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To find mentor Before there were books, universities, or classes, there were mentorships to pass on wisdom and knowledge. In the west, mentorships exist since the Ancient Greek times—it’s a tried method of learning. That’s why a lot of people try to find a mentor. Sometimes people mix up apprenticeships and mentorships. An apprenticeship is basically an internship, which is a system that was created in the Middle Ages. If you wanted to become a tailor, baker, or merchant, you became an apprentice first and learned the craft on the job. The main difference between the two is that mentorships are informal. And that’s exactly what makes it difficult to find a mentor. Most people understand the value of mentors, but finding one is not easy. I also didn’t have mentors until I was out of college. But in the past six years, I’ve been lucky to cross paths with three great people, who became mentors to me, and taught me invaluable lessons. There are also several other people that I speak to every once in a while — we exchange ideas, and share knowledge—they are also like mentors. So mentors come in many types of relationships. Here are seven things I learned about finding a mentor. 1. Become A Learning Machine Before you start thinking about finding a mentor, you want to think about two things: What’s your field? What can you bring to the table? It’s astonishing to me that people want to find a mentor without any sense of direction. For example: If you want to work in sports, it doesn’t make sense to find a mentor who’s in art (unless you want to bring art to sports). If you’re looking for someone who grabs you by the hand and tells you about life, you don’t need a mentor — you need experience. And you only get experience by doing things. You can’t expect that people hand you everything — that’s not what a mentor does. First, decide what industry you want to work in. Second, study that industry. Before you find real-life mentors, your mentors are books, degrees, courses,YouTube videos, or any other source of knowledge. You need basic knowledge of life and your field if you want to find a mentor No one’s waiting for a puppy that they have to raise. It’s important to bring something to the table before you approach potential mentors. 2. Work On Your Emotional Intelligence Because of the informal nature of mentorships, you need emotional Intelligence if you want to find a mentor. Emotional intelligence can be defined in many ways, and my definition is this: Don’t be annoying. If you have found a mentor, you will spend time with her — and because it’s informal, it all comes down to likeability. Likeability is also something that some companies stress during interviews. Because they know they will spend a lot of time with people who join their company, they ask themselves a version of this question: “Would I hang out with this person?” If you don’t want to be annoying, here are some tips: Don’t try to be someone you are not Don’t think you know it all Be honest and humble Don’t try too hard Tell stories Basically, do whatever Dale Carnegie writes in .How to Win Friends And Influence People 3. Don’t Ask Let’s get down to the practicality. If there’s some you look up to, and you want to learn from, it’s time to approach her. You can find people who could mentor you everywhere. Don’t just think of influential people — look in your family, the family of your friends, friends of your friends, etc. Look close. That will make it easier to connect. But you don’t call or email someone and say: “Will you be my mentor?” People will probably think you’re delusional. Most people don’t mind helping others, but it also can’t be a one-way street. If you’re contacting someone for the first time, try to keep it short and simple. You can ask a simple question, or give them praise. You don’t want ask for anything big. Also, please don’t email people and offer them coffee in exchange for free advice. Anyone can buy coffee, but not everyone actually can bring something valuable to the table. You have to be compelling for someone to spend time with you. 4. Add Value When the other person responds to you, start thinking about adding value to them. You can do that by researching them or their company. And if you want to add value, you need #1 on this list. You can’t add much value if you don’t have knowledge or experience. Offer them help, create something, give them ideas, anything — be proactive. 5. Be Mindful Of The Other Person’s Time Always keep in mind that the other person doesn’t owe you anything and never will. You’re looking for a mutual relationship. If you ever want to set up a meeting, do it whenever they have time and wherever they are. It shows that you’re serious about learning, will do whatever it takes, and most importantly; that you have emotional intelligence. 6. Take Your Craft Seriously If you’re approaching someone who’s successful in what they do, it’s very likely that they take their job seriously. You want to meet them with the same intensity and passion (also, don’t fake it or try to find a mentor so you can tell others about it). One of my mentors told me early on: “I meet a lot of annoying, negative, people who just work to get a paycheck. What’s the fun of being around those people?” I might seem like a fair assumption that everybody takes their job seriously, but that’s not always the case. However, if you do take your craft seriously, that can be very infectious. 7. Stay In Touch Because you don’t ask people to become your mentor, you want to put it differently. If you can tell that they enjoyed meeting with you, you can say “This was very useful. If you feel the same, do you want to make this a recurring thing?” Be prepared to hear a no when you try to find a mentor. Some people might be busy or focused on a project. Take it graciously and say you understand, but don’t go into hiding. Try to send them relevant things in the future. Finally, when it comes to frequency: I speak to my mentors every 2–3 months. And in between meetings we sometimes exchange emails — for things like book recommendations, articles, or questions. Unless you have the opportunity to work together on a frequent basis, you don’t need to meet your mentor every week because you want to take their advice and apply it. So give it some time. But try to keep the momentum by staying in touch via email or text messages. These are my tips. I don’t know all the answers, and this is not a clear-cut blueprint — don’t expect to find one anywhere either. Finding a mentor is a not a formal thing, so don’t treat it like one. Mentorship is like friendship, and that’s what your mentor eventually becomes: Your friend, always keep that in mind.

