Goodbye and Hello

Here's one quote by Moira Rogers that I chose to reflect with: "“The two hardest things to say in life are hello for the first time and goodbye for the last.”

Go talk to them. Say hi, and judge whether they want to be friends with you. But before you do, make sure you are who you want to be. Because friends we make in one state of mind, may not be friends we’d like to have in another state of mind. Friends you made when you were depressed are likely not people you’d want to be friends with when no longer depressed, for whatever reason. The very fact that you are unsure how to initiate a friendly interaction with someone, being an extremely social creature (human), means there are more important problems your subconscious mind would like to deal with first.

In an instant, people that we know and love friends and family members can be taken from us, leaving the rest of us to work through the many feelings we have towards them.

Now, you may think to yourself, "but I see them all the time on social media." But we both know that watching someone's highlight reel isn't the same as being with them as they navigate life's complexities. 

So, in some respects, your moving to a new environment resulted in something similar to death: your communication stopped. And your relationship to that person changed. 

That's why experts trained in mental, emotional, and psychological wellbeing prioritize what they call termination. 

Termination occurs when a therapist and client end their relationship. And what's most interesting about termination is how and when it's discussed.

When done properly, termination can help people leave the relationship with a sense of closure, wellbeing, and confidence in their future.