Dealing with Infidelity Trauma

Infidelity is the action or state of being unfaithful to a spouse or other sexual partner.Infidelity trauma is a thing that affects the one cheated on the most. A lot of self doubt and insecurities arise after someone cheats on you. Cheaters never really understand the death they gift you with when they cheat, how much of you they take away from you. The constant self-doubt as if you are not enough, as if you are incapable of receiving love. To them, cheating absolutely has nothing to do with you, they cheat for themselves. You will find an unfaithful partner ask questions like;

• How are you mentally affected by my cheating?

• Why does it make you feel anything? 

• How is my cheating affecting your self-esteem?

  The selfishness in their tone and the way they act after you catch them on their infidelity can send one in an immensely intense trauma.

• Healing from the trauma requires you to thoroughly reevaluate the relationship and ask yourself if you are honestly willing to stay with a person who doesn’t even see the depth of damage he has caused. One thing for sure is that forgiving once means a train of forgiveness that you will be required to give out, one cheating after the other. Cheaters honestly never know when to stop.  Ask yourself if you are willing to endure the pain.

You must always remember that you are enough and that it is not your fault. Choose yourself no matter how much it will hurt. Put yourself first regardless the pain this will come with. Healing takes time, be patient with yourself.

It is always wise to go for counselling when you experience dealing with the trauma caused by infidelity, talking about the pain is always a step closer to healing. Hearing other people’s stories and how they eventually found happiness and healing will give you hope and reassure you that there is plenty of life outside your situation. Take some time off to deal with the emotions, the first emotion you need to face is the anger infidelity comes with before it consumes you.

There will also be feelings of disappointment and you will question if there’s something wrong with you, feelings of being inferior and you might even question your worth, always remember that you are more than enough and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. Your are beautiful and deserve so much more.