Three friends from school life. One is a little sensitive. Lack of self-confidence. I broke down when I heard a little harshness. The other two, realizing this weakness, began to make him sit up and down. Under this pressure, the friend became emotionally disturbed. He went and told the other two about his troubles. Those two words do not pay the price, but increase the level of mental torture. It's not that they're very understanding. In school life everyone is more or less insensitive. This torture cuts terrible scars on the sensitive boy's mind.
Leaving school, college, then university, then career. The friendship of the three survives. People's sense of humanity increases with age. People learn to understand people. Maybe that's why the two friends can slowly guess that the third friend could not overcome the mental torture of school life. One day they went with a friend and talked about it. They express their remorse. Slowly the grief of the sensitive friend is cut off. Even more amazing is that the other two friends feel much lighter about themselves. Some things change radically between them. As human beings they became much more tolerant. Confessing your mistakes gives you peace of mind.
This incident actually met me. Let me tell you another story.
The story of a father and his son. Sweet relationship between them in the boy's childhood. They play together, go for walks, talk. Then the boy is a little older. Growing up, there may be some generational differences between all parents. It's something parents can't accept. He began to catch the boy's flaws in various matters. When the boy begins to reach adulthood, the father begins to feel that the boy has not grown up properly. The boy also feels that his father cannot stand him at all. Their distance gradually increases with age. Apparently they have a heart, but there is a difference of many miles in the mind. The father also suffers from this, the son's life also goes through a miserable time. Nothing makes the boy think he is doing the right thing. He is always in the fear of disappointing his father. This disrupted both his work and his personal life. One day his younger brother went to his father and said this. Although at first he did not accept his responsibility for his son's mental turmoil, the father gradually began to realize his role. Talked to the older son. One day their relationship may not be right, but little by little it starts to get better. The boy's confidence increases. The emotional distance between father and son decreases. Dad came in his last years and felt a sweet peace of mind. This father and son are very close to me. It's good to see them now. Sometimes there is a little jealousy.
We often hurt people unknowingly. Maybe I give it unknowingly. I give it for many days. We do not realize that we are hurting someone close to us. But when I realize, no matter how late that realization is, I think we should try to correct it by admitting our own mistakes. It also brings peace to those who have suffered, and in most cases it feels good to suffer a little. I know many more such incidents like the above two incidents. But I'm not just saying things from my experience. Modern psychology supports this belief of mine.
According to psychologists, when we are under any mental or physical stress, our body produces a hormone called cortisol. The main function of this hormone is to help the body and mind cope with any difficult situation. It can be both physical or mental. In most cases cortisol is beneficial for humans. But if unnecessarily high cortisol is produced, the body and mind may constantly feel that they are under attack. In this condition physical and mental well-being is disturbed. Happiness and peace are lost.
I have hurt a very close person if this thing keeps running through our heads all the time, then extra cortisol is bound to form. Forced to be mentally and physically disturbed. The most effective way to live a healthy life is to deal with it directly. This is why the theory of enhancing mental well-being, from the Twelve Step program to the Integrated Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, says that any old mistakes or regrets must be dealt with as much as possible. I believe in this science.
And when it comes to theory, as a human being, I think that hurting someone should always be acknowledged as wrong. No matter how late. That is healthy, that is peaceful. Let's try to solve the previous mistakes. Let's embrace the future with more peace.
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