yesterday shouldn't be better than now, no! It should be the opposite. Refuse to stay in your past, get out now!
Demands
When your demands started falling you have to sit down and examine some things.
1. Why am I having low demanding?: When you know you're why you will then think of your S which is the solution, you discover your problem first before seeking help/solution.
2. Does your goods/products meet their needs or wants: Let's say you are selling lightening hand made body cream/soap or drug to lose/add weight and in the end, they do not see the effect, there is a hundred per cent possibility that they won't patronize you next time, make sure your goods/products meet the needs/wants of your customers so that they can patronize you next time.
Here are some clues to enhance your career.
1. PACKAGING: Which kind of packaging do you give your goods/products? Is the one that has outdated? gonna the days they used to say, "don't judge a book by its cover" nowadays we check the cover of the book and the book itself, whatever You are selling package it very well even if is ordinary locust beans make it attractive, "container is important as well as your content" your packaging is the first thing that will attract them to you.
2. ALWAYS PUT ON A SMILE: That beautiful and simple smile of yours is one of the ingredients you need to boost your business, here is A that is always smiling with his/her customers and B on the other hand around his/her face as if the whole is on top of his/her head, even if you are the one you will do to A, greet your customer with a warm smile before they even ask you how much you are selling your goods/products and they won't hesitate to come back next time.
3. ADVERTISEMENT: Don't say because you have not to reach Dangote's level! there is no need for you to advertise your goods/products, how will they know what you are selling if you don't advertise it, it is not necessary you must go to radio or T.V station before you can advertise your goods/products, social media is there where you can advertise your goods/products to the world.
4. LOCATION: Your location is also essential, you can't be selling phones or laptops and be staying in one village, let's say you are selling bed and you open your store where they are using the mat to sleep(unless you educate them about it), definitely you are in the wrong place you to need to establish your business where they need it like you are selling phone and laptop you have to open your shop in the city where those who know the value of phone and laptop reside.
5. TRUST AND EXPERT: Can your customers trust you with their money? are you a man/woman of your words? If you tell your customers to come by 2.pm make sure you meet up with the time and your expertise is also essential as your trust, Trust + Expertise= CREDIBILITY. ( according to Neil Patel)
6. FRIENDSHIP: Don't let your human behaviour be solely consumed by the amount of money you can get from your customers, build a relationship with them, treat them fairly, recognize their worth and respect them.
By working on these tips, you will see positive change in your business.
Have a productive week ahead.
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Greasing Relationships
GREASING RELATIONSHIPS
Oftentimes, we see people leverage on their relationship(s), using it as a ladder into great achievements.
Then we ask questions like God when? Why is it so easy for them? Don't I have relationships too?
Some people will conclude that they do not have the right relationships. With this belief, they will discard the old relationships and begin to hunt for new ones. Funny state!
Well, sometimes, nothing is wrong with the existing relationships but you. You've to understand what it takes to be with people.
What is commonly understood by the majority is building relationships, we neglect that it requires maintenance. To maintain your relationship, it requires greasing (oiling).
When it comes to mentor-mentee relationships, it is wrong for mentees to depend completely on the mentor. Yes! That came from me. You have to be independent.
You(the mentee) want to receive abundantly but you're not willing to contribute the little you know, I bet that relationship is not alright.
To grease your relationships and enjoy the benefits just as oiling the parts of your farming tools keeps them in a good state, you must be valuable.
Valuable in the sense that you add something important and useful to the lives that come your way.
Be hospitable.
This hospitality of a thing goes a long way. Feel free to check on your friends, colleagues and mentors. Even your teachers appreciate things like this. I know because I do. A simple note, a brief call or SMS goes a long way in greasing your relationships.
It shouldn't be about what you will receive always.
Frequent communication.
Communication is key! Talk frequently (depending on the relationship). Be formal when you have to. Be playful when need be.
Keep greasing your relationships!
MESSAGE TO NEWBIES
My days as a fresher in the University taught me a lot. It's not easy to be a fresher, not at all. I had many experiences, but I remember trying to find my way around the school and faculty.
If I say it was frustrating, that will be an understatement. How can I explain the day I found myself walking back in the direction I was coming from?
This little experience taught me to ask questions. It doesn't make sense to do the wrong thing confidently only to discover it was a waste of time. I told myself, there's no time to waste trying to find the route myself.
It's either the road map or I ask for directions. On the other pointer, I utilized the two.
But there was a problem. This is what most people encounter and keep them mute when they want to ask questions.
How do I approach people?
Uncertain of the response people will give, I drew back. This was what I did. I approached people with a smile, greeting and my mind prepared for an answer.
• Don't be rude whenever you approach people.
This worked. Though sometimes, I asked the wrong person and I was snubbed. Nevertheless, I moved.
Dear newbie, you have to develop the habit of asking questions and seeking guidance. Look at your industry, there are people there who have walked the walk, they can tell you when to run and when to fly. They comprehend everything you are attempting to accomplish.
Why don't you draw closer to them? A funny thing is that some newbies expect to be summoned by experts. No! It's not done. They are too busy to know if you're struggling with anything. You've to take yourself to them and be willing to be groomed.
