Dealing with rejection

Have you ever been in a situation where you want something yet you can't get it, where you've been told you're not the right person for that job, I deserve someone better than you, you are not pretty enough or smart enough, you're not qualified, I don't love you anymore and so on....well, these words are hurtful yet it's something that everyone will likely experience in life.

so how do we deal with these emotions that goes with been rejected. Well before we go on to talk about ways to which we can deal with rejection ,we must learn to understand that the emotions we might likely feel are a normal response to rejection which may include low self esteem, sadness,anger, jealousy and so on which may likely lead to depression if not handled caution.

These emotions in my own words can be categorized as “sweet poisons” in the sense that they help us relieve abit of the pain and if not properly handled it can also become toxic for us, so the same emotions that makes us humans and alive are the very emotions that can take life away from us..

what are the steps to healing?

1 ACCEPTANCE

yes you heard right, acceptance is a first step to healing, not just accepting the reasons for your rejection but also the emotions that goes with it. that's is to say if you're angry accept the fact that your angry, it you're sad accept the fact that you're sad. don't try to bottle you're feelings up acting like everything is fine when it's not . I remember when I first got rejected by someone whom I really liked, I acted cool about it, told him it was okay and that it was fine if he liked somebody else which was totally a big lie. it was so devastating that I'll zoom out several times just thinking about it ,cried alot in my room but when I go outside I try to fool myself and and everyone around me including my rejector that I've moved on which was killing me slowly. I could barely eat which went on for weeks until I summoned the guts to tell me him how I truly felt... believe me when I say it is one of the most cheapest and most natural pain killer. the moment I exposed what was in my heart, the sadness, anger , jealousy, I became totally free and the pain healed drastically. you too can adopt that.

2 OPEN MINDEDNESS

life experiences are not just about pain or pleasure but it's also about the wisdom drawn from each experiences to shapen our lives. so being open minded is one thing and learning something new is another but are quite related. imagine you're good chef, everyone you've met thinks you're food are very delicious and then you thought it a good idea to enter a chef's competition only for you to be thrown in the Corner as a terrible cook by international renowned chefs. that's a huge blow to you and your history of cooking. But if you're a person who's open minded, you're desires to be better will subdue your emotions making you to take the necessary corrections admist the rejection and improve on You're skills to avoid being just a local champion. in other to learn, you must first position your self in a state of humility and open mindedness.

3 EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

if you happen to find yourself in this stage of rejection, always have it in mind that everything is for a reason. so the reason you didn't get that job isn't just because you're not good enough but it could be that the job isn't worth you or the people aren't meant for you. note, that our lives are connected to several other people you're destined for, so fate will always push to you to whom and what you're meant for regardless your efforts and desires.

in the end you'll find out that going against God's will or fate can end in disaster. for instance you're in love with someone who doesn't love you, instead of accepting the fact you try to use other bad means to get that person, some go as far as doing love potions. In the end, you find out that when the spell is broken, you'll become an eyesore as the person will only hate you more than before.

4 PROVE EM WRONG

You can be who they thought you'll never be, regardless of the rejection, if you have the conviction of what you want in life especially concerning your dreams and aspirations, do not quit, do not stop. believe that with the right attitude, mindset, determination and knowledge you will eventually get what you want no matter how long it takes. you fall seven times you get up eight, believe in yourself and get free from the shackles of low self esteem..

5 LOVE YOURSELF

No body is perfect, but always make sure that regardless the Love for your self is always perfect and a 100%. Always remember for you to be loved, you must learn to love starting with yourself and people around you. don't let nobody tell you you're not good enough or talk you out from what God is talking you into.

be yourself, do not change who you truly are to please anybody, enjoy your self and live life to the fullest. you are unique and special and nobody is ever going to be like you.

6 FORGIVE AND FORGET

let by gones be by gone, life's is to short to was time in u forgiveness and grudges of the heart, so let go honey.

these are the few tips to help you deal with rejection, I hope it was useful to, if you have more steps lemme know on the comment section below.

good bye