In Western therapies there is great supervision. And it is this forgetfulness that, in my opinion, slows down some therapeutic processes. Some people can heal their wounds sooner if they include this element early in their journey of self-awareness.
I'm talking about the body. Both clients and therapists should listen to bodily sensations.
But the body and the mind are the same. There is not one without the other. One can affect the other and vice versa. However, I think feeling corporeality makes us go faster and deeper than mind-based therapy. The body speaks clearly, you just have to understand its language and pay attention to it.
In the body, there are the emotions.
Emotions are bodily reactions to everyday situations that come our way in life.
For example, sadness appears in the form of tears. But, in addition, he "asks" that we roll into a ball on the couch or stay in a fetal position, he wants us to pull ourselves up.
If your attitude or that of your patient is very different, there is a bad management of the feeling. That is, if a person makes his chest hard or continues with the speed of day to day so as not to cry, he will be repressing the emotion.
And emotional repression does not lead to a good place.
In the body, there is the emotional wound
In most cases, it is necessary to find out what is the original wound of the consultant; in what moment or situation there was such a stressful discomfort that he could not bear it and defended himself.
Ultimately, you have to find out how you learned to suppress feelings.
In most cases, this repression happened in childhood. Even though is not always like that.
When you are a body therapist, you know that defense is made with a posture. Therefore, you know what type of bodies there are and what is the emotional wound that each one carries.
A thin and languid body is not the same as another broad and hard. The first will show a wound of lack of affection and loving nourishment in the first months of life. The second will speak of a conflict of independence, limits and personal autonomy.
In the body, you feel the conflicts. You don't reason them
Many people come to the consultations who already know what is happening to them: father or mother did or did not do such a thing and that causes them difficulties today.
Many times they have learned it after years of talk therapy. Given this, I usually say that the facts do not matter.
The essential thing for there to be a real change is to live the feelings that were repressed.
The head (or mind) sustains any conflict. For example, the client may find the reasons and be convinced that he has forgiven his caregivers. The problem will be that this is not going to transform anything in your current life.
When coming into contact with the body, the anger, sadness or fear that you felt as a child will arise. That is what you have to work on, you have to release it and manage it.
When the wound heals, he will either forgive from the heart or give a damn about forgiveness.
In the body, the lies are not kept
There are people who, to defend themselves from a wound, tell a story that has nothing to do with the original conflict. Of course, it is an unconscious process.
As a therapist, you can see it with body language. If someone tells you that the problem is solved while crossing their arms or sinking their chest, you have signs that the issue is not so healed.
In that case, I lead the person into the body so that they can experience the problem from there. Sometimes the results are surprising.
With your body you understand your patients
We all have a body that perceives in front of reality. So far, we have reviewed how your clients' bodies can help them build the therapeutic process.
But you also have a body that will react to the situations that arise in the session.
By knowing their body language, you can harness those feelings for the patient.
Some time ago I worked with a very special client. At first, he started the sessions because he suffered anxiety from a great emotional repression.
From the first session with her, my body was filled with many chills. Because of my emotional wound, I know that chills come to me when there is an issue related to death in the prenatal stage. So it was in his case.
So by sharing my feelings with her, it became clear why she had chosen to suppress her emotions. So instead of beating around the bush, we went to the root of the conflict.
In the last session, sharing all the work with her, we talked about death. And I didn't feel chills. The wound had healed. This is how she and I perceive it. At that meeting, we decided that your process was over.
As you can see, the body can give a lot of information within the therapeutic framework. But this is just the general. However, when you have the theoretical information and personal experience of listening to your body, your sessions reach a level of depth that you have never reached before.
It saddens me that all these resources are overlooked when working with only the mind.