You don't have all the time to start trying what works or does not. Someone has done that on your behalf, reach out to them. Sooner or later, you'll have to put others through.
Have you concluded that some people are born talented to do certain things?
Here's the good news. Everyone is talented. You have a special ability(s) that can only be discovered if you pay attention to them.
Let's talk about those who are talented but seek ways of acquiring skills.
I'll cite myself as an example. I started writing at a very tender age, I wrote fables and short stories as a little girl.
Over time, I discovered writing was my talent. I did excellently in essay writing and articles, which explains why I found it comfortable been in the literary and debating society and press club in high school.
But then, as I grew, I felt the need to have a skill that makes me valuable and sought for. Different options popped in, from soft skills to hard skills.
I wanted something I would do pleasantly and earn from.
I had a hard time settling for which was the best. I couldn't place my hand on any. I knew I derived joy and fulfilment from writing but my write-ups only existed in the confines of my books. I never knew my talent could become a high paying skill until I came to the virtual space. Then, I began to see new things, I saw people doing great with their talents.
That inspired me, I believed I could do the same. But how?
The first thing I did was to submit to training. I came to understand that though it's inborn, there's a need for sharpening and reshaping.
Many do not understand this simple logic. No matter how gifted you are, some things can only come to light if you expose yourself to the right conditions. Especially, if you're multi-talented, you have to be patient enough to discover which one to focus on.
I did the same, those we respect in their respective fields also did the same. Submission!
Are you asking me if it's possible to acquire a skill even if you have zero talent? Of course, you can. It just comes easy if you've it deposited in you.
Do something about your talent!
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Today's investment, An asset Tomorrow
Today's Investment, An Asset Tomorrow!
You have a message to the world, it is so clear you can't wait to share it, impact lives and become a leader. So good!
You can't wait to become that person you have always dreamt to be. Great!
But are you inclined to move through what it brings?
A lot of people get stuck at this point in life, they became ecstatic and overwhelmed by what they should be doing. By so doing, they avert the growth process. Finally, they crash along the way.
They forget that a blind man can't lead a blind man.
Whenever I read from great men and women, I'm encouraged. Encouraged to submit and endure the pain of growth.
These great minds paid the price yesterday and today, they reap from that investment. They put you and me into consideration back then and today, we drink from their brook of knowledge.
Don't be too eager to be in a certain position that you forget to learn what makes you effective.
Not minding what you do now or where you are, you have to feed yourself before you can feed others. Don't be a starving leader. You can't lend what you do not retain.
If you're so eager to deliver the message you've got and impact lives, then, let that be your driving force. Let it push you towards development and self-investment.
Help yourself and the personalities placed in your care by embracing growth.
Give room for development, one day it becomes a source that develops others.
Did you know that seeking a perfect start is an excuse not to start?
Oftentimes, humans try to overlook the fact that growth doesn't happen in a day, not even in a week. We try to jump from infancy to adulthood without passing through the adolescent stage.
We try to grow big without starting small, we don't want to start imperfect and become perfect.
I have seen a lot of people wait for a perfect start, a beginning without a scratch. They just want to grow in a day. They want to be known in a jiffy. They don't want to be patient and take the right steps.
This could be because of fear. Fear of being tagged an amateur, fear of coming out to make mistakes.
Let's see it this way. A child trying to take his first walking steps. The first attempt will never be perfect. He will fall, cry and try again. Sometimes, the child, tired of falling over, prefers to sit looking.
Funny enough, the little child at this stage doesn't know what it means to fail and be mocked. He still tries to walk. One day, he stands properly and begins to walk towards his mother. Finally, the baby steps, the falls, the bruises all make him walk.
Why do you find it difficult to take baby steps?
Why do you despise laying the right foundation?
Why can't you think like that child and be focused on the growth you desire?
Why are you afraid of taking baby steps?
Know that, waiting for a perfect start is an excuse never to start.
Be free to make mistakes. Be free to start small and grow big. Be free to have an imperfect start and become perfect. Be free to make mistakes.
One day, just like that child, you'll walk towards your dream and embrace it.
Before You Accept And Dwell On That Opinion, Weigh It!
Her name is Gold. An ambitious lady I am yet to meet physically. She's got big dreams but recently, she told me she was confused.
Why? I asked her. She told me she was desirous about doing something; a spectacular one.
What then is the problem? According to her, she informed an aunt, someone she held in high esteem. She wanted to know what her opinion was.
Her aunt told her it was a nice idea but there would be a better time to do it. A time when the zeal no longer exists, a time when there would be other things to do. She didn't say that to kill her dreams, it was just her thought.
I inquired her, "Gold, what's your haul about what she said?"
"She's someone I honour, so trying to turn down her guidance will be tough stuff to do".
But, does she comprehend your purposes?
That's where I am going.
Gold exists in my imagination. Soon, I know I will meet her. She might be reading this now.
Many make the mistake of accepting opinions as a sign of humility, especially when it's coming from those they look up to. No matter how important that person is, you have to understand that he/she doesn't understand your goals as you do.
They love you enough to give their opinions, but they will never force you to accept them. Before you seek opinions, you should have a conclusion in mind, what's your take about it?
An opinion remains an opinion unless you accept it. Only you have a final say over whatever anyone has advised you to do.
