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@shereenhy 20 November 2022

Thought patterns that prevent you from being a peaceful person Peace is one of the top priorities in all our lives. However, sometimes our choices in life or the way we think can prevent us from finding peace. If you sometimes feel stressed, frustrated, restless, tense for no reason and you can't find the reason, here are the thought patterns that prevent you from being a peaceful person.When you start thinking that money and material things are the key to happiness, the purpose of your life becomes to earn and have more. When you start thinking that money and material things are the key to happiness, the purpose of your life becomes to earn and have more. Your professional life starts to take away from your personal life, from the time you want to spend with your loved ones. It starts to make you unable to fulfill your roles in life the way you want to and you start to not enjoy life. When you realize that your schedule is making you unhappy, you realize that money can help you buy fun and luxuries, but it can't make you happy. Without a peaceful mind it is not possible to be happy. Materialistic things also do not give you that peaceful mind. Indulging in material pleasures may do you some good, but happiness is possible with a peaceful mind. Using your time wisely, spending as much time on meaningful and lasting social interactions as on work and materialistic things, will make you happy. I should avoid taking risks because of my mistakes. If you punish yourself when you make mistakes, it may not be easy for you to find peace. So you may avoid taking risks and stay away from new experiences. However, new things not only take you on new adventures, but also increase your sense of fulfillment in life. The important thing in life is to perceive mistakes as lessons to be learned rather than failures. You can choose to punish yourself when you make a mistake, or you can learn from it and accelerate the healing process. I need to get rid of my negative emotions. When your mind is confused, you may feel anger, tension, restlessness and other negative emotions, and you may try very hard to fight them. You may want to hide these emotions under false smiles. But what you resist may become more permanent. You cannot get rid of your feelings just because you hide them. What's more, the more you hide them, the more they control you. Running away from negative emotions can make you feel like you are in a prison. Unless you accept your negative emotions, you cannot fight them. However, you can fight negative emotions through meditation, mindfulness or writing them down. The most important thing in life is to move forward. When you see life as a race where you have to keep moving forward, you may lose the sense of how much progress is enough. Moreover, when you move forward in one part of life, it is possible to fall behind in other parts. Sometimes you may forget how important balance is in life. However, it is not possible to find peace without balance. You should give importance to both material gains and social interactions in life in a balanced way. I have to think about my past choices and focus on the future. If you want to find peace, you can only do it by being in that moment and in that place. You can find peace by staying in the present moment. If you keep going back to your past choices, you will not be able to move forward. You cannot shape the future by holding on to them. On the other hand, focusing on the future can also lead you into a dream world and make you lose sight of your potential. But life is always lived in the present, in the moment you are in.

@shereenhy 7 November 2022

No need to hide to protect yourself Like all relationships, friendships are not a straight path! Those who are there for you today may not be there for you tomorrow and vice versa. This doesn't mean that you or they are bad, it just means that you are not good for each other at the moment. It doesn't do anyone any good to keep asking questions like "Why don't you make time for me, why don't you call me?". Because sometimes it's just. Years ago I had a friend whom I blamed for not being there when I needed him the most. Do you know how heavy it is to blame someone? Years passed, I distanced myself from my friend because I was right in my case, and my friend did nothing to communicate. I think what I wanted most here was to see the opposite of my action. This is where we humans struggle the most: Openness. We believe that if we are open, if we say what we feel with clarity, we will get more out of it! That's why our conversations and hugs are always incomplete. Years later, during a session, when I went back to those times, a question came up: Did you really say that you were not well and that you wanted support? No, I didn't, it wasn't easy for me to say "I'm not well" and ask for support, somehow I always expected others to understand and I was hurt when they didn't. And yes, I had as much to do with it as the other person. Relationships are always between two people. That's why there are no guilty parties, we just dance with orientations that arise for different reasons. Sometimes we dance very joyfully together, then distances come between us, but the dance continues. A few days ago I found myself in some kind of communication with this friend again and the interesting thing was that I was talking to her with the same pure joy inside. I was telling her with clarity what I needed at that time and she was listening. It was as if a part of my heart that had been in the dark, that had not seen the sun, began to receive the rays of the sun. Our relationship was taking a new shape, we were talking openly about our feelings and turning over a new leaf! The most heartfelt kind of relationship lies in being able to speak your truth openly - at the risk of ridicule or humiliation. And if you don't open the curtain, you won't see the severity of the cold, but you won't receive the blessings of the sun! You don't need to hide to protect yourself. I have news for you: Don't worry, if they are not there for you when you openly reveal yourself, it doesn't mean that you are lacking, it means that they see how strong you are! Open communication for strong bonds! Come on, open the curtains!