Don't waste your time about people coming to you to apologize. Focus on total forgiveness and that's all.

Who hasn't decided not to act against a problem until an apology arrives from other part? Because I had. Many times in my past.

But recently, I have realized something that has stuck with me and has stuck with me and has bought me immense peace ever since.

It's just a waste of time waiting for the other person to say "sorry".

Below are just two steps you need to take to make forgiveness an act of habit for you.

Take accountability for everything in your life.

Giving the responsibility to someone else for anything that happens to you, is giving away your decision-making, your freedom and eventually you become the victim of the story.

"Oh, it's because he did that to me. He must apologize". Does that sound like a person that has control over his/her life? It sounds a little funny though, doesn't it?

"He did that to me". Come on pal, you're better than that, wake up from your slumber and get rid of that belief. Take a look at this little instance below;

If you're walking down the street and someone is coming your way pressing and looking at his phone, and when he comes closer, he then hits you with his shoulder, and the stranger continues walking while you expect that he ought to apologize to you. Isn't that just a big waste of energy, getting angry because you didn't get what you wanted from the other person. Instead, what you can do to use your energy wisely, is to understand maybe he's having a bad day. That this isn't related to you in any form. And from that state of mind, you can forgive him because forgiveness is ultimately a gift you can embrace to yourself.

The thing I realized is that if you can take accountability over everything that happens to you irrespective of you being involved or not. By doing so, you will surely find immense peace and tranquility and freedom you desire.

The actions of others are a reflection of how they feel inside within themselves.

This is one of the things I had to learn and adapt to harshly.

If someone doesn't apologize to you doesn't mean that the reason behind it is related to you.

The reason why a person doesn't apologize after making a mistake is that it's based on the "fear of being wrong".

A person that doesn't say sorry might have a deep and enormous fear inside of themselves. That's not our responsibility at all.

The only thing we need to know is to show our understanding. The mindset of" if he truly cares, they would have treated me better" comes from your mind. Stay away from that mind ( ego) of yours and sticking to this idea will bring far more benefits than otherwise.

In summary;

Sticking to those above two(2) key aspects would be very important if you're seeking for a way to deal better with social conflicts you might have now and in the nearest future. This will bring you more peace at the time of making a decision, you will have clearer mind, and the possibility of choosing a great alternative is going to be higher compared to before.

And lastly, is a guaranteed freedom.

Trust you all learnt something here? If so, I would love to know that in the comments section.

Until then, thanks for passing by to read.

See you guys later...................

Author: @Alex452

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