You have to weigh whatever opinion you are given, see if it tallies with your goals. Don't just respect the source and miss the way.
Above all, you should have a starting point, that is your idea. Also, be grateful. No matter how little that opinion may be, appreciate it. That's a way to show humility.
Before you accept and dwell on that opinion, weigh it!
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Powerful Charge
POWERFUL CHARGE!!
The life of a mortal is an aggregate of time and energy. Spend your time judiciously and intelligently. Be selective in the release of your energy.
The legends are few because many wants to;
triumph with trying,
get the prize with price,
earn stars with scars.
It's the commonality of fears in the majority that gives meaning to the boldness of the few. Place a premium on your time and energy. Don't be unguarded with them. That's what makes a critical difference between the rich and the poor, the wise and the fools.
Be selective in the release of your energy! Ageing is natural. Growth is a self-initiated project
Ageing is a sure experience. Growth has to be personally orchestrated. Fools age, wise age...the critical difference is in their growth.
Busyness is not synonymous with productivity
You can be busy but aimless!! Focus is the ability to stay on one idea to the exclusion of others. Focus eliminates distraction.
YOU CAN'T AFFORD TO QUIT
My brothers and sisters, I bring you a charge this very moment, that you can't afford to quit!!!
Why do you want to quit that precious thing that you're doing?
Listen to me, you've come a long way and you can't afford to quit. No! You shouldn't!! Don't even think of that because people are waiting for your manifestation, yes they are waiting for their consolation, you're the one that will console them with your gift and talent.
Oh, you think your gift is just to get a few cash into your Pocket and put food on your table? My friend, it's high time you start thinking global. Yes, you heard me right!
Think global, because it's from this standpoint that your thought to quit begins to depreciate, and then a new life will break out from you, which will eventually become the shelter for those who don't have it.
You want to quit because you lack finance, or there's no one to help you? Come let me whisper something tangible into your ears. When God was creating the Earth, money was not mentioned. That means He didn't use the money to create the heavens and the Earth.
What then did He use to create the Earth?
I know that's your question. He used WISDOM to establish the nation
Yes, WISDOM!
THROUGH WISDOM IS AN HOUSE BUILT AND BY UNDERSTANDING IT IS ESTABLISHED, so says the scripture.
Was money mentioned in the above scripture? Answer it yourself. My dear, I charge you this very day, that money is not what is used to build a house(career, skills, talent, business, etc...).
Money will only show up when your material (WISDOM) have been fully laid out and ready to use. Keep building and never QUIT.
Build until the building is erected, and well furnished. Don't stop building!!! Money doesn't attract WISDOM, but WISDOM attracts money.
WAKE UP!
Stretch your mind by doing something challenging. The mind doesn't remain the same after it is stretched. Mortals don't experience exceptional growth until they take a bold step.
You will be amazed at what you can accomplish when you stretch your mind. You've got great power. The perfect time is an illusion. He who identifies the storm will never cultivate.
And no matter how viable your seed may be, there is no expectation of harvest from an unplanted seed. Your ability to number your days is a preacher to WISDOM. Mortals won't need any motivation when they truly realize the reason why the clock ticks!
Do you want to activate your sense of mission and thoroughness? Think in numbers.
Forget about giving excuses.
Excuses have no purchasing power in the market of life. The excuse is neither a building component nor a weapon of war.
*Hack your mind and program it well.
Sometimes no matter how hard you try some thoughts keep destroying your peace and it's not your fault. This is what you have been through and now you are fearing to face that again. Nobody comprehends you. They don't recall the period when they were solitary and you were always there for them. People are harsh, this nation is harsh. Conserve your heart and if rehabilitating takes time then take all of your time. You warrant it. If they have any humanity left then they will care or at least be there for you. Keep praying it is life-changing. At least you have Allah. He won't ever vacate you alone. He cares about your beliefs.
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Your growth is different
YOUR GROWTH IS DIFFERENT.
Undoubtedly, growth is essential for every individual on this planet. As long as you live and breathe on this planet, growth is important because it's everyone's mandate. The importance of growth to everyone can't be underestimated because it's the measure of everyone's success.
Don't be naive! Everyone needs growth.
How would you feel if you bought seed and it refused to grow?
Growth is different and it occurs at a different pace. To some, it occurs very fast while to some it occurs slowly. Regardless of it, you shouldn't be derailed. One of the things that can disrupt your growth and render you unproductive is measuring your growth with that of others.
Other people's growths shouldn't be a yardstick for your growth. It's possible you start with your friend and might not be able to withstand his growth.
You might graduate from school the same year but that doesn't mean you will get a job the same year. I realize there are tribe along of you. If you look at it closely, you will realize you aren't sitting at the back, there are many people behind you too. The best thing you can do to yourself is to keep growing and keep maintaining your pace. Once you derail from your path, the journey becomes disastrous and detrimental.
YOUR LIFE IS WAITING FOR YOU.
I won't fail to reiterate the topic stated above in full. Your life is waiting for you but your time is not.
Does the topic above seem interesting to you? If it does, then read to the very end.
