If you are wondering whether or not you should focus on commitment, the truth is that you should! Commitment is one of the most important aspects of marriage. If you want to succeed in marriage, you must learn how to commit! Otherwise you will never have any real "worthiness" as a partner for your wife. Commitment may be hard to come by at times but once you get it, life will literally be wonderful.
If you are presently in a committed and loving relationship, that's great! However, you still need to work on making your marriage one that is more than just about having a love affair. Yes, those things are very important, but they certainly are not necessary if you want your marriage to be successful! You must focus on commitment. Commitment refers to two things: one, you must want your marriage to work; and two, you must be willing to put forth the effort needed to make your marriage work.
If you want to make your marriage work, you will need to dedicate time to putting your marriage on the right track. This does not mean that you must give up your other responsibilities. You just need to focus on commitment. For example, you may find that you need to take care of your children in addition to tending to your marriage. You may also find that you need to take time to help your spouse care for himself/herself. In both of these cases, you should make time to focus on commitment.
Making time to focus on commitment is easy. You just need to sit down with your spouse and find out what it is really that you want out of your marriage. Then you can set a schedule to follow so that your marriage becomes more than just a physical relationship.
One of the easiest ways to focus on this is to list the various duties that you have (and are responsible for) before you and your spouse ever get together. Once you do this, then you can divide your time equally between the various duties. Then you can schedule one hour each day dedicated to this duty. In this way you can spend that one hour doing something that you will actually be able to use!
Another way to focus on your commitment is to make sure that you never, ever let anyone, including yourself, talk negatively about your spouse during this time. Never complain, criticize, or say anything negative about your spouse. Doing these things will only serve to lower your self-esteem and put a damper on the success of your marriage. Instead, focus on giving love to your spouse. Be genuine. The true way to have a great marriage is to be genuine with your spouse.
During this time of year you have many opportunities to take the family on a trip. Why not plan a weekend break? If you cannot go at that time, you can certainly make other arrangements during the week. The most important thing to remember when planning a getaway is that you need to spend some quality time with your family. This is your priority!
There are many ways to focus on commitment. You simply have to find which one works best for your marriage. It is also important that you find a way that you and your spouse can communicate openly and honestly about the commitments you both have made. Merely committing yourself to another 30 years of marriage is a huge step. Don't blow it by taking the commitment too lightly!