Hint that you want a date by asking her to do a fun activity. This will show her you’re interested without you having to directly state it. Mention the activity and ask her if she’s interested in it. If she says yes, suggest you hang out. If she’s not interested, suggest something you know she likes. If she still says she’s not interested, it’s best to move on.[1]
For instance, say, “The championship game is coming up and I’m thinking about going. Are you interested?”
As another example, say, “It’s been forever since I went bowling. How about you?”
Be direct and ask for a date if you feel brave. Being direct is the best way to get a date, though you may be rejected. Tell the girl that you’re interested in going out with her, then suggest a date.[2]
Zero width embedMake her feel special on the date by showing her attention. Your date is your chance to make a good impression on her. Be nice to her, and give her your full attention the entire time. Here are some ways to show her you care:[3]
Keep your phone put away.
Ask her a lot of questions.
Look her in the eye while she’s talking.
Ask her how she’s doing.
Give her compliments.
Ask her for a second date at the end of the night. Let her know you had a good time and want to see her again. Then, follow-up after your date with a text or call to let her know you had a good time.[4]
Say, “I’d love to take you out again.”
You can also ask for the second date later, if you prefer. For instance, you might text her afterwards to say you had a good time and ask for the second date.
If you’re an adult, it may be best to wait a few days.
Spend time on her to help your relationship grow. How much time you spend together in person will depend on how old your are and your personal schedule. Text her daily to keep in touch, and interact on social media, if you both use it. Do your best to schedule regular dates or hangouts, even if you're just seeing each other at school. Additionally, make an effort to sit by her when you're in a class or event together.[5]
You'll likely go on a few dates or message each other for awhile before you ask her to be your girlfriend. Try to be patient because rushing things can push her away.
Talking, texting, and hanging out together will help you deepen your connection with her, which can help you get her to be your girlfriend.
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Ask her to be your girlfriend in person when you feel ready. Bring her somewhere you can be alone, then let her know that you really like her. Tell her that you hope you can be exclusive, then ask if she'll be your girlfriend.[6]
Say, "I have so much fun with you, and I think it's time that we make this official. Will you be my girlfriend?"
Text her to see if she'll be your girlfriend if you're shy. Texting is a great option for expressing your interest without having to face her personally. Type out how you feel about her, then ask her to be your girlfriend. Don't text her again until you get a response.[7]
You might say, "These past few weeks have been amazing. Wanna make it official and be my girlfriend?"
Stay calm and respect her feelings if she says no. While rejection feels terrible, it's something everyone goes through. Remind yourself that she likely isn't trying to hurt your feelings, and she may have reasons that have nothing to do with you. Accept her answer gracefully, then reach out to someone who cares about you for support.[8]
Say, "I understand. Thanks for being honest with me."
If you don't want to talk to someone about your feelings, do something active, like going for a run, that can help you cope with your emotions.
How much time you spend together in person will depend on how old your are and your personal schedule. Text her daily to keep in touch, and interact on social media, if you both use it. Do your best to schedule regular dates or hangouts, even if you're just seeing each other at school