You need to know every individual has his best life to live. Apparently, amidst exhausting challenges and excruciating pain that seems you are drowning, you need to optimistically rise above them and prove you can be more because your best life awaits you.
Conspicuously, you have seen countless people fulfilling their dreams and living their best life every day. You won't stop seeing people doing exploits every day, but for you to be counted your intentionality is of utmost importance.
That beautiful life you have been waiting to live is calling at you if you are ready to put in the work required. Time is an unquantifiable determinant towards that great life waiting for you.
To effectively and efficaciously manage your time you need to understand know what you want and what you want to become. The spouse you wish to have, the house you desire to build, the beautiful family you want to raise is calling at you.
Do you know how easy it would be if you know your precise destination?
Your best life is waiting for you. Stop delaying it.
PLACE VALUE ON YOURSELF!
The majority of the world's population don't place value on themselves, only a few do and those are the few that rises to the position of influence. Do you want to become great in this life?
Place value on yourself!
Accomplish with me, let me exhibit to you something
What is VALUE?
We have different definitions of value, but allow me to give you the dictionary meaning of value. Value means to regard highly
OR
Evaluate or estimate the nature, quality, ability, extent, or significance of something or someone(emphasis mine).
Like I said before, we live in a world where only a few people place value on themselves, while others are left to dance to the dictates of men.
Those who place value on themselves can never be manoeuvered by any man, not even the kings and presidents of this world. Placing value on yourself is, giving yourself a standard definite protocol in all spheres of life. I know you don't understand this
Come with me
It means letting people know what you stand for, anytime, and anywhere, without compromise. Some people can't fully define what they stand for, that's the reason why anyone can use them anyhow they want and still go their way. If you don't exist for anything, you will plunge for something.
In this life, there's no neutral ground. It's either you place value on yourself and stand for it, or you're used by others to the detriment of yourself.
Most ladies are easily lured to bed because they refuse to place value on themselves, so a man can flash some few cash in their presence and before you know it, they've already fallen for the man and that leads to their defilement.
What a pity!!
When the value is in place you can't be cajoled to do what is not your desire! Place strict value on yourself so that anyone that sees you will know what you stand for, and for this reason, give you a high level of respect.
Placing value on yourself is not pride, it's an act to define who you truly are and what you stand for. Respect can't buy you value, but value can buy you respect.
Think about it
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The story you will tell
THE STORY YOU WILL TELL
It's always said that life isn't a bed of roses.
And yes, that is very true.
Whatever you are passing true today is making you stronger and preparing you for the greater life ahead.
The course you are registering for.
The sleepless night seems endless.
The insults and embarrassment you receive daily just because you have made up your mind to follow through.
Your constant determination and commitment seem abnormal to others.
All these are parts of the story you will share someday.
I have listened to a boy who did follow his mum to sweep and clean other people's houses, but now, he's better, greater, fulfilled and have a positive story to share.
His story is better now!
The preparation isn't going to kill you. It's only preparing you for a better place and giving you a better platform to share your unique story.
Keep working, it may seem fair, but it's closer than you thought.
Also, keep sharpening your axe and keep working on yourself!
YOU HAVE WHAT YOU CAN OFFER
Undoubtedly, all humans are created uniquely and there is greatness deposited in everyone.
Everyone is specially created which make him different from others.
In this present time when the world keeps evolving, you do have what you can offer.
If you check deeply, you will realize you are not only created but uniquely created and endowed.
Do not authorize anyone to speak you down.
Do not reckon you have anything to partake.
The associate you belong to needs your contribution.
The church you attend needs your contribution.
The school you attend need your contribution.
The world itself needs your contribution.
Never hoard your contribution.
It will surely get better!
SMALL BUT PERTINENT
There is some time that we take something that ought to contribute immensely to our success with levity and this has hampered our success and productivity.
No matter how many minutes it may seem, there is a need to always pay close attention.
Success doesn't come massively at once, it comes after the small steps taken consistently. In order word, it is a product of those small efforts put in place.
Every hour spent on that project will soon be visible.
Start paying attention to the things that will contribute to your life, no matter how small they might be.
THIS IS YOUR DAY
The only chance you have to be better is today.
Undoubtedly, you can't undo what you've done in the past (yesterday) but you can improve the quality of life you want to live tomorrow (future).
Yesterday's gone, the future is yet to come and it will be as beautiful/flourishing as you planned if you put in the right amount of work.
This is the present moment to take charge of your life responsibly.
The aim is to be better than who you were yesterday.
The connection between the past and the future is today. A well planned today will yield immense benefits for the future.
Today is the place of work for a better tomorrow.
Take up the pieces and forge ahead!
Today comes with great opportunities you need to leverage to make your future beautiful and fulfilled.
Do not dwell in yesterday's predicament, it will only hamper your growth and productivity.
Make today great!
Do not affect it with indecision and procrastination.
Today adequately dwelled will compel you a hero tomorrow.
YOUR PRESENCE IS REQUIRED.
For a school to function effectively, there is a need for both the teaching and non-teaching staffs to be present.
For a hospital to serve its purpose, the doctors and nurses need to be present.
In a court, the presence of both the lawyers and the judges are of great importance for any case.
In a training shop, the presence of a boss is required to train his apprentices.
