Being so kind is harmful

April 19, 2023

This month of April is one of the blessed and happy month for my partners family, why?one is his sister who is lives in Romania(part of Europe) go home for 10days vacation, then another is his brothers wife who worked in Malaysia go hom for vacation too, so it was indeed a family day for all of us.

Now his sister already went back to Romania, but his brothers wife still had one week more left to enjoy here, and mostly we spend time together, we are close with each other, actually I am close with everyone here, even sometimes they have some issues, I am always in the middle.

This wife of his brother is so kind, soft hearted with everyone tho she is a shy type but she get along easily when you talk to her, and I think some people take advantage her kindness and being soft hearted, even her Boss/Madam at work knew how to get her attention so she will return to them after vacation,they offer her with additional salary which she agreed than staying her without a concrete plan of what to do.

When she go home for vacation, she only have ₱30k+ on her pocket, and she knew that her son still holding the money that she sent before going home and another thing is, one of her friend/neighbor/cousin promised to pay her debt when she go home for vacation.

This cousin/friend/neighbor borrowed ₱40k from her thru chat and as I told you that she is soft hearted she immediately sent her the money.

Now that she is around this cousin/friend/neighbor broke the promise and make another promise to return the money this coming april 22, so she believes, and since she dont have money on hand, she ask me to pawn her gold necklace and she doesnt want to get the necklace back, after knowing the amount of the necklace she disagree to pawn because its too small for the price ahe bought it, and she is giving me the necklace, but of course I am not taking advantage of her situation even we are close and she offered it to me.

What I did was pawn the necklace under my name and handed her all the money and I will be the one to get it(tubos)and the necklace will be mine, its like I bought the necklace to her, atleast ndi mareremata ung necklace nya,sayang kasi soon mgmamahal pa value nun, so if ever I have money I will be the one to get it kesa maremata.

Now with regards to her cousin/neighbor/friend who borrow ₱40k and promised to pay her, handed her ₱10k only and made another promise to pay her with interest, but she gets mad because she dont want any interest what she need is the actual money that she borrowed, so now they are not talking after the incident.

With regards to this matter, I just listen to her while she is telling me what happened, but I advise her that sometimes she needs to control her being soft hearted because not everyone is really a good payer and with word of honor, if you knew the situation is in emergency then you can let them borrow but if without any good reason think about it first.

I feel pity on her because she is supposed to be enjoying and relaxing her vacation with her family, but look she feels stressed with the borrower, but still I admire her because you can always see her smiling even feeling stressed.

I just hope that she learned her lesson when it comes to money and also she will listen to my advice that start saving money for herself and for her kid.

How about you, is there someone who did the same thing with you?