i Love you my Future wife We’ve probably never met yet, but I have been searching for you ever since I realized I needed someone like you. Will you come? Or have you already passed by? Forgive me but please let me say this. I love you now. I’ve loved you for quite some time and after all, I’ve been through, I love you still. I’ve never looked at outer beauty so that when our paths crossed, I wouldn’t miss the beauty of your soul. So that when somehow my gaze moves towards yours, I would fall in love with who you are – your dreams, fears, quirks, rants, kindness, intelligence, heart. Even if opportunities presented themselves – those who would seem to be you – I dared not, because I value you. I value us. I wouldn’t let what we could be, be taken by someone else. I waited until graduation before I looked for you because I wanted to show you that I desire to build a life with you – not with haphazard promises but with something concrete. I don’t want you to see me living a life without purpose. I want us to reach the purpose of our lives together. I hope you have already found yours too. I got the hang of writing songs so that one day I could sing them to you and show you how much I have thought about you. I learned to dance so that if you were pretty good, our first dance during our wedding wouldn’t be awkward. But even if I would look like a fool, that would be okay. I’d be the fool for you. I played every musical instrument I could get my hands on. Not a master, but a jack-of-all-trades kind of guy. Because I never knew the instrument you liked and love to listen to. So, well, I might as well try it all. And even if I lose my voice to singing and my body would grow weak of old age, I could always play your beautiful music that would transcend words. I learned how to cook so that I can make you the best breakfast whenever you’re sick or too tired. I tried to acquire the skill of doing a decent massage so that I could give it to you whenever your body ached. I went on many adventures in my life. I want to make sure that you wouldn’t be bored with me. I’d like to tell you my stories until we’d fall asleep. I’m studying to draw, so that one day, I would be able to draw your wonderful face. I could never be perfect for you even if I tried with all my might – because I’ve finally understood my imperfection. I don’t know who you are yet. Or maybe I do. But know that I’ve done these things because I love you – because I want you to notice me. But probably when you see me, you would see my imperfection. No, I’d like you to see my imperfection. I ‘d like you to see how broken I am. I dream of us. I dream of doing simple things with you. I dream of your good mornings and goodnights. I dream of smelling the fragrance of your hair. I dream of nights laying beside you and just talking until we fall asleep. I dream of long walks. I dream of driving you to work. I dream of camping and looking at the stars with you. I dream of the breakfasts that I would cook for you. I dream of hearing your stories every day I dream of comforting you when you cry. I dream of making you laugh with my corny jokes. I dream of staring at your smile. I dream of you being annoyed with my quirks and yet you choose to love me still. I dream of watching movies with you all snuggled up in a blanket. I dream of having cups of coffee with you. I dream of just looking at your eyes and knowing what you mean. I dream of looking at your face with only the twilight reflecting its beauty. I dream of introducing you to everyone else who have been earnestly waiting with me for you to come into my life. I dream of having the joy knowing that someone is waiting for me to come home. I dream of having someone who chooses to stay with me even if she does not need me. I dream of holding your hand tight in the moments of joy and the seasons of pain. I dream of marrying you. I dream of a life with you. I dream of loving you with all I have. I dream of growing old with you. And if you finally read this, know that I am real. This is not just some silly literary thing. And I am constantly searching for you. I feel it when I can’t share my joy. I feel it time and time again when my daily routine becomes waking up, eating, going to work, and then going back home. I’m starting to lose hope that someone would choose to stay with me. It’s also becoming hard for me to know what’s real. It’s becoming difficult for me to open myself to other people because I don’t want someone else to be my best friend. Not one of them should be my best friend. I want it to be you. But in restricting myself from opening up, I don’t want to make the mistake of not letting you in my life. Where are you? I don’t know how much I could take walking on this road alone anymore. Please come sooner. And if by any chance it is you who finds me first and somehow I have grown hard, I pray that you would break me open. Please break me apart until you see the real me behind all my jokes and smiles. Do not give up on me. Call me hopeless romantic, but truth be told, this is how I love you. And I don’t want to stop loving you.

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information about happiness. My literature search on this subject yielded over 13,000 scholarly research articles and over one thousand books. Advice about how to be happy floods the internet daily with simplistic listicles and click-bait articles that make it all seem so easy. But their advice, like telling a sad person to think about all the reasons they shouldn’t be sad, or a depressed person to just get up and exercise, doesn’t work. Thinking about the good things in life can sometimes ameliorate sad feelings, but usually, trying to grasp at happiness when in the grip of a depressed mood leads to failure. And while the research on exercise’s positive effect on depression is robust and persuasive, depressed people lack the drive to work out: that’s what depression means. These suggestions, though well-meant, amount to telling depressed persons to snap out of it—or it’s their fault. This shames the sufferer, making things worse. And the resulting family strife doesn’t help. Well-intentioned spouses and parents who believe that snapping out of it actually is within a depressed person’s power will eventually succumb to exasperation and resignation.