There are many places in which the presence of people are pertinent to make things happen.
How do you feel with the absence of those people where they are needed?
In the same vein, your presence on earth delineates how imperative you are needed, so your presence should not be as a spectator nor an audience.
You are meant to be a contributor who proffers solutions to some of the problems on earth and significantly affect the world positively.
If you can't proffer solutions to some of the problems, then your presence on earth does count.
Your aim should be living a purposeful life and this will only happen when your presence is counting for something good.
Your presence is required, so take a good course, stand by it and fight for it.
Much love from this end!
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Young people are still preparing themselves for a world that no longer exists
*Young people are still preparing themselves for a world that no longer exists*
Well, I will explain more.
Now, there was a world where a secondary school graduate( as of then was Standard Six) is already sure of a good job.
I remember how my mum used to tell me that if she had finished Standard Six, she could have had the opportunity of going outside the country. She also showed me some of her mates who were able to get to standard six and these people had good jobs and were regarded as the elites in my place because they had money (thou not rich but we're okay and comfortable).
And if you manage to get to a certain level accidentally, woow jobs were already waiting for you. That world continued, so the system of going to school, get good grades and get a good job was the main thing because the jobs were there.
As time passes, another world began to emerge. The few individuals that we're able to grab it became successful while the majority still follow the GLODEN RULES, in Rice Dad and poor Dad called it (Rat Race).
Our parents up till now still tell us to go to school so we can get a good job. The individual at the university level is reading so hard so he can graduate and get a good job. Some even go as far as bribing and sleeping with lecturers.
Those in secondary schools are still preparing themselves for the same system. Now you see where I was driving? Young people are still preparing themselves for a world that no longer exists.
Because of this orientation, we have had since childhood,
* it has affected a lot of things, a high level of corruption because everyone wants to come out with good grades so that he/she can get a good job.
* Our level of creativity is low because we all are reasoning the same thing except a few who were able to develop themselves and change their mentality.
* It has hindered innovations and inventions because we have limited our thinking and creativity to just getting a good job.
* It has increased the level of corruption in our nation because everyone is fighting for the same thing, so we are ready to bribe our way in.
The simple solution is "Re-orientation"
The mindset that we grow up with has to be changed.
* A new orientation of why we should go to school
* A new orientation of why we should take our study serious
* A new orientation of why we should come out with good grades( not really because to get a good job)
This will reduce the level of corruption in the school system and as a nation.
Innovation will start coming out because those in secondary school will no longer see going to school just to graduate and get a job rather they will see it as an opportunity to develop themselves more to be able to create and build that amazing idea.
Corruption will reduce because people are no longer fighting for the same positions and jobs
We will have a more organized and productive society.
Is our responsibility to educate the young ones
TAKE A BREAK WHEN NEEDED
You don’t have to work tirelessly every 24 hours. When you do, you are making life very difficult for you.
The fact that your best friend is working then you shouldn't make you overwork yourself.
If you are a student, you don't need to read more than the designated hours just for the fact that your friends are reading longer than that.
All that matters is staying productive!
In this era, hard work doesn't determine the quality of life you will experience, smart work does.
Working every hour doesn't guarantee you success, but with the little time, you dedicate you can be productive with it.
When you feel like taking a break, please do it. It's your life.
Life is not measured by working every 24 hours and it's not going to reward people who claim to work every hour.
Take a break when needed and come back stronger than the former.
Regain the energy you have lost and channel them into the things you will be doing later and the journey ahead.
Trust you got value?
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Worrying Solves Nothing
WORRYING SOLVES NOTHING
Have you ever wondered why you don't get results after worrying? Why things don't change even after worrying a lot? That's because worrying doesn't change anything it only takes your peace at that moment.
When you know you have a problem, then it's important to figure out a solution.
At that time I know it might seem everything is falling apart, you don't know what to do, you want to talk to someone about everything.
If it's necessary please do talk, because I feel a problem shared is half solved but talk to the right person, because not everybody is worth talking to.
I got to learn something from a book I read 'Living Beyond Your Feelings by Joyce Meyer, she told a story of her friend who went for a routine checkup and memorized days overdue that her doctor worried that she might have non-Hodgkin's lymphoma, the vastly contentious form of the illness.
She had to run a series of test and was told that it would take about two or three weeks before the diagnosis was confirmed.
She asked her friend about how she got through those three weeks and if she was afraid.
Then the friend mumbled, " yes I was worried, but I recognized that if I bothered for three weeks and then discovered that I had lymphoma or didn't, I would have squandered three useful weeks of my life".
The friend learned she had the disease, she had the surgery and endured many months of chemotherapy but she was glad she didn't waste three valuable weeks of her life.
Note: Worrying solves nothing, it only takes your peace at that moment, if you have a problem please it is important to talk to someone you feel might help at that time. Also, be grateful for all you have, the life you are living right now is someone's prayer point.
Be happy!
WORRYING SOLVES NOTHING.
NOBODY KNOWS TOMORROW
This life is like a roller coaster, today you might be up and tomorrow down. It is important to treat people right, be nice to people, you never can tell what would happen the next moment.
I have seen different scenarios of people who treated people badly and later in the future they were at the mercies of the people they treated badly.
Just because you have opportunities people never had, doesn't make people who never had those opportunities less, that doesn't mean they should be slaves to you.
Deal with people with the admiration you anticipate from them. Don't use your power or position to make people suffer or feel less of themselves.
IT IS IMPORTANT TO SHARE YOUR IDEAS!
Normally, if I wanted to post my write-ups, I would send them to a friend to check if it was OK to post them and I would get praises in return, before posting it. I did this because I was scared about what people would say, I was scared of being criticized.
Then I asked myself this question recently"babe what if you didn't get praised? What if you were criticized for the mistakes you made, does that mean that you will withhold that which you know you have to offer.
Then I told myself, whatever it is I have to offer, I will offer it without getting praises from a friend first.
If after posting it, I get criticized by people, then fine I would accept the criticism and work on my flaws. After all, I'm learning.
I told myself, you have to believe in yourself, believe that you are capable, believe that you have ideas that would help people.
So many times we have great ideas to offer to people but we get scared about what people would say or think, we get scared about the criticisms we would get.
Don't keep what would save others because of your fears or weaknesses but rather share your ideas so that people can learn from you.
"What is greatness?"
Somebody asked
"Greatness is finally doing something that you hate to do" Answered David Goggins "so if you can get through to doing something (beneficial routines) that you find uncomfortable. If you can beat that laziness/procrastination habit at that moment, on the other side, that's GREATNESS"
Now sometimes writing is fun, playing basketball, piano, working out is fun. But sometimes it's going to be stressful and uncomfortable.
So if you can get through to do what you love doing when it becomes stressful, if you can do it anyway-- that's GREATNESS. This habit is what makes a great writer, a great basketball player, a great musician etc.
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Take responsibility for your life
TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE
How did I evolve the role of this family?
Ohh! I didn't get to attend one of the best schools in town.
Just because you were not born with a silver spoon doesn't mean you don't have the right to become better.
Or because you didn't have the opportunities some people have doesn't mean you have to let your life remain stagnant or become worse.
Stop wallowing in self-pity, when you have the power to change things.
Take responsibility for your life.
Taking responsibility for your life means that you accept that only you have the power to change things in your life not anybody else.
Taking accountability for your life also implies inhabiting a life with a basis and goal. It indicates you are sure of what you want and you are doing things that would make you fulfil your purpose.
Yes, you didn't choose your family, your country but you have the power to change things. The strength to be adequate, to be the nicest.
Stop criticizing the tribe for what is occurring in your life.
Self-pity isn't going to solve anything.
You have to begin seizing accountability for your life. Nonentity is moving to perform that for you.
When you take responsibility for your life you change from being the victim to the victor.
INCREASE YOUR FIRE
Recently while I was in the kitchen, I noticed that what I was cooking was taking more time than usual so when I checked I realized that the fire was low and I had to increase it.
Are you wondering why things are not working the way you expect?
Are wondering why you are not making progress?
Check if your fire is still burning.
Check if the fire is high enough for you to glow.
Check the place you missed it. So you can make things right.
Try to increase the fire, do better, put your best in everything you do.
ARE YOU WONDERING WHY THEIR FIRE GLOWS?
You are amazed at the fire, at how they glow, at how they keep the fire burning. But can you do all it takes to keep the fire burning? Can you bear the sleepless nights, the criticism, the annoying moments?
Can you be patient enough to go through all of those bumps and portholes? Can you pay the sacrifices they paid?
You yearn for knowledge of what is making them burn, we want more, do you want to know what keeps them burning.
-They believed in themselves
-They paid attention to true criticism and worked on their flaws.
-They were consistent
-At those times when they felt weak and tired they wanted to quit but they never gave.
-They wanted to become better
-They wanted to be happy in the end
- They wanted to be models people could look up to
- They wanted to burn so they could light others from their fire.
BECOMING A BETTER YOU
Where are you?
I mean you that was shouting "new year, new me".
Hope you've realized that a new year doesn't change a person except you decide to change.
If you just realised that or you have not realised yet then you are lucky, the year just started.
But you just have to start now, let the change you desire begin now.
Stop the procrastination!
It's the new year already.
Get your things ready and start the journey to becoming better in 2021.
In your journey to becoming better:
Believe in yourself.
Never compare yourself, your progress to anybody's, everyone runs at a different pace.
Don't be intimidated by people's progress.
The trip of a thousand leagues, they say commences with a stride.
Start small, start anywhere, start that business or learn that skill that you've been procrastinating about.
Do things regularly that would move you closer to your goals.
For example, let's say I planned to punish two e-books this year. Then I could start by writing regularly.
Be consistent.
VOTE YOURSELF OFF THE ISLAND!
We all want the best, we want to become better, but somehow, we just end up in some day's Isle, an Island where we postpone things that can help us reach our goals.
You will be like 'I'll learn that skill someday, I will do that exercise someday, I will work on my health someday'.
You want to do it someday, knowing fully well that you need those things to reach your goals.
You just need to vote yourself off the island, do things even if you feel or don't feel like, take the necessary steps.
You also have to learn self-control and self-denial.
In self-control, you have to be able to control your emotions, your appetites, control what you say or do etc.
While in self-denial, you have to be able to say no to some things, those things might give you pleasure at that time but They would not help you reach your goals. Things like:
- Spending too much time on irrelevances, knowing fully well that it would affect your finances.
- Sleeping at those times you need to invest your time in reading or learning new things etc.
Those things are going to give you pleasure, but It's never going to help you reach your goals.
Procrastinating about things isn't going to make you better instead you will just end up wasting time on things that wouldn't add value to life.
Stop procrastinating!
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5 Ways to make massive moves in May
5 WAYS TO MAKE MASSIVE MOVES IN MAY
I remember an experience in the Bible of a man named Saul.
He found himself in the company of prophets, and he began to prophesy among them.
Surprised, the people that knew him before, asked, “Is Saul also among the prophets?” (1 Samuel 10:11).
What happened? Environment!
Many times, all you need is the right environment—to see someone doing what you were born to do. It validates your vision and perhaps lends you some belief even if you had little or none.
Yes, you are born to be a writer, but somehow it's not showing forth, the right environment can stir it up.
This is one reason this community exists—to create an environment of inspiration for writers and authors.
Are you taking advantage of this environment?
If you haven't been taking advantage, here are 5 things you can do now to take advantage of this environment—Influential Writers and Authors Community.
1. Visit the community Every day:
There are some important things you need to do every day.
For example, eating healthy and balanced food, drinking clean water, exercise and sleeping. If you miss out on them, your day is incomplete.
One thing you should add to that list is visiting the community every day. Until you visit here, see your day as incomplete. Smiles!
2. Read posts and engage:
The reason you should add visiting the community every day to your daily schedule is because of the valuable posts waiting for you.
Every day, new valuable and transformational posts are shared in the community. Create the time to read them.
But don't stop at reading them. Also, engage with the posts you read. You are building relationships this way.
3. Ask questions where you need clarity:
Do you have writing or book publishing-related questions? Don’t hesitate to ask away!
One powerful statement about asking questions has to be, “The one who asks questions doesn’t lose his way.”– African Proverb
Don’t be worried or timid to inquire about your issues. Replies dawdle for you!
4. Post your content:
We allow everyone to share their content with the community.
You can share content on your niche every day of the week. Whether it’s poems, short stories, fiction, non-fiction, relationship, etc.
You can share inspirational or motivational quotes or posts.
Feel free to also share posts on tips, tools, and strategies for a profitable writing or book publishing journey.
As long as your post is educational, share, because a writer writes and does so often.
However, promotional posts and posts with links aren’t allowed. Share posts in full without an external link to continue reading the post elsewhere.
Also, shared posts aren’t allowed. For your posts to be approved, share directly in the community, not from your timeline, page, or another group.
I anticipate reading more of your posts going forward.
5. Sign up for courses/coaching/training:
Here’s a powerful quote on learning by the man who painted the famous Mona Lisa Painting, Leonardo da Vinci...
He said, “Learning never exhausts the mind.” These are profound words on marble.
Dear Influential, your mind is an inexhaustible device that you must explore by learning, relearning, and unlearning every day.
As we step into the fifth month of the year, commit to these five things and see your life take a new turn.
IF MUST YOU MUST SUCCEED ONLINE THEN THIS IS WHAT YOU NEED FIRST
Growing up as kids you'd often hear troublesome boys ask their friends, "you get mind?" whenever they plan to perform something prankish, they are not fringed about their friends' courage level.
Your mind is a powerful asset and we can't achieve what our mind doesn't believe or is yet to accept.
What everyone need is a mind shift. The secret of growing wealth starts from our mind.
A transformed mind knows that opportunity may not come in a white envelope.
I have seen people who don't believe in online business yet when they see someone making money online they are forced to ask the question; how do you make money online?
And when you expose them to true online business models that can help them generate 6,7 figure monthly like freelancing, information selling and of course affiliate marketing they fizzy out.
I was walking one day and a street hawker was telling his colleague this; if the business is not what he can see physically, as in exchanging of goods or services for money and would not consume much of his time and effort then it's not for him. And I said in my heart what a limiting belief.
Sorry, bro, that's why you are where you are that was what I muttered as I walked past them.
If your mind hasn't started thinking beyond exchanging time for money or how you can build a cash flow system that guarantees you some form of freedom.
Then what you need is a mind shift, if our mind doesn't change from negativity to positivity, from pessimism to optimism our life would never move forward.
You can't live a life your mind has not lived first.
Everything in our life is built twice first in our mind than in our life.
I pray you to have the May of your desire—a Magnificent one. Happy New Month!
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Secret to Mastering Any Art
Secret To Mastering Any Art
How do you feel when you come across experts in your field? I mean those who practice what you are doing without stress. They feel comfortable doing it and you ask God; when will I attain this height?
You might have concluded that they are masters because they have enrolled in many classes, hence, certifications have made them experts. Oh! Come off it. You don't have to feel bad anymore. I've discovered the secret to mastery and I will tell you.
The secret to mastering any art is constant practice. Yes! You read it right. You see, paying for classes and reading books will only provide you with information, only by practising what you've learnt will you become a master.
Simple as the art of practising seem, a lot of people are still where they are because they don't acknowledge it. This could be attested to fear of been laughed at, called an amateur or even corrected. Hence, they are waiting for the certificate to present them as experts. Practice makes perfect!
Let's see it this way. Can you recall your first cooking experience?
That day you prepared salty food; dad spat it out and mum only managed some spoons. Your siblings laughed at you, right? The other time you added a little salt, but still, there was the complaint.
Another time, you asked mum to give you a specific quantity to be added. You remember how you depended on cookery books, just to be better.
After many attempts and mockery, today, you can call yourself a chef. Not because you have a certificate in cooking but practice made you a cook. Did you get the logic?
That's precisely how it gets on! You don't have to be authorized before you commence. Start now and grow into an expert. Keep practising, let people correct you, let them assess you!
That rubbish as you call it will someday be applauded. Just keep practising.
Are You Ready For The Outcome?
It's no longer news that there's a reward for every action and inaction. But, why are you taken aback when it comes? Do you believe you are not worth it?
I have observed awardees and one thing I notice is the calmness and preparedness with which they mount the podium, receive their awards and give a speech. In my sense, I am identical, "is it that these are utilized to achievement or are they concealing their surprise"?
The answer is this. They saw it coming, their minds received the awards long before their hands. They understood that the universe rewards hard work, and that prepared them.
A lot of people are afraid of what their actions will birth. It's the truth! This could be as a result of their mindset or unbelief.
Let's get this right, the moment you started living intentionally, you booked an appointment with great results.
Likewise, the day you started neglecting worthwhile engagements, you engaged in the wrong results.
One thing about results is that it doesn't disappoint. Whatever you cultivate, you will obtain in numerous furrows.
You have a lot to do if you want the narrative to change. Start taking actions that will birth results you won't be afraid of. Begin to engage in what will lift you. Work on your mind. Do whatever you find yourself doing well.
Hey! You haven't been getting results, right? Calm down, the time of dispensation will come. You'll be called up to take your reward and as a star, you would do so bravely and with smiles.
Let each step you take direct your actions towards productivity and increase. Be ready for the outcome!
Are you ready for the consequence of your litigations? Give your answers in the comments section. Don't hesitate to share.
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This is why you will never be a confident person
THIS IS WHY YOU WILL NEVER BE A CONFIDENT PERSON
PS: Don't read this once and think you have gotten the message; read it again, and again, before you scroll away.
No matter how hard you read, you might never be a confident person. You want to know why? Then follow me tenaciously. Last week, we had considered some of the practices to make a lifestyle, to build our level of confidence. They are body languages that exude how confident we are.
Before I proceed, if you saw and read that content, which of the signs did you practice?
If I am not mistaking, the answer will be "none".
This is where your problem lies. Failure to "do". Life is about taking action. The word "do" is an action word. It means to take action.
The reason you will never be a confident person is because
You read and not act.
You hear and not do.
"Doing", starts with the first move you make, then others will follow. But most times, the problem lies with the LACK OF GUTS TO START.
Until you are COURAGEOUS enough to start doing that thing you have proposed in your mind for decades, to do, you will remain a COWARD.
I am not insulting you o. I am only stating the obvious.
The opposite of confidence is fear, and one who fears is not brave, and one who is not brave, is a ...(complete the sentence). Can you see?
If you do not want to be termed a COWARD, please find the COURAGE to START doing that thing you should do, that will change your life for the better.
As communicators, if you lack the courage to speak out or write and share, to express yourself, then you're of all men most miserable. Yes! You are in the midst of people, you are itching to talk but at the same time, too shy or afraid to talk, do you feel peaceful on the inside?
You are in this space, you read the articles of other people, you have something to write as well but you hold back for fear of something best known to you. Don't you feel miserable?
All you need to do today is, find the courage to start. Worst-case scenario, get professional help. Some of us who are into these things are here to help you, ask for it.
Until you begin to act (do) on what you read or listen to on how to be a confident person, my darling, no two ways about it, you will NEVER be one. And one of those HOWs is to, find the courage to ... (Complete the sentence yourself).
When you start, and continue, confidence begins to grow in you.
YOUR CONFIDENCE, YOUR DRIVING TOOL
Dear Friend, Do always remember what success means to the world and how it's been weighed by the world.
No one born to fail but we were all born to attempt and then resulted in either failure or success.
But one thing will always limit your actions towards either success or failure and that's CONFIDENCE
Confidence is one of those tools that give successful people chances over unsuccessful ones.
Confidence is one of those tools that differentiate a leader from a follower.
Confidence is that tool needed to open that closed door,
And the Unavailability of this in you, limit your greatness.
Confidence is that tool that makes you differentiate possibilities from impossibility,
Dear Friend, Nothing in life would be achieved without CONFIDENCE
It's the driver of all successes and as well it's the key to open numerous opportunities.
And to achieve the best you want on this planet Earth, Your CONFIDENCE level shouldn't less than average.
I've seen men doing the impossible all with the help of confidence.
The level of your CONFIDENCE would determine the level of your Greatness.
Get the shyness off and put on the coat of confidence, only if you decide to live a better life plus a longer one.
Digest this and anticipate how best CONFIDENCE can be used to generate more revenue as an entrepreneur in the subsequent